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May 25

The 9 Dangers of “Leaning Back” & Why It’s Not Feminine

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 49 Comments

There are many people who strongly believe in leaning back when dating. Since the early days of the internet, when Rori Raye started spreading her idea on leaning back and circular dating, or rotational dating, which means dating several men at the same time, the idea of leaning back has spread. Some people say that you shouldn’t take too many initiating actions with men, and let him chase you, whilst you still must remain warm and receptive. Apparently, this is because it’s the natural role of a man to come forward, to work for you, and take care of you…

Mar 07

Polyamory: Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 18 Comments

If you haven’t read PART 1 of this post, I suggest you read that first. It will give you the details you need to understand this article. This post was originally inspired by a woman in a pickle with a man who claimed he was polyamorous and then turned monogamous to be with her, and then he slept with someone else. Read it here… All relationship and marriage setups are valuable Let me get this out of the way: I am not advocating that monogamy is the only way. It definitely isn’t. I respect the value of polygyny (a man…

Feb 02

Polyamorous Relationships: He wants One. What Do I do?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 38 Comments

Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life). What if we need to learn…

Jan 15

6 Behaviours You Should Never Tolerate In A Man

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 26 Comments

Cheating and abuse are the first things people think of when they consider what they should never tolerate in a relationship. This article is not going to be about cheating or abuse. Why? Because firstly, whilst of course abuse should not be tolerated; abuse is actually a wide topic – it goes far beyond just physical abuse. Sometimes, the behaviours that seem the most innocent on the surface can actually be deeply abusive. For example, acting like your partner is not causing you any hurt or anger (not being responsive) when you consciously know you’re withholding yourself (as well as…

Nov 07

12 Secret Reasons Some People Will Always Be Distant From You

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 41 Comments

She sat there, all alone, on the curb, crying. She just had it. She had just lost someone dear to her, and now she had nobody – nobody to even call her and ask how she is – and didn’t know what to do about it. A woman of many family members. A few friends. And yet nobody was there for her. She wanted to commit suicide, sometimes. It was all just too hard. She had friends, but they didn’t feel like real friends. Her family wasn’t nice to her, and her last relationship broke up, even though she loved…

Sep 22

This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 77 Comments

This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away …Because pushing him away is a lot better than feeling him ‘here’ with us and consequently being more vulnerable to his betrayal. Especially if we’ve been truly open and vulnerable to him. …Because we want you to work harder for us. …Because we are scared to trust you. …Because outside of our natural desire for sex during/before ovulation, or the beginning or the end of a menstrual cycle, our desire for sex is lower, and sex takes a lot of energy when we don’t want it. …Because relationships take courage that we…

Sep 15

If He Loves You More Than You Love Him, Is It Worth a Chance?

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 31 Comments

If He Loves You More Than You Love Him, Is It Worth A Chance? Hi Renee, I have been following your blog and it has changed my life significantly. Thank you. I recently met a guy who I believe truly loves me, the problem is, He has a lot of habits I used to have but worked really hard on myself to quit.（ex. talking too much) If I am being honest, am not sure I love this man but I realized I have been too picky with men. This guy calls me, checks up and tells me he loves me…

Aug 01

The One Perfect Thing to Say When a Man Says He Needs “Space”

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 35 Comments

What if your man or boyfriend is needing space in the relationship? “I freaked out. He told me calmly that he needs some space and I didn’t know what to do. I tried to talk him through this, I begged him not to leave me because I’m afraid he will leave me for another woman”. The anxiety of a man needing space. It’s enough to make many women feel their stomach suddenly drop 1,000 miles through the floor. It can make you feel blinded by fear of the worst. Unfortunately and fortunately, this dizzy time of worry and stress is…

May 18

5 Advanced Ways To Have Close Relationships That Others Envy

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 13 Comments

“He left me. I suddenly broke down in tears. I told him I was so hurt that he didn’t call me after we had sex for the first time. We weren’t even on a date when I burst out crying; I just bumped into him at college.” Kristy said to Gianna. Gianna raised her eyebrows and stopped breathing for one minute. “Wow. Ouch.” “What? That’s all you gonna say?” No no, I’m just processing all of what you said right now, Gianna said while letting out a big puff of cigarette smoke slowly. Oh, ok. “I can’t believe you burst…

Apr 20

Your man tells you to “F**k Off”. Now what?

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 30 Comments

He got angry and told her to F**k Off…. Me & my boyfriend had an argument a few days ago he blamed me for a few things which was silly things & not true. He was angry & recently been under a lot of stress. Also he lost a close friend of his. He was ratty with me from the night before. He said I had started to act like I was at the beginning of relationship paranoid & not being able to talk properly. At one point he said maybe your getting bored in our argument. I later said…

Feb 16

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 1)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 35 Comments

One cold winter morning, Felesha Fox came running alongside her friend, Frances Fox. “Hahaha, look at all these male foxes chasing after me, Frances! There’s about 10 of them!” Frances, looking a little embarrassed and scared, turned around to see 10 male foxes or more, chasing her friend Felesha Fox. “Why don’t you have even one dashing lad chasing you down, like me?” “My dear friend Felesha, you are mistaken, I do have one dashing lad chasing me. He’s at home right now.” “Pffff. Just one fox? Don’t you want lots of them around you? Look at you! You are…

Oct 26

7 Burning Signs a Man is Being Low Value

By Renee Wade | All, Relationship Issues | 27 Comments

It might seem arrogant to deem someone as having low value, or low mate value. And, it’s not easy to be the ‘mean’ girl, sitting there, evaluating a man’s mate value. Click here to take the quiz “Are you Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?” By mate value, I mean the signs that show a man’s overall value as a romantic partner. It also refers to his potential reproductive success. For example, a strong, confident man would most likely have more reproductive success than an unhealthy, lazy, unconfident man. I know it seems unfair. But without me even saying it, we all…

Sep 02

Dancing Naked, Slut Shaming, and Shit Sex…

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 25 Comments

She barged into my room without knocking. What were you doing?! She said. She crossed her arms and looked me up and down. Then her mouth moved up in the shape of a smirk. ‘Ahh, you were dancing. Don’t think I don’t know exactly what you were doing.” I looked downwards, the 17 year old me, knowing my mother would never approve of me dancing. I was even looking at myself in the mirror. Worse. I was enjoying dancing and looking at myself in the mirror. Take the quiz on How Feminine Am I Actually? Click here. “Get that towel…

Jul 14

High Powered Career, Trust, and your Relationship with Men

By Renee Wade | All, Finding Love, Relationship Issues

High Powered Career, Trust and Your Relationship with Great Men As a graduated student with a double degree in Law/Arts, I perfectly understand the desire to keep a well-earned career. It’s a woman’s birthright. Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?” But what if you and I just asked each other why? Why do we do the hard work and choose the high powered, kick-ass careers in the first place? Well, the answer, based on our survival instinct – is to just make some damn money to survive. And status. But money….

Jan 26

Getting Lured in, Tricked & Dumped By A Man On Facebook?

By Renee Wade | Confidence, Relationship Issues | 28 Comments

He pursued this 47 year old woman on Facebook for one year. She fell in love with him! She discovered that he was pursuring other women, and he disappeared. What advice do you have for Yasmin? What would you do? >>>>>>>>>>>>> Question Hello Renee, First I want to thank you and let you know that I truly enjoy reading your notes. The reason why I finally got the courage to e-mail you is because I got something bothering me very much about this man I met through Facebook and I am too embarrassed to talk to my friends about what…