Deep down, it’d feel nice to have a man desire you and ONLY you forever, wouldn’t it?
Does it sometimes feel to you like men are just not satisfied with one woman?
Do you fear that perhaps he feels attraction for other women even whilst he’s in a committed, long-term relationship with you?
There’s little else that’s a painful as the feeling of loss in life. And especially when it comes to a man.
Like, why would you even want to EVER have a relationship if you thought you were going to lose his attention to someone else?
And here’s the thing. A lot of the time, when you ask men themselves, even THEY will tell you that it’s impossible not to feel attracted to other women whilst they are in a committed relationship with you.
So, how on earth do you deal with THAT?
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You cannot just take what men say as “Gospel Truth”
I mean, if he SAYS he could never stop feeling attracted to other women, it must be true, right?
There’s something I have to tell you.
And it’s something I talk about in my program Commitment Control 2.0…
You cannot just take what a man says for granted. Just like with life in general, you can’t trust what anyone says!
People say all kinds of things. What we need to do as strong women, is stop focusing on their words.
If you just take it for granted that he will feel attraction for other women whilst he is with you, or if you take for granted that he will always be looking for something else – then what kind of relationship will you have?
And honestly, how does it feel to YOU – knowing that he’s always going to be out feeling attraction for other women?
What are you going to do? Just turn a blind eye to it like most women?
No, no no.
I’m about to show you what it takes to get a man to be madly in love with you and ONLY you.
If you take what I’m about to teach you and use it, you can and WILL experience that kind of love and security and passion with a man that you’ve always wanted.
(What Is The One Specific Emotional Trigger Within Every Single Man in this World That Inspires Him to WANT to Commit to One Woman, Want to Take Care of Her, Worship Her and Only Her? Click here to find out right now…)
How to Get a Man to Desire you and ONLY you
Here’s the secret to getting a man to desire you and ONLY you.
The general rule that applies here when you want to get a man to be in love with you and desire you and ONLY you forever, is that your mindset changes everything. Or your psychology, as some call it.
As many highly respected success coaches would say, success in anything is 80% mindset (or psychology) and 20% strategies.
If you don’t learn the mindset behind having a man want you and ONLY you, and if you don’t understand WHY most men simply don’t perceive one woman can meet all of their needs, then your relationship will probably fail.
80% of long-term relationships and marriages ultimately fail. So it’s important you as a woman to have the right mindset for making yours succeed.
So here is how you can get yourself out of ‘small thinking’ into ‘big thinking’…
how to make a man desire only you
So here’s how you can Get a man to desire you passionately, the way you deserve…
- Understand that most men don’t REALLY think that they can’t be satisfied with only you.
It is just his perception. It’s not really the truth.
The TRUTH is in how much you meet his needs and how much you fulfil him.
A man may voice and verbalise that he cannot be satisfied with only one woman, but it doesn’t have to be true for YOU, in your life.
When a man says he can’t be satisfied with only you, or when YOU think his behaviour dictates that he feels this way, what’s really going on is that he simply doesn’t perceive that all his needs can be met by just one woman.
And perceptions change, my friend. They change, especially when you show up as the right woman in a man’s life.
Whatever belief your man holds onto right now doesn’t have to be true forever, even if it is true in this moment.
And this perception that he may have comes from his own pre-conceived ideas about women and about relationships in general.
This perception comes from his past experiences.
But this perception that a man has is something totally different to the excitement and fulfilment he could actually potentially have with you.
Men pick the idea up from popular movies, their peer groups, their father, their parents’ bad divorce, the media….the experiences of their guy friends or close relatives, etc.
By the way, it’s not just men. Women often doubt that one man can meet all of their needs. I used to doubt it too – until I met my man. and he owns me. he owns me completely.
He has turned me into a raving fan, and I wouldn’t have it any other way, because he always meets my needs in new ways, at such a high level, that I don’t even have space for another man in my mind, my body and my soul.
He has taken over my world – even years and years into our marriage.
It’s really not hard at all for a man to come to the conclusion that no one woman can meet ALL his needs.
Lost innocence can = negative beliefs about relationships
I mean, think about this for a second…
We all only have one chance. One chance at innocence in the context of human intimate relationship.
And once we lose it, we can become so hurt that it feels impossible to be fully satisfied with only one man, or one woman.
I’ve heard from (and heard of) many men who have been married just once – and afterwards, they just don’t want to marry ever again. Ever.
But haven’t we all said ‘NEVER again!’ to something, and later on, down the track, we find ourselves changing our minds?
Isn’t it true? We all start off as teenagers falling in love, and we get so consumed, and we fall in love, and we get hurt – and we tell ourselves “never again. No thanks.”
Many of us (men or women) have the idea that we can’t really be truly satisfied with one person (or attracted to) only one person.
So many men and women have been burnt in relationships.
And we are fed so much crap from disillusioned adults, from stupid media, that we tend to have really low expectations just to protect ourselves.
We don’t want to get too involved with one person out of fear that they will leave. Or hurt us too badly.
Until that bombshell (the “right” woman) comes along. Or that Mr. Right.
(What is the ONE thing you can say to ANY man that will capture his attention, trigger his curiosity and make him hang onto every word you say! Click here to find out right now…)
To have the Relationship you want, you have to come from a Position of Power
You CAN’T just take what men say for granted.
This gives you no power. It’s a really low-level place for you to be, as a woman. The best man/woman relationships have a powerful woman in it who believes in her ability to influence men.
It’s not resourceful, and it’s definitely not going to get you that relationship you want, or that man you want so badly.
See, this is what most women do…
A man tells them something, or they get an idea in their head from other women about men, and they take it as gospel truth. They don’t even question it!
Well, it’s not hard to sit there and just be ‘told’ what reality to adopt in your own head.
It’s what most of us do. But little do we know that people and events are influencing us every day. Especially the people closest to us. Especially the man or woman we feel the most attraction for.
Think about it:
Haven’t you had one of those moments where you were SURE something was the truth, and someone or some idea came along and made you change your mind?
For example: have you ever had a really bad day where you thought “gee, nobody really cares about me at all”, and on that day, a stranger did something really kind for you?
They just did it without asking anything back – and it really changed your perception about people?
And then perhaps you thought: ‘oh. Maybe people aren’t so bad after all!’ or ‘my faith in humanity is restored!’
Once you let what others say be your ‘truth’, because they said it – you are instantly powerless.
Why are you instantly powerless?
Because you basically let the quality of your relationship with a man be at the mercy of his false preconceived ideas about relationships.
Which are, by the way, probably encouraged in him by people or media who don’t actually care about him.
Average people will have average ideas about relationships. They will only see surface truths.
Above average people will have above average ideas about relationships. Because they don’t want to settle for a feeling of disempowerment!
This is the type of person I am encouraging you to become: an above average person who uses their brain to investigate ideas. Don’t just settle for surface truths that only ensure that you have poor quality relationships.
Here are my Top 5 “Must-Follow” Rules For Dating & Relationships For Women.
As a Woman, You are Always Influencing The Men Around You
See, as a woman, you instantly increase your attractiveness and desirability when you have the courage to acknowledge that just because someone says something, doesn’t mean it has to be true.
You can take the lead as a woman with your FAITH that you can fulfil a man so much that he is so filled up with attraction for YOU that all other women are like a piece of poo on his shoe to him.
After all, haven’t you heard of men who have been stuck to a woman (their wife) like glue for life? They’re not just stuck, they’re madly in love for life?
Here is an interesting scientific finding that will help you have hope that a man can really desire you and only you for a lifetime….
In fact, researchers have proved that some men and women are still madly in love with their beloved after 20 or more years of marriage.
The pathways of the brain associated with romantic love (intense attraction) were still lit up as much as they are lit up for couples when they first fall in love in the initial months of the relationship.
And in some cases, these couples actually showed more activity in the area of the brain associated with romantic love and intense attraction.
You’ve been in love before, haven’t you?
You know, that feeling where you are obsessed with one man and cannot get him out of your head?
Well, you can have a man feel this for you not just for a few weeks, not just for a few months, but FOREVER.
So, would you at least acknowledge that this kind of relationship exists? That’s the very first step. It is to believe.
Believe in something greater than you do right now.
Because if you don’t, you’re just shooting yourself in the foot when it comes to relationships.
Women everywhere, every day, are experiencing this kind of bliss in their relationship! And it’s partly because they are willing to trust and believe that it can be true for them.
This is the power of having a high value mindset. If you’d like to learn more about having a high value mindset, check out our program “High Value mindsets”.
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Shouldn’t you be able to relax and just be yourself?
It doesn’t have to be exhaustive, the idea of fulfilling a man and meeting his needs. I know it does feel exhaustive sometimes, kinda like you can’t just relax and BE YOURSELF, right?
But the real change is not in the effort you put in and the constant racking your brain and ‘trying” to keep a man interested.
It’s really not about putting in more ‘effort’ as such.
The REAL change is in your mindset.
Kind of like why for some people it’s so easy to stay slim, but for others, they cannot get the weight off! Right? We all know someone like this.
And some people can never seem to lose weight even if they are working their butts off physically at the gym EVERY NIGHT.
Why is this?
It’s because of their mindset.
Mindset dictates your decisions and actions subconsciously.
The truth about why so many men don’t feel happy with just one woman
Do you want to know the truth?
The truth about why so many men simply don’t want to commit to just one woman? The cold hard facts about what most women out there are like?
The facts are this: most women are completely and utterly boring. They’re always the same kind of person!
And the same is true with men, isn’t it? It’s not just women, it’s men, too.
Men can be really boring to be in a relationship with! Especially when you’ve been together for a while.
And it’s not their fault! It’s not their fault that they are boring.
The reason for why so many men and women are boring to be within a relationship is that in our society, most of us become one-dimensional people.
One dimensional people are always the same kind of person because we believe that we are only one kind of person. That’s why it’s so important to avoid being a one-dimensional woman.
Here’s an article on dark and light feminine energy to help you understand and explore the different parts of yourself!
Most Women are One-dimensional
And we are raised to be one-dimensional at school, and often by our family and peers.
People always ‘box’ us in to one category and limit us to one identity.
For example: we are the sexy one, the quiet one, the ‘gentle, kind-hearted’ one. The daring one. The ‘smart’ one. The ‘elegant’ one.
But the truth is that you are a lot more than just that. You are a lot more than just elegant, for example.
Often, if we do something that’s different than what we normally do, people or our “friends”, are all like: “gee, that’s not like you!” or “you’ve changed” (in that dreaded negative tone, like changing is the most evil thing in the world).
As a result, it’s incredibly hard and feels unnatural to be multi-dimensional.
YOU are light feminine and yo are dark feminine. You are and can be a woman of mystery and feminine allure, when you’re multidimensional.
Once you embody all parts of yourself, you will find that men are lining up to devote themselves to you.
Why? Because they can’t help but feel deep emotional connection with you. Your multidimensional nature ensures that you are able to emotionally connect with them beyond the surface.
You are the woman who reaches beyond the surface into the deepest parts of him, the parts where all his masculinity and passion lies.
Men crave this kind of woman because they never lose their freedom by being with you! You don’t restrict a man because you’re not being a one-dimensional woman!
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Here’s The ONE Thing A Masculine Man Will Never Give Up To Be With A Woman
Some experts say that women can become the kind of woman that makes a man ‘give up his freedom’ to be with her.
Well, the truth is that NO man is ever going to give up his freedom to be with you.
Not a masculine man on earth will ever give up his feeling of freedom. Freedom is at the heart of being a man; it’s at the heart of masculinity.
And I mean the ‘feeling’ of freedom here. I am not saying that no man can ever not be monogamous. They can be! I’m talking about the feeling of freedom within his masculine soul.
A man wants to genuinely commit to you for the right reasons (ie: because he’s a raving fan of you) when he feels more freedom by being with you than he does by NOT being with you.
Embodying your light and Dark feminine is something I talk about in depth in week 2 of Commitment Control 2.0.
If you want to avoid being one-dimensional, and have a man devote all his attention to just you, click here to register and watch the Commitment Masterclass.
2) Respect yourself enough to KNOW that you can be enough for this one man forever.
Once you have this confidence and this mindset, you will start to see him change, and you will attract something completely different in a man. And if you are single, you will attract a completely different kind of man.
You may find that you attract men who truly value you and want to make you their one and only woman for life.
Find out more about becoming his one and only (rather than ‘the one of many’ woman here.)
And here’s an article on How To Make Him Chase You And Value You: High Value Women Secrets.
Most of us have no idea how much influence we have over a man.
We don’t realize the power of a strong belief and great mindset. When we have the courage to acknowledge that we can and already have it within us to be more than enough for a man for LIFE, we bring more power to ourselves.
Make him want ONLY you by becoming his ONE AND ONLY woman…
After all, men will either make you their one and only or their one of many woman.
And remember, when met meet you, they will put you in either one of two baskets. The one and only basket, or the one of many basket.
And if you’re in the ‘one and only’ basket, he will never ever want to give you up. He will be in love and he will give you ALL of his resources. Every last morsel.
However, when he categorises you as the ‘one of many’, he will give you crumbs.
So remember this framework. Because it’s when you add enough value, when you show up as a woman of value to men, that you can easily slip into the ‘one and only’ basket for more men.
Don’t ever forget this framework. Make it a part of your internal positive mindset about men and relationships.
If you don’t, you’ll fall for all the fearful beliefs that the media and perhaps your jaded aunts or friends have towards men.
I don’t blame women for resenting men and harbouring mindsets based in fear.
After all, it feels MUCH safer if you just think you can’t have what you want with men.
Because then you can never fail.
And oftentimes, not failing seems a much more attractive idea than looking like a fool, doesn’t it? if you just take it for granted that men will always be looking for something “more” outside of a relationship with you – you can sit back and avoid being hurt.
But by doing this, you just end up powerless and miserable.
The Action Steps for Making a Man Desire you and ONLY You
So here are the three action steps to stop your man feeling dissatisfied with only you, and get him to desire only you and commit all his attention to only you.
1) stop ASKING him about whether he is attracted to other women, and stop FOCUSING on his possible attraction to other women.
Where focus goes, energy flows. The peak performance coach Anthony Robbins said that.
So the more you focus on the possibility of his desire for other women, the more likely you are to damage your relationship and push him away, because you’re leading with fear rather than leading with value.
And the less power you claim for yourself.
Remember that it’s exhausting to be with somebody who is always looking out for possible reasons that they are not enough for you.
Imagine yourself being with a man like this! Would it feel nice?
Instead, focus on a new truth: you CAN be the dream woman for this man that he may not even feel exists right now.
See, most men have no idea what they want and what they would commit to, until she shows up in front of them.
It’s no different to a guy asking you “what turns you on sexually?”.
It’s hard to answer/explain what turns you on, right? It’s much better that a man shows you what will turn you on and give you the opportunity to feel turned on, right?
The same thing is true of men and commitment. They don’t know exactly what it takes in order for them to commit to you and give you everything, until it shows up in front of them. Until you are the kind of woman that juices him and makes him unable to have room for any other woman in his mind.
Every single time you notice yourself looking for signs that he might be attracted to other women, INSTANTLY bring your focus back to YOURSELF and what you can do. (See my article on HOW to attract men without being low value)
This is the power of having a high value mindset, and we talk about it in our program “high Value Mindsets”.
(The promise of this program is to give you the ability to “trade in” your anxiety and insecurities for self esteem, self worth and intrinsic confidence, so that no one will ever take you for granted & high value men will recognise you as an indispensable “keeper”.)
2) Every time you notice yourself feeling insecure about other women – or about him not being satisfied – Stop what you are doing. Excuse yourself to go to the bathroom, or jump up and down on the spot – whatever you want.
Change your physical state. Do something crazy to change your focus. Do ANYTHING just to change your physical state, because fear is physical.
And you cannot make the right decisions or be the woman he wants when you are coming from a place of fear. Anytime you are fearful, your heart rate is raised, your body’s whole biochemistry changes.
This is why it’s important to simply change your physical state – changing your physical state also changes your emotional state.
3) Start telling yourself a different story.
We all make up stories in our heads as a way of justifying our suffering, or as a way of justifying what we don’t have, or what we haven’t achieved.
A lot of us have stories that are complete lies that we tell ourselves.
“Men are always dissatisfied.”
“My relationships never last longer than a few months”.
“Men are never satisfied with ME. But they seem to be satisfied with OTHER women.”
“I’m not the kind of woman men are irresistibly drawn to.”
“Men always leave. No matter how much I try to fulfil a man, he always leaves or he always wants something else. I just can’t keep him interested!”
Here’s an article on Is He Serious About You Or Just “Interested”? Critical Distinction.
We all tell ourselves silly stories that are untrue. So you need to tell yourself a better story. For example, say the story you habitually tell yourself is:
“Oh, I was never considered that beautiful, I’ve never had enough love from any man and my relationships never work out. I’m no Megan Fox, I could never be enough because he’s always going to want someone hotter, more popular, or younger.”
Remind yourself that that is bollocks. Megan Fox has been MADE OUT deliberately, to be a sex symbol, so of course, most people see her that way. Of course, MEN see her that way.
It’s the same way people box everyone in to little capsules of what they think they should be.
You have the capability to be a Megan Fox because all you have to do is stir a man’s physical AND emotional desire.
Stirring a man’s desire and triggering his attention are things you can learn. You just have to tap in to that part of yourself.
So, your new story could be:
“I am more than enough for this man. I have always been enough. I know the truth, I’ve just been lying to myself. The truth is that I have everything I need within me right NOW to be more than enough. Sexy enough, smart enough, poised enough, beautiful enough – all of it.”
And I have access to this power within me right now, TODAY. Not tomorrow, or next month, or next year. But right now, TODAY.”
Doesn’t that feel nice?
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So here is what you need to do right now…
to make sure that you are on the right path to having the desire of the man YOU want on YOU and ONLY you forever, do this.
RIGHT NOW: you need to ACT so that you get this all in to place in your life, and so that you can be the kind of woman who has all the attention and devotion in the world from any man you want.
You need to write down what your old story (or stories) you’ve been telling yourself is:
Whether it’s that “men are never satisfied”
“Men are horribly complicated creatures that are difficult to work out”.
(And you really need to dig deep here, a lot of our most negative stories are etched deep in to our subconscious, after telling ourselves the same story for years and year on end).
And once you’ve written out the old story you’ve been telling yourself, you need to write down what your NEW story is, and start telling yourself the new story.
For example, your new story could be:
“I am a ridiculously attractive and irresistible woman who always has something new and better to bring to the table. All I need to do is get a bit more understanding of men, and stop telling myself lies about my own capabilities and desirability.”
And once you’ve written this new story down…
You must acknowledge that most of us have just never been taught what truly attracts men and makes them go crazy with desire for you day after day, year, after year.
The same way most of us have never been taught how to start and maintain a business; how to initiate and take control of our destiny. That’s why 90% of all businesses fail within the first 5 years.
In fact, most of us have totally lost touch with that natural femininity and intuition needed to be successful in courtship and relationship with men, because we’ve become one-dimensional.
So if you want to go deeper, and take things to the next level in your love life, come on over and learn what 99.9% of women out there will never know about men and relationships. Click here to watch the Commitment Masterclass.
Until next time, love and femininity to you!
Share with us in the comments section below, what your beliefs are about the possibility of being fulfilled by one person for life. Do you believe it is possible?
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