Feel pride when you are proud without trying to squish it and make it tiny, feel pride deeply, for it is freeing.

Feel pretty, when someone says you’re pretty, deep in to your heart without trying to pretend you’re not basking in the glory, for pretty is a beautiful gift you give to men and women and to the world.

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Feel humiliation, deeply, for it is there to remind you to connect deeper with humans the next time.

Feel desire, deeply, feel craving deeply, for it is reminding you that you actually exist and you actually need other humans.

Feel sexy, feel it deeply, from your throat and heart right down to your uterus, for that is how woman you really are.

Feel worship and awe deeply, for the most present and strong man you’ve ever witnessed, for he is a gift to the world. He is real.

Feel pain, feel sorrow, deeply, and know that, the more courage you have to feel it deeply, the more sensitive you will be to the freedom and ecstasy on the other side.

Resist your feelings, resist the pain with men, or resist humiliation over loneliness, and you pay for it with the exact ever-lingering humiliation and loneliness, not deeply felt, but lingering on the surface, and coming out as defensiveness and closure, pushing everybody away.

You are radiant, and that’s part of who you are. Pretend you aren’t and suffer snorting loneliness; not quite the full craving, not quite the sorrow of real loneliness and emptiness…

The rest of the world might feel you as ‘bitter’.

But, radiant, that’s who you are.

And it’s OK.

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How do you handle a situation in which a man wants you to date dutch? It doesn’t feel right to me. I’m not opposed to paying my own way, but I do that in my own life. It takes the romance out and it’s hard to feel feminine in the situation. It instantly puts me in the friend mindset, when he says that he wants a relationship with me. I don’t want to kiss him after that. Should a woman pay her own way? If not, how is this navigated?

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How about if you say exactly that to him? Say what you just said, ‘it doesn’t feel right to me, and it takes the romance out, as I do this in my own life every day, and I just feel like friends now, is that what you’re looking for’, and see how he reacts? Maybe he’s so used to dating dutch with other women so that’s what he expects? Obviously that method didn’t work for him or he wouldn’t still be single! Unless he really does just want a bunch of female friends to go to dinner with? I could… Read more »

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Meike

Hi Renee! I haven’t been here for ages. But today your articles have really helped me again. I remember they really set me free only a couple of years back and have influenced my outlook on the world ever since. I felt with your help I really discovered who I was at my core. I also have a question for you now – which I know you may or may not have time to answer. Briefly, I am single and in my mid-twenties. I live in London so everything is very expensive. Until last year I was quite happy in… Read more »

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Omg

I wonder if it’s feminine or not to watch a horror movie…

I have a friend whos pretty much not fased by anything and she it doesn’t bother her if she watches scary things. She told me about a horrific film called The Human Centipede and then showed me the trailer.

I feel so upset and mentally scarred for life – probably. This was about 6 hours ago and still upset and disturbed by what my mind wittnesed.

So I wonder…

Horror films, feminine or not. Maybe it’s for dark feminine energy, but I get upset easily over stuff.

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Mona

I don’t understand neither men nor women watching these types of films. I stumbled across that trailer as well, a while ago, and was sickened by it. However, I do like to watch disaster movies. WWIII, pandemics, asteroids, infestations, you name it. I grew up in the 70s and 80s, where the possibility of a global nuclear war was real, and it’s some kind of weird nostalgia to watch these movies. Also our lives these days are very sheltered, death and disasters used to be part of life, but now they are something that’s rarely dealt with, and I on… Read more »

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Omg

I can totally relate!! “we can’t imagine what it must be like”… maybe your (hsp) highly sensitive person, because some things are to unbearable to acknowledge. Truth is, there is a’lot of sadness and brutality in the world that doesn’t bare thinking off. Well I’m lieing in my bed, and still that trailer is running through my mind!! So couldn’t even imagine what the film would be like. It was band in some countries and not surprised in the slightest. It’s shocking. My friend watched the second one and turned it off half way as it was too much. I’ll… Read more »

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Hi Renee,
Your delightful post brought to mind a beautiful poem, about feeling and letting everything happen, that I read some years ago:

This being human is a guesthouse
Every morning a new arrival

A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.

Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out for some new delight…

The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
Meet them at the door laughing
and invite them in.

Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
ML. Jelaluddin Rumi.

Anna C
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Anna C

I love this poem, “I”.

I enjoy Rumi’s work. Thanks for posting.

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Butterfly Wings

Thanks Renee for your brilliant blogs. I have learnt so much on femininity and vulnerability. I have not been in a serious relationship and is praying for a life partner. Recently I felt a change to my feelings. I used to feel uncomfortable or stare at couples bring intimate with each other in public. I refer intimacy such as cuddle, hug, play with his/her hair, touch his hip, or kiss. I also would get jealous when a guy I had been intimate with is showing his intimacy to other girl, in front of me. It is almost a year I… Read more »

Anna C
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Anna C

Butterfly Wings –
Perhaps you no longer feel looking for a man is a priority because you have put a different need in first place in your life. This happens all the time… it’s all about what you value most in that moment. For instance, before, you might have valued love and connection. Now, maybe you value growth as #1. Perhaps you would rather learn about yourself and grow than focus on being connected to a man. Perhaps you finally feel connected to yourself?

Butterfly Wings
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Butterfly Wings

Hi Renee Thanks for your blogs for encouraging the essence of femininity and vulnerable. I have applied some of your messages, and I felt more free now. I have not been in a relationship yet, but I have now meet more men and learn to appreciate men without fear. I have a question about feelings. I used to feel uncomfortable or stare at the unmarried couples being intimate (cuddle, hug, hold hands, kiss) with each other in public (including at home). I also would get jealous when a guy I had been intimate with, was courting other girl. I had… Read more »

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JMW

Thank you, Renee, for your articles. I have been studying them for quite some time and have changed dramatically. I am actually at a stage where I’m trying to learn how to better balance my feminine, as it is very powerful. I have attracted an unlikely love interest, my married-with-children coworker. He introduced me to his wife (she doesn’t know about our mutual crush) and all I could think was that ‘she hadn’t tapped into her feminine.’ He shared that ‘he is very much in love with me.’ I have no desire to poach him from his wife and children,… Read more »

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Growing-heart

Aha Renee :”-D Thankyou so much for getting back to me with your insightful words. I’m so happy and really appreciate your feedback, as I realised in my heart of hearts that I’ve been crying out to help from others for so, so, so long – although I feel that it doesn’t really show as I’ve often felt lonely and that nobody understands me – I know it’s probably all in my head, but the pain genualy cuts deep, and have and intuition is telling me now as I write this “I communicate self sufficiency and disconnect when interacting with… Read more »

Holly
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Holly

I like reading what Renee puts to her guest audience; this makes so much sense, about having a back log of emotions and feeling old patterns.

Sometimes Facebook can be an emotional trigger to what is absent in a persons life I guess- which strikes all different sorts of emotions.

Holly
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Holly

:), this was suppose to be a comment on Renees message to Terra, but must have posted at this point for some reason.

Sad-Heart
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Sad-Heart

Hey Renee Nicely write! What about the women who have never been made to feel loved, approved or supported by life and loved ones? How can they feel radiance if it’s something they’ve felt encouraged to do so? How can some one show up as something they’ve never been taught? Because there is a high possibility that those same women and girls have never been made to feel radiance in their lifes, so furthermore, unconsciously run behavior patterns that keep them in those bad places. Sure, some people can swear to be a better person and that they want to… Read more »

Samantha
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Samantha

Hi Renee

I just want you to know that when I read your work I feel so empowered & free to be myself. I want to hug you right now 🙂 Thank you for pointing me to the goddess within me & all her glory.

Sara
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Sara

Thanks Renee. Perfection.

Feeling has set me free from very heavy burdens. Once I’ve felt something completely, I come out free on the other side.

Thanks

Laura
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Laura

Rene,

I just want to say thank you for always having an on time message.

You always lift me up with your positive message to women.

Being a woman is so hard some days. A girl could loose her head trying to identify with every role she plays.

Again thank you for your powerful messages. You have fortified me and gotten me through some tough days. I appreciate you more than you know for wanting to help others. It must feel good.

A lot of times you were my silent best friend.

Thank you so much!

Laura

Liyaa
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Liyaa

Hi renee I have had a problem really feeling my emotions. For some strange reason I attracted the love of my life at 19. He is very masculine. However I have had weman around me growing up my mum included that have had horrible relashionship and preach the strong inderpendent woman saying constantly. This has affected me emotionally. To the point that I don’t feel any emotion for him when we’re making love I feel nothing. Which is strange because I am sexully attracted to him. I can express myself with everything else but this part of me. I think… Read more »

Terra
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Terra

Hi Renee dear, I want to ask you about feeling pain deeply. For many months I’ve been meaning to have a good cry and confront my feelings about a sub-par love life (namely nothing going on for years + disappointing experiences), and wasn’t able to bring the emotions out. Well today I did – though heavily compounded by the fact that I was PMSing so badly, but the emotions came out alright! So many negative and painful memories triggered feelings that just exploded at once; anger, sadness, loneliness, hurt, betrayal, rejection, worthlessness, regret for years never having anyone, even something… Read more »

Anna C
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Anna C

Hi Terra,

I believe you should stay in your state until you have felt you’ve reached it’s deepest point. If you feel there is still some room to go deeper, that you have uncovered everything you are hiding from yourself, then you will feel relief. When you feel this relief, I think, then it’s time to leave that stage.

best of luck to you.

A

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