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Apr 16

10 Telltale Signs He Is A Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 4 Comments

10 Telltale Signs he is a Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male OMG, OK, so listen to this. There I was… on a cold winter night in the dodgy end of town. I wouldn’t come to this part of town even during the day, let alone at night, but anyway. I was there with my husband and two of his guy friends. We were all in our twenties back then, so we were youngish. David had gotten some free tickets to some local kickboxing and MMA fights, and I had never watched fights live before, so I thought I would…

Nov 23

10 Ultimate Signs of a Healthy Relationship

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 10 Comments

“You can’t handle the fact that you hurt me!” David said to me as we argued. “What? Um, hellooo. I’m the master of handling stuff”, I thought. “YES, I can handle it!” I said to him. “No, you can’t.” He said. “You cannot handle the fact that you hurt me.” Sigh. “What exactly do you need from me?”, I asked. We were in the car, he was driving us to the grocery store and I said something that had hurt him, but I didn’t think it was a big deal. I tried to brush off what I said. Meh. I…

Sep 20

the guy shares his jacket to his partner

5 Unconventional Ways To Make Him Love You More

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 17 Comments

Article updated 2018 “Become the kind of person that other people want to love.” This seems like such a weird statement to make. Shouldn’t we just be loved for who we are? Well, here’s the truth: What makes someone love you more is essentially also what fosters a beautiful connection with them. So by putting even just 1 or 2 of these unusual tips to use, you are not only potentially inspiring a man to love you more, you are actually becoming more and more skillful at creating deep connection with men (and secretly, with any human!). And that’s what…

Jul 20

3 Things that Make You a High Value Woman To Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 332 Comments

Article updated 2018 Several years ago, my husband David and I, started teaching people about what it means to be a High Value, High Status Woman. This was way back before a lot of people started using the term ‘high value woman’. Since then, a lot more people have been using the term high value, and they’ve made the term their own, and helped a lot of people, which is fantastic! However, with so many more people teaching about the term, I wanted you guys to have my perspective, to hopefully make the meaning of high value more complete in…

Mar 07

polyamory and why it would never work on a long term scale

Polyamory: Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 27 Comments

Article updated 2018 If you haven’t read PART 1 of this post, I suggest you read that first. It will give you the details you need to understand this article. This post was originally inspired by a woman in a pickle with a man who claimed he was polyamorous and then turned monogamous to be with her, and then he slept with someone else. Read it here… All relationship and marriage setups are valuable Let me get this out of the way: I am not advocating that monogamy is the only way. It definitely isn’t. I respect the value of…

Feb 02

polyamorous relationships, he wants one and what to do

Polyamorous Relationships: He Wants One. What Do I do?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 38 Comments

Article updated 2018 Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? Article updated 2018 What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life)….

Jan 15

6 Behaviours You Should Never Tolerate In A Man

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 37 Comments

Article updated 2018 Cheating and abuse are the first things people think of when they consider what they should never tolerate in a relationship. This article is not going to be about cheating or abuse. Why? Because firstly, whilst of course abuse should not be tolerated; abuse is actually a wide topic – it goes far beyond just physical abuse. Sometimes, the behaviours that seem the most innocent on the surface can actually be deeply abusive. For example, acting like your partner is not causing you any hurt or anger (not being responsive) when you consciously know you’re withholding yourself…

Nov 07

12 Secret Reasons Some People Will Always Be Distant From You

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 53 Comments

Article updated 2018 She sat there, all alone, on the curb, crying. She just had it. She had just lost someone dear to her, and now she had nobody – nobody to even call her and ask how she is – and didn’t know what to do about it. A woman of many family members. A few friends. And yet nobody was there for her. She wanted to commit suicide, sometimes. It was all just too hard. She had friends, but they didn’t feel like real friends. Her family wasn’t nice to her, and her last relationship broke up, even…

Sep 22

This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 78 Comments

Article updated 2018 This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away …Because pushing him away is a lot better than feeling him ‘here’ with us and consequently being more vulnerable to his betrayal. Especially if we’ve been truly open and vulnerable to him. …Because we want you to work harder for us. …Because we are scared to trust you. …Because outside of our natural desire for sex during/before ovulation, or the beginning or the end of a menstrual cycle, our desire for sex is lower, and sex takes a lot of energy when we don’t want it. …Because relationships take…

Mar 20

The Secret Cost For Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 3)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 23 Comments

Article updated 2018 Having casual sex encourages women to be afraid to ask for commitment We want a man’s commitment for a reason. Don’t short-change yourself. Because there is so much pressure on women to give up sex easily these days, this is even more reason to resist that push for quick sex from men. Why? Because it’s also a test. Good men also test how easily they can get a woman to have sex with them. Not having sex for validation and approval, and not having sex indiscriminately, or too early, will set you apart from the crowd. Just…

Feb 28

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 2)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 57 Comments

Article updated 2018 Some women can be detached from casual sex Some women consider themselves progressive, and claim that sexual liberty is a must for women. Yes, it is. But on an overall percentage, more women than not will experience some suffering after casual sex (if the man isn’t committed). The trouble is that women usually have sex with men that have actual value. Research has shown that when women are looking for short term sex, or casual sex; they get very choosy and usually mate with the better men because there’s no shortage of willing men for just sex….

Feb 16

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 1)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 38 Comments

Article updated 2018 One cold winter morning, Felesha Fox came running alongside her friend, Frances Fox. “Hahaha, look at all these male foxes chasing after me, Frances! There’s about 10 of them!” Frances, looking a little embarrassed and scared, turned around to see 10 male foxes or more, chasing her friend Felesha Fox. “Why don’t you have even one dashing lad chasing you down, like me?” “My dear friend Felesha, you are mistaken, I do have one dashing lad chasing me. He’s at home right now.” “Pffff. Just one fox? Don’t you want lots of them around you? Look at…

Jan 31

Is Having Low Value Friends Even Worth It?

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 73 Comments

Article updated 2018 “Hi, could you write an article on how to recognize/meet/make friends with similar minded/good-hearted/positive women? Most of my friends tended to be kinda selfish, lazy, admitted being jealous of me for whatever reason even though I always praised them on the good I saw in them to make them love themselves, but they mostly focused on the negative. In the end, I realized I was drained being in their presence. I always gave and gave my time, understanding and loyalty, and very few times did I get the same care from them. I couldn’t tolerate being friends…

Jul 14

High Powered Career, Trust, and Your Relationship with Men

By Renee Wade | All, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 34 Comments

Article updated 2018 As a graduate student with a double degree in Law and Arts, I perfectly understand the desire to keep a well-earned career. It’s a woman’s birthright. But what if you and I just asked each other why? Why do we do the hard work and choose the high powered, kick-ass careers in the first place? Well, the answer, based on our survival instinct – is to just make some damn money to survive. And status. But money. We need money to make a life for ourselves. Money is a good tool to have. But what about when…

Apr 26

The Truth: What Men Are Looking for When They Push You for Sex

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 150 Comments

Article updated 2018 Sex is the thing that women are obligated to do with men if they want to keep a man around. I’m kidding. Sex is the thing we think we have to do with men to keep them around. We feel pressured. Who doesn’t know a woman friend who gave a blow job or had sex with a man to ‘keep him happy’? When a man is in love, he can have zero sex with a woman and still stick around, whilst being emotionally attracted to her and faithful to that one woman. Still, why do women feel…