Relationship Issues

May 19

How to be Vulnerable Without Being Needy

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 2 Comments

How does one show vulnerability without crossing over into needy territory? I’m not meaning to be flippant, but the short answer to that question is BE vulnerable. Let me share an example with you. Imagine a homeless man. He’s all alone in the street, without food, water, shelter and human companionship. He sleeps on the park bench during freezing winter nights and his mental health is all but ruined. Imagine him feeling the plight of his situation. He sinks into a despair so great that he cannot hold back his emotion. So he starts to really feel his sorrow and…

May 01

Should A Man Provide for A Woman 100%? Or is 50/50 OK?

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 18 Comments

Should the Man Provide for a Woman 100%? Or is 50/50 OK? This question, or some variation of it, keeps circulating in my facebook group for High Value Feminine Women. Due to the fact that this question produces polarising discussion, there’s always a small number of women who inevitably insult other women for having 50/50 relationships. I understand. Some women have been through the wringer with the wrong kinds of men, and after having these experiences, they assume that because their ex boyfriend who asked for 50/50 used and abused them, that the problem is the 50/50 setup, and that…

Jan 24

8 Shocking Reasons Why Rotational Dating Can Be Low Value

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 16 Comments

Over the last 10 years, rotational dating theory or circular dating has become the stock standard advice given to women. “Date more men!” “Build your man funnel!” “Get more men in your rotation!”, they say. It’s coming up to 10 years I’ve been doing this work with women in all parts of the world, and in that time I’ve also come to notice some patterns. Which means I have noticed that in the world of relationship and dating advice, the advice generally falls into two opposing categories. These two opposing categories come down to: 1: Advice designed to make you…

Nov 11

Why Being Feminine is NOT Always High Value

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 9 Comments

🥶 One of the difficult things about doing what I do is that I see women sometimes get attached to “myopic” ideas that no longer serve them, and especially don’t serve the men that they come into contact with. I can’t blame them, I was there once too. One of these particular ideas is that feminine energy and “being feminine” is somehow everything. Why? Well perhaps in their mind “masculine men are attracted to feminine women.” Well, in one sense, that’s true. But when you really think and detach from the idea – when you zoom out, you see that…

Oct 25

Why the 80/20 Rule of Contacting a Man will Likely Make You LOSE Him

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 19 Comments

In our Facebook group, there’s been a lot of advice given around from women, and one of these pieces of advice is to let a man initiate contact with you 80% of the time, and you initiate contact with him 20% of the time. This advice is usually given from women in the group (not myself nor David) in response to questions along the lines of, “Should I initiate contact with a man?” Some women take this rule further, claiming that they never initiate with a man, and they don’t only use this rule in the dating stages, but also…

Aug 16

Polyamory: 10 Reasons Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 9 Comments

There are 10 good reasons Why Polyamory would Never Work Long-Term… yes I will probably get some flack from the poly communities, but put your thinking cap on and hear me out as to why polyamory isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. Polyamorous relationships are getting more and more popular each day. Social media and dating apps has changed the way we date and find a partner. It’s caused our culture to value distractions, selfishness and instant gratification rather than real emotional connection. It’s caused us to treat the opposite sex like candy, and as an avenue through which…

Jul 25

The Women Men Commit to Versus the Women Men Leave

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Relationship Issues | 2 Comments

Let me share something important with you. There is a huge difference between the types of women that men commit to, versus the types of women that men leave. And the difference is not what you think it is. I used to know this woman who was absolutely drop dead gorgeous. Everywhere she went, she turned heads. On top of that, she had a great bubbly personality, so all the guys loved to talk and interact with her. Yet, all throughout her life, she kept attracting men and relationships that were subpar, damaging, and even toxic! She had a boyfriend…

Apr 30

Why Men Don’t Put More Effort into the Relationship?

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 9 Comments

It’s frustrating when men don’t put much effort into the relationship right? You can complain about it. You can get angry about it. You can call all men lazy or you can inspire him to want to make the effort by what I’m about to share with you. So why DON’T men put more effort into relationships? Why do they have such resistance sometimes when it comes to dating & relationships? Well, let me tell you why.It’s because most men are not only terrible at understanding, feeling and relating to women – they are not intuitively driven to create intimate…

Jan 20

10 Seemingly Harmless Signs of a Toxic Relationship

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 14 Comments

Let me tell you a seemingly harmless, but really toxic story. Imagine two young and healthy people get together, a man and a woman. They are both very physically attractive (above average in looks in fact) and they both have decent jobs. On the surface, everyone, even their peers, think that they have a good marriage and above average lifestyle. They make good money and look good together too. They have everything in front of them. They’re building a car wash business together, and together they have a whole lifetime ahead of them. About their personalities. One of them seems…

Nov 23

10 Ultimate Signs of a Healthy Relationship

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 16 Comments

“You can’t handle the fact that you hurt me!” David said to me as we argued. “What? Um, hellooo. I’m the master of handling stuff”, I thought. “YES, I can handle it!” I said to him. “No, you can’t.” He said. “You cannot handle the fact that you hurt me.” Sigh. “What exactly do you need from me?”, I asked. We were in the car, he was driving us to the grocery store and I said something that had hurt him, but I didn’t think it was a big deal. I tried to brush off what I said. Meh. I…

Oct 26

When He Stops Chasing You & Being Romantic: What To Do?

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 29 Comments

Hi Renee & David, I really need your opinion on this. Everyone else I’ve talked to has more or less asked me to fight fire with fire, and I’m not really that kind of a human. So, my man and I, we’ve been in a relationship for some time now (is almost 3 years long enough?) and he was/is a masculine at his core. So far, however you’ve described a masculine man, he fits that description to a T. I try to understand that he has that drive in him, the ambition to achieve his goals and I understand that…

May 25

The 9 dangers of leaning back and why it's not feminine

The 9 Dangers of “Leaning Back” & Why It’s Not Feminine

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 72 Comments

Article updated 2020 There are many people who strongly believe in leaning back when dating. Since the early days of the internet, when Rori Raye started spreading her idea on leaning back and circular dating, or rotational dating, which means dating several men at the same time, the idea of leaning back has spread. Some people say that you shouldn’t take too many initiating actions with men, and let him chase you, whilst you still must remain warm and receptive. Apparently, this is because it’s the natural role of a man to come forward, to work for you, and take…

Mar 07

polyamory and why it would never work on a long term scale

Polyamory: Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 30 Comments

Article updated 2020 If you haven’t read PART 1 of this post, I suggest you read that first. It will give you the details you need to understand this article. This post was originally inspired by a woman in a pickle with a man who claimed he was polyamorous and then turned monogamous to be with her, and then he slept with someone else. Read it here… If you want more in depth and recent discussion of the burning reasons why polyamory would never work long term, read this article: ‘Polyamory: 10 Reasons Why It Would Never Work Long Term.’ All…

Feb 02

polyamorous relationships, he wants one and what to do

Polyamorous Relationships: He Wants One. What Do I do?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 42 Comments

Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? Article updated 2020 What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life). What if we…

Jan 15

6 Behaviours You Should Never Tolerate In A Man

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 37 Comments

Article updated 2020 Cheating and abuse are the first things people think of when they consider what they should never tolerate in a relationship. This article is not going to be about cheating or abuse. Why? Because firstly, whilst of course abuse should not be tolerated; abuse is actually a wide topic – it goes far beyond just physical abuse. Sometimes, the behaviours that seem the most innocent on the surface can actually be deeply abusive. For example, acting like your partner is not causing you any hurt or anger (not being responsive) when you consciously know you’re withholding yourself…