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1) The only difference between a friendship and a relationship is intimacy. If you have a sexless marriage or a sexless relationship, what are you? companions? best friends? If a couple doesn’t have much sex, then this generally means they lack passion, and that they could be more in love. There’s no such thing as losing the feeling of being in love. You just lose the ‘state’ of being in love, and you lose polarity/passion with your spouse.  You can be in love and have passionate sex way in to your old age. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”)

Yes, sex is not the only way to achieve intimacy, but it is one of the main and most important ways to achieve intimacy between a man and a woman. Not making sex a priority can cause your relationship to deteriorate. The passion dies out.

2) Women can go to their girlfriends, a counselor, a guy friend, a mother, father, relative, aunt, to connect and talk to people. Men don’t generally do this.

I’m not saying there aren’t men who DO call their guy friends up for a long chat about their feelings, problems and sex life, but this is not common.

Sex is one of the major and most important ways through which a man gets his needs of connection/love met. Men aren’t just asking for sex because it feels good (although that’s part of it too). (read my article about why men love blowjobs)

If a man loves his woman, he wants to have sex with her because he loves her and wants her to be open to him. This is one of the main ways in which a man expresses his love, and it is one of the major ways in which a woman can show and prove her love for her man (although by no means the ONLY way).

For a lot of men, his woman is the only place he can go to for connection and love. His woman is often the only source he has. Men have many challenges in the world – and it’s important that he has a woman who understands his needs. Of courseunderstanding a man’s needs is not about just giving him sex. Men have many other needs, too. But the issue of sex is one that many women struggle with.

And, the modern western world has been affected by the feminist movement which has given women the idea that they shouldn’t prioritize a man’s needs, and that includes not wanting to meet his sexual needs regularly. However, the man is still expected to meet her needs!

Your man’s needs are just as important as the needs of your children or the needs of your friends! At the end of it all – your man is the one you’re going to be left with. Children will grow up and leave. Friends will have their own lives. A sexless marriage or a sexless relationship can cause a man to become dejected and resentful, as with every rejection the negative association (with his wife or girlfriend) becomes stronger.

3) Let’s talk about masculine and feminine energy, which relates very, very closely to sex. The masculine energy is about releasing. The feminine energy is about filling up. I’ll say that again. The masculine energy wants to release and the feminine energy wants to fill up.Filling up is also very much about the emotional aspect of things.

The feminine energy has many ways to fill up – shopping, having sex, talking to girlfriends, connecting with pets, talking, listening, and much more. The masculine energy has many ways in which they can release, too – but men don’t generally think the way women do.

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4) It feeds a man’s needs for love from his woman. I know a lot of women will want to lash out at me for saying this – but if two people are in a relationship, and the woman denies her man of sex, puts the children/career/girlfriends/other family first, then over time, this starts to build up negative associations within the man in relation to the woman, and makes him feel less like a man, less loved, less accepted – and this can (NOT always!) lead to cheating. (read my article about can a man be monogamous?)

Sex with a woman whom he loves fulfills a very deep need for love and acceptance within a man. If you’re not attracted to him enough in order to want to have sex with him, over time, he may start to feel less of a man – more like you don’t accept him as a man and that you’re not attracted to him. This is a painful thing to feel.

This is also one reason why men cheat. A lot of their emotional needs are met through sex!!

In The Truth about Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It licensed family counselor M. Gary Neuman studied hundreds of men who had cheated on their wives, in order to find out why they did.

His results show clearly that the main reason why men did cheat on their women was for emotional reasons. When asked what led to their cheating, the answers given by the men showed up as follows:

  • 48% – primarily emotional dissatisfaction
  • 32% – equal emotional and sexual dissatisfaction
  • 8% – primarily sexual dissatisfaction

This doesn’t mean women should be pressured in to having sex. Women and men (equally) need to work on creating passion, love and excitement with their spouse so that lack of sex will not be a problem, but rather – lack of free time, space or opportunity for it 😉 – a much healthier problem!!

5) I’ll be as frank as I can.

Never expect to just be loved and adored for who you are without having to put any effort and sweat in to anything. We are all enough – but you can never, ever – expect to have and keep the man of your dreams or to have a passionate lifelong, loving relationship where you’re worshipped and adored by your man for life if you do not give to him. It’s all about the standards you have for yourself.

And, it’s important to remember that women (and men) must give to their spouse in a way that their spouse can receive it! If you just give or express love to them in the way YOU think is best – but the other person doesn’t perceive love in this, then it’s very easy for that relationship to break down.

If you’re always thinking of yourself, and constantly quantifying what you get and give in your relationship (like that terrible, TERRIBLE sayingGive-and-take) you will never have and experience that amazing relationship that everyone dreams of and which everybody wants. (Click here to take the quiz “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”)

(By the way, I want to teach you 5 secrets to having your man fall deeply in love with you and beg you to be his one and only. These 5 secrets are inside of my brand new DVD, and right now it’s FREE. Click HERE to get yourself a copy before they run out!)

That’s all for now. Do you have any thoughts on this subject? Feel free to share them below. And, if you did like the article, let me know. Also, let me know if you hated it too 🙂

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First of all, I am a male, deeply committed to equality of sexes and acknowledge the challenges women have in this world still dominated by men in most countries of this world. At the same time, I feel, as a man in post modern western society, stigmatised when I say aloud that the man’s suffering is being ignored. Today’s men do not know who they are, what their journey is and are asked to ignore their needs in relationships. I am not talking about some macho cliché here but about balance of needs in a heterosexual relationship.

Lils
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Lils

What needs would that be?

Jelly
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Jelly

Where is this article are men given any responsibility to change their culture? It is okay to be vulnerable with friends and people outside of your relationship with your partner. Expecting your partner to be your entire emotional life is unfair on both you and them. Join the feminist movement and advocate for your rights as men to be full emotional sexual beings.

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Unknown

Where to begin . I’m so worried that I would cheat on my girl cuz she is not sleeping with me. I get rejected all the time ( not today, I. Tired….) Im very sexually active person and I would fuck every day . Like for real I would if i ve been given the chance. I can’t have sex once a month or every 3 weeks. I’m going crazy and there is so much attraction out there in the street. I’m scared that I would go blind and be with somebody else just for sex and this will destroy… Read more »

Soyyo
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Soyyo

This is a very bad joke. We are not here to provide sexual satisfaction or make the man happy. This article looks like it was written centuries ago. If your wife does not want sex, respect her. Is her body. And if what she offers to the relationship in other ways is not enough for you. You have the option to stay or leave that relationship, but do not stay and cheat. That it’s certainly not an option. Lies are not solution for anything. They only makes things worse.

Tony S
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Tony S

I agree. If your husband does not want to work his ass off to pay your bills – respect him, it’s his body. And his wallet.

Jan
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Jan

You can’t use that as an argument Tony. The majority of women work their own asses off and pay their own bills – respect her, she don’t need your wallet.

tonysam
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tonysam

A woman’s body is not a thing for a man to use, understand? Sex is not a “need” for men. Men have no right to women’s bodies–ever. A woman who thinks it is her “duty” to “submit” to her husband or boyfriend lest he dies of blue balls is justifying rape and abuse. It is shocking a woman here thinks marital rape or rape in a relationship is okay.

Inquisitve Mention
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Inquisitve Mention

But what if the couple is married and is into BDSM would that still be “wrong”

JohnPta
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JohnPta

Sorry, but than the man and the woman should not be in a relationship. Because they simply don’t complete each others needs and for me, intimacy is one of them.

Bcream
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Bcream

This is a great argument, its her body, can you then tell the women with the same force, its his money, he earned it using his body, he will choose when and how much he wants to share, fair ? Majority women who do not work or rather do not want to work, see how it plays for them. Sex is a need for most men, it is not a want, sex is more of an emotional need than the physical. If you do not want to make efforts to make your significant other emotionally satisfied then you simply do… Read more »

Ingrid Bailey
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Ingrid Bailey

I hated this article, maybe because part of it is true. Mostly because while men must release and women must fill you make no mention of a man doing his part. Women want to be desired not just pounced on when the need arises.

tonysam
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tonysam

It isn’t true. This article justifies male entitlement through some bogus idea men “have” to have sex. Nobody dies from not having it. Women aren’t things for men to use. That is the bottom line. A woman doesn’t owe a man anything, including and especially sex. Too bad, but this is the reality of the world. The author of the post or article is truly appalling. It is the same old Biblical “submissive” crap apparently wrapped in New Age mumbo jumbo or something.

JohnPta
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JohnPta

Ingrid, what you are saying is 100% true. too many men ignore the woman the whole day and when it is bed time she must be ready and willing. THAT IS UNFAIR EXPECTATIONS FROM THE MEN SIDE.
Intimacy starts must be ongoing in a relationship, cuddling, hugging and giving compliments and NOT only when it is bed time and when a woman is not ready for intimacy respect that. BUT when she is not ready and or willing for 90% of the time the two of you should not be together.

Sexually frustrating
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Sexually frustrating

I’m a male. I’m frustrated because I’m always the one that is always starting and finishing. If I don’t start then we aren’t even doing anything. Example rough number. 80 times we have sex in a year. All 78 times I started and 2 times in a year she did. It just feels like we aren’t in a relationship and it’s just friendship. Feels like it’s a one way partnership and like it said I felt like I wasn’t getting enough and totally said everything how I felt and how important it is for a man to be feeling he… Read more »

Ernie Armijo
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Ernie Armijo

Wow, I could have written the very same article. Sorry brother but I know exactly how you feel, you just described my relationship with my wife
Good luck!

Moses
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Moses

Heard! I you’re not the only one. 8yr relationship with my best friend for 15+yrs. Same situation.

Juice Truth
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Juice Truth

SOrry to tell you like this bro But that just means shes fuckin somebody else bro …..

JohnPta
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JohnPta

Or she is with you for the wrong reasons. Like for financial reasons etc. and having indeed somebody on the sideline.

Unknown
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Unknown

At least it’s 80 times a year . I have sex once a month which means 12 times a year lol . Don’t complaint brother. Ur fine

Jan
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Jan

Not sure what you are complaining about. You are getting it 80 times a year!

paola cubimar
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paola cubimar

You must be a very old and conservative person. This is the evidence that on the internet, one can find a lot of bullshit while trying to study psychological topics. This blog is just good to laugh about.

tonysam
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tonysam

Judging from the picture on the blog, she is very young, which is even more appalling how much she has been brainwashed by her upbringing.

Bcream
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Bcream

Same can be said about you, you have been brainwahed and misguided by the ultra feminist about the male sexuality. How about respecting her opinions, even if you disagree with them. I bet she will have a satisfying relationship, because she has understood the deepest emotional need of a man. She will have an array of men who would love her, provide, protect and fight for her. All the while you will deprive your men of their need, remain miserable and loveless, complain about equal pay for unequal productivity and efficiency, less working hours and demand life time entitlement for… Read more »

Kborsi
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Kborsi

@tonysam …first word you used, “Judging”. Maybe you should stop judging based on observations of your own brainwashed perception of life. Sure, you have a personal perspective but it’s a finite perspective of infinite. The point of a relationship (from my personal perspective) is to have a mutually beneficial partnership and to fill each others needs that we cannot fill ourselves due to the impossibility of. To wrap up, it is lack of empathy to not care about your partners need. It’s selfish, narcissistic, and I feel sorry for your partner…or your future partner. Men likely found this article to… Read more »

Parson James
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Parson James

Marriage is a dead horse. Fewer men are interested in getting on it, mercifully.

tonysam
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tonysam

Actually fewer women are because there is nothing in it for them. Men are all upset because women really don’t need them anymore other than for sperm. Too bad, so sad, but that is the way it is.

Bcream
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Bcream

You really sound very bitter towards men, I too have had very negative experience from the women I have been with. However I will not bailout on all women, love intimacy is so wonderful. I am optimistic, even after 3 failed relationships, I am hoping to meet an awesome woman with I can have a mutually satisfying relationship, if not I will keep looking till the end.

Mgtow and feminnism both are not the solutions, they further divide us men snd women and bad for the society.

Neo
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Neo

You don’t get out much, do you tonysam? There are far more articles about women complaining that men won’t date them, that men refuse to marry them if they do date, and don’t keep them happy enough not to divorce a man who does marry them, than there are men like you. Time to learn how things really are.

Danny
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Danny

Been married for almost 40 years n I can count on two hands how many times she has been intimate with me, I haven’t cheated I’ve been a good man I’ve been told by women that I’m handsome I don’t understand what is going on, I stay in shape for her hoping she would look at me but it never happened, now I’m 57 n very LONELY, I just want a friend at this point to enjoy intimacy with her, my wife doesn’t even want me to sleep n same bed with her, please I don’t know what to do,… Read more »

Kheda
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Kheda

So sorry for you. Talk to her. Seriously. Be very clear with her. If nothing changes, I say leave.

Heaven Myers
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Heaven Myers

My husband and I are the same way; only he’s the one that refuses. I’m not one to think of myself……………I’m not in love anymore

Ernie
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Ernie

I feel. for you, have had the same experience with my wife and I am your age so know the feeling

Moses
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Moses

Why do we do this to ourselves?!

Dave
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Dave

Sounds like mine, and exactly how I feel. I need that too and I’m 68. Balding older man, I won’t have to worry about attracting trouble………..life kind of stinks at this point………….way beyond depressed!!!

Anonymous
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Anonymous

hey Danny, I was in love with a married man I met at work (he’s married 10 yrs). I loved him very much. He told me the same thing you’re saying here (stayed in shape for wife & still she maybe had sex w/ him 3 or 4x / yr). He’s 42 & gorgeous! (to me). This guy flirted w/ me, stared at me when passing by my cube, just happened to touch me on my arm, hand (innocently). Then one day when I touched him (innocently) – he grabbed & hugged me, & there began us talking more, &… Read more »

Johnny
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Johnny

Pretty powerful article. This made alot of sense and i myself took a lesson from this, but i feel like men get overlooked in the sex department, which this is right cause this is how i feel connectivity with my partner. Got blue balled the othet night an she says i just dont have a drive for it anymore. Im like really!!!! So what am i suppose to do, im not gonna be in a sexless relationship. Not only do i feel connected during an after, but it releases tons of stress an pressure from so many parts of my… Read more »

tonysam
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tonysam

“Blue balled.” What a laugh. Use your hand, idiot, and not a woman’s body. Obviously the woman is repulsed by you and your entitled attitude. A woman doesn’t owe you sex. This blog post or article is disgusting justifying women being raped in a relationship or marriage because she “owes” a man sex.

Alicia
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Alicia

Stop being a male hating feminazi. All your posts are filled with the same male hating BS and completely takes the context of this article and turns it into something else to justify your male bashing. just STFU

JohnPta
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JohnPta

Listen tonysam, it looks to me you are a block of ice. All your reactions and comments are deprived of knowledge.
For me a men needs intimacy and kissing and hugging is part of that so masturbating is not the solution.
It helps you for 1 hour but after that you are longing for a hug or a intimate kiss.

john
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john

I have to agree with tonysam, I’ve been married 52 years and I took charge of sex in our marriage with my hand because wife set limitations on how she wanted sex.There was no way I was going to follow those limits, I don’t owe her sex so my hand worked fine till it got wore out and I got erectile dysfunction. She wasn’t worth the effort! Still married but I don’t deal with her or any other woman, I do and go where ever I want and don’t have to drag extra baggage around.

Meredith
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Meredith

Regarding “So what am i suppose to do, im not gonna be in a sexless relationship,” I find it very sad, pitiful really that thinking about yourself and feeling justified at being outraged is your first response to your woman declining to have sex with you. Where is your priority to love, honor and cherish HER? Where is your deep interest and concern to learn HER feelings, to understand *why* (in detail) she feels her sex drive has disappeared? Where is your care, your compassion? But no, apparently your first instinct is to blame her. Well, here’s a shocker: she’s… Read more »

Bcream
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Bcream

Meredith – All you said can be reversed exactly there are ton of women who fail to understand men, even after providing them, listening to them, being friend with them cherishing like you said, there are women who will be just about themselves. It takes two to tango, if you cannot feel each other even after explaining then that relationship is unhealthy. This is not just a man vs woman issue. But I would say as much men ignore women’s need there are equal women who do the exact same.

Lennie newman
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Lennie newman

I just read To my wife I thought it was funny that as I’m reading it to her she’s playing a game on her cell phone she says she can do both at the same time thought when I’m trying to work on our marriage that has been deteriorating for a long time without sex when she understands that I’m ready to leave permanently a divorce she gives me sex No I don’t woman not a dildo Lost her to technology ???

idiotsabound
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idiotsabound

My mother is lost the same way, man. I knew it as soon as my idiot brother bought her a tablet. Feeds herself Left-wing propaganda on her tablet, denies it. The thing is, if she used the same device to teach herself how her own brain works, then she’d learn that the subconscious can be programmed, and this propaganda cannot be read by people like her (little self-awareness) without it working on their subconscious mind. Even aware, mindful people are at risk! Try to educate and help your fellow human, including your own family and watch the technology take over,… Read more »

Johnny Whalen
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Johnny Whalen

Technology is beating us out the game. Abolish dildos..

Moses
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Moses

I’m reading this sitting next to my fiancee who is staring at her phone. As usual.

PETER C
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PETER C

HEY, im here to share my story and ask for help to understand this situation better and maybe get some sort of advice as i feel like that everything i do or say makes her hate me. shes pregnant for 5 months now. as a man i feel a great need for sex and she doesnt feel any at all. i read about it alot and there are many woman that has no sex drive so you can guess this year was a disaster for me as a men. i find her very attractive but every time we touch this… Read more »

f--ktheworld
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f--ktheworld

and she will rape you of your money in child support. Welcome to the trap of the narcissist female. Who cares if she doesn’t feel she looks good. She should FEEL good and not be a mentally-ill fool who relies upon looks and looks alone for that! At least someone wanted to make her pregnant. Also WTF is with her smoking when pregnant, man?! Or is it when YOU go for a smoke? So you’re going to pay for her broken baby who is damaged from her smoking? Autistic, maybe? Speaking from experience with my family, Autistic readers – don’t… Read more »

Angela
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Angela

Hey, this is coming from a woman who spent the first twelve years of marriage with almost zero sex drive, here’s a few suggestions: A.) Your woman may honestly not understand how important sex is to you. Even when guys explain it, it’s very very hard for a woman who doesn’t need it all and who lives in a world where sex is a sooo often abused and used in selfish ways that hurt the woman, to understand that it’s a beautiful, connection-creating, selfless thing for you. Trust me, it was REALLY hard to wrap my head around. To me,… Read more »

Stacey
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Stacey

Hey there, please listen well. I would consider myself a high libido woman. At least once every 1-2 days. If I could, almost everyday. Then, along cake pregnancy. I vomited almost ever 30 minutes. Harder to breath, heavy stomach, nausea, and I looked so UGLY! I vomited so much and felt so horrible that I could have gone days without washing up. (Disgusting, I know). Due to pregnancy, The hormones in my body was so f**king crazy too. I felt surges of depression and anger most of the time. My husband worked full time, plus a pet time job. Logically… Read more »

Meredith
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Meredith

“i don’t know how to make any connection with her.” Well, learn! Read “The 5 love languages”. Realize that you are supposed to be actively caring for a five months pregnant woman, not the other way around. Communicate with her, ask her for the top three things you could do or stop doing for her to be more satisfied, how you could be a better husband (or partner), and do them eagerly, without thought of any possible ‘payoff’ to you. Instead of concentrating on a desire for intercourse, first spend time massaging her feet, back and other places that hurt… Read more »

Stephanie
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Stephanie

I don’t actually understand why women do that. I mean I am a woman, but I also want to have sex, and yeah, we “discharge energy” by friend and sh*t, but is not like talking to your friend and Be with your pet would make don’t want to have sex.

Frank
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Frank

What are you doing Wednesday;-)

Male - Fuwo
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Male - Fuwo

One thing that is often very poorly described in written form is the nature and importance of a man’s sexual instinct (sex drive). It is often described as being “not the most important thing in a marriage”. I even seem to recall reading someone on this forum somewhere describing this way. However, describing it thus is really over simplistic to the point of being unrealistic. Although risky and difficult, I would like to try and describe in words what it is like to a married man to be deprived of sex. By this I mean having to get into bed… Read more »

Marcus
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Marcus

Well said. I am in a marriage that had a strong sexual component for ~18 years, but which has tapered off to a slow drip, and I’m off to see a lawyer.

Meredith
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Meredith

I understand this. Please also understand that the vast majority of women need to feel an authentic emotional connection *before* they have a desire to engage in sexual activity. I realize this isn’t true for men, who largely seem to feel connection as a result of feeling accepted through of sex. But both are important, not just one side. I’ve read men desire to feel accepted and appreciated, while women want to feel cherished and adored. If your woman doesn’t desire sex, ask her if she feels cherished and adored; if not, ask her how specifically you could modify your… Read more »

Thomas Winston
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Thomas Winston

I agree with you 100 percent!

kristinhazcats
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kristinhazcats

Men are too needy

Marcus
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Marcus

That’s like water telling sand it’s too wet.

WhyAreMaleGenitalsSeenAsInherentlyBadDickCockPrick
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WhyAreMaleGenitalsSeenAsInherentlyBadDickCockPrick

It’s like the water that was too lazy to put out the fire telling the sand it’s too wet as well as ignoring the fact that its egotism and self-delusion continues to let the fire burn everyone’s place down!

WhyAreMaleGenitalsSeenAsInherentlyBadDickCockPrick
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WhyAreMaleGenitalsSeenAsInherentlyBadDickCockPrick

I was accused of this by someone who 1) Expected me to leave her the keys to my flat when I’d known her TWO DAYS and met her on the internet. 2) Had fake boobs, when she’d have been hot even without them -albeit unable to feed babies thus less hot than one who could, evolutionary biology fans. 3) Had grown up with a mother who used men like tools, not empathy – I assume. 4) No father growing up. Women are too deluded and selfish. They know the world revolves around the womb-owners. The least they could do is… Read more »

Meredith
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Meredith

It’s not constructive to paint all women with the wide brush of “deluded and selfish” based on one interaction with a woman who was clearly emotionally challenged. (It sounds like borderline personality disorder traits were being displayed, but I’m not a psych.) It would be far more constructive to instead concentrate on choosing potential partners more slowly and more wisely. Ask questions, meet their friends and family, even become friends (I know, the horror! lol) before having sex. Regarding “treat these animal-level b1tches with the contempt they deserve, and the remaining good women like queens.” I appreciate that you do… Read more »

Moses
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Moses

Seriously? A blowjob and a sammich is too much to ask for working 50+hours to support a self entitled narcissist?!

Alexine Sarmiento
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Alexine Sarmiento

Why men always like that, they have no problem about childbearing and they don’t care about woman is pregnant. THAT IS GUYS FAULT!!! (it depends)

https://www.thefemininewoman.com/5-reasons-why-wom
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https://www.thefemininewoman.com/5-reasons-why-wom

Blaming men for their sexual nature is equivalent to men hitting women because women refuse to self-control. Men’s behaviour is hard-coded from two MILLION years of hominid evolution p[lus TWO BILLION years of general sexual reproduction on this planet, evolving into us. Who the HELL are you to expect a man to make all the effort to hold back that tide of instinct? Whilst I guarantee you don’t apply the same high standards of ‘civilised’ behaviour to yourself and your female friends and family. One-way sexism against men, yet again. It exists. There’s a logical argument to respect BOTH behaviours… Read more »

Moses
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Moses

Bump!

Meredith
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Meredith

Regarding “Blaming men for their sexual nature is equivalent to men hitting women because women refuse to self-control.” Just … ugh!

I know many men who display little to no ability to self-regulate their emotional responses, many women with very strong sex drives, and many women (married and single) who don’t want children.

Each human is a complex individual. Reducing them – male or female – into caricatures with crude stereotypes serves no constructive purpose.

Michael
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Michael

Prior to my marriage, our relationship and the spontaneous sex was incredible. We got married and things went South from there. I was at the age of 54, and no dummy. Something was up! Ultimately, I was a paycheck and she decided It was time to move on and I wasn’t good enough! Four years of weird hell. Counseling was a joke! Oh, I didn’t mention that this was her third marriage. Or, was it her fourth? She was greedy and not trustworthy. For Gods, sake, I thought I was doing the right thing. Now I’m 58, and lonely as… Read more »

WhyAreMaleGenitalsSeenAsInherentlyBadDickCockPrick
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WhyAreMaleGenitalsSeenAsInherentlyBadDickCockPrick

Men can still bring the goods, if healthy, at age 58. All women at that age are menopausal, pretty much. They no longer have the goods (tough fact of life). Don’t be played. This is why prostitution should be legal, because it’s NOT inherently-abuse between consenting adults who are well-compensated for easy work and who are also not being scammed from the customer’s perspective. Counselling is a joke for men, because society doesn’t give a sh1t about men. Men are disposable. The collective LYING about this is pathetic. But it is the truth.

Luna Camarthan
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Luna Camarthan

A few years ago I was with a man and someone I was very close to died. That evening I was in tears and my boyfriend started getting sexy with me. I was so angry! How could he possibly think I wanted sex at a time like that! A couple of years later his father died and I couldnt understand how he still wanted sex that night. We had a huge row (no, Im not proud of it) and in the heat of that row he said “would it kill you to at least try to make me feel better?!… Read more »

Moses
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Moses

Bloody hell! Good job, and thank you. Please spread the word. 98% of my day is truly miserable just so I can provide and put a smile on my lasse’s face. I’m often exhausted and in pain by the end of the day. Nothin a good bit of fuckin’ couldn’t cure. However we’re both staring at our phones at the moment.

Meredith
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Meredith

Moses, if 98% of your day is miserable, then please change something for the good of not just you, but everyone who knows you. Regarding “a good bit of fuckin'”, please recognize that women in a committed relationship view physical intimacy as as a mutual demonstration of devotion, care, nurturing and communion with their significant other, not as “fuckin'”, which minimizes the importance and meaning. I’ve noticed many men speak of sex in even a long term relationship as if it were separate from the rest of the relationship and not a reflection OF it, as if it were as… Read more »

Meredith
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Meredith

Luna, I agree with this and do this also from not only understanding, but from generosity of spirit. It’s also true that often when initially not in the mood, women warm up as physical affection proceeds to sex. However, I feel it’s not sufficient to continually put a man’s desire for physical intimacy before a woman’s desire to feel the connection of emotional intimacy before desiring sex. It’s just as important that men understand that, and that he actively work to improve his communication and other relationship skills to meet his woman’s needs before expecting his woman to desire (NOT… Read more »

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