First and foremost, being a feminine woman requires an enormous amount of strength.
In a society where the traditional roles of a woman and things like focusing on motherhood are no longer as respected (at least in comparison to the career woman’s achievements and ambitions), it can feel impossible to just relax and not need to conform to modern ideals.
Ideals such as competing with men in their masculine domain, just to get to the top of the corporate world or workforce.
Every now and then I get an email asking me about femininity and how to be feminine whilst wanting to chase masculine ambitions.
Sometimes I’ll get a woman telling me that my writing is an insult to women all over the world.
Well, let me say that I believe passionately in women’s rights. I believe in human rights.
I believe in rights in general (even though, post pandemic 2020, we really have to question whether any of us actually have rights in practice. Or are rights just an illusion?)
I would never promote something that is an insult to women, or something that marginalizes women.
I love that women have much more freedom now than they used to, and can work as well as provide for their children alone if they have to.
Despite that, I do not believe a woman’s worth should be judged by her “achievements” at university, school, in the workplace, in sports or her physical looks.
The real worth of a woman is much more than all of these things put together.
(And if you think I must be bias, just know that I have earned a Law degree as well as an arts degree myself!)
A Strong Woman Is Not What Society Tells Us It Is
Ironically, a strong woman is not what society tells us it is.
No woman is a strong woman because she got a degree. No woman is a strong woman because she got promoted. No woman is a strong woman because of her intellect.
No woman is a strong woman because she can do something just as well as a man can or even better than them.
No woman is strong because she’s an athlete. No woman is strong because she can lift heavy weights at the gym, or run fast (although I used to think so).
In today’s world, true strength lies in her ability to embrace her feminine core.
Yet, whilst she may be a high achiever, and whilst she may be very intelligent – her real strength is in her true femininity, and in her character.
Are You A Strong Woman? Answer These Questions To See If You Are
A woman’s real strength is in her vulnerability (her ability to say yes to intimacy and be at one with the changing nature of life).
- Can she care for others? Can she care not only when it’s easy, but when it’s hard?
- Can she truly feel, rather than hide her feelings?
- Can she tell the truth, and influence people for the better? Can she influence without aggression? Can she influence without ego?
- Can she give without expecting anything back? Can she accept a man, and love his soul (shortcomings included) without trying to change him?
Whilst I have nothing against women working or playing sports (I train jiu jitsu and go to the gym regularly myself!)
All I’m saying is that this is not how a woman’s worth ought to be measured.
Here’s a video I made that teaches you how to be vulnerable (with examples)…
In looking for a message that sums up the strength of a woman simply, I found these precious words:
A strong woman is one who feels deeply and loves fiercely.
Her tears flow just as abundantly as her laughter.
A strong woman is both soft and powerful.
She is both Practical and Spiritual.
A strong woman in her essence is a gift to all the world.
It’s important that women spend time giving and enriching their relationships.
Women Are Taught To Compete To Be Worthy
….But being worthy is not the same as being truly strong.
To be strong, you can’t be fighting to be worthy. Instead you have to live in your knowing that you were born worthy!
Yes, we all need to learn about how to be a woman of value in the lives of those we love.
But this is not the same as worthiness; we are all born worthy! No matter how much we achieve or not not achieve.
We’re not always taught, in the “education” system, how to be great mothers, how to be great friends, great daughters, great girlfriends, great wives or great people!
We’re mainly taught how to do that equation, or how to write the best essay. Or how to be the ‘best’ at something. We’re led to focus on our own lives and achievements.
By all means, yes, we are taught to be ‘good people’ to the extent that we are encouraged to contribute to society and be philanthropists.
We’re also taught to be nice. But nice is not enough. It has to be accompanied with true care, and your willingness to truly invest in the people that you love.
Women Are Strong When They Are Able Be On The Same Emotional Page As Others
But, how can a woman ever be on the same emotional page as others, if we as a society encourage women to be worthy through achievement?
Being on the same emotional page, (or resonating with others and feeling the pain of others), is true strength.
But to have this strength, to truly understand the pain and suffering of others, and truly give to others, she has to be encouraged to feel and be a woman!
How can she do that if society as a whole ensures that women are not encouraged to feel their own pain and suffering?
How can a woman develop compassion, relate to other human beings, and live in her feminine core if everything is about getting the next thing done and getting the next thing done?
And then we go on to enter the work force. And whilst I think this is fantastic; that it’s great how women have so many opportunities – what about respecting what a truly feminine woman can give from her heart?
What about respecting her worth simply as a woman? Simply through her ability to love, and to feel?
After all, it is through her feeling that a woman’s depth of maternal instincts and nurturing can surface!
There needs to be a balance! A balance between the masculine and feminine energy inside of a woman.
For a lot of women, our complexities (something that is at the heart of the feminine energy) are conditioned out of us, and we become like zombies…
Not really happy, and not really ‘alive’ and radiant like a woman truly should be, but not necessarily unhappy enough to do something about it.
How often have you been walking down the street, or sitting on the train, and people look like they’re machines? It’s particularly sad to see women like this.
Personally, I’d rather meet a woman who hates me than to meet a woman who is bland and dead inside. I like to see some kind of emotion; something human. Something womanly.
(There Are Exactly 7 Signs That A Woman is Perceived as Low Value to Men. Do You Know What They Are? (& How to Avoid Them Like the Plague)? Click here to find out right now…)
Unfortunately, it’s very common to come across women who are more like robots.
I believe a strong woman should never be content with content. Women are a symbol of beauty; of femininity. And we ought to live enriching lives and bring LIFE, energy, love and hope wherever we go.
And, I believe that there needs to be more manly men, more masculine men to respect and love her for the contrast she brings to him; and for the many ways in which she completes him!
There are 17 Attraction Triggers. Click here to know more about these attraction triggers.
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What is a strong woman to you?
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Renee is the founder of The Feminine Woman & co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach women how to show up as a high value high status woman whom easily inspires a deep sense of emotional commitment from her chosen man. Together with her husband D. Shen at Commitment Triggers blog, they have positively influenced the lives of over 15 million women through their free articles and videos as well as 10’s of thousands through paid programs through the Shen Wade Media platform.
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