Article updated 2018
Since I’ve been focusing quite a lot on the ideal man/the right man, I felt it was important to include something about being sure that he IS Mr. Right.
A couple of posts ago, I talked about writing a list for yourself on what you wanted in a man and what you don’t want in a potential partner. I also talked about BECOMING the kind of person your ideal man would want to be in a relationship with. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”)
Well, we could do all this, be in a relationship with a wonderful man, and sometimes still have doubts about whether he IS Mr. Right. Sometimes it’s just a thought, sometimes it’s thoughts that you have after a certain incident that has happened that could potentially change the nature of the relationship or the way you see your man, or it could be something else. Perhaps you may even have met another man, and you’re confused as to whether you should leave your man for another.
I have mentioned before that SELECTION of your partner is of utmost importance. Who you’re in a relationship with is crucial to determining your happiness.
It is very rare that a person’s nature will change. By this I mean their core beliefs. This does not mean a person cannot change, of course they can. However it is rare. As humans, we really need to have a very high level of modesty and selflessness before we will change. Habits are too habitual. Recurrent pleasures are too pleasurable. If a person is used to doing something over and over, and it meets their needs, it’s a tough one to get them to change it. It’s tough to get yourself to change.
So, your man may be very capable of change. He may even have a compelling reason to change, and you could inspire that in him by changing yourself. But, just for now we will focus on and assume the responsibility ourselves for being with the right person, or being in the right kind of relationship. (read my article about the truth about words I’ve already tried that)
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To become more aware of whether your partner is right for you, you will need to work out whether their value system is the same as yours. For example, I will introduce you to the 6 HUMAN NEEDS. You may already be aware of these, as they were created by the well-respected Anthony Robbins. So, for you as a feminine woman, understanding the 6 human needs can and will be vital to your success with your ideal man. They are as follows:
– CERTAINTY/COMFORT: Being able to produce or avoid stress, or the ability to increase or intensify pleasure. The need for certainty is all about survival and security.
– SIGNIFICANCE: This need is all about the need to be unique, feeling important, feeling you have a purpose, a sense of meaning, and feeling like you’re needed.
– VARIETY/UNCERTAINTY: This includes the need for excitement, difference, the element of surprise, challenges. This is in conflict with the need for certainty, as well.
– GROWTH: the need to get better or be better, to be more, to feel a challenge, etc.
– CONTRIBUTION: This is all about the need to give to others. If you value this need, you value giving beyond yourself and making a difference in other people’s lives.
So, how does this all relate to knowing whether he is Mr. Right? Well, as you advance in your time together, it will be vital to establish whether or not you both value the same top 2 or 3 human needs. If your partner values significance and variety, and you value certainty and love and connection, you will have some issues!! 🙂
If you want to have a completely outstanding, loving, passionate, and happy relationship where your femininity flows, and you can be happy, you will most likely require both top 2 needs to be the same as your man’s. Even if you have one need, the same you can make it work, but it becomes a lot harder. (Click here to complete the quiz on “Are you High Value High Status on Facebook?”)
Just so you know, often in life, we value different needs at different times. So, if you are at a point in your life where you have all your certain needs met, you may value variety/uncertainty more. At a certain time when you’re feeling a little depressed, lonely, sad, unloved, etc you may value significance more. But, the point still remains. If you both have the same top 2 needs, you’re on the right track, and you CAN reignite/maintain passion and happiness.
It doesn’t matter that your valued needs may change as such because the bottom line is that we all have one or two needs that we consistently value more over time. Don’t forget to share with me your thoughts and experiences related to this matter!
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Renee is the founder of The Feminine Woman & co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach women how to show up as a high value high status woman whom easily inspires a deep sense of emotional commitment from her chosen man. Together with her husband D. Shen at Commitment Triggers blog, they have positively influenced the lives of over 15 million women through their free articles and videos as well as 10’s of thousands through paid programs through the Shen Wade Media platform.
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