As mentioned in the earlier post; The dark Side of Femininity, Feminine Energy has both a dark and a light dimension.

From the e-mails, comments and responses I have received since I first posted about the dark side of femininity, I have seen that a lot of people are curious to know exactly what the Dark feminine is. The majority of us are aware of what the light feminine is – it has been well talked about, nurtured and praised by society as well as in books.

Many people are expressing that they are confused as to what dark femininity is, how to embody it and why it is so crucial for women to embrace their dark side. I talk extensively about this in my program “Attraction Control Monthly”.

The dark side is not really encouraged by society (and there are sound justifications for this). With this in mind, I thought it would be good to divulge a bit about what dark femininity is. Instead of discussing pure theories, I wanted to just give you a quick example of each, so that you can get a bit of a feel for what both the light and the dark feminine really are.

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For the light feminine, the example I’m going to use is Kate Bosworth. Here is a quick video of her:


Just as a teaser, I’m going to give you three traits that are common to the light feminine:

1. Angelic

2. Conservative

3. Feels love

For the Dark Feminine, the example I’m going to use is British actress Liz Hurley. Here is a quick video of her…..

Here are three traits that are common to the dark feminine:

1. Devilish

2. Liberal

3. Plays with Desire

Over the past 9 months, and in my research on both the light and dark side of femininity, I’ve come to a conclusion about a common denominator for everything that is true to the dark feminine, and everything that is true to the light feminine. One of the major differences lies in the value systems of both the light feminine spirit and dark feminine spirit.

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A quick Question: can you notice the differences between the light and the dark feminine? It’s really not just about sex or at all about your physical looks, as many people might think. Light and dark also exists in the masculine energy. Out of curiosity, some men love to fight. Is this light or dark masculine, do you think?


  • Pallavi

    I’ve pretty much been operant conditioned into being more dark than light feminine. I’m so used to receiving a certain kind of attention (without doing much to consciously make it happen) that I pretty much only see my worth tied on being physically desirable. I don’t know how I can move towards seeing myself as worth having a relationship with.

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  • Jessica

    I mostly have the dark feminine energy because I’ve taken a lot of crap from people when I was using my light energy. I refuse to be taken advantage of, being told what to do and not to do, and I like doing things my way. I still keep some light feminine energy and put it out when it’s due. My dark feminine energy is what keeps me from getting hurt and cutting people down to size when they’re wrong.

  • Me-in-the-making

    Yay, finally… I’ve made it to the dark side!! After so many trials and tribulasion. What didn’t kill me certaily made me stronger and can’t wait to start the next chapter of my life story.

    F*You :D, coming to cinema shortly by picture presentations – this is my life, this is my mind πŸ™‚

    Iol, I slightly laughted then as it sure does feel good to come out of it all the other end…

    Well, last night I was watching Pretty Woman the movie – one of my favourites and noticed that of all the things Julia Roberts was in the film, she wasn’t a push over, nor a people pleaser, but instead, an investered woman in her own right as she wasn’t afraid to have her needs met, or use her head smarts when the situation called for it. She was also a woman who unfortunely gotten herself into an unfortunate situation, but never at any point was she ever going to settle for anything less than her highest ideals and she walked away from a man that indirectly, unintentionaly put her down.

    Well good on her and then just as I fell asleep, the film influenced my behaviour today…

    I went to the shops to get a jar of coffee and an elder man was trying to push infornt, so I stormed over as if my wellbeing was detmined by my following actions…

    I walked over and assertively asked him what he was doing and that I was already in the que. The shop assistant and man seemed taken back by my actions, but I thought F*You to him!! it was a que and wasn’t going to tolerater any BS – I boldly said that I wasn’t taking any BS…

    Truthuly, I felt amazing after, not suppressing my emotions, but instead, my raw authentic feelings. Why should I take responsibily for other peoples feelings, as there is a universal law called the law of responsibility, which states that if you can’t express honesty and truthfulness then your taking responsibility for another person and not really supporting another persons growth.

    Maybe the dark side isn’t always pretty or attractive or even considering other peoples emotions for that matter, but at least its real and honest.

    No human can be a certain way all the time and neither is it healthy to be for that matter.

    Now I intent to fully indulge and take full pleasure in the F*You chaper of my life – I mean it’s about time as almost 29 years of living in a people pleasing mindset is a tragic waste of time and brings nothing but sadness and heart ake to the human heart and soul.

    I’d say watch the space to all the haters and people who have ever doubted me, as this is the perfect time to say two fingers up to my painful past and any of those who have tried/are trying to squish me.

    When I’m good I’m really good, but when I’m bad then thats when mars in scorpio comes out to play and we don’t take things lightly. Hell no, to bed with that idea and time to rise from the ashes of the dust left behind from all the times I crided and died over and over from all the times I ever let anyone trample on me – nows the time to shine…

    Well I gave her a name and a first I thought I was investing in the dark side, but recent life events have taken me to a new depth in the permeter of my soul, and that when I realised that at the most confinient time I shall be completely changing my full name by law and finally decided on the name… Saphire Rubie Skye Lovette… It’s symbolic and this is the point I’m really going to do a 360 on my experience of life… Even getting the name tattoed on theside of my arm and wrist as it’s sentiment for new beginings and for life to know who I am – no tunring point!

    As for the man who featured in my life story over many, many, months, well, I guess he was just a means to an end as her broke me of my innocense and brought me to the dark side, but I’m cutting my loses as I can live without his crap. New start.

    As for your question – if a man likes fighting, is it light or dark then I would say through spending time with that certain person, as he directly said that he loves fighting and couldn’t see any light in him.

    Personally after watching the two videos on here, I would say that I prefer the dark side of femininity as the light seems more predictable and that she’d be eaten alife, but with the dark side, she’s calling the shots in her life and has lot’s of personal power.

    My guesses are feminine energy is more about a minset and attitude if its not exactly linked to a woman physical appearance etc.

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  • Talitha

    It bothers me that you used a black womans face to represent the dark feminine in the picture of this post. Please dont associate black women with the dark feminine. Each individual is different, and doing so is wrong.

    • Talitha, I came here to see what you were talking about. I guess I can see that it seems like we are promoting an association between dark women with dark feminine – this picture wasn’t my choice, and it’s the first time I’ve seen this picture on this post as they were all changed from what I originally chose for them a few months back! I want to reassure you that I didn’t choose this particular picture for this post. I will ask our assistant to choose a more appropriate picture. XxX

  • beaute

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  • Serenina

    Oh my gosh, thank you so much for this article!
    I’ve always been considered very attractive to guys by my fierce attitude (all of my guy friends tell me this), but as I read your blog about how gentle, sweet and caring women were considered “feminine”, I didn’t understand how a girl like me could be attractive. Of course, I have those qualities, but I’m mostly a “bad girl” that prefers ‘sexy’ to ‘angelic’.
    Now I understand that even a ‘bad girl’ can be attractive, thank you ! πŸ˜€
    Lost of love <3

  • Chocolateeyes

    Aww I wished I discovered this blog last year. My curiosity is more than piqued regarding the whole light and dark feminine and I really want to understand dark femininity more. A highly interesting subject of study.

  • Thanks for putting in so much work Renee, your blog as truly inspired me, because you put your heart in it :). It’s really quality stuff and i really liked your light and dark entry among many others πŸ™‚ keep writing! love the quality here πŸ™‚

    Try reading ”Captivating” by John and Stasi Eldredge, awesome stuff πŸ™‚

    -another feminity crazy questioner and seeker

  • Catherine

    Some people could also consider too, that there is a difference between showing your ‘dark’ femininity in public and perhaps being a bit over the top… then there’s naughty behind the scenes πŸ˜‰

    If someone knows and loves you, wearing a kinky little outfit is not the same as wearing a mini skirt and see through top to a club πŸ˜€

    I myself had actually started using what I percieve as ‘dark feminine’ whilst Renee was posting all about it – tis very useful.

    As one woman suggest above though, it’s not about changing who you are, it’s about harnessing different aspects that already exist within you, unleashing the fun πŸ˜€

  • Renee, thank you for taking the time to explain – and I suppose it makes sense. This is getting a bit frustratring, there are so many things I start to question about my life when reading through your blog, and i’m starting to wonder how i ever thought a relationship would work out in my life!!
    Anyway i at least i am now aware of things and can work on it.

  • Ruta

    I’m far too light feminine. I wish I could be a little more dark feminine. I don’t think I’m confident enough.

    I’m a traditional country girl who likes making things, cooking, wants a family… everyone describes me as very ‘sweet’… but that’s not enough to keep a man’s attention.

    Help me!

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