Finding Love

May 19

How to be Vulnerable Without Being Needy

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 2 Comments

How does one show vulnerability without crossing over into needy territory? I’m not meaning to be flippant, but the short answer to that question is BE vulnerable. Let me share an example with you. Imagine a homeless man. He’s all alone in the street, without food, water, shelter and human companionship. He sleeps on the park bench during freezing winter nights and his mental health is all but ruined. Imagine him feeling the plight of his situation. He sinks into a despair so great that he cannot hold back his emotion. So he starts to really feel his sorrow and…

May 08

3 Reasons why it is High Value For Women To OFFER To Pay On the First Date

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 9 Comments

I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking I’ve lost the plot. Maybe you’re thinking I’m anti-woman or that I don’t want the best for my fellow sisters out there. Nope. How could I suggest something so absurd? Good question! Because I’ve learned through painful experience that if you want to invest in the right people (or the right man) it’s important to think outside the box. Over the years I’ve realised that there is something very intelligent about offering to pay on the first date. No, I’m not suggesting that you become a provider. I am not suggesting that…

Apr 07

Women Who Date for Resources VS Women Who Date for True Love

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 9 Comments

Are you searching for true love, or are you searching for resources? There’s a huge difference between a woman who is searching for true love, versus a woman who is searching for resources. Why? Because there’s an enormous difference in the type of man these two types of women would attract. There’s also a difference in the amount of fulfilment, power and success they would both feel with men and dating. Of course, true love is a resource in and of itself. However, when you’re searching for true love, by default you actually ADD value; you give value and resources,…

Jan 24

8 Shocking Reasons Why Rotational Dating Can Be Low Value

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 16 Comments

Over the last 10 years, rotational dating theory or circular dating has become the stock standard advice given to women. “Date more men!” “Build your man funnel!” “Get more men in your rotation!”, they say. It’s coming up to 10 years I’ve been doing this work with women in all parts of the world, and in that time I’ve also come to notice some patterns. Which means I have noticed that in the world of relationship and dating advice, the advice generally falls into two opposing categories. These two opposing categories come down to: 1: Advice designed to make you…

Dec 20

The No.1 Trait of Dating Profiles that Men Fall in Love With

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Finding Love | No Comments

Let’s talk about the number 1 trait of dating profiles that men fall in love with…It’s certainly not photos of you in skimpy clothing or suggestive poses. (Unless attracting sleazebags is a part of your game plan.) And it’s certainly not a 47 point checklist of what you’re looking for in a man in your bio. In fact, when it comes to dating profiles, most people (men and women) have no clue what to put down. Do I say I love my family? Do I list down my hobbies? Should I mention how I’m not into playing mind games or…

Sep 14

Relationship Timeline: Men VS Women

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 3 Comments

There are huge inherent differences between the relationship timelines of men and women. So as women, we need to know why the timelines are different and what it means for you. Here’s the truth: Men can father children pretty much throughout their whole lives. The world record holder for the oldest man to father a child is a 93 year old Indian farmer. Imagine that! To us women, that concept can be so foreign because we have our womb and our ovaries, and they do have an expiry date for doing the job of bearing children successfully. We are…

Aug 25

If You Never Initiate, You Will Lose the High Value Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 30 Comments

😳 Conversation is getting a wee bit silly over in our Facebook group. I have seen some folks suggesting many times to “never initiate” when dating men.

Aug 16

Polyamory: 10 Reasons Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 9 Comments

There are 10 good reasons Why Polyamory would Never Work Long-Term… yes I will probably get some flack from the poly communities, but put your thinking cap on and hear me out as to why polyamory isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. Polyamorous relationships are getting more and more popular each day. Social media and dating apps has changed the way we date and find a partner. It’s caused our culture to value distractions, selfishness and instant gratification rather than real emotional connection. It’s caused us to treat the opposite sex like candy, and as an avenue through which…

Jul 29

How Your Refusal to Grieve Makes You A ‘One of Many’ Type of Woman

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 19 Comments

💔💔 I know many of us have been burned by a man (or men) in the past. However, it’s one thing to grieve, process and appreciate exactly what happened in our past – coming out of that experience more aware, emotionally calibrated to men and better at protecting our investment with men in the future. It’s another to refuse to grieve, process and feel – instead choosing to blame the male gender overall for being sh*t. That approach, though easy, just leads to gutlessness and invulnerability. It also leads to resentment and defensiveness, killing our chances of showing up high…

May 16

Is He Serious About You or Just “Interested”? Critical Distinction.

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 4 Comments

Is he just “interested” or is he serious about you? There is a big difference between when a man is just interested in you, VERSUS when he’s serious about you. To know the difference is absolutely important for you as a woman, and here is why. A man could be interested in you for so many different reasons. Many of those reasons could be for his own gain and if so, a man’s interest is kind of cheap. And because of that, the interest that he may initially show you can often disappear overnight as well. So interest isn’t actually…

Apr 16

10 Telltale Signs He Is A Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 9 Comments

10 Telltale Signs he is a Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male OMG, OK, so listen to this. There I was… on a cold winter night in the dodgy end of town. I wouldn’t come to this part of town even during the day, let alone at night, but anyway. I was there with my husband and two of his guy friends. We were all in our twenties back then, so we were youngish. David had gotten some free tickets to some local kickboxing and MMA fights, and I had never watched fights live before, so I thought I would…

Nov 23

10 Ultimate Signs of a Healthy Relationship

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 16 Comments

“You can’t handle the fact that you hurt me!” David said to me as we argued. “What? Um, hellooo. I’m the master of handling stuff”, I thought. “YES, I can handle it!” I said to him. “No, you can’t.” He said. “You cannot handle the fact that you hurt me.” Sigh. “What exactly do you need from me?”, I asked. We were in the car, he was driving us to the grocery store and I said something that had hurt him, but I didn’t think it was a big deal. I tried to brush off what I said. Meh. I…

Sep 20

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5 Unconventional Ways To Make Him Love You More

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 20 Comments

Article updated 2020 “Become the kind of person that other people want to love.” This seems like such a weird statement to make. Shouldn’t we just be loved for who we are? Well, here’s the truth: What makes someone love you more is essentially also what fosters a beautiful connection with them. So by putting even just 1 or 2 of these unusual tips to use, you are not only potentially inspiring a man to love you more, you are actually becoming more and more skillful at creating deep connection with men (and secretly, with any human!). And that’s what…

Jul 20

3 Things that Make You a High Value Woman To Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 335 Comments

Article updated 2020 10 years ago, my husband David and I, started teaching people about what it means to be a High Value, High Status Woman. This was way back before a lot of people started using the term ‘high value woman’. Since then, a lot more people have been using the term high value, and they’ve made the term their own, and helped a lot of people, which is fantastic! However, with so many more people teaching about the term, I wanted you guys to have my perspective, to hopefully make the meaning of high value woman more complete…

Mar 07

polyamory and why it would never work on a long term scale

Polyamory: Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 30 Comments

Article updated 2020 If you haven’t read PART 1 of this post, I suggest you read that first. It will give you the details you need to understand this article. This post was originally inspired by a woman in a pickle with a man who claimed he was polyamorous and then turned monogamous to be with her, and then he slept with someone else. Read it here… If you want more in depth and recent discussion of the burning reasons why polyamory would never work long term, read this article: ‘Polyamory: 10 Reasons Why It Would Never Work Long Term.’ All…