Confidence

May 19

How to be Vulnerable Without Being Needy

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 2 Comments

How does one show vulnerability without crossing over into needy territory? I’m not meaning to be flippant, but the short answer to that question is BE vulnerable. Let me share an example with you. Imagine a homeless man. He’s all alone in the street, without food, water, shelter and human companionship. He sleeps on the park bench during freezing winter nights and his mental health is all but ruined. Imagine him feeling the plight of his situation. He sinks into a despair so great that he cannot hold back his emotion. So he starts to really feel his sorrow and…

May 08

3 Reasons why it is High Value For Women To OFFER To Pay On the First Date

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 9 Comments

I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking I’ve lost the plot. Maybe you’re thinking I’m anti-woman or that I don’t want the best for my fellow sisters out there. Nope. How could I suggest something so absurd? Good question! Because I’ve learned through painful experience that if you want to invest in the right people (or the right man) it’s important to think outside the box. Over the years I’ve realised that there is something very intelligent about offering to pay on the first date. No, I’m not suggesting that you become a provider. I am not suggesting that…

Jan 24

8 Shocking Reasons Why Rotational Dating Can Be Low Value

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 16 Comments

Over the last 10 years, rotational dating theory or circular dating has become the stock standard advice given to women. “Date more men!” “Build your man funnel!” “Get more men in your rotation!”, they say. It’s coming up to 10 years I’ve been doing this work with women in all parts of the world, and in that time I’ve also come to notice some patterns. Which means I have noticed that in the world of relationship and dating advice, the advice generally falls into two opposing categories. These two opposing categories come down to: 1: Advice designed to make you…

Nov 11

Why Being Feminine is NOT Always High Value

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 9 Comments

🥶 One of the difficult things about doing what I do is that I see women sometimes get attached to “myopic” ideas that no longer serve them, and especially don’t serve the men that they come into contact with. I can’t blame them, I was there once too. One of these particular ideas is that feminine energy and “being feminine” is somehow everything. Why? Well perhaps in their mind “masculine men are attracted to feminine women.” Well, in one sense, that’s true. But when you really think and detach from the idea – when you zoom out, you see that…

Oct 25

Why the 80/20 Rule of Contacting a Man will Likely Make You LOSE Him

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 19 Comments

In our Facebook group, there’s been a lot of advice given around from women, and one of these pieces of advice is to let a man initiate contact with you 80% of the time, and you initiate contact with him 20% of the time. This advice is usually given from women in the group (not myself nor David) in response to questions along the lines of, “Should I initiate contact with a man?” Some women take this rule further, claiming that they never initiate with a man, and they don’t only use this rule in the dating stages, but also…

Sep 14

Relationship Timeline: Men VS Women

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 3 Comments

There are huge inherent differences between the relationship timelines of men and women. So as women, we need to know why the timelines are different and what it means for you. Here’s the truth: Men can father children pretty much throughout their whole lives. The world record holder for the oldest man to father a child is a 93 year old Indian farmer. Imagine that! To us women, that concept can be so foreign because we have our womb and our ovaries, and they do have an expiry date for doing the job of bearing children successfully. We are…

Aug 25

If You Never Initiate, You Will Lose the High Value Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 30 Comments

😳 Conversation is getting a wee bit silly over in our Facebook group. I have seen some folks suggesting many times to “never initiate” when dating men.

Aug 16

Polyamory: 10 Reasons Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 9 Comments

There are 10 good reasons Why Polyamory would Never Work Long-Term… yes I will probably get some flack from the poly communities, but put your thinking cap on and hear me out as to why polyamory isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. Polyamorous relationships are getting more and more popular each day. Social media and dating apps has changed the way we date and find a partner. It’s caused our culture to value distractions, selfishness and instant gratification rather than real emotional connection. It’s caused us to treat the opposite sex like candy, and as an avenue through which…

Jun 30

4 Steps to Stay High Value when He Doesn’t Text or Call

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence | 6 Comments

There’s nothing worse than feeling emotionally invested in a man, and in the outcome of your relationship, only to find that he doesn’t text or call you back. The anger, the disbelief and the pain you can feel when you’re in this situation is horrible. Let me first assure you that you are not alone. You are not the only one experiencing this. So, what can you do if the guy you want isn’t calling or texting back? What can you do to help yourself in such a difficult and sometimes painful situation? First of all, you need to know…

May 16

Is He Serious About You or Just “Interested”? Critical Distinction.

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 4 Comments

Is he just “interested” or is he serious about you? There is a big difference between when a man is just interested in you, VERSUS when he’s serious about you. To know the difference is absolutely important for you as a woman, and here is why. A man could be interested in you for so many different reasons. Many of those reasons could be for his own gain and if so, a man’s interest is kind of cheap. And because of that, the interest that he may initially show you can often disappear overnight as well. So interest isn’t actually…

Jan 20

10 Seemingly Harmless Signs of a Toxic Relationship

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 14 Comments

Let me tell you a seemingly harmless, but really toxic story. Imagine two young and healthy people get together, a man and a woman. They are both very physically attractive (above average in looks in fact) and they both have decent jobs. On the surface, everyone, even their peers, think that they have a good marriage and above average lifestyle. They make good money and look good together too. They have everything in front of them. They’re building a car wash business together, and together they have a whole lifetime ahead of them. About their personalities. One of them seems…

Dec 27

3 Undercover Ways to be More High Value Over Other Women & Get Him to Choose You

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence | 21 Comments

I know right? That title is soooo preposterous! Well, if it’s preposterous then so be it. There’s nothing wrong with secretly wanting to compete with other women. In fact, intra-sexual competition is alive and well. In other words, women are always competing with other women, and the same goes with men. The only difference is, us women mostly compete in much more covert and behind your back kind of ways than men do. And there’s no shame in recognising that. To compete doesn’t mean you’re not a feminine woman. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. In fact, the more…

Nov 23

10 Ultimate Signs of a Healthy Relationship

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 16 Comments

“You can’t handle the fact that you hurt me!” David said to me as we argued. “What? Um, hellooo. I’m the master of handling stuff”, I thought. “YES, I can handle it!” I said to him. “No, you can’t.” He said. “You cannot handle the fact that you hurt me.” Sigh. “What exactly do you need from me?”, I asked. We were in the car, he was driving us to the grocery store and I said something that had hurt him, but I didn’t think it was a big deal. I tried to brush off what I said. Meh. I…

Oct 26

When He Stops Chasing You & Being Romantic: What To Do?

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 29 Comments

Hi Renee & David, I really need your opinion on this. Everyone else I’ve talked to has more or less asked me to fight fire with fire, and I’m not really that kind of a human. So, my man and I, we’ve been in a relationship for some time now (is almost 3 years long enough?) and he was/is a masculine at his core. So far, however you’ve described a masculine man, he fits that description to a T. I try to understand that he has that drive in him, the ambition to achieve his goals and I understand that…

Sep 20

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5 Unconventional Ways To Make Him Love You More

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 20 Comments

Article updated 2020 “Become the kind of person that other people want to love.” This seems like such a weird statement to make. Shouldn’t we just be loved for who we are? Well, here’s the truth: What makes someone love you more is essentially also what fosters a beautiful connection with them. So by putting even just 1 or 2 of these unusual tips to use, you are not only potentially inspiring a man to love you more, you are actually becoming more and more skillful at creating deep connection with men (and secretly, with any human!). And that’s what…