How to Radiate Deeper Femininity and Attract Men You Can Trust

For the purpose of this article, I am going to assume that the men you want to attract are the men who see your vulnerability and want to adore you and take care of you forever.

So let’s try a little exercise:

I want you to ask yourself a question.

When you feel something around a man, do you normally cover it up?

(I’m not talking about telling a man you love him. I’m talking about the array of emotions that may surface within your body.)

How do you think most average women interact with their man, or men in general from day-to-day?

Are they living an average life where they can’t truly be themselves and live in their own feminine (or masculine) core?

Are they trying to look smart and in control?

Are they in a relationship where they always have to complain about their man?

Or is their love so deep and their relationship so passionate that they would never need to look anywhere else?

How to Radiate Deeper Femininity

How To Radiate Feminine Energy: It’s Not About Talking more.

See, the words we speak are mostly blind to what is really going on inside.

As women, we often interact and show up in a way that minimizes our own vulnerability and our ability to feel.

We say ‘Oh it’s okay…”

When our real feeling is that we are scared.

We say ‘Oh maybe he was just….a little forgetful or busy.”

When inside, we feel afraid to lose him.

We say: ‘Oh, he’s depressed and going through a lot of work stress at the moment.’

Well, what if we actually are angry at him?

And what if that anger serves you?

Would you be open to the idea of letting yourself feel that anger, as long as it’s not directed towards him in a way that punishes him?

I certainly hope so. Because your anger is there to help you adjust and make quicker decisions in your relationships.

This anger not only helps you navigate, it helps inspire your man to make better decisions, too!

(And if he doesn’t like your emotion at all, if he tries to suppress it or control it, then you know that you have a man you cannot trust.)

(Click here to take the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”)

If you want to radiate feminine energy and attract the depth of love you crave, try to listen to yourself when you are talking.

You may consider that you do often say what you think men want to hear.

You may also want to consider that your words aren’t the same thing as your authentic feminine vulnerability!

Why is this important?

It’s important because ‘talking’ and ‘wording’ things in a way that is palatable for others doesn’t inspire deep devotion from men.

It is your authentic primary emotion that helps you radiate feminine energy and authenticity!

For most women, their words merely dull their feminine energy, unless they’re using it to communicate their deepest primary emotion.

You may consider that you say things or engage in your own thoughts to try to dull your emotions, or gut instinct, as if they are wrong (?!)

You may consider that you sometimes say what makes you look GOOD.

You may consider that many of the words you say are spoken to make yourself look cool, smart, in control, and consistent (feminine energy is NEVER is consistent, though).

We change with the weather. We change with other people’s emotions.

We are naturally responsive creatures that have had this intelligent responsiveness conditioned out of us in order to go to school, go to work, and fit in to a group of ‘average’ friends…

It’s not you, it’s the way you were raised. It’s what this society teaches us to be.

How To Radiate Feminine Energy: The Little Known Secret

Talk less and feel more!

Men respond best to your feelings, and not to you talking.

You can’t converse your way to a man’s heart.

You have to feel deeper, be more embodied, and sink deeper into your bodily wisdom in order to reach a man’s heart.

This deeper feeling and embodiment inspires deeper trustability in men, and it repels the men who aren’t serious about you.

This is because the men who aren’t serious will not want to spare the energy and resources to connect to it or to attune themselves to it.

(By the way here are the top 3 dating red flags.)

Here’s a video I made on how to be more feminine and soft in 4 simple steps:

In this society, we are taught that looking good is more important than being who we really are in our true nature, whether that’s masculine, feminine or neutral.

What you’ll realize though, is that, in order to be in your authentic feminine energy (if that’s what you are, underneath all the masks), then you’ll need to talk less and FEEL more.

Because talking sometimes stops you from feeling.

Talking can be cathartic, but most people don’t talk to feel deeper. They talk to justify themselves and to keep authentic, difficult feelings at bay!

Once you feel more, and talk a little less, you are and WILL be naturally more feminine because you are being more of yourself.

This is the way I have learned to become more of who I actually am, not who I think I SHOULD be.

I struggle with talking BS, especially to my parents; mostly to my parents. Because they were the ones I felt I had to impress and please.

Those times when I actually have the awareness to remember and pull myself up on my BS, I let go of the talk.

I just connect instead, which is what we really want.

Even with my husband, I’ve learned to feel more and relate more. I smile, I dance, I ask him about HIM, I kiss him sometimes. And it flows, the way it is designed to flow between a masculine man and feminine woman.

(Click here and take the quiz on “How Naturally Feminine Am I?”)

CLICK HERE to discover how much you truly live in your feminine energy with my specially crafted 9 Question Quiz!

Your Feminine Energy Will NOT Be Value For ALL Men

Disclaimer: Please don’t think that radiating more feminine energy is the answer to having more approval from more men.

SOME men see no value in it.

Some men may run from you when you do what I am suggesting; because they don’t all want to connect with you and attune themselves to you.

It’s a GOOD thing if these ones want to run from you!

See, when you remain open and vulnerable, not every man can take it. And that’s what we want!

You don’t have to bare your soul open on the first date. In fact, I’d advise against that.

But if you are an embodied feminine woman, then you’ll naturally fee more emotion, and this emotion will serve you to attract the men who are wanting a real relationship, too!

We want to get rid of the weaker men who will just run because we are not willing to settle for anything less than a man who tries to connect to you.

In order to weed out the men who aren’t serious, just BE.

If you succumb to demands of how you think you should be, you’ll never know how to eliminate the wrong kinds of men.

You should also always be testing any men that you date, so that you find out quickly, whether they are truly worth your time. Here’s how to test a man to see if he cares.

The right man will come eventually, even if that’s a newer version of your existing boyfriend/husband.


If you want something even more powerful for having men find you emotionally attractive, I’d suggest you read my article on how to build emotional attraction with men.

Case study: Learn how Kristin went from being completely burnt out with online dating, sick of getting ghosted and completely exhausted from giving her heart and soul with nothing in return… To having high value men begging for her attention & having the most “electric” date of her entire life. (…All by changing one simple strategy.)

Feeling Emotions Is Your Key To Using Feminine Energy To Attract Men

Connecting on a surface level doesn’t take much integrity and authenticity for women.

Yet when we women want to connect, we show up differently to men. We feel different.

It’s almost as if we are not there to take something from a man, but rather, we’re there to give them more emotional depth and meaning in their lives!

So, feel that which you actually feel. Don’t avoid it.

Avoiding feeling it just takes you away from your authentic energy.

Now, I’m not saying don’t talk with your words.

I’m saying, listen to yourself talk if you want to radiate deeper femininity.

Are you speaking to avoid feeling?

If so, that won’t help you on your path of using feminine energy to attract a man.

Certainly, when it comes to connecting with girlfriends, talk can be the most valuable thing in the world.

It CAN be. But right now, we’re talking about interacting with a man.

Deeper femininity attracts deeper men. Men you can trust!

But to appeal to the men who want to go deeper, you have to be willing to eliminate the men who aren’t interested in anything beyond sex.

How do you know if a man actually likes you or just wants to use you for sex?

You can read my article on How To Tell What A Guy Wants From You.

Is your man serious about committing to you? CLICK HERE to find out with my specially crafted 8 Question Quiz!

How To Radiate Feminine Energy: Give Yourself This Gift

So, give yourself the space to feel deeper.

Don’t avoid feeling your anger (yes, avoid blaming people, and avoid spraying old pent up emotions at a man as if it really is his fault).

But remember that anger can be valuable, just as sadness and hurt is valuable.

Your emotions, no matter how much other people told you that your feelings aren’t important or to ‘stop’ feeling them – they are here to protect you.

They affirm your existence.

Maybe that’s why it’s so hard to feel them, because it’s almost like saying ‘hey! I matter. My boundaries and my desires and my hurts matter!”

And that is hard to do when we were raised to keep things surface and keep emotions inside.

Society demands us to avoid feeling the deeper emotions that would cause men to want to take care of us (vulnerability is what makes men devote themselves to you).

Instead, we’ve become accustomed to covering things up with words and actions that we think make us ‘fit in’ or look good.

To help you feel your emotions so that you can become more feminine and communicate your vulnerability in a high value way, I made this video:

Remember this:

Surface femininity (dressing and acting solely for the approval of others) attracts surface men!

(Related: What is fake & superficial femininity?)

Deep femininity attracts men with deeper and more trustworthy masculine energy!

But first, you have to be willing to trust the light that is feminine energy that you were born with OVER trusting the garbage that you sometimes use to cover up the vulnerable, real you.

(Related: how most women reject their own deeper femininity)

It’s that light of you, the spontaneous you, that men crave, and it’s not always pretty. Sometimes is a little dark, and that’s ok. As long as you’re not expressing your emotions in a way that punishes him.

If you would like to know how you can express your vulnerability in a high value way, read my article on How To be Vulnerable Without Being NEEDY.

Remember that your feminine energy is definitely not predictable or in control. You have to be ok with that, at the very least, even if other people have a rule for themselves that they aren’t allowed to have emotions or be out of control.

(By the way, I’ve just published my brand new program titled “Becoming His One & Only!”… Click HERE to find out more details and how you can get your man to fall deeper in love with you and beg you to be his one and only)



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P.SBy the way, men are naturally attracted to these 17 Attraction Triggers, click here and start attracting the man who adores you.

P.P.S – When you start to respect and honour your own deep desire for connection, and when you embody your vulnerability with men (or people in general), you can start to get annoyed with surface people, and people who hide away.

You start to dislike the surface culture. Remember to be patient with people. You don’t want to make what they do ‘wrong’, because that keeps you in the old cycle of fear or separation. Just respect that it is there for a reason, and people are like that for a reason.

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It can be really scary to feel. There have been times, moments in my connections with certain men that made me feel completely breathless– my girlfriends say I have a great poker face. I’m not sure this is true once I’ve fallen in some part for someone. I remember once a man started reassuring me about something and I asked him why he mentioned it. He said he could see the fear in my eyes and body, and didn’t want me to feel that way. That really moved me. I couldn’t believe / can’t believe sometimes that there are men… Read more »


That’s it Renee and David’s website, I’ve had enough! For so long I lived a life were I accommodated to everyone else’s needs above my own, I felt not to know any different, as if it was some sort of psychological entrapment. Now I’m thinking who is anybody to tell me what’s what…from my parents, to friends and even strangers, I feel I gave my rights away because that is the only thing I’ve know, from what I can perceive. The media has such an impact on society, as if it’s blissfully guiding people on how to live their lives,… Read more »


I often find when I’m imagining my dream relationship, it’s the feeling that’s most present. I want to relax and let go. I’m tired of analyzing. I’m tired of strategizing I just want to be free. I feel trapped in an intricate web of stress. Must do’s, have to do’s, should do’s. Oh those are the worst because they make me feel bad. I find myself wanting to cut ties, to escape demands and just do what I want. I’m tired of being told what I should do, I’m tired of waking up in the morning for someone else. What… Read more »


Wise Words! Thank you Renee Many of your concepts are really hard to grasp. But I just try to test, to live it… and one day, I am profoundly shaken… 1. Yes, I listen to my talks and I just mini-compliment on myself for some talkings that I’ve made recently which are just for connecting, not for looking good. This feeling is really awesome and very freedom 2. Yes, I caught myself go back to the old cycle that I separate myself from others, and I know that mastering the balance takes lots of practice and compassion for me and… Read more »

Cielo Acosta
Cielo Acosta

Hi Renee, I admire your blog a lot… however, one thing really bothers me… I keep having those pop-ups about having to download one of your free infos and it gets in the way of reading the article. It just didn’t happen once but all the time… I try to find where to click the “x” but there’s’s annoying to say the least,Please do something! thanks. Cielo from the Philippines.

Venu K
Venu K

Hallo Renee, I’m a 31 year old man from India, still single unfortunately! (Sheepish grin) However, I would like to add in my “two cents” to your articles. You are right in saying that women need to act more feminine and build the attraction for the right kind of men to come into their lives and love them forever. But I am surprised that you haven’t mentioned one VERY feminine and VERY attractive woman in your articles. Who am I talking about? Gwenyth Paltrow. I saw how she walks and talks in the Iron Man movies (and The Avengers) and… Read more »

Venu K
Venu K
Reply to  Venu K

My case in point!



Hello Renee I was having a conversation with two people recently, I said how great Carole Vorderman looks and one of those people said she’s had cosmetic surjery, which she actually hasn’t. I went on to say that people who look good get better treatment, people automatically think they are good people with good qulites. Science proves this to be true and the media implements subliminal messages into society. Also I feel that Britains got talent proved it to be true with Susan Boyle. People talked her down, laughed and mocked her because of her apperance. The two people I… Read more »


Great piece and I loved the way you ended it of being caught in the cycle of separation. We all have a bit of human ego and when we assess people When they talk it happens all we have to remember is not be judgmental. I do not críticize Just freely listen feel sad at times if I see it is not authentic. Grrr what to Chuck this Android out my Window it writes what it wants to


Great information. It is very difficult to find real authentic feminine woman where I live.


Excellent, excellent article. Most are not aware of how powerful the words we use can influence our future and present states. It’s becoming pretty prevalent the knowledge that what we think in our heads matter, but even more sneaky is what we say and our language patterns. Thank you for bringing this to light. I will monitor what I say in certain situations & try to figure out why I’m saying it and what state it causes in me. I’m happy to say that now, I’ve been having very positive language about men and relationships, so right now I have… Read more »


Another beautifully written peace of wisdom Renee. It`s great advice. You`re little guy is adorable!


Hi Renee,
I am a big fan of your writing and of your blog and was wondering if you’d like to guest post for us on our blog over at
We would be honored to have something from you, it can even be something you’ve already written. Thanks so much!


Dear Renee,

I am so pleased a friend directed me to this article!I so want and need to be able to do what you describe here. This article is very timely for me. How do you carry this awareness of yourself as a woman into the world of work though? Is it possible to be this in touch with your authentic self and successful in the very ‘male’ working world?


Hi Renee! I liked the whole article, but what caught my attention is the idea that we should let go of the empty pursuit of “being in control“ and be willing to admit to ourselves and others that sometimes (very often for me:)we are out of control. We should learn to accept that-and that will be the new exciting beginning!


“The right man will come eventually, even if that’s a newer version of your existing boyfriend/husband.”

Do you mean a change of behaviour in the existing one?


Reply to  Renee Wade

Thanks for your reply. I have the opposite problem of most people. Not only do I find it virtually impossible to talk about feelings – we never ever talked about feelings when I was a child – it’s like I’m going mute in that situation, I just can’t get a word out. Additionally I find any type of talking difficult, small talk, discussions, you name it. I love writing so it’s not that I have nothing in my head, just the connection to my tongue seems faulty. I have good friends who accept me the way I am, and my… Read more »

Reply to  Renee Wade

Oh yes, I feel a lot, and I am aware of my feelings, it’s just expressing them I have problems with. I used to write letters to express myself, but now in the age of Skype and email that has gone down the drain.
Anyway, I won’t give up, probably I should start with little things instead of aiming to dish out my entire soul in one go and “failing”.

Reply to  Mona

PS: I don’t have problems expressing my feelings when I am on my own, I sing, dance or cry, whatever the situation calls for, but among other people, even close ones, I freeze. It’s just plain fear to look ridiculous. I keep telling myself, so what if I do, but it’s very deep.
Thanks for reading this. xxx

Reply to  Mona

No,i didn`t see it as the main idea, just one of the many wonderful “glimpses“ of wisdom 🙂


I have put into practice a lot of what you have said an it works ..fabulously! But they are all married men! Very stable good men. An yes it does work on them..they all wish there wives could be just like me..I have yet to be approached by a single in avalible man..


Your articles have been quite useful thanks!


Just today at work a man asked me whether I was still going to school (college, I work at a fast food restaurant) and I’m not. It shook me up. I so badly felt the need to defend myself, to tell him all that I have done thus far and why I wasn’t. Instead, I just let it all go and told him no. It was scary for me but then I realized that this one man’s opinion doesn’t really matter in the grand scheme of things so I was able to breathe and leave it at that. There is… Read more »

Reply to  Renee Wade

Hey Renee, Thanks for responding and you’re absolutely right. I’d hate being in the military. I’d feel so rigid and confined and I’m more of the spontaneous and creative type. I think it’d drive me crazy until I snapped and did something way out of line. But I was wondering if you had any tips on how to speak with my grandfather about this. I’m absolutely terrified of seeing him again and I’m going to have to tell him that I’m not in college anymore and it’s not going to be easy. Because either I’m cowering from him or I’m… Read more »


I can see myself in this. Makes sense to me… Thanks Renee for this post!


Lol, I would like to add that I think everyone could benifit from the feminine women blog as it’s full of so much helpful insight. All of which is authentic and coming from an honest place. I feel that you know alot of things I’m unaware of/that has been absent within my life. I consider myself as a knowledgeable person as reading and learning is my greatest passion in life. My senses tell me that your a great expansion to add to my life. I’ve read alot upon men’s behavior/human behavior but never anything on feminine energy before. I’d describe… Read more »

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