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Mar 07

Polyamory: Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 16 Comments

If you haven’t read PART 1 of this post, I suggest you read that first. It will give you the details you need to understand this article. This post was originally inspired by a woman in a pickle with a man who claimed he was polyamorous and then turned monogamous to be with her, and then he slept with someone else. Read it here… All relationship and marriage setups are valuable Let me get this out of the way: I am not advocating that monogamy is the only way. It definitely isn’t. I respect the value of polygyny (a man…

Feb 02

Polyamorous Relationships: He wants One. What Do I do?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 38 Comments

Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life). What if we need to learn…

Jan 15

6 Behaviours You Should Never Tolerate In A Man

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 13 Comments

Cheating and abuse are the first things people think of when they consider what they should never tolerate in a relationship. This article is not going to be about cheating or abuse. Why? Because firstly, whilst of course abuse should not be tolerated; abuse is actually a wide topic – it goes far beyond just physical abuse. Sometimes, the behaviours that seem the most innocent on the surface can actually be deeply abusive. For example, acting like your partner is not causing you any hurt or anger (not being responsive) when you consciously know you’re withholding yourself (as well as…

Nov 07

12 Secret Reasons Some People Will Always Be Distant From You

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 41 Comments

She sat there, all alone, on the curb, crying. She just had it. She had just lost someone dear to her, and now she had nobody – nobody to even call her and ask how she is – and didn’t know what to do about it. A woman of many family members. A few friends. And yet nobody was there for her. She wanted to commit suicide, sometimes. It was all just too hard. She had friends, but they didn’t feel like real friends. Her family wasn’t nice to her, and her last relationship broke up, even though she loved…

Sep 22

This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 76 Comments

This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away …Because pushing him away is a lot better than feeling him ‘here’ with us and consequently being more vulnerable to his betrayal. Especially if we’ve been truly open and vulnerable to him. …Because we want you to work harder for us. …Because we are scared to trust you. …Because outside of our natural desire for sex during/before ovulation, or the beginning or the end of a menstrual cycle, our desire for sex is lower, and sex takes a lot of energy when we don’t want it. …Because relationships take courage that we…

Mar 20

The Secret Cost For Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 3)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 22 Comments

Having casual sex encourages women to be afraid to ask for commitment We want a man’s commitment for a reason. Don’t short-change yourself. Because there is so much pressure on women to give up sex easily these days, this is even more reason to resist that push for quick sex from men. Why? Because it’s also a test. Good men also test how easily they can get a woman to have sex with them. Not having sex for validation and approval, and not having sex indiscriminately, or too early, will set you apart from the crowd. Just because a…

Feb 28

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 2)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 53 Comments

Some women can be detached from casual sex Some women consider themselves progressive, and claim that sexual liberty is a must for women. Yes, it is. But on an overall percentage, more women than not will experience some suffering after casual sex (if the man isn’t committed). The trouble is that women usually have sex with men that have actual value. Research has shown that when women are looking for short term sex, or casual sex; they get very choosy and usually mate with the better men because there’s no shortage of willing men for just sex. Women usually don’t…

Feb 16

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 1)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 35 Comments

One cold winter morning, Felesha Fox came running alongside her friend, Frances Fox. “Hahaha, look at all these male foxes chasing after me, Frances! There’s about 10 of them!” Frances, looking a little embarrassed and scared, turned around to see 10 male foxes or more, chasing her friend Felesha Fox. “Why don’t you have even one dashing lad chasing you down, like me?” “My dear friend Felesha, you are mistaken, I do have one dashing lad chasing me. He’s at home right now.” “Pffff. Just one fox? Don’t you want lots of them around you? Look at you! You are…

Jan 31

Is Having Low Value Friends Even Worth It?

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 69 Comments

“Hi, could you write an article on how to recognize/meet/make friends with similar minded/good-hearted/positive women? Most of my friends tended to be kinda selfish, lazy, admitted being jealous of me for whatever reason even though I always praised them on the good I saw in them to make them love themselves, but they mostly focused on the negative. In the end, I realized I was drained being in their presence. I always gave and gave my time, understanding and loyalty, and very few times did I get the same care from them. I couldn’t tolerate being friends with people who…

Jul 14

High Powered Career, Trust, and your Relationship with Men

By Renee Wade | All, Finding Love, Relationship Issues

High Powered Career, Trust and Your Relationship with Great Men As a graduated student with a double degree in Law/Arts, I perfectly understand the desire to keep a well-earned career. It’s a woman’s birthright. Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?” But what if you and I just asked each other why? Why do we do the hard work and choose the high powered, kick-ass careers in the first place? Well, the answer, based on our survival instinct – is to just make some damn money to survive. And status. But money….

Apr 26

The Truth: What Men Are Looking for When They Push You for Sex

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 128 Comments

The Truth: What men are looking for when they push you for sex Sex is the thing that women are obligated to do with men if they want to keep a man around. I’m kidding. Sex is the thing we think we have to do with men to keep them around. We feel pressured. Who doesn’t know a woman friend who gave a blow job or had sex with a man to ‘keep him happy’? When a man is in love, he can have zero sex with a woman and still stick around, whilst being emotionally attracted to her and…

Feb 15

19 ways of a High Value, Feminine Girlfriend

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 55 Comments

19 ways of a High Value, feminine girlfriend When I was 10, I liked a guy called Shannon, but Shannon didn’t like me; he liked my friend Tilly who wore skirts. When I asked her why Shannon didn’t like me and liked her, Tilly said I was a boy and Shannon would like me if I wore a skirt. 10 year olds named Tilly are smart. When I was 13 walking down the river bank with my best friend at the time who has since passed away, a couple of boys walked past and said to us ‘nice tits, ugly…

Oct 17

Are men really more attracted to airheads over the strong and successful women?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 75 Comments

Are men really more attracted to the flighty type of women over the strong and successful type? Veronica asks Trevor: “I saw a study the other day that said that men are more attracted to dumb women, and that intelligent women are seen as problematic in a relationship. Do you see this as true?” Trevor: Well, men like to be right, and intelligent women can stop them feeling that way in a relationship. Veronica: groan. **** This conversation reflects exactly the kind of views many people have in the world, based on my experience. Specifically, the view that a woman…

Aug 18

The Rareness of Loyalty and How to Find It

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 21 Comments

It can take courage to feel that somebody in our life is not in fact loyal; they are just one among the people hanging around us. There’s a plethora of people who don’t let themselves feel the devastation and the loneliness that comes with having a sudden and accurate perception that their social network and even their family may not be loyal. Do you want to find out if you’re dating a commitment friendly man? Click here to take the quiz! Many people block these valuable emotions out; and then go and watch reality TV to feel good about their life….

Apr 18

How to go from self-sufficient single to connected couple

How To Go From Self-sufficient Single To A Connected Couple

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 12 Comments

I was sitting on the couch of a good girlfriend of mine. Our toddlers were playing together, and the house, a cozy two-bedroom, smelled of the traditional Chinese food she had just made for dinner. Francisca’s older boy was in his room climbing and jumping on things, as 8-year-olds are known to do. Then her husband came home, and with as much love as a human male could muster, swept his younger son up in a big hug. The little boy looked satisfied and safe in daddy’s arms. Click here to find out if you’re dating a commitment friendly man…