6 Burning Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You

It can be a scary moment when you have to wonder if a guy actually wants a relationship with you.

As a woman, how would you know if he doesn’t want a relationship gblue with you?

It seems like a simple question that should have a simple answer. But when you’re emotionally involved with a man, it can get confusing.

You may ask why he doesn’t entirely leave your life, yet it still feels like he’s not fully ‘in’ with you and committed to you. 

If you want the answer to that specific question, I also have an article on Why does he keep me around if he doesn’t want a relationship? 

Are there signs he will never make you his girlfriend? As it turns out, these 6 signs will also give you the definite answer to this question.

After my extensive research in love, relationships and masculine feminine polarity as well as helping women for more than 11 years, I’d have to be stupid to not notice glaring signs that a man doesn’t want a relationship with you.

Without further ado, here are the 6 burning signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.

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Sign Number 1: You Have To Initiate Every Time & He Doesn’t Initiate Back.

Initiation of contact should be reciprocal. 

It’s the most basic thing a man (or woman) can do when conversing with their love interest. The simple act of initiating in return.

Of course, at times you may initiate 60% and he 40%. 

Other times, he may initiate 70% and you 30%, and so on.

The percentage depends on whether one of you has something going on and needs to communicate more.

It really depends on whether one of you has more to say, or simply that one of you needs the other more at that particular moment in time.

That change of percentage is very normal, and you want to keep it that way; roll with it. 

But at some point not long after you guys first become an item, there must be a balance that roughly equates to….you guessed it. Reciprocal, responsive and equal initiation of contact.

Here’s a video I made on the 6 Burning Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With YOU.

Here’s What A Lot Of Women Do When They Have Chased A Man Too Much

When women feel like they have chased too much or over-initiated, they often take on funny rules and ideas to try to regain some feeling of control or self worth.

Some ideas or rules are good, but the vast majority of them are plain bad. Or morally wrong.

Here’s an example of what women sometimes do. They try to ‘fix’ the problem of chasing a man by taking on the ridiculous 80/20 rule in their relationship.

The 80/20 rule or pareto’s principle, was a rule for other areas of life (not in love and relationships). 

But some women mistakenly use it to guide their initiation with men. So what they do is they only initiate contact 20% of the time, while the guy is expected to initiate at least 80% of the time. 

This will not work for you either.

As one man accurately said about this rule:

“The only men that this rule would work on is the men that women don’t want.”

If you feel like you’re doing too much chasing, then of course, it will pay to stop. You never want to chase a man blindly.

Instead, you should learn to initiate in high value ways. You can actually encourage him to chase you (but more importantly, value you). Here’s an article on How to Make Him Chase You & Value You.

Don’t Rely On Silly Rules To Try To “Make” Him Interested

If you decide to pull back and make him initiate, to “re-set”, that can be ok, as a way to relax and initially change your chasing behaviour. 

However, moving forward, there must be a sense of mutual responsiveness between you both.

Sometimes women heavily rely on the rule of leaning back with men, to try to make men chase them.

Leaning back isn’t wrong per se, but just like the 80/20 rule, leaning back has very clear dangers that you should be aware of.

You can never rely on the 80/20 rule of initiating contact with a man to have a successful relationship.

Otherwise, if one is far more invested than the other, it’s a recipe for heartache in the long-run.

No man will genuinely fall in love with you that way, because for two people to fall in love, there must be hyper-attunement.

The 80/20 rule does not model any form of attunement. It’s just a rule to try to curb your own uncertainty or fear.

Here’s why the 80/20 Rules of Contacting A Man will Likely Make You Lose Him.

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Sign Number 2: He’s Got Unspoken Or Blatant Rules To Ensure You Cannot Take Too Much

…or have too much of him. 

This kind of behaviour should send an obvious signal to you: that he doesn’t care about having a relationship with you. Period. 

If he’s setting all these rules for you to ensure that you can’t ask much of him, or get too exclusive with him, that’s a sign to take note of.

If he has a bunch of rules about when, how, why to talk to him or contact him (whilst you have no rules for him), that’s a clear signal that he doesn’t care.

This woman’s post in our facebook group sums up this particular phenomenon very well. Have a read of it: 

Ask yourself: does it feel like I could break up with this man today, and he wouldn’t care a whole lot about me breaking up with him?

Then perhaps take note.

Ask yourself: does this man’s unspoken or blatant rules make me feel like our “relationship” is not a safe place for me to go to when I need him?

Ask yourself: does this man’s unspoken or blatant rules repeatedly make you feel undervalued, isolated and ignored?

Maybe you could simply tap into your gut feeling. Your gut knows when something is up. So, listen to it. (Sometimes it’s even more accurate than looking for signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you!)

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Sign Number 3: You Feel Like There’s Always A Distance Between You.

You try to get closer, but he is unresponsive to your attempts to get closer.

(Perhaps there’s a chance you could be the rebound girl. Here are 15 signs of a rebound relationship).

Do you feel like there’s an emotional distance, or a gap between you that is never closed, no matter how hard you try?

Sure, not all of us women go about trying to get closer to a man in the right ways. In fact, some of us push men away with the wrong strategies.

However, if it always feels like you’re wanting to connect and he couldn’t care less about connecting with you (never responds to your attempts to connect), that’s a bad sign.

He also may be emotionally unavailable. Here are the signs he’s emotionally unavailable and how to deal with emotionally unavailable men.

Some men will keep you around – yet they will always make sure that there’s enough space for a new woman (or perhaps an ex) to enter into his life.

Some men will keep you around, but always make sure that you are feeling empty of his presence. 

A man who has at least an average level of intelligence and cares about you, will FEEL it when you need him.

He may need a little time and experience to understand your needs, but you’ll feel him trying. And he will do his best to respond if indeed he wants a relationship with you.

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A Man Who Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You Will Leave You Feeling Like This…

A man who doesn’t want a relationship with you will leave you feeling angry, hurt and lost from the lack of emotional bonding between you. 

It’s simple. Listen to that anger and that hurt. Don’t ignore it. Zoom out a little, and see the truth of the matter: he doesn’t care, no matter how much he says he does. 

If you are feeling unsure about how much your man cares, here’s something you can do.

Learn the ONE thing you can say (or text) to a man that will capture his attention, trigger his curiosity and make him hang on to every word you say, here.

This ONE thing that you can say, will allow you a final understanding of just how much he is willing to work for you, please you or make you happy. 

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Sign Number 4: He’s Only There When He Wants Something.

You get lots of booty calls from him, but no “just checking in on you” calls.

He never invites you anywhere with his family or friends, because you’re not that kind of girl/woman to him. 

Instead of being the woman whom he wants to involve in almost every aspect of his life, he’d rather keep you at arms length.

….and basically keep you as the “available” woman whom he can take from.

And he will keep extracting value from you for as long as you allow him to. 

So here’s the reason for this. He either just never really felt any real emotional connection and emotional attraction between you…

Or he sees you as an easy woman who he can push around and dominate in order to satisfy his own desires. 

We’ve all had a friend or a guy in our lives who was annoyingly, well, annoying.

They only call when they want something. Yet when you need something, there’s minimal effort on their part to add value back to you.

Feel that annoyance and that anger. Because the last thing you want to do is to be desensitised to these feelings. These feelings are there to help you, to guide you. 

Don’t ignore them! 

If you ignore these feelings, you can (and will) end up emotionally attached to the wrong man.

And it’s imperative to attach to an emotionally healthy man – not to a man whose toxic habits will each away at your esteem and happiness, causing you to become unable to attach to emotionally healthy men in the future.

On the topic of attachment, you may want to find out your primary attachment style:

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(Why is this important? It is because your core attachment style largely dictates and influences what happens in your relationship. Thus it’s imperative you understand your core attachment style!) 

Sign Number 5: He’s Not Invested In Your Emotions

….(and therefore he doesn’t get to know the people you care about).

If you’re wondering whether a man wants a relationship with you, it helps to understand the signs he is falling in love with you.

A man in love will invest in you and your emotions.

There will be no doubt that when you have emotions, he’ll be there a lot of the time.

No matter how difficult or how wonderful your emotions are, he also feels them and is affected by them.

A man who is mostly nonchalant about your emotions isn’t invested in you.

One of the crystal clear signals that a man does want a relationship with you is that he will care about the people that you care about.

This is because he’s invested in you.

When a man is invested in you, he will also invest in the relationships that mean a lot to you. He will want to get to know these people, understand your relationship with them, and potentially even befriend them himself).

So if your mother or father die and you are grieving, then he will feel empathy for you.

Of course, he may not be there physically as much as you wish.

(In fact, this may be because he is a man, and masculine men often grieve by creating more space around them in order to process it. As such, some men make the mistake of projecting this value onto the woman in their life, and automatically disappear when you need them the most).

It may be because he has to be at work, or perhaps he doesn’t know how to solve your problem.

However, even if he’s not physically there with you, you’ll get the feeling that he feels a bit of what you feel.

Sign Number 6: He Tells You He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You.

If he says it, he means it.

Men aren’t women, and women aren’t men. Well, not last time I checked anyways.

In other words, men don’t communicate like women. 

Men actually mean what they say. If he says “I don’t want a relationship with you.”

It doesn’t mean:

“I don’t want a relationship with you, oh I dunno maybe. Perhaps in 2 hours or two weeks I will want a relationship. Actually let me just think about it and I might turn around and say something different in two weeks.”

No.

It means he does NOT want a relationship with you. This is one of the more obvious signs that he won’t make you his girlfriend, and doesn’t want a relationship with you. 

Men And Women Are Different…

As women we have a wide range of emotions. This wide range of emotions comes through in our communication.

As such, more often than not, our communication depends on how we feel during that moment in time.

Sure, sometimes men say things they don’t really mean in a moment of anger or hurt. But not nearly as much as women do. 

This is because men who are masculine at their core are far more consistent.

They’re more consistent due to the fact that in order to maintain this masculine equilibrium, they don’t want to increase drama or emotions, they prefer to decrease them. 

Emotions don’t always serve in the realm of the masculine. The masculine is an unchanging energy. Here are 5 insights on men that will ease your worries.

It is not the ever changing and flowing energy of life.

They want to be empty. Being empty allows them to solve problems, move forward, get the kill, and escape from the chaos of life. 

So expect that if he says he doesn’t want a relationship, that he has made up his mind already and won’t change it.

Don’t second guess it unless you have an outstanding reason to do so!

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Frequently Asked Questions On Signs He Doesn’t Want A Relationship With You

Why Does He Keep Me Around If He Doesn’t Want Me?

Because it benefits him more to have you around than it does to let you go. If you’re not causing trouble AND he can get sex and companionship from you, then why let you go? 

Remember this: for men, having one woman in the background is better than NO woman at all.

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Why Does He Act Like My Boyfriend But Says He Doesn’t Want A Relationship? 

A few possible reasons:

  • Because you tolerate the act (it fills a void), even if you don’t get the label of exclusivity with him.
  • Because guys can gain more respect, approval and attention from others if they have a cute woman by their side. 
  • Because he’s afraid of spending more of his energy and time (which comes with having a relationship).

How Do You Know If He Is Just Using You?

You have to not be taken away by him coming on strong (because men come on strong when they’re serious about AND when they’re just wanting sex) so you have to figure out which one it is.

And to figure it out, you need to test, test, test.

A lot of women get used by men because they’re afraid of acknowledging what they already know to be true in their gut, or because they’re afraid of testing in case it’s “manipulative”.

Let me assure you, it’s only manipulative if you’re doing it to abuse him and disrespect his time, energy and effort.

It’s not manipulative if you’re doing it to see if he’s willing to connect deeper with you. 

Also, you may want to double check whether you might be his rebound girl or not. You don’t want to be the rebound girl! Here are 15 Signs You’re The Rebound (& FAQ).

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How Do You Stop Chasing A Man Who Doesn’t Want You? 

You can to attune yourself to the reality of his indifference and/or dislike for you. You do that by looking at his actions, not his words. And you let his actions make you feel the emotions you need to feel.

When you feel these necessary emotions, then you can calibrate yourself better and walk away. 

What Do You Do When A Guy Doesn’t Want You? 

Let it hurt. Let it make you angry. Let this hurt and anger drive you in a direction that is better for your self esteem. 

Remember: the longer you spend chasing the attention of a guy who isn’t invested in you, the more it breaks you down and ruins your energy and your value for the man who WILL value you.

By the way, if you want the process of having your chosen man want to commit to you be easy, I would love to help.

The way to make the commitment process easy (and to reduce a man’s commitment resistance) is by showing up as the one and only woman.

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