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Sep 14

Relationship Timeline: Men VS Women

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 2 Comments

There are huge inherent differences between the relationship timelines of men and women. So as women, we need to know why the timelines are different and what it means for you. Here’s the truth: Men can father children pretty much throughout their whole lives. The world record holder for the oldest man to father a child is a 93 year old Indian farmer. Imagine that! To us women, that concept can be so foreign because we have our womb and our ovaries, and they do have an expiry date for doing the job of bearing children successfully. We are…

Aug 25

If You Never Initiate, You Will Lose the High Value Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 23 Comments

😳 Conversation is getting a wee bit silly over in our Facebook group. I have seen some folks suggesting many times to “never initiate” when dating men. Where do I even start with this? If you’re going to latch on to a principle, that’s fine, but let’s get our definitions straight first, because initiating is clearly getting confused with chasing. Initiate = cause a process or action to begin Chase = pursue in order to catch or catch up with Let’s use our thinking caps – we aren’t mindless women following dogma about what it means to be “feminine” without…

Aug 16

Polyamory: 10 Reasons Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 6 Comments

There are 10 good reasons Why Polyamory would Never Work Long-Term… yes I will probably get some flack from the poly communities, but put your thinking cap on and hear me out as to why polyamory isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. Polyamorous relationships are getting more and more popular each day. Social media and dating apps has changed the way we date and find a partner. It’s caused our culture to value distractions, selfishness and instant gratification rather than real emotional connection. It’s caused us to treat the opposite sex like candy, and as an avenue through which…

Jul 29

How Your Refusal to Grieve Makes You A ‘One of Many’ Type of Woman

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 18 Comments

💔💔 I know many of us have been burned by a man (or men) in the past. However, it’s one thing to grieve, process and appreciate exactly what happened in our past – coming out of that experience more aware, emotionally calibrated to men and better at protecting our investment with men in the future. It’s another to refuse to grieve, process and feel – instead choosing to blame the male gender overall for being sh*t. That approach, though easy, just leads to gutlessness and invulnerability. It also leads to resentment and defensiveness, killing our chances of showing up high…

May 16

Is He Serious About You or Just “Interested”? Critical Distinction.

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 4 Comments

Is he just “interested” or is he serious about you? There is a big difference between when a man is just interested in you, VERSUS when he’s serious about you. To know the difference is absolutely important for you as a woman, and here is why. A man could be interested in you for so many different reasons. Many of those reasons could be for his own gain and if so, a man’s interest is kind of cheap. And because of that, the interest that he may initially show you can often disappear overnight as well. So interest isn’t actually…

Apr 16

10 Telltale Signs He Is A Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 8 Comments

10 Telltale Signs he is a Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male OMG, OK, so listen to this. There I was… on a cold winter night in the dodgy end of town. I wouldn’t come to this part of town even during the day, let alone at night, but anyway. I was there with my husband and two of his guy friends. We were all in our twenties back then, so we were youngish. David had gotten some free tickets to some local kickboxing and MMA fights, and I had never watched fights live before, so I thought I would…

Nov 23

10 Ultimate Signs of a Healthy Relationship

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 13 Comments

“You can’t handle the fact that you hurt me!” David said to me as we argued. “What? Um, hellooo. I’m the master of handling stuff”, I thought. “YES, I can handle it!” I said to him. “No, you can’t.” He said. “You cannot handle the fact that you hurt me.” Sigh. “What exactly do you need from me?”, I asked. We were in the car, he was driving us to the grocery store and I said something that had hurt him, but I didn’t think it was a big deal. I tried to brush off what I said. Meh. I…

Sep 20

the guy shares his jacket to his partner

5 Unconventional Ways To Make Him Love You More

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 19 Comments

Article updated 2018 “Become the kind of person that other people want to love.” This seems like such a weird statement to make. Shouldn’t we just be loved for who we are? Well, here’s the truth: What makes someone love you more is essentially also what fosters a beautiful connection with them. So by putting even just 1 or 2 of these unusual tips to use, you are not only potentially inspiring a man to love you more, you are actually becoming more and more skillful at creating deep connection with men (and secretly, with any human!). And that’s what…

Jul 20

3 Things that Make You a High Value Woman To Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 334 Comments

Article updated 2018 Several years ago, my husband David and I, started teaching people about what it means to be a High Value, High Status Woman. This was way back before a lot of people started using the term ‘high value woman’. Since then, a lot more people have been using the term high value, and they’ve made the term their own, and helped a lot of people, which is fantastic! However, with so many more people teaching about the term, I wanted you guys to have my perspective, to hopefully make the meaning of high value more complete in…

Mar 07

polyamory and why it would never work on a long term scale

Polyamory: Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 28 Comments

Article updated 2018 If you haven’t read PART 1 of this post, I suggest you read that first. It will give you the details you need to understand this article. This post was originally inspired by a woman in a pickle with a man who claimed he was polyamorous and then turned monogamous to be with her, and then he slept with someone else. Read it here… If you want more in depth and recent discussion of the burning reasons why polyamory would never work long term, read this article: ‘Polyamory: 10 Reasons Why It Would Never Work Long Term.’ All…

Feb 02

polyamorous relationships, he wants one and what to do

Polyamorous Relationships: He Wants One. What Do I do?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 40 Comments

Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? Article updated 2018 What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life). What if we…

Jan 15

6 Behaviours You Should Never Tolerate In A Man

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 37 Comments

Article updated 2018 Cheating and abuse are the first things people think of when they consider what they should never tolerate in a relationship. This article is not going to be about cheating or abuse. Why? Because firstly, whilst of course abuse should not be tolerated; abuse is actually a wide topic – it goes far beyond just physical abuse. Sometimes, the behaviours that seem the most innocent on the surface can actually be deeply abusive. For example, acting like your partner is not causing you any hurt or anger (not being responsive) when you consciously know you’re withholding yourself…

Nov 07

12 Secret Reasons Some People Will Always Be Distant From You

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 53 Comments

Article updated 2018 She sat there, all alone, on the curb, crying. She just had it. She had just lost someone dear to her, and now she had nobody – nobody to even call her and ask how she is – and didn’t know what to do about it. A woman of many family members. A few friends. And yet nobody was there for her. She wanted to commit suicide, sometimes. It was all just too hard. She had friends, but they didn’t feel like real friends. Her family wasn’t nice to her, and her last relationship broke up, even…

Sep 22

This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 93 Comments

Article updated 2018 This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away …Because pushing him away is a lot better than feeling him ‘here’ with us and consequently being more vulnerable to his betrayal. Especially if we’ve been truly open and vulnerable to him. …Because we want you to work harder for us. …Because we are scared to trust you. …Because outside of our natural desire for sex during/before ovulation, or the beginning or the end of a menstrual cycle, our desire for sex is lower, and sex takes a lot of energy when we don’t want it. …Because relationships take…

Mar 20

The Secret Cost For Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 3)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 24 Comments

Article updated 2018 Having casual sex encourages women to be afraid to ask for commitment We want a man’s commitment for a reason. Don’t short-change yourself. Because there is so much pressure on women to give up sex easily these days, this is even more reason to resist that push for quick sex from men. Why? Because it’s also a test. Good men also test how easily they can get a woman to have sex with them. Not having sex for validation and approval, and not having sex indiscriminately, or too early, will set you apart from the crowd. Just…