“You can’t handle the fact that you hurt me!” David said to me as we argued. “What? Um, hellooo. I’m the master of handling stuff”, I thought. “YES, I can handle it!” I said to him. “No, you can’t.” He said. “You cannot handle the fact that you hurt me.” Sigh. “What exactly do you need from me?”, I asked. We were in the car, he was driving us to the grocery store and I said something that had hurt him, but I didn’t think it was a big deal. I tried to brush off what I said. Meh. I…
Hi Renee & David, I really need your opinion on this. Everyone else I’ve talked to has more or less asked me to fight fire with fire, and I’m not really that kind of a human. So, my man and I, we’ve been in a relationship for some time now (is almost 3 years long enough?) and he was/is a masculine at his core. So far, however you’ve described a masculine man, he fits that description to a T. I try to understand that he has that drive in him, the ambition to achieve his goals and I understand that…
“There’s two things you need to know”, Grandma said. 1: A man in love with you will move mountains for you. 2: Never lose hope that he is out there, because there is a man out there who will love you that much. I wanted to add a 3rd thing to that: 3: You can inspire almost any man to love you this much through putting the connection and attraction first. Any woman who has a man madly in love with her has knowingly or unknowingly inspired that love from him, through the basic principles that create emotional attraction and…
Article updated 2018 “Become the kind of person that other people want to love.” This seems like such a weird statement to make. Shouldn’t we just be loved for who we are? Well, here’s the truth: What makes someone love you more is essentially also what fosters a beautiful connection with them. So by putting even just 1 or 2 of these unusual tips to use, you are not only potentially inspiring a man to love you more, you are actually becoming more and more skillful at creating deep connection with men (and secretly, with any human!). And that’s what…
Article updated 2018 Several years ago, my husband David and I, started teaching people about what it means to be a High Value, High Status Woman. This was way back before a lot of people started using the term ‘high value woman’. Since then, a lot more people have been using the term high value, and they’ve made the term their own, and helped a lot of people, which is fantastic! However, with so many more people teaching about the term, I wanted you guys to have my perspective, to hopefully make the meaning of high value more complete in…
Article updated 2018 There are many people who strongly believe in leaning back when dating. Since the early days of the internet, when Rori Raye started spreading her idea on leaning back and circular dating, or rotational dating, which means dating several men at the same time, the idea of leaning back has spread. Some people say that you shouldn’t take too many initiating actions with men, and let him chase you, whilst you still must remain warm and receptive. Apparently, this is because it’s the natural role of a man to come forward, to work for you, and take…
Article updated 2018 If you haven’t read PART 1 of this post, I suggest you read that first. It will give you the details you need to understand this article. This post was originally inspired by a woman in a pickle with a man who claimed he was polyamorous and then turned monogamous to be with her, and then he slept with someone else. Read it here… All relationship and marriage setups are valuable Let me get this out of the way: I am not advocating that monogamy is the only way. It definitely isn’t. I respect the value of…
Article updated 2018 Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? Article updated 2018 What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life)….
Article updated 2018 Cheating and abuse are the first things people think of when they consider what they should never tolerate in a relationship. This article is not going to be about cheating or abuse. Why? Because firstly, whilst of course abuse should not be tolerated; abuse is actually a wide topic – it goes far beyond just physical abuse. Sometimes, the behaviours that seem the most innocent on the surface can actually be deeply abusive. For example, acting like your partner is not causing you any hurt or anger (not being responsive) when you consciously know you’re withholding yourself…
Article updated 2018 She sat there, all alone, on the curb, crying. She just had it. She had just lost someone dear to her, and now she had nobody – nobody to even call her and ask how she is – and didn’t know what to do about it. A woman of many family members. A few friends. And yet nobody was there for her. She wanted to commit suicide, sometimes. It was all just too hard. She had friends, but they didn’t feel like real friends. Her family wasn’t nice to her, and her last relationship broke up, even…
Article updated 2018 This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away …Because pushing him away is a lot better than feeling him ‘here’ with us and consequently being more vulnerable to his betrayal. Especially if we’ve been truly open and vulnerable to him. …Because we want you to work harder for us. …Because we are scared to trust you. …Because outside of our natural desire for sex during/before ovulation, or the beginning or the end of a menstrual cycle, our desire for sex is lower, and sex takes a lot of energy when we don’t want it. …Because relationships take…
Article updated 2018 Hi Renee, I have been following your blog and it has changed my life significantly. Thank you. I recently met a guy who I believe truly loves me, the problem is, He has a lot of habits I used to have but worked really hard on myself to quit.（ex. talking too much) If I am being honest, am not sure I love this man but I realized I have been too picky with men. This guy calls me, checks up and tells me he loves me often (too often even). Should I give him a chance? Hi…
What if your man or boyfriend is needing space in the relationship? Article updated 2018 “I freaked out. He told me calmly that he needs some space and I didn’t know what to do. I tried to talk him through this, I begged him not to leave me because I’m afraid he will leave me for another woman”. The anxiety of a man needing space. It’s enough to make many women feel their stomach suddenly drop 1,000 miles through the floor. It can make you feel blinded by fear of the worst. Unfortunately and fortunately, this dizzy time of worry…
Article updated 2018 ‘’You don’t bleed. That’s why you can’t keep a guy.’’ Erol said to his long time friend, Jacinta, whilst twisting his foot into the ground to kill his cigarette butt. They’ve been friends forever and always love to chat about their relationships… “I…what? I don’t bleed?” “Yeah, you don’t bleed. You need to bleed in order for him to have feelings for you. I’m exaggerating, but I’m kind of not, too.” “What the hell are you talking about?” Erol chuckled. “Look, I don’t actually mean bleed, that is a metaphor to say, hey, you should make it…
Article updated 2018 “He left me. I suddenly broke down in tears. I told him I was so hurt that he didn’t call me after we had sex for the first time. We weren’t even on a date when I burst out crying; I just bumped into him at college.” Kristy said to Gianna. Gianna raised her eyebrows and stopped breathing for one minute. “Wow. Ouch.” “What? That’s all you gonna say?” No no, I’m just processing all of what you said right now, Gianna said while letting out a big puff of cigarette smoke slowly. Oh, ok. “I can’t…
Article updated 2018 He got angry and told her to F**k Off…. Me & my boyfriend had an argument a few days ago he blamed me for a few things which was silly things & not true. He was angry & recently been under a lot of stress. Also he lost a close friend of his. He was ratty with me from the night before. He said I had started to act like I was at the beginning of relationship paranoid & not being able to talk properly. At one point he said maybe your getting bored in our argument….
Having casual sex encourages women to be afraid to ask for commitment Article updated 2018 We want a man’s commitment for a reason. Don’t short-change yourself. Because there is so much pressure on women to give up sex easily these days, this is even more reason to resist that push for quick sex from men. Why? Because it’s also a test. Good men also test how easily they can get a woman to have sex with them. Not having sex for validation and approval, and not having sex indiscriminately, or too early, will set you apart from the crowd. Just…
Some women can be detached from casual sex Article updated 2018 Some women consider themselves progressive, and claim that sexual liberty is a must for women. Yes, it is. But on an overall percentage, more women than not will experience some suffering after casual sex (if the man isn’t committed). The trouble is that women usually have sex with men that have actual value. Research has shown that when women are looking for short term sex, or casual sex; they get very choosy and usually mate with the better men because there’s no shortage of willing men for just sex….
Article updated 2018 One cold winter morning, Felesha Fox came running alongside her friend, Frances Fox. “Hahaha, look at all these male foxes chasing after me, Frances! There’s about 10 of them!” Frances, looking a little embarrassed and scared, turned around to see 10 male foxes or more, chasing her friend Felesha Fox. “Why don’t you have even one dashing lad chasing you down, like me?” “My dear friend Felesha, you are mistaken, I do have one dashing lad chasing me. He’s at home right now.” “Pffff. Just one fox? Don’t you want lots of them around you? Look at…
Article updated 2018 “Hi, could you write an article on how to recognize/meet/make friends with similar minded/good-hearted/positive women? Most of my friends tended to be kinda selfish, lazy, admitted being jealous of me for whatever reason even though I always praised them on the good I saw in them to make them love themselves, but they mostly focused on the negative. In the end, I realized I was drained being in their presence. I always gave and gave my time, understanding and loyalty, and very few times did I get the same care from them. I couldn’t tolerate being friends…
Can fear of abandonment make you more beautiful? Article updated 2018 They say that the opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference. And I don’t know about you, but I don’t hate humans often. I hate certain ideas and I hate mediocrity (which means I hate myself sometimes). On the occasion that I do feel hate, it’s towards people that I care about and it’s because they are not open (they are not love). They are in denial about truth. In other words, they’re indifferent to relationship and life. They just don’t care. They choose to be thick and impenetrable….
Article updated 2018 It might seem arrogant to deem someone as having low value, or low mate value. And, it’s not easy to be the ‘mean’ girl, sitting there, evaluating a man’s mate value. Click here to take the quiz “Are you Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?” By mate value, I mean the signs that show a man’s overall value as a romantic partner. It also refers to his potential reproductive success. For example, a strong, confident man would most likely have more reproductive success than an unhealthy, lazy, unconfident man. I know it seems unfair. But without me even saying…
Article updated 2018 She barged into my room without knocking. What were you doing?! She said. She crossed her arms and looked me up and down. Then her mouth moved up in the shape of a smirk. ‘Ahh, you were dancing. Don’t think I don’t know exactly what you were doing.” I looked downwards, the 17 year old me, knowing my mother would never approve of me dancing. I was even looking at myself in the mirror. Worse. I was enjoying dancing and looking at myself in the mirror. Take the quiz on How Feminine Am I Actually? Click here….
Article updated 2018 I was crying for an hour. I had assumed that enough years spent invested in my man would mean he’d automatically propose marriage. I had fantasies that he would propose on his own without me EVER mentioning marriage; because that would mean I was like, extra awesome. Hah. I didn’t realise that there’s ways to get a man to commit that are genuine. I thought I should just go along in the relationship until he automatically proposed. Related Post: How to Get him To Propose and Marry You Without Looking Low Value So what was I to…
Article updated 2018 As a graduated student with a double degree in Law/Arts, I perfectly understand the desire to keep a well-earned career. It’s a woman’s birthright. Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?” But what if you and I just asked each other why? Why do we do the hard work and choose the high powered, kick-ass careers in the first place? Well, the answer, based on our survival instinct – is to just make some damn money to survive. And status. But money. We need money to make a life…
Article updated 2018 Got sent a link to a dailymail article today…on the tragedy of somebody’s dental veneers of all things. Then, I see to the right of the page an article of photos about 61 year old Bruce Willis filming an ad with tonnes of young, gorgeous, sexy women barely clothed… Click here to take the quiz on How High Value Am I on Facebook? The writer used words like “….But Bruce Willis is also a man. While shooting an Italian commercial, the 61 year old looked like a kid in a candy store as he got close to…
Article updated 2018 Sex is the thing that women are obligated to do with men if they want to keep a man around. I’m kidding. Sex is the thing we think we have to do with men to keep them around. We feel pressured. Who doesn’t know a woman friend who gave a blow job or had sex with a man to ‘keep him happy’? When a man is in love, he can have zero sex with a woman and still stick around, whilst being emotionally attracted to her and faithful to that one woman. Still, why do women feel…
Article updated 2018 When I was 10, I liked a guy called Shannon, but Shannon didn’t like me; he liked my friend Tilly who wore skirts. When I asked her why Shannon didn’t like me and liked her, Tilly said I was a boy and Shannon would like me if I wore a skirt. 10 year olds named Tilly are smart. When I was 13 walking down the river bank with my best friend at the time, who has since passed away, a couple of boys walked past and said to us ‘nice tits, ugly head’. I didn’t have any…
Article updated 2018 He pursued this 47 year old woman on Facebook for one year. She fell in love with him! She discovered that he was pursuring other women, and he disappeared. What advice do you have for Yasmin? What would you do? >>>>>>>>>>>>> Question Hello Renee, First I want to thank you and let you know that I truly enjoy reading your notes. The reason why I finally got the courage to e-mail you is because I got something bothering me very much about this man I met through Facebook and I am too embarrassed to talk to my…
Article updated 2018 Is there a high value way to deal with judgmental assholes? “I can tell she’s judging me. She doesn’t like me because I am not in control like her and don’t have everything figured out and I go with the flow. I see it in her face. And then, I can’t be myself at work.” “You mean you’re walking around on eggshells?” “Yeah!” That was a snippet of a conversation I had with an acquaintance. There’s a lot of talk about getting people to stop judging everybody all over the internet. It’s everywhere. You can’t judge someone…
Article updated 2018 Are men really more attracted to the flighty type of women over the strong and successful type? Veronica asks Trevor: “I saw a study the other day that said that men are more attracted to dumb women, and that intelligent women are seen as problematic in a relationship. Do you see this as true?” Trevor: Well, men like to be right, and intelligent women can stop them feeling that way in a relationship. Veronica: groan. **** This conversation reflects exactly the kind of views many people have in the world, based on my experience. Specifically, the view…
Article updated 2018 It can take courage to feel that somebody in our life is not in fact loyal; they are just one among the people hanging around us. There’s a plethora of people who don’t let themselves feel the devastation and the loneliness that comes with having a sudden and accurate perception that their social network and even their family may not be loyal. Do you want to find out if you’re dating a commitment friendly man? Click here to take the quiz! Many people block these valuable emotions out; and then go and watch reality TV to feel good…
Article updated 2018 Until a woman is 25 or 35, radiance is mostly given to her on a platter — young skin, healthy hair, flexible body, white teeth and a fresh face. That’s the physical stuff youth naturally endows us with. Very quickly though, we begin to lose this effortless bounty, and the world begins to seem as if it is populated by millions of glowing 18-year-olds. Click here to take the quiz on “How Feminine Am I Actually?” If you’re anything like me, you’ve felt panic somewhere along the line about losing your youth. It’s actually a good thing,…
Article updated 2018 I was sitting on the couch of a good girlfriend of mine. Our toddlers were playing together, and the house, a cozy two-bedroom, smelled of the traditional Chinese food she had just made for dinner. Francisca’s older boy was in his room climbing and jumping on things, as 8-year-olds are known to do. Then her husband came home, and with as much love as a human male could muster, swept his younger son up in a big hug. The little boy looked satisfied and safe in daddy’s arms. Click here to find out if you’re dating a…
Article updated 2018 Isn’t life better and easier when you don’t cry? Aren’t you stronger and cooler than the damsels in distress who cry to get their way? Isn’t it better to have things handled? People will like you more if you’re a non-crying cool girl, right? Click here to take the quiz on “How Feminine am I Actually?” Bullshit. On the surface, people will like you more because you’re agreeable and don’t reflect their own difficult emotions back to them. But if you keep things superficial all the time, who can really be there for you when you are…
So truthfully, why does he pull away? Article updated 2018 Sometimes when a man pulls away, it’s because there was no actual emotional attraction in the first place. When there isn’t enough attraction and connection in a dating situation, things will fizzle out – no matter how much we want to hold on. Because that’s what a strong relationship is built upon – emotional attraction and emotional connection. In these situations where there’s not enough connection and attraction right from the start, it usually means that we should let it go. Usually, when the relationship was based on sex and even…
Article updated 2018 What do you suppose men sacrifice when they sleep around a lot? A committed relationship? Maybe. Click here to find out if you’re Dating a Commitment Friendly Man A good reputation? Yes, men can jeopardise their future potential to have a high value mate through perpetual promiscuity (See the book social Psychology and Human Sexuality, 2001). But more importantly – what, on a reproductive/biological level, do men sacrifice? Quality. They sacrifice quality. And that’s quality of the women. Many men who sleep around don’t mind this; all they are looking for is novelty in experience anyway. Almost…
Article updated 2018 “But I just don’t want to manipulate him like that…” Said the woman who preferred to keep a clean conscience. Just like most women, you probably don’t like to be called a “manipulator”… because no body likes a manipulator… After all, wouldn’t it be too selfish for us to have what we really want? And wouldn’t we have to manipulate others in order to get that? Imagine a salesman trying to pull you over in the street, only being keen to close the sale. We hate people like that… why? Because they’re only EVER in it for themselves. Our…
Article updated 2018 Feel pride when you are proud without trying to squish it and make it tiny, feel pride deeply, for it is freeing. Feel pretty, when someone says you’re pretty, deep in to your heart without trying to pretend you’re not basking in the glory, for pretty is a beautiful gift you give to men and women and to the world. Click here to take the quiz on “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?” Feel humiliation, deeply, for it is there to remind you to connect deeper with humans the next time. Feel desire, deeply, feel craving deeply,…
Article updated 2018 After work she eats until she numbs herself. When she’s numb from food, she reads a romance novel, maybe watches dramatic TV. When she gets frustrated enough at living love through a stupid-ass novel, she hates other women who have loving husbands to distract her from her true craving for a man. When she becomes too fat for her own ideals, she begins an exercise regime just to feel good enough about herself to keep her authentic craving for a man at bay. When she hates other women long enough for having what she believes she doesn’t…
Article updated 2018 I know that you have a busy day. Just give me 60 seconds and let’s to this quick little exercise. Think about a time where you felt incredibly beautiful. and feminine. Even if you don’t feel beautiful now, you are courageous enough to feel what it was like to feel feminine and beautiful in the past. So, just focus on a time where you just felt beautiful and feminine. I don’t mean attractive, I mean, beautiful and feminine. Attractive is too objective a description for what I’m talking about here. How did you breathe when you went to…
Article updated 2018 Our intention to stay connected to a man in an argument is worth gold. Our intention to hold on to resentment and the need to be right in an argument is worth nothing. Anyone of us can live our lives from the place of needing to be right. And many of us do. It is a terribly mediocre existence, though, because it is never ending – so the pattern of needing to be right will continue as long as you exhaust yourself trying to be right. It is a doomed cycle and it is the path you…
Article updated 2018 Weak is what we feel when we are in the process of resisting vulnerability. And we feel weak precisely because we are in the process of resisting being vulnerable. Everyone is naturally vulnerable. Some of us just spend our lives pretending we are too good for that stuff. We judge the emotional women. We judge the women who are more concerned with love and family life versus glamour and physical appearance. (Click here to take the quiz “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”) And men? Well, men are vulnerable too…they just don’t express it…
Article updated 2018 One too many a woman has protested my advice in anger, stating that we shouldn’t have to understand men, because what are men doing for US? Why can’t men understand US first? But Renee, what about the fact that not all men are the same? And what about the fact that understanding men is being a man pleaser? I’m going to answer these valid questions, because I understand the hesitation to ‘go first’ and understand them, when your world seems to be full of men who aren’t good enough to be in a relationship with. (Click here…
Article updated 2018 Have you ever thought, ‘If I can avoid feeling pain, why shouldn’t I?’ Or even thought , ‘Why feel pain if you don’t have to?’ You don’t have to, really. It is our personal choice. In fact, we as humans naturally have a drive to prefer comfort over pain. Most of us in the world spend our lives striving for comfort – physical and emotional comfort, rather than anything more or less. (Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”) That’s a great thing, we need periods of comfort in our…
Article updated 2018 Dear Friend, When you are in a relationship with a man, sometimes you forget that he has fears too. You think you are the one who needs to be perfect to keep HIM around. (Click here to take the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) And so you trust neediness. You trust your need for approval. What some others might called ‘over-functioning’. Over functioning IS seeking approval. Most of the secret ‘things’ you think you can do to be a good enough woman to keep him around is shit he can pay someone for. Washing…
What is Your Unique Feminine Energy? Article updated 2018 You have a powerful feminine energy deep inside of you. It is incredibly powerful, beyond what you can imagine right now. Unfortunately, most of us do not embrace our unique feminine energy. See, we all as women, have many different personalities and energies within us. That’s completely normal. It doesn’t make us weird or have split personalities, it just means that we are more than how we’ve learned to define ourselves. (This is one reason why men who are not already in love with one woman (their mind and body is committed…
If you’ve ever asked yourself…’What do men want in a relationship?’ Article updated 2018 What makes a woman high value so that she can have almost any man commit to her? (Click here to register to watch the “Commitment Masterclass”) I have an answer below. I can remember the handful of times I came to the realisation that I had been a taker and not a giver in my relationship with my husband. It’s an experience like no other. Because it’s exhilarating. It’s freeing. But before I felt exhilarated, I felt lonely as hell in that realisation and especially in…
Article updated 2018 ‘I haven’t found a job in 8 months, but I know I will, it’s OK.’ ‘I’m 45 and I’ve never had children and I have always wanted them. It’s OK, there’s still time.’ Positive Thinking is thinking. It’s not feeling. It’s merely a coping strategy. And much to my frustration, depending on when and how we use positive thinking, it has the potential to rob us of our lives. Why? Because it’s not living. Thinking is not necessarily living. Feeling and experiencing and opening to the realness of what’s actually happening IS living. Opening to being vulnerable…
Article updated 2018 Warning: Abuse can be a very serious and very sensitive issue for many women… If you are already in an abusive situation, the perspective of this article may not always serve you, so please take caution in how you interpret this article. If you are in an abusive situation, then for your sake do everything you can to get out of there if you can. You are too important to be continually subjected to abuse, whether that’s physical, emotional, or sexual. You can review safety tips and guidelines for addressing an abusive situation, including getting help and…
Article updated 2018 When we feel the need to be enough and ‘do’ as much as the next woman, girl or mother, are we really a better woman? And do people really care anyway? No, the people who really care about you won’t care whether you do more or not. Only the people who compete with you to feel good about themselves and for variety will care. But they don’t care about YOU, they care about their own good or bad feelings, in that moment. Since becoming Tyson’s Mummy, I realised that I felt this peer pressure (but self-imposed of…
Article updated 2018 I can remember a long time ago, my husband and I were talking and I was feeling very frustrated, trying to tell him that I was upset about our relationship was affected when he was in a period of intense work mode. Those intense work modes can last a while, when they do come, and I inevitably feel scared at some point during those times, because his attention is all taken up, and even the slightest interruption on my part could cost his work. Also, in those times, my usual ways of getting his attention don’t work…
Article updated 2018 In our most basic un-evolved state, we as women tend to blame the man in our life for our problems. If we try not to, we do it indirectly anyway. And that’s because, as you already know, what we resist, persists. Guilt is such a big emotion for most women, and it is wired in to us like you wouldn’t believe. So, subconsciously, we can work very hard to try to get someone to come closer to us or do something for us by blaming them to induce guilt in them, because in our world, guilt motivates…
Article updated 2018 I’m not sure you would have expected this kind of writing from me. It’s not from my usual angle, and it’s written differently. But it is the way I was ultimately lead to start writing this book. In it’s finished state, this book will be written as a ‘general and thorough’ book, going through all the biggest problems for us women in our relationships and dating. Click here to download and check out the first chapter… The book will address what to do in dating AND in long term relationships. I will attempt to deliver a guide for…
Article updated 2018 We love men here. Our intent is not to put the blame on you, as you are not to blame. We want you to know that we respect the man you are today, and honor you for being a man. If you find feminine women hard to understand, know that it’s not hard at all. Here is your manual to ensure that your future relationships don’t fail: 1) We LOVE that you can solve our problems. Your solutions matter to us, and we know that you are a great problem solver. Yet, most of the time, when…
Article updated 2018 “If the woman is being stupid and he’s being a jerk admit to both. It’s as if you’re were siding with the guy.” “Blame the men from time to time.” “Men are wrong, too!” I hear these statements from hurt and frustrated women from time to time. This letter is to you if you have ever felt like you are being asked to do ALL the work in a relationship with a man. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) This letter is also to you if you have ever…
Article updated 2018 Have you ever heard the popular quote by Buddha: “The Root of Suffering is Attachment”? It is highly possible that most of the self help books out there that have become popular, are written by masculine men, or women with a masculine essence. I feel like this quote by the Buddha is very true. BUT the opposite is also true. The root of ecstasy is ALSO Attachment. You could try telling my almost 9 month old son who still loves his breast milk that the root of all suffering is Attachment when he latches on for a…
Article updated 2018 If you have been dating a man for less than 6 months, then it is likely that you are still in the process of proving your value as a potential mate to each other, so you’ll need to be aware of how to maintain that high value if you truly love the man you are with. High value. It’s the reason people try to play games, get plastic surgery, it’s the reason people try to be mysterious. Being mysterious and playing hard to get is really just an attempt to preserve our value as a mate. Because…
Article updated 2018 What’s more scary than being with a man who suddenly disappears when you are hurting badly over something in your life? This lady named Sarah left this question on the blog in the comments section: “Renee, I love your articles they always make so much sense! I have a problem with my boyfriend. Ive known him for three years, and he is a very rough around the edges, ‘tough love’ kind of guy. He seems to be caring and loving and calling a lot mostly when things are good. But as soon as I am going through a…
Article updated 2018 Happy New Year! I have found that we are most lonely and depressed as women when we make all our decisions from Fear. Essentially, for a woman, that looks like this: being dictated by our ‘heads’; making decisions from our heads, not our gut or our heart. Heady decisions are decisions made from old patterns. Patterns are a survival mechanism, and therefore come from Fear. Most of us live a year after year, guided by a series of millions of fearful decisions. I would take a guess and suggest that most of us are guided by Fear…
Article updated 2018 The word you use to describe another person’s actions is everything. I believe that the words you use, make you do amazing things in your life or terrible things. Because the words you use reflect the intent you infer upon others. In other words, you could be assuming hostile intent in a man when most humans truly have positive intent (at the very least, positive intent to make themselves feel a certain way). And of course, the words you use reflect the meaning you place on things. And that meaning could be ruining your relationships or inspiring them…
Article updated 2018 Good day Renee, I have no idea where to start with this mail. I met Matthew when I was 18, that was 7 Years ago. We have had a very up and down relationship. We have two wonderful little boys together. For the first two years of our relationship was a fairy tale, and from there o, we have been arguing and fighting ever since. Everything will be fine for like three days and then for three days its arguing and fighting again.. It’s very exhausting. This is my problem, We were together for about 4 years…
Article updated 2018 Women aren’t supposed to make sense. To men. We can make a lot of sense to each other (women to women); and that’s important for connecting with girlfriends. But the problem is that we deny ourselves the deliciousness that is living in our own true nature – the sensuality, the sexuality, the attractiveness that is truly US, when we decide that we should actually make sense to men, and mean everything we say and know what we’re talking about. (Click here to take the quiz “How Naturally Feminine Am I on Facebook?”) (A small aside: if you told…
Article updated 2018 A diamond ring. A big set of arms to hold you tight and close with. A nice house. Marriage. Beautiful children. Why would a man ever give any woman any of these things? There are 3 reasons. 1) To keep her around and convenient until he finds ‘the one’. 2) Because she is everything. His whole world. And because he loves her so much. 3) Out of obligation. Which reason would you prefer? Reason 2? Well the only way you can ever have a man who provides you with these things is if you are truly being who…
Article updated 2018 “I gave too much and didn’t get anything back.” This is a common line. It’s also a lazy line. As well as an arrogant line. When we say this, we’re just angry. It’s something we say in an attempt to feel better about losing a man’s attention, or losing him altogether. (Click here to register and watch the Commitment Masterclass) Here’s the problem with that: You’re not giving anyone ANYTHING unless they perceive value in what you are giving. I’ll give you an example. I have a good school friend of 15 years. We both had a…
Article updated 2018 My assistant Jenny forwarded me this question the other day: “I met my guy in Feb 2013 from Okcupid. In March 2013 (3weeks later) he asked me to be his girl. In April 2013 he asked me to move into his house. Aug 3, 2013, he broke up with me.- I cooked, cleaned, washed clothes, etc. I am wife material I know that much. Around May he started to back off, but I did not see the signs because I was still on a love high. Questions- Why would he give up a good woman? (he said I am…
Article updated 2018 Listen to yourself when you are talking. Listen to others in a social situation, trying to fit in and ‘have a good ol’ time with the mates’. Listen to friends, to your lover, to your boyfriend. The words we speak are mostly blind to what is really going on inside. Words often try to minimize our own vulnerability and ability to feel. We say ‘Oh it’s okay…” When our real feeling is that we hate that person. We say ‘Oh maybe he was just….a little…forgetful. Or busy.” Well, what if we actually are angry at him? And…
Article updated 2018 My man and I openly discuss relationship topics and the differences between men and women very often. We are both very passionate about it and this mutual passion is one reason I can write this blog. One day recently, my man David and I were having a conversation about why men don’t call and how women chronically over analyse when he doesn’t call – a conversation that just made me laugh in amusement. I laughed in amusement because no matter how many times I have a new realisation about how different a masculine man is to a…
Article updated 2018 What to DO when your Boyfriend is still emotionally Attached to his Ex A question from Kira: “Dear Renee, After reading your writing for awhile now, I’d like your input on something. My boyfriend still shares his cell phone family plan with his ex girl friend, who he split up with two years ago. They work together she can easily pay him. Additionally, I manage his bills and pay it online for him. After about a year I brought it up, but he said he felt bad that it would be more expensive for her, so he…
Article updated 2018 It’s ok to need a man. It’s ok because you choose to need a man. It’s ok to be a mature woman and make that conscious choice to need the right man. A good man. It’s ok to admit that you do (or have) needed your father. Or at least imply that your father is protective. Which is to openly imply that you allow your father to be in a role where you need him. (Click here to take the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) Why isn’t it ok to admit that you need…
Article updated 2018 How do you “Tell a Man” that you want marriage? I got Mia’s problem in my mail box recently: “We have been dating for 3 years, the majority of which were spent long distance. I recently relocated to be with him, and I want him to propose. He seems to be more focused on buying a home for us than a ring. I’m confused because I have told him that one of my goals is to be settled into a home with a family of my own. Part of me thinks this is his way of setting…
Article updated 2018 You may already be a woman in some areas of your life. One thing is for sure…the area of intimate relationships is the place where most of us show up as little girls and little boys. Ironically…at the same time, we demand a man out of our partner. Or we claim that the dating market is full of little boys. The truth is…we wouldn’t be so enthusiastic to say there are tonnes of little boys in the dating market if we were showing up as a woman. Because a woman notices the little boys, but her attention…
Article updated 2018 Whenever I suggest something like this, I risk a whole hoard of women hating me. Enough women hate my message as it is….and yet, it’s when I suggest this that I really feel women digging their nails in to me as if I have betrayed them and I am working against woman. Quite the contrary. When I say this, I say it from a place of understanding of masculine men. (Click here to take the quiz “How feminine am I actually”) I say it because I intend for more women in the world to have more happiness in their relationships…
Article updated 2018 I’d like to say that there are reasons you shouldn’t feel threatened by other women. Reasons why you should not compare yourself to other women. I’d also like to say that there are a bunch of reasons why you are in fact, better than that woman at work because of this reason. But you already do that, right? That’s what humans do. When we see some other woman has something we think we don’t have or can’t have….we try to justify why we don’t need that thing that the other woman has. Or we try to focus…
Article updated 2018 Why Can’t you be Loved for who You are? People often exclaim ‘Why do I have to DO something to find a man/woman? Why can’t I be loved for being ME?’ – You can. The catch is, you must relax and actually BE you. (Click here to complete the quiz on “How High Value High Status am I on FB?) Not the you that you think you should be. That’s not really YOU. You must choose to stop spending your life saying and doing things just so others will think you are cool and accept you. It’s…
Article updated 2018 If there was one thing I could have every woman understand about herself; it would be that our biggest fear is that we will be abandoned. With friends, this fear exists, with parents, it also exists, but nowhere is this fear more intense than dealing with men. (Click here to take the quiz “How Feminine Am I Actually”) Now, there are women in our population all over the world who are just more masculine; and it’s in their biology, not necessarily choice. A lot of women put out masculine energy by choice, but inside, they are really a…
Article updated 2018 “Isn’t SHE Pretty?” He Said…find out this woman’s story by reading her email below This is a question from a wonderful reader who is just lovely. If you have some input for her, and if you have anything you want to tell her, it is much appreciated! Please leave your comments on the situation in the comments section below the post. “Hey Renee, I’ve been a longtime reader and subscriber of your blog and newsletters! I also got the 17 Attraction Triggers and they’ve been a huge help with my confidence. You’re doing a great thing and…
Article updated 2018 Learn how other women in your life can ruin your happiness with a man I’m sitting here on my couch in my new house on a Wednesday evening, with the fan blowing in my face and a little baby kicking away in my belly. As I sit here after an interesting experience I had today, I felt the need to write to you about something that is very important for you to understand as a woman. And that thing to understand is the danger of other women influencing you. Does that sound dramatic? Well, that’s because it…
Article updated 2018 Find out…Are Men Intimidated By You? Or Are They Simply Not Attracted to You? I remember several years ago, being about 20 years old, and I was out with a group of girlfriends. None of the men seemed interested in me. At least not compared to the number of men who were interested in my friends. I felt devastated. The men seemed interested in my girlfriends, but not me. I couldn’t figure it out. Not that I was trying to actually figure it out; I was too busy feeling sorry for myself. One can’t get clarity when…
Article updated 2018 My question to you is this: is it true that your boyfriend or husband takes you for granted and only makes time for you when it suits him? Or is it that it’s too easy for you to feel like you are not special? (Click here to get your “Goddess Report”) In other words; are you making up the story that he only fits you in when it’s convenient for him, in your head? Here’s why I ask: feminine women seek attention; we thrive on it and we need it to feel feminine (many women will sell…
Article updated 2018 When it comes to understanding men, there are two important things I want you to know. Because I find that it’s very easy to forget all the little details and everything else when you are stressed out or upset about your relationship issues. And it’s helpful to remember these basics before you make decisions you will regret. Before giving you the five insights into men — (click here to take the quiz on “Am I dating a Commitment Friendly Man?“) — I want to lay a quick but important foundation with you. Here are the two most fundamental…
Article updated 2018 As a woman, it’s not hard to get stuck in a relationship with a commitment phobic man! Even if you’re high value, sometimes you unfortunately make the mistake of getting involved with a man like this (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man? “) I truly believe in patience and understanding when it comes to men – yet sometimes, no amount of patience and understanding will get a man to be the man you crave him to be. And that’s ok. But before I say anything else, I just want to…
Article updated 2018 If you’re like me, you love giving gifts. It’s just a nice feeling – ESPECIALLY when you like and respect that person. Hey, sometimes buying gifts for someone else feels 100 times better than it does buying something for yourself. It’s nice to put a smile on someone else’s face, isn’t it? But in all honesty, when it comes to men that you are romantically interested in; be careful. You may think buying and giving gifts nothing big, but, it does matter; especially when you are only dating and not sure if he is committed to you….
Article updated 2018 The following are examples of what I feel an alpha male would not look like. Having said that… Beware of these if you are in a Long-term Relationship! If you are in a long term relationship right now, take these 5 indicators LIGHTLY. They do not hard core apply to YOU all the time, because when you spend THAT much time with someone, you realise that we all have moments where we slip in to different roles and he might have done something once or twice that indicated he was a beta male but really he isn’t. (Click…
Article updated 2018 This is a great question from a wonderful member named Katie G. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> QUESTION Hi Renee, Congratulations to you and David on your wedding! So. I finished both programs, Commitment Control and Understanding Men, a couple of months ago. I loved them: what I learned from you took my relationship from “eh, we’re not really there yet” to the next level so, so quickly! In fact, my boyfriend and I are getting set to move in together, and this weekend he was telling me how hard it was going to be, when the time came, to shop…
Do You Have Girlfriends Who Don’t Compliment You? Here’s why that can be a problem… Article updated 2018 Choosing great girlfriends is just as important as choosing a great man. One affects the other. You become who you spend your time with. How do you feel when you get dressed up all nicely for a night out with your girlfriends and one of your close girlfriends totally ignores it and doesn’t compliment you? And not only that night, but every single night for years prior to this – she just never compliments you. How do you feel? Let’s be honest here….
Find out…will this Man Propose or Not? Article updated 2018 This is a question from a lovely lady, Penelope. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> QUESTION “Hi Renee, I hope you had a wonderful honeymoon! If you could spare some insight on my situation, I would really appreciate it. I feel just a tad foolish considering your last mail out. My boyfriend is from UK. I am from Spain. He is working in Beijing currently. We had been dating in Spain for 7 months before he had to come here for work. We ended up pursuing a long distance relationship and I came to Beijing for 2 months to visit…
What do You do When he Lures you in to travelling to see him and then abruptly tells you to LEAVE? Article updated 2018 I’m on my honeymoon at the moment which is blissful and I’m so happy (there’s just something about seeing my man wearing his wedding band that makes him THAT much more handsome than he already is!) A woman’s thing perhaps? This was supposed to be my private time but I have a big answer to a big question today… I chose to answer Diana’s question publicly because it is simply so COMMON and it also makes me mad…
Learn the Important Masculine Skill that you Need as a Feminine Woman… Article updated 2018 The upside of being very feminine? Men will be attracted to you. The downside? Well, what I’ve learned is that if you are ALL feminine and don’t cultivate masculine skills, then you get hurt a lot easier and spend too much time getting what you DON’T want in life, you waste a lot more time, and as an aside, you become a less valuable long term partner. (Click here to complete the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) Being all feminine carries with…
Find out What Habit will Make you Feel Lonely Forever Article updated 2018 Sometimes it’s hard and disappointing when you feel like you are dating men, but you are not finding any that you are actually attracted to. Have you ever wondered how to find a good man when you feel like you are losing hope? If you have, then maybe you will relate to this. I have a question. Is it that you are not attracted to the men you meet and date? Or is it that you are too busy judging these men, and too busy looking for…
Article updated 2018 I can’t put into words how much disappointment, hurt, sadness and pain I have felt throughout my own life. I don’t know your hurts and your struggles, only you know that. Only you can speak for yourself. (Click here and get your “Goddess Report”) But what I’ve decided through my own pain is this: it didn’t really matter WHAT the “problem” or “cause” was…it really didn’t, because, sometimes, life sucks and stuff hurts. Even when you like to look like nothing hurts you, and even when you think it shouldn’t hurt you. It’s true that sometimes life…
What does Respect Look like to a Man? Article updated 2018 Everybody knows men crave respect in an intimate relationship with a woman. But it’s not always automatic to give it. Lately I’ve been toying with the idea that respecting a man is not 100% always a woman’s conscious choice, specifically in an intimate relationship situation. (Click here to complete the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) Here’s why: I feel deep respect for my fiancee, and it’s not logical. I don’t TELL myself to respect him. He earned it by not being willing to be a passive…
Do You really want to start circular dating? Find out the Dangers of Rori Raye’s Circular Dating… Article updated 2018 You may have heard of circular dating. If you haven’t yet, I’ll let you know what it is quickly. Circular dating is: a term coined by Rori Raye, relationship author of Have the Relationship You Want. Dating several men (at least 3) all at the same time. You accept the date with the man who calls first, and do not shuffle times or even think about manipulating the schedule in order to get dates with the man you like best, or dates…
Learn the Most important Factors you Need to Know on How to Find a Good Man Article updated 2018 To find a great man and have a lasting relationship with him, you Need: ….To be willing to sacrifice the immediate gratification you might get in any man who seems available to fill your loneliness. ….To learn to love the parts of a great man that scare you the most. ….To be willing to forget what your family and friends THINK is best for you. It’s your life, not theirs. ….To be willing to change (or positively influence) your friendship group….
Article updated 2018 Men need to be listened to as well. Common sense, right? Just not so common in action for us women. As women sometimes it’s in our nature to just go up to a man and try and make certain that he hears what we’re feeling and hears our words even if we repeat the same thing over and over again using different words. In the end, after we’re done, he doesn’t feel listened to at all. Then, if he complains that he doesn’t feel listened to, he runs the risk of us seeing him as less of…
Article updated 2018 Having too Much “Baggage” is now the New Excuse for being Gutless For a little while, several years back, I did manage to convince myself that I had too much baggage to be involved in a relationship. (Click here to take the quiz “Are You Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) It’s exactly the same thing as saying: “I am not ready for a relationship right now.” “I am not ready to have children.” As for the statement that I had too much baggage, I realised that (excuse the bad language) everybody is screwed up. We sometimes like…
Article updated 2018 Do Men REALLY Hate Drama? What does it cost you to just accept the conventional wisdom that: “Men don’t like drama.” Well, I can suggest this: it costs you one or all of these two things: 1) The ability to express your authentic feelings to a man because you’re afraid he will run, thinking you are a “drama queen”. Pretending everything is ok rarely makes everything ok, does it? 2) It costs you a very important part of yourself: the drama queen part of you that actually makes things/problems/events BIGGER than they really are. With number 2? It’s in the nature of the…
Article updated 2018 Quickly find out Why Men Talk About a Future With you, Then Disappear Imagine a long-lost friend you really liked but haven’t seen in years. Imagine you bump in to them on the street while you’re shopping on a Sunday afternoon. You stop in your tracks. “Heyyyy! Oh my goodness!! It’s been YEARS! What have you been up to? What are you doing here?” You guys talk and talk continuously for almost 10 minutes, and at the end, you are so happy to have bumped in to this friend and you say: “Hey, let’s exchange numbers so we…
Article updated 2018 How to Talk so He Will Listen to You Have you ever gotten involved with a man, and 1, 2, 3 or more months down the track, you just couldn’t help asking him where the relationship is going? Maybe you got involved with him sexually, and he kept coming close and then pushing you away. Well, if you’ve tried to voice your feelings and be honest with a man only to feel like he just disappeared, it’s not your fault. And no, it’s NOT needy to have the desire to know where the relationship is going. (Click here…
As a woman, you’d rather be labelled a “selfish bitch” than “Boring”. Here’s Why… Article updated 2018 I’ve been thinking, and when it comes to bad labels, you much rather the people you care about label you a selfish bitch than label you “boring”. Why? Because boring people are last in line when it comes to reproductive success. At least that’s the impression boring people give. Uninteresting, unstimulating, “safe” people are rarely sexually attractive. They’re just boring. In my experience, they also command the least respect and the least popularity. (Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High…
Article updated 2018 We live in a politically correct world right? In other words, it doesn’t matter how soon you sleep with a man, right? Wrong. But, not for the reasons you think. Not because men have double standards. But for your happiness and relationship success. (Click here to get your “Goddess Report”) Men will ‘categorize’ women in to either one of two categories, whether we like it or not. They still do it. You are either a ‘just for a good time’ girl, or wife material. This doesn’t mean that men are right, or that this is a good…
Article updated 2018 If a Man is sending you Mixed Signals, read this The following is a question I received from a Commitment Control member named, “Angel”. Both David and I share our responses. Enjoy it. If there’s anything you feel Angel should do or know, feel free to post your thoughts in the comments section below the post. >>>>>>>>>>>> QUESTION Hi David and Renee, I have been receiving Renee’s emails and has subscribed to Commitment Control. Although I didn’t finish all the videos yet, it is really very helpful for me in understanding men and relationships in general. However,…
Article updated 2018 Become the real you… “What is Femininity?” The fact that we have to ask that question says a lot about how difficult it can be to begin letting your femininity show. Most us who are over the age of 5, for example, don’t need to ask “what is a foot?” or “what is an apple?” because it’s obvious to us. Femininity isn’t obvious to us. And it’s frustrating. Many women find it easy to start the surface version of femininity: buy lots of dresses, wear make up, buy lots of shoes. But what does this do? It…
Note: This offer is already expired Article updated 2018 Hey there, it’s Renee here, founder of TheFeminineWoman.com. Happy Valentines day! In this video, i have two important insights I want to share with you to help you find love, attraction and experience that passion that comes from a fulfilling relationship. (Click here to complete the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) Now, I know that, if you’re single, Valentine’s Day is the one day of the year that you can really start to feel like you’ve failed somehow, or that there are no good men around. I also…
Article updated 2018 On a primal level, it benefits women to pick a man who is far more in love with her than she is with him, because that FEELS like he will stick around, and so we (and our babies) can have all his resources. However, this is the exact thing many men hate about a relationship, and commitment to a woman. Research shows that men fall in love faster, and way harder than women do. And, research done by the well respected Anthropologist Helen Fisher, also shows that MEN are far more idealistic about love and relationships than…
Article updated 2018 I have always been a big fan of Heidi Klum, she’s a busy woman, always doing something, a woman with great energy and a genuine love of life. So I am sad to see Seal and Heidi divorce; I have been inspired by their relationship in the past. It is one that has been frowned upon by jealous white men and some groups because of the racial difference – but what I always loved about them was that they looked so passionate and loving. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”)…
Have You “TRIED” Everything? Article updated 2018 I hate it when I get an email from a woman asking for my opinion on her dating or relationship problem and she says “I’ve already tried so hard to make it WORK” or I reply to an with a suggestion, and she returns my email with “Yeahhhh I’ve already tried that!”. I hate when people say that! Why? Because it’s what I used to say. Apparently, I thought that “trying” to practice compassion for a night with my man until I reached “the end of my rope” meant its value as a method or…
Article updated 2018 This is a great question from a longtime and lovely reader of mine, Masaleen: “Hey Renee! Hope you’re doing well. I’m still an avid fan, and you and David become a cuter couple with every video. My struggle is this. Recently I’ve been feeling a bit estranged from my man because he feels I don’t understand his love of video games, and wishes I did. I do my best not to make him feel controlled; letting him play when he wants to, and with his friends, etc. But having him need me to see and appreciate the “depth,” “inspiration,” and “heart” he…
Article updated 2018 “What are people thinking of me?” “What if they don’t like me?” “Should I have worn that? Was it not appropriate?” “What if these men don’t find me attractive?” “Did I screw everything up?” “I feel so awful about the way I acted.” “What if they all turn against me?” “What if he doesn’t like me?” “WHY doesn’t he like me?” “What do they really think about me?? How could I find out?” Women are good at this. In fact, I’ve never known a woman who hasn’t been good at this. But, being good at something that…
Article Updated 2018 Learn how you may be ruining your chances of finding the right man for you You’re single and attracting a man who wants a committed, loving relationship with you seems impossible. If you have not had a boyfriend in a year or more, or if you keep ending up in relationships where the man goes hot and cold, and the women around you are getting their happy endings, it can seriously make you think, can’t it? It’s easy to start worrying – What if you’re not enough? What if you don’t have the qualities to keep a man interested? What…
Why Do Men Pull Away From You & The Relationship and how to deal with it like a High Value Feminine woman? (Content Updated 2017) Sometimes there’s literally nothing worse than having your man pull away from you, from the relationship. For a moment, for an hour, for days or weeks. It doesn’t matter. …Because we are talking about a man who you’ve invested your precious time, your energy and your emotions. And so for him to pull away from you at any moment, it’s painful. His lack of presence leaves a void that is difficult to fill. But why…
Article updated 2018 Don’t let your lack of confidence kill your relationship with a man I know sometimes relationships and dating with men is scary. In your career, you have so much more control, and with friends, if something doesn’t go right – you will eventually find more friends. (Click here to complete the quiz “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”) But in an intimate relationship with a man, rejection can feel like death. In an intimate relationship with a man, if you open yourself up, he could leave or take advantage of you. At least it feels that way sometimes, doesn’t it?…
Article updated 2018 Hello lovely! It’s Renee here from TheFeminineWoman.com. Today I am going to share with you an interview with a woman who isn’t just an inspiration to me personally, but an inspiration to hundreds of thousands of women (and men) all around the world. Let me tell you why she’s such an inspiration. In 2009, she won the sexiest vegetarian award for people over the age of 50, and guess at what age she won it at? She won the award at the tender age of 70. Now That is incredible. She beat her competition who were 20…
Article updated 2018 How to Get out of Pain in Your Relationship Right Now You would already know, intuitively, and through experience, that being in a relationship means you will inevitably experience pain. This doesn’t mean you should expect pain around every corner, and close up and stop opening yourself or stop trusting because of it. It just means the pain will be there. Pain is a part of life. Anytime you open yourself up to another human being intimately, you are opening yourself to the possibility of feeling pain as well. That is why so many of us avoid…
Article updated 2018 Deep down, it’d feel nice to have a man desire you and ONLY you forever, wouldn’t it? Does it sometimes feel to you like men are just not satisfied with one woman? Do you fear that perhaps he feels attraction for other women even whilst he’s in a committed, long-term relationship with you? There’s little else that’s a painful as the feeling of loss in life. And especially when it comes to a man. Like, why would you even want to EVER have a relationship if you thought you were going to lose his attention to someone else? You wouldn’t. And here’s the thing…
Article updated 2018 At the beginning, he comes on strong – he pursues you relentlessly, buys you gifts, compliments you, plans dates and outings, makes an effort to make you feel special….and then, months down the track, it stops. He pulls away. He stops complimenting you and starts to seem distant, he says he’s ‘too busy’ or ‘under a lot of stress’, he stops planning things and even becomes more passive, or says he’s not sure about his feelings for you, and goes hot and cold. Now, this is not the path every man/woman relationship always takes, but it is…
Article updated 2018 The Fastest Way to Push a Man Away The fastest way to push a man away, (or to fail with men in general), is to make him feel blamed. “Oh, so you FINALLY call me?!” “How could you do that?!” “But ya didn’t pick up yer socks like I asked!” “You started it!” “You just expect me to be perfect!” “But you’ve let yourself go! All you do is sit on the couch.” “You never listen!” A dirty look. A condescending look. When you feel hurt, or misunderstood, or scared as hell in your relationship, sometimes the last…
Here is Why It is Vital that You Make it A Habit to Create Surprises in Your Relationship.. If you stop bringing surprises to your relationship, then eventually and inevitably, the attraction and the passion will die. You will lose connection with your intimate partner, you will no longer have that fun, flirty atmosphere that you probably would hope for. (Click here to take the quiz on “How Feminine Am I Actually?”) You’ll live life in the “same old” ways and nothing will bring much excitement to your day. Your partner will feel the same way towards you. Everything becomes too familiar, and nothing…
Article updated 2018 Don’t be like other women who fail to attract men… No, it has NOTHING to do with your physical beauty or lack of “physical beauty”. Haven’t you seen and known women who are “average” looking but are able to attract high quality men, and other women who are more physically gifted, only to be rejected again and again by men? What’s going on there? As you probably know, too many women in our society are failing to attract men. Or at least the “right” type of men. This may have happened to you too. Think back for…
Article updated 2018 How to Attract Men I’m about to show you what really attracts men to you – and not just what attracts them – but makes them really WANT to talk to you, approach you and ask for your number, take you out, and be around you. I don’t intend to show you how to attract just any low quality male (although any attractive woman will have all kinds of males wanting a piece of her), I am going to show you what will draw men to you so that you will be more confident around men and…
Article updated 2018 The Relationship Advice YOU Should Never Take I’m going to assume that you have read articles or watched videos in the past on dating and relationships, and I’m also going to assume that at some point, reading any given piece of information: a blog post, an article or an eBook on dating, relationships and men, has made you feel powerless as a woman. (Click here to download your copy of “Goddess Report”) You are not alone. The great thing about the internet is that it allows us women to go and read information, and get some free advice…
Article updated 2018 If we as women, are truly feminine at our core but reject it, we can sometimes find ourselves in dating situations where the man doesn’t commit, even after the relationship got sexual. Especially after the relationship got sexual. Wanting a woman for sex is one thing, but wanting a woman for a relationship, that tends to happen when a man perceives high value in a woman. I have a couple of ideas on how our feminine energy can help us distinguish whether we are showing up in the dating market as a ‘one of many’, or a…
Article updated 2018 According to this trashy video, I ought to be worried about a half-naked Angelina Jolie in the shower with my man, whilst filming a scene of a movie. Clue: the point is not about her being naked in the shower with Johnny Depp (or your man). The point is the message they are sending: “you should be worried about this ‘super-human’ woman when she’s around your man. Because, you know, feeling scared and feeling bad about yourself is….well, good. (Good for us anyway).” “You should be insecure in your relationship.” This may seem extreme, but this is…
Article updated 2018 What to Do about Passive Aggressive Women The woman whom you had such a great connection with yesterday, but all of a sudden, won’t even look you in the eye if your face is half a centimeter away from hers. The woman who is giving off the impression that something is wrong through her body language, but isn’t telling you what it is, and isn’t even giving you an opportunity to do something about it. The woman who won’t even talk to you or acknowledge you. (Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status…
Article updated 2018 So what if somebody finally says you’re hot? Are you happy? If so, for how long? Do we have to upload a tonne of photos of ourselves posing in every humanly possible position in our bathroom on to Facebook to get to this point of being labelled hot? Or to prove something? Or what about wear as little as is possible to snare attention from men that is only given because the amount of skin color glaring at them is more than the amount of covered area on your body? So what if a bunch of men…
Article updated 2018 Three Ways to Fail At Connecting with People It’s a common paradox among women (and all humans, really): we want to connect, and we want more friends and we’re aching for connection and intimacy, and yet, we find ourselves lonely and even worse – scared to connect. (Click here to download the “Goddess Report”) So if failing at connecting with other human beings is something you feel you’d like to achieve today, do the following: 1) Be more concerned with your image than you are about being present with the person. Care more about saying the ‘right’…
Article updated 2018 Pleaser Women Lose out – The Difference Between Pleasing and Giving I see a huge problem among us women, especially when women are in a relationship. This problem is the problem of pleasing all the time. Most women would pass this off as ‘oh it doesn’t apply to me’, I’m a cool woman and I would never be one of those silly pleasers! However, in my experience, many women like to think they’re not acting like pleasers, but they actually are. Part of this comes from not really understanding the difference between pleasing and giving. (Click here…
Article updated 2018 How to be the World’s Most Confident Woman Alright, so that’s a big promise, I know, to be the most confident woman in the world, but I know it’s possible for you, otherwise I wouldn’t bother writing this. Let me just ask you: what is life like without confidence? What is the quality of your relationship without confidence? What do you achieve in your life without confidence? How do you FEEL, on a day-to-day basis without confidence? (Click here to take the quiz on “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”) The answer is: crap. Confidence is everything….
“I would rather have a mind opened by wonder than one closed by belief.” -Gerry Spence. In our culture, we are bombarded with negativity every day. If you watch the news (I stopped watching any Television and reduced my ‘news’ intake about 4 years ago, although I still read the news selectively) you will know that we are always given reasons to fear. The news and the tabloids are always giving us reasons to be fearful. (Click here to download your “Goddess Report”) If you believe what is fed to you by the news, and the useless magazines, and you…
Article updated 2018 If a girl has large breast implants, peroxide hair, collagen in her lips and carries a Chanel bag, is she being herself? Her friends might say, “Oh, well that’s just her! That’s what she does!” I say it depends. We’re always told to be ourselves. “Relax, be yourself!” What on earth does that mean?! How do you “be yourself”? Does that mean dress how you’d like to dress? Does it mean say what you want, when you want, however you want? Well, it could… The only problem is that nobody really tells you what being yourself actually…
Article updated 2018 Let’s try a quick guessing game (a game I learned from one of my mentors Seth Godin). I’m thinking of a number between 1 and 5 (inclusive). What do you think it is? Now, click on the number you guessed (only one number please): one, two, three, four, five. Got one? Some women by now are confused, but you may also be delighted. 🙂 Now, in case you haven’t figured it out already (you would have), men hate to fail. Or to be made to feel like a failure. Oh, they might seem all capable on the…
Article updated 2018 Question: Would you steal $1000 to buy medicine for your mother if she was dying and her life depended on this medicine? What if stealing the money is the last way on earth to come up with $1000? The alternative is that you will lose your mom. Would you steal the money? Hang on – didn’t we all get taught that stealing is bad/wrong? All of us have to face tough decisions. How do we decide what to do? Is there a right decision and a wrong decision? (Click here to complete the quiz “How Naturally Feminine…
Article updated 2018 Think about this for a moment: would you rather win 5 million dollars in the lottery this weekend, or work hard for the next 12 months to make $100,000? 5 million is 50 times the amount of $100,000, and you would have a lot more spending power with 5 million than you would with $100,000. So which one would you rather? With 5 million, and provided you know the right investment strategies, you would never have to work again, and you’ll have a lot more freedom. However, with $100,000, you’ll most likely have to work more and…
Article updated 2018 Loneliness is not something that strikes the poor, unpopular, or unattractive. Loneliness is a feeling. It’s not a situation. Being alone is a situation. Feeling lonely – or, feeling alone is an emotion anyone can feel, regardless of their social or family life, and regardless of fame or lack thereof. It’s so important for women to feel connected. If you don’t feel connected, it’s going to be hard for you – or any feminine woman for that matter – to feel feminine and radiant. Often, when you feel lonely, it can feel embarrassing. As if you’re unpopular,…
Article updated 2018 Before I knew my man was a man and not a woman, I used to be upset by my man leaving his dirty socks on the floor. I was confused when I noticed that his idea of cleaning the house was equivalent to half my ideal level of cleanliness (if that). I really thought perhaps he was just a person with ‘untidy’ habits. Well, yes, he would be…….if he was a woman. Some time ago, when I first started this blog 12 months earlier, I published an article on reasons to be feminine, and somehow got on…
Article updated 2018 Every time some cheating or infidelity story hits the front-page news, there are conversations (of course). And in these conversations, there is inevitably a number of people crying “people don’t honor their marriage vows anymore!” “The world has changed!” “no-one sticks to their promise anymore!” “Doesn’t a marriage vow mean anything anymore?!!” Well, actually – no, they don’t. And they (vows) never really have, when it comes down to it. The vows themselves are hardly worth a thing. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) Don’t you think people like…
Article updated 2018 Traditionally, a classy woman means to be stylish, superior and elegant, respectable and lovely. However, I find the traditional definition and ideas on what it means to be classy can be confusing. So I am here to hopefully explain once and for all, what it means to be classy. Let’s re-define classy in a better way: a genuine, high value woman who holds herself and thinks of herself highly regardless of life circumstances, and despite what other people may think of her. In slight contradiction to that, however – A classy woman does not judge herself regardless…
Article updated 2018 There’s a tendency among many women to just be nice. These are the kinds of women whom we call pleasers. Boring. Pleasers are the kinds of women who are so afraid of losing love, so afraid of being judged, so afraid of being talked about behind their back (by the way, this is always going to happen – to everybody). So afraid of being alone, that they will do anything to please. Anything to be in everybody’s good books. There’s an old saying: “you can’t please everyone”. This is true but also misses the point. Don’t please…
Article updated 2018 There’s No Such Thing as a Home-Wrecker It always disappoints yet amazes me the number of women and men who blame and hate on “the other woman” or “the other man”. Yes, affairs and cheating are heart-breaking, and for most couples, it’s the kiss of death. It makes me cringe when I hear of the wife or girlfriend screaming at the other woman, blaming her, and asking how could she/he do this!? Don’t they have any respect? What normal person with morals would tempt a husband or wife? (Click here to take the quiz “How High Value…
Article updated 2018 How to Solve a Relationship Problem There’s a lot of relationship advice on this blog, and there are a number of forums, blogs and websites out there that aim to give you answers about your most pressing relationship questions, life questions and aim to solve your relationship problems. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) When a woman is stuck, doesn’t know what to do (none of us are really taught how to relate to others), if she has no quality advice or guidance from the people in her life,…
Article updated 2018 If you want to have men attracted to you and committed to you in the long run, then you have to become more than just a one dimensional woman. In deed, you have to become “multi-dimensional”. If you want to lose commitment from a man, and lose the passion and attraction he feels for you, then the quickest way to do is, is being one dimensional. In other words, be “boring”. One of the biggest mistakes many women (and men) make in their relationship is to be continually showing up as one kind of person, or the…
Article updated 2018 As mentioned in the earlier post; The dark Side of Femininity, Feminine Energy has both a dark and a light dimension. From the e-mails, comments and responses I have received since I first posted about the dark side of femininity, I have seen that a lot of people are curious to know exactly what the dark feminine is. The majority of us are aware of what the light feminine is – it has been well talked about, nurtured and praised by society as well as in books. Many people are expressing that they are confused as to…
Article updated 2018 Let’s try a thought experiment: Think of someone you trust 100%, and still trust. If you don’t trust anyone 100% right now, think of a moment in your past (perhaps as long ago as your early childhood), when you trusted someone fully. It could have been a fleeting moment, it could have been for quite some time. You will most likely have trusted at least one parent 100%, when you were a small child. Question: about this person whom you trust 100% (or perhaps 98%, if you feel you cannot trust anyone fully). What if another person…
Article updated 2018 It’s cool to complain in a group of girlfriends. It’s cool to bitch and back-stab, because we’re so much more perfect than so-and-so, right? It’s cool to get together and complain about men, and talk about how many jerks there are out there – and then sit there befuddled, because you don’t know what to do about it. (Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”) It’s cool to ruthlessly chase a career, and it’s cool to place your man second to said career. It’s cool to get blind…
Article updated 2018 You’re carrying a few new heavy items into your home; your man helps you. No big deal, you think. It’s a man’s job to help. He’s been out at golf all day. He comes home and wants to talk about every single outstanding shot he made. You’ve been at home all day, cleaning the house. You really can’t be effed. Plus, you’ve heard it over and over again. You’re sick of having to make him feel good because YOU don’t feel good right now. (Click here to download a copy of “Goddess Report”) He comes home from…
Article updated 2018 If you consult any source specifically about femininity or any dating sources that discuss the importance of a woman’s femininity, you will find they teach that Femininity is soft, gentle kind, innocent and caring. Whilst femininity certainly comprises these things – most people consider only the Light side of Femininity. Think good housewives, think princesses; we’re taught to be a good person from when we’re kids – but sometimes this is all just not enough to attract the man we want. The reality is that there is so much more to Femininity! Traditional ideas and concepts of…
Article updated 2018 You’re a woman; so you know what I’m talking about. There are few things that can be as defeating as the feeling that another woman is better than you. Specifically: more radiant, prettier, taller, a better catch, a better lover, sexier, or having higher status. It’s easy for most women to succumb to the feeling of jealousy. First, I want to tell you that it’s OK that you have that feeling. It’s not evil, or wrong. I’d have to search far and wide to find a woman who (if she was totally honest with herself) hasn’t ever…
Article updated 2018 You would know by now that who you spend time with is who you become. That means that if you spend a lot of time around people who are negative and spiteful, you will eventually become negative and spiteful too. This is a follow-up post to the post Warning: Pick Your Friends carefully. Proximity Most of us will encounter bad friendship groups, bad friends or bad influences in our lives due to proximity. You may work with a group of people whose conversations are negative or bitchy, or whose values do not align with yours. You may…
Article updated 2018 Warning: Pick Your Friends Carefully Do you have any dreams? Do you have wishes? Any desires or planned outcomes? Do you have any goals in life? And do you have anyone around you who’s pulling you away from your goals and desires? (Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”) Do you have in mind the kind of relationship you’d like to have? Do you have a picture in mind, of who you would like to be, represent or become? Now…..who do you spend most of your time with?…
Article updated 2018 Black, grays, browns and ‘smart’, neutral colors are common for a normal woman’s working wardrobe. Something simple and neutral; but the issue and questions at hand are: Can you dress like a girly girl and be taken seriously in the workplace? Does dressing ultra feminine and girly do damage to your professional career? I’d hasten to assert that the way a woman dresses influences someone’s first impression of you, as with anything; but that being taken seriously in the workplace really has nothing to do with how you dress, but how you act and who you show…
Article updated 2018 There’s a myth that all you need to do is be a nice girl or a “good person”, and then, everything you want will follow, and line up for you. Including a handsome prince who adores you. This, in fact, is untrue. Don’t you know of anyone who is a really nice person, and yet still didn’t get what they “deserved” in life, their career, or their love life? I do. If I had a gold coin for every time I heard someone say: “Why do BAD things happen to GOOD people?!” Do you know how rich…
Article updated 2018 The Problem with the Words “I’m Sorry” – Saying sorry Many would tell you these are the two most important words in relationship, and that saying sorry is very important. Some will tell you that you should use these words more, rather than less. My response is: “really?” I disagree. The words “I’m sorry” are relatively unimportant for the long-term, in your relationships. Many women use these words too much. Women also have this tendency to feel guilty too often; thus the use of the phrase “I’m sorry” (though this is not true for all). I don’t…
Article updated 2018 Have you seen one lately? A lady, I mean. I had to scratch my head a few times to think of one. There are the ‘traditional’ types of ladies, such as Audrey Hepburn and a more modern example – Kate Middleton. It’s wonderful to be a classy lady, but I believe our society no longer values the ‘uptight’ women who are always trying to please and be perfectly elegant. I mean, just because one is a lady doesn’t mean she is to be restricted in life. It doesn’t mean she has to be untouchable, and unable to…
Article updated 2018 The goal of this article isn’t to make a man light up like Christmas lights and be all chirpy and cheerful. The goal really is to bring light into his life, to be the yin to his yang, and to enchant. The very purpose of this post is to help you find a way to ease a man’s tension and give your feminine gifts. But this post is written for women in a relationship. As a woman, I have found that the task of cheering my man up and comforting him has proven to be very difficult at…
Article updated 2018 “Legacy is Greater than Currency” One of the questions I often get is “What is a Woman’s purpose?”; “What are we supposed to DO with our lives?”; “What are we here for?”; “What is a feminine woman’s life purpose?”; “How do I find my life purpose?”. Although every woman’s personal life purpose will be different, a woman’s true life purpose in general, really is to create and not destroy. It’s to live your passion so that you can be an example to others. It’s to find fulfillment, and to seek growth and contribution. And it’s also to…
The Case for Going Without Make up – How to Rock the Look ‘True Feminine Radiance Comes From Within.’ Most sites for women tell you how to put make up ON and how to do it perfectly. Well; this is really counter-intuitive, but I have to say that if you want to attract good men in to your life; go without make up during the day, from time to time (filtering out men who want their woman to always wear make up). From personal experience, I have found that men actually seem to notice me more/are more likely to strike…
How to Develop Character As A Woman Article updated 2018 Femininity without character is a bit of a flop. You can look all good, get your hair and make up done, put on some beautiful clothes, smile widely, and be all nice, polite and accommodating, but without character, you really run the risk of being boring. (Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”) Before I talk more about this, it is important to define character. As there is more than just one facet to it. Character: the aggregate of features and traits…
Learning to be Open – How to Open Up to Love… Article updated 2018 Most of us have at least small difficulties in opening up to people. Sometimes it can be hard to even know how to open up. But like many things in life, it’s hard, but it’s worth doing. In fact, the rewards can be astonishing. This is one of the single mot important posts on this blog. Please give it the time and attention it deserves, because if you do not feel like you can open your heart, either to friends, family, but especially to a man…
Article updated 2018 Deep down we all want something that fulfills us. A relationship that makes us grow and feel alive. Even the ‘players’ will get to a point in time where they want something deeper. A more fulfilling connection. Unfortunately, this is unattainable over the long-term for most men and women. Why? One big reason is that most men AND women manage to destroy or hurt each other in a relationship eventually through selfish love – which in turn causes either spouse to disown their feminine or masculine essence. Once the initial attraction changes (it doesn’t always go away…
Article updated 2018 First of all, why do you want to be charming? Here are just a few reasons… Men are five times more likely to fall in love with a woman who is charming than not. You suddenly become way more desirable and attractive in men’s eyes when you embody your own inner charms. (And yes, we can all have feminine charm) People around you will be much nicer to you if you show up to be a “charming” girl. That’s right…Charm… Oh so easy to want, but oh! Not-so-easy to acquire! To be charming requires a change in…
Article updated 2018 60 million women in America and Europe take oral contraceptives. In my opinion, this is a tragedy. Let me explain why. The birth control pill: one of the biggest threats to your Femininity, your health, your relationship, your ability to attract the man of your dreams, and probably one of the major causes for any health problem you currently have in your life (if you are taking the birth control pill). I’m also going to tell you that the birth control pill can really mess up your ability to choose the right man, it can cloud your…
Article updated 2018 Topic: Please help me I’m desperate for advice! Hi lovely. This lady is in a bit of a predicament. I thought that we might be able to help her. Judging from her post, she’s desperate for a good answer to her problem. Can you help her? Her husband won’t have kids with her, won’t buy her gifts, will only have sex with her once a month and is always at golf. Hmm…Can you give your advice to this lady on how to save her marriage? How could she improve her relationship? Thanks for your answers in advance!…
Article updated 2018 Firstly, I’d like to say that jealousy is neither a good nor bad emotion to have. It’s how you use it. How to deal with jealousy is a common question I get via my contact page. I’ve had several requests to approach this problem in an article, and I’ve always waited and put it off, as it’s a difficult topic to handle. I have decided to finally break it down and give my thoughts on what works best. So I apologize to those lovely ladies who have been waiting a while for this subject to be dealt…
Article updated 2018 I’d like to refer you to this video in which Bernard Chapin (a devout anti-feminist) talks about women, age, what men like, and this article titled: Cougars and MILF’s Rule! 40 Year old Women are WAY Hotter Than 20 Year Olds! I will say that I am a fan of Bernard’s. He is very entertaining on camera (hilarious in fact), and he does have passion and a strong presence of which I respect and like. However, in this video he says (among other things): “What men desire more than anything in women is youth; that’s just the…
Article updated 2018 There are many reasons why you would want and need good posture. Proper posture prevents injuries by decreasing the stress on muscles, ligaments, tendons, bones and joints. From my experience, many people who have poor back posture end up with back problems; especially disc herniation. One of the most fantastic side benefits of having great posture is that it makes you look more attractive. Whether you are a man or a woman, perfect posture gives you an air of confidence. On the other hand, poor posture is often associated with depression, boredom and overall lack of enthusiasm. (Click…
“Poise is a power derived from the Mastery of Self” Article updated 2018 A woman who is poised is not easy to come by. Perhaps she was 30, 40, 50 + years ago. But such a woman is not too common these days. A feminine woman is often the epitome of grace, elegance and poise. The definition of poise is: ‘A graceful and elegant bearing; composure of dignity and manner’. The only negative thing about women who are traditionally poised, is that sometimes this poise tends to surface accompanied by a sense of rigidity. Femininity is not about being rigid,…
What is your sexual essence – Masculine, Feminine or Neutral? Article updated 2018 This post is a quiz on the sexual essences. We have compiled some questions so that you can get a better idea of whether you’re living in your feminine, masculine or in neutral sexual essence. It will also show you whether you are naturally more feminine at your core, or more masculine at your core. By the way, you can also take the quiz “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”, click here to take the quiz now. This quiz is meant to be a bit of fun,…
Article updated 2018 You’ve been there before. You’re sitting on the train by yourself or waiting innocently for an appointment, and some guy starts talking to you. Even before he opened his mouth, you felt his eyes on you, and your feminine intuition perks its head up and says….’this guy is bad news….’ So you remain friendly, and try not to say too much as to wrongly give him the impression you’re interested, and try not to say too little just in case he’s one of those ones whose anger boils when you refuse to give him any attention. I…
I don’t normally like to call them “hobbies”, but rather, passions. Hobbies sort of seems like something you halfheartedly do just for the sake of doing something. Passions sound a lot more interesting. But, hobbies, passions, interests – whatever you like to call them; they’re extremely important in a woman’s life! Sometimes, we need to get some more empowering and healthier ways to meet our needs. Hobbies are one of these ways. It’s important to keep your mind and body constantly growing – if you’re not growing, you’re dying! Why hobbies or passions? Because TV, chocolate, and Netflix is not a…
Article updated 2018 A more physically ‘perfect’ or glamorous woman needn’t always cause jealousy among other women, but a beautiful, feminine woman can cause enormous jealousy. If you’ve always been a beautiful and feminine woman, you would have experienced countless jealous looks and perhaps even jealous schemes, engineered by other women. It’s everywhere. And you can be a plain Jane and cause this jealous stir among other women, because you have something other women feel they do not; the amazing and mysterious force of femininity. And, jealous women can be women on the street whom you don’t know, or even…
Article updated 2018 When I first started this blog, I was writing for straight women. Over time, as my blog has received more exposure, I’ve been asked about how masculinity and femininity works in same-sex relationships. Whilst I still write predominantly for straight women, I want people to know that I don’t intend to exclude people in same-sex relationships in The Feminine Woman Community, and neither do I seek to perpetrate any intolerance towards gays. I understand that people have thought, at first, that I was saying that same-sex relationships are wrong and shouldn’t exist. This is not the case…
Article updated 2018 First and foremost, being a feminine woman requires an enormous amount of strength. In a society where the traditional roles of a woman and things like focusing on motherhood are no longer as respected (at least in comparison to the ‘career woman’s achievements and ambitions), it can sometimes feel almost impossible to just relax and not feel the need to conform to modern ideals, and to compete to get to the top of the corporate world or workforce. Every now and then I get an email asking me about femininity and how to be feminine whilst wanting…
Why won’t he commit to me? Article updated 2018 Many women ask this question. This article will give you a guy’s perspective on why some men find it hard to, or don’t want to commit. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) First of all, let me ask you a few questions: Would you love to commit to a $2,000 a month mortgage? Would you love to commit to taking the trash out every week? Would you love to commit to doing the dish washing every single day? In all the above questions,…
how do i get back my ex girlfriend Power in Relationships Article updated 2018 So I was browsing the internet yesterday, and I came across this statement, which horrified me: “The one who is being pursued has all the power in a relationship”. I admit that I’m not surprised to read that; stuff like that is everywhere on the internet! And it’s in our faces all the time. It’s not that I disagree – far from it – in fact, I do agree with this statement; if you are being pursued, then you generally have more power in the relationship….
Article updated 2018 Feminine energy is one of the most powerful forces on earth. If you want to attract your dream man… then you want to tap into your infinite source of femininity. If you want to have a long lasting passionate relationship or marriage, then you must express your inner femininity. If you want a man to love you and treasure you, then you must attract him with your femininity. (Click here to take the quiz on “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”) However, most women are oblivious to their true feminine power. Just in case some of you disagree,…
Getting and Maintaining Beautiful Hair Article updated 2018 Beautiful, healthy hair just gives a woman that extra look of radiance, health and feminine beauty. Not to mention long, gorgeous hair helps a woman maintain a youthful look well into her later years. It’s important to keep your hair healthy through your diet as well, but this article will be more about taking care of your hair itself. (Click here to download the “Goddess Report”) 10 steps to healthier hair: Step 1 Get yourself a really good quality hair brush. Don’t just use some badly made hair brushes, or old brushes…
Here’s How & Why You Need to Surrender to Masculine Energy Article updated 2018 There’s no denying it; the masculine energy is intense. In fact, masculine energy is sometimes scary, from a woman’s perspective. Of course, I won’t neglect to acknowledge that many modern women won’t relate to this notion. Some may not think masculine energy can be intense or even scary at times. Whilst Feminism has done some great things for us, it has also made women quite domineering with a tendency to castrate men with a single look. I suppose this is partially where the term ‘Ball-Breaker’ began…
Article updated 2018 Firstly, please don’t be fooled by the flashy title. I’m not encouraging women to play dumb, be in a ‘housewife’ role, or be helpless and have no opinions. Being submissive to a man is not about that at all. I’m also not encouraging women to be submissive all the time – being submissive is just another role that a woman can take up every now and then in her relationship. The reason I’m talking about being submissive is because it can bring more passion, strength and life to a relationship, if it’s received by a man with…
how to get your ex back Article updated 2018 Hey Lovely! Welcome to my Problem Solving section. This is my first post in this new section, and I want You to tell Me what is wrong with this situation, and how You would solve it, approach it, and what solutions You have. Here is the problem (taken from a real online forum): ‘Doting husband working together in same office for over 5 yrs. married for 7 yrs. But we don’t make love anymore. Is it because I am his boss? Confused and hurt as nothing seems to work. Tried taking…
Article updated 2018 There’s a lot of talk about how monogamy is unnatural and no longer ‘in’ in today’s society. A lot of people say that men are ‘hard-wired’ to spread their seed and to have sex with as many women as possible. The same goes for women. A lot of women think monogamy is not for them, and that it’s “unrealistic” for them to be in love with, and commit to, just one man for life. Not to mention that infidelity seems to be commonplace in today’s society. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment…
Article updated 2018 1) The only difference between a friendship and a relationship is intimacy. If you have a sexless marriage or a sexless relationship, what are you? companions? best friends? If a couple doesn’t have much sex, then this generally means they lack passion, and that they could be more in love. There’s no such thing as losing the feeling of being in love. You just lose the ‘state’ of being in love, and you lose polarity/passion with your spouse. You can be in love and have passionate sex way in to your old age. (Click here to take the…
Article Updated 2018 Seriously… Why Do Men Really Love Blowjobs? This article is not meant to be rude or offensive in any way. My aim is to help women have close, committed, deep and passionate relationships. Part of achieving this is helping women understand more about men, what men want and why they want it. Despite this being a sensitive topic, I hope we can all approach it with a little light-heartedness and let us remember that oral sex has been around for many years. I am also not condoning casual sex or being promiscuous. I am also not aiming…
Article updated 2018 This is one of the most important posts for women to read. If you haven’t read any of my my other articles yet (even if you have read them all), I suggest you put this towards the top of the priority list 😉 Fake Femininity. A lot is said about what femininity is, and how to be feminine, but not a lot is said about fake femininity. I’ve been asked the following questions before; ‘if I act mysterious, isn’t that manipulative?!’ ‘I’m not sure I want to play dating games, they seem like games of the heart!’…
Article updated 2018 Hey lovelies. I’ve had a few requests after I mentioned in my last post about using music to change your state and inspire femininity/freedom/relaxation/happiness/softness/peace/gratitude/love. I’ve combined below what I feel are the best songs for this purpose. This music is truly powerful. Enjoy! Let me know what you think as well, and which one is your favorite! 😉 Do You Know What the 2 Most Critical Elements of Any Intimate Relationship Are and How They Will Make or Break Your Love Life? Click here to find out right now… I hope you like these music. By the…
Article updated 2018 In the modern Western world, we have mistaken feminine as referring to the external appearance of a woman. Yes, this is important for achieving femininity and being more feminine, but this is all worth nothing if a woman is empty on the inside. (Click here to take the quiz on “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”) Femininity is created from the inside out, and for a woman to be more feminine, she must prioritize and work on what goes on internally. Some of the most feminine women in the world have no money for clothing, shoes, the…
Article updated 2018 Trying Never Truly Works No, really. You should never try to do anything. Trying never works. Have you ever heard news that somebody attempted suicide and thought to yourself how awful it is? And you feel terribly sad for the person and their whole family and their friends? But sometime later, you find yourself wondering, ‘Well, why didn’t they just do it? How do you actually try to kill yourself but fail at it?’ (Click here to take the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) I’m not trying to mock people who attempt suicide here….
Article updated 2018 Using words and names to benefit your relationships There’s an old saying that my dearest Daddy used to tell me to exclaim to other children when I was teased: “Sticks and stones will break my bones, but names will never hurt me!”. Back then, this really worked, and really empowered me. As I grew up, I came to realize, like most people do – that – names or not, words DO HURT. The words you use have the power to create good energy in a situation, or to encourage bad energy in a situation. (Not to disrespect…
Article updated 2018 What Is Femininity – How to Be Feminine If a woman is really feminine, she will most likely attract a really masculine male. If you are struggling to get in touch with your femininity, or are fearing being more feminine, I encourage you to live truly in your core (again, some women are masculine at their core). Overall, most women are truly feminine at their core. (Click here to take the quiz “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”) Femininity and “Rules” I’m not here to tell you that there are 1 million and 1 rules for being feminine….
Article updated 2018 I will start with a definition of depolarization: To partially or completely eliminate or counteract the polarization of. Where on earth does this word come from and what does it mean in the context of your relationship with men? Most men and women, regardless of what they’re showing up as, have a sexual essence that is more typically associated with their gender. So, most women will be feminine at their core, and most men will be masculine at their core. (Click here to take the quiz “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”) There are women who are more masculine…
Article Updated 2018 There are 3 main aspects of a Goddess: 1. Leadership 2. Feminine appearance 3. Presence and Charisma The Definition of a Goddess: A female God or Deity. A woman of extraordinary beauty and charm. A greatly admired or adored woman. 1) Leadership No woman can ever truly be a Goddess without being a leader. You must lead people into higher good. You cannot be a follower. I don’t mean manipulating people. I mean being absolutely untouchable in your personal conviction. It doesn’t matter whether you are religious or not, you can make people happier, and make the…
Article updated 2018 Why would a woman want to be mysterious? The ‘concept’ behind being mysterious is about keeping things fresh and exciting so that the relationship doesn’t become plagued by rituals. Rituals have their use (and positive uses at that) – but bad relationship rituals can turn spouses off. Often, mystery can be created by distance (being apart from your spouse). However, this isn’t always true because some couples who are often apart still don’t have much mystery. It’s all about who you show up as. (Click here to take the quiz “How High Value High Status Am I on…
Article updated 2018 How to get mind-boggling beauty and health with Coconut oil Hey, beautiful! In order to be really beautiful, a feminine woman must have gorgeous, youthful hair and skin. After all, most of your beauty really comes down to having fantastic health. Contrary to popular belief, nice skin/hair and youthfulness is not age dependent. Regardless of age, you don’t have to have declining hair health and wrinkles, there are women who don’t have wrinkles well into their 50s and even 60s without the help of cosmetic surgery. (Click here to take the quiz “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”)…
Article updated 2018 I think we’ve all had those moments where something our man has done (or somebody else) gets the blood broiling to the max! You’ve probably had those times when things have been particularly hard like you’ve lost a loved one, or you’re struggling for money, or your man does something you didn’t expect that really hurt you? The times that put a lot of stress on your intimate relationship? Often, these are the times which really test our character and temperament. (Click here to take the quiz “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”) Also, when…
Article updated 2018 Welcome back and remember to stay feminine, fun and free! Sometimes, when we meet someone whom may have certain qualities that we find attractive, or may be our physical ‘archetype’, we may try to convince ourselves that they are the right one for us. (Click here to take the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) Often, relationships occur out of proximity. You may work with them, play sports with them, they may be a friend or a friend of a friend, or a friend of a friend of a friend. If you have chemistry with someone,…
How to Become the Kind of Woman Men Want to Marry Article Updated 2018 Before I begin, let me just share a few extracts taken from an anti-marriage website: “My wife was a frigid, shriveled b***h. Before we were married, we had plenty of sex, but as soon as we passed the six month mark after our wedding, she stopped being interested. My wife only f***s when she “feels sexy.” Translation: when I give her jewelry. She is just a withered old bag at the age of 35.” “What security is there for men in marriage? If I cheat on my wife,…
Article updated 2018 Achieving beauty as a woman and finding femininity Hi there lovely! I promised you a post on achieving feminine beauty, so today I’m going to give you a few tips on how to become even MORE beautiful! In order to be the best version of yourself, and have an outstanding relationship, I believe it is important to achieve your ultimate beauty and to regularly and consistently hold your man spellbound by your feminine beauty! 🙂 In my own experience, when researching topics on what to write, I have spoken to many men about the importance of physical…
Article updated 2018 Feminine Beauty: Radiating Your True Femininity and Unique Beauty It’s true: Women (and especially feminine women who are comfortable with themselves) are beautiful. Not just celebrities or beauty icons; all women. I’m not going to launch in to a discussion about beauty is in the eye of the beholder, because it is, and you and I know this. I’m going to give you reasons why you are beautiful, and why all women are, subject to a few things. 😉 no, I don’t mean your figure, or how symmetrical your features are. I’m talking about the intangible beauty…
Article updated 2018 Your Ideal Relationship: Creating Lasting Love, Passion “Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” – RUMI Hi there lovely! Welcome back, and remember to stay feminine, fun and free! One of the best things about being in, or having an intimate relationship is that it intensifies emotion. This, of course, is also what makes relationships so potentially painful. But, the purpose of a relationships is to magnify our emotions. It is in our intimate relationships that we will encounter…
Article updated 2018 Giving Love to a Man I thought I’d talk about the topic of what love is. Specifically, I’m going to explore what it means to give love to a man! As women, we value certain love from a man. That is, the kind of love that is eternal and divine. We want to know that a man loves us, regardless of what happens, regardless of changes in life, mistakes we may make, age, or any external factors.Of course, we want love from other people in our lives too, but when it comes to a man, we really…
Article updated 2018 Since I’ve been focusing quite a lot on the ideal man/the right man, I felt it was important to include something about being sure that he IS Mr. Right. A couple of posts ago, I talked about writing a list for yourself on what you wanted in a man and what you don’t want in a potential partner. I also talked about BECOMING the kind of person your ideal man would want to be in a relationship with. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) Well, we could do all…
Article updated 2018 Good day to You! I hope you’re having a lovely day 🙂 OK, so I thought I’d give you some warning signals to look out for when dating a man. These are really important, and could really determine your future happiness. After all, 95% of your success in relationships comes down to who you select! (Click here to take the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) Sometimes women want to talk themselves in to believing that we have our ideal man, and ultimately want to marry him. I’m sure lots of girls and women do have…
Article updated 2018 This can be a tricky one. Often, we women, especially younger women, are attracted to the ‘bad guy’. The bad guy is usually the type of guy who looks great, has many great masculine qualities, and may be a bit of a charmer. Often, they know how to trigger attraction in a woman. They may not know it consciously, but they definitely make a habit of it, because they get the results they want! (Click here to take the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) The bad guy is the guy you and I might believe…
Article updated 2018 Ah, the elusive Knight in shining armour. I’m sure we’ve all heard of this saying and I for one, have heard a lot of women talk about finding their knight in shining armour. Or waiting for a man to come and ‘sweep’ them off their feet, and take them to a magical place. It’s a lovely image, isn’t it? To be the woman being protected, taken care of and loved devotedly by the knight, or swept up in to the arms of the ‘perfect’ man, whatever he might be like 😉 I have news for you, lovely….
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