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Jul 20

3 Things that Make You a High Value Woman To Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 307 Comments

Several years ago, my husband David and I, started teaching people about what it means to be a High Value, High Status Woman. This was way back before a lot of people started using the term ‘high value woman’. Since then, a lot more people have been using the term high value, and they’ve made the term their own, and helped a lot of people, which is fantastic! However, with so many more people teaching about the term, I wanted you guys to have my perspective, to hopefully make the meaning of high value more complete in your mind. I…

May 25

The 9 Dangers of “Leaning Back” & Why It’s Not Feminine

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 49 Comments

There are many people who strongly believe in leaning back when dating. Since the early days of the internet, when Rori Raye started spreading her idea on leaning back and circular dating, or rotational dating, which means dating several men at the same time, the idea of leaning back has spread. Some people say that you shouldn’t take too many initiating actions with men, and let him chase you, whilst you still must remain warm and receptive. Apparently, this is because it’s the natural role of a man to come forward, to work for you, and take care of you…

Feb 02

Polyamorous Relationships: He wants One. What Do I do?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 38 Comments

Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life). What if we need to learn…

Sep 15

If He Loves You More Than You Love Him, Is It Worth a Chance?

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 31 Comments

If He Loves You More Than You Love Him, Is It Worth A Chance? Hi Renee, I have been following your blog and it has changed my life significantly. Thank you. I recently met a guy who I believe truly loves me, the problem is, He has a lot of habits I used to have but worked really hard on myself to quit.（ex. talking too much) If I am being honest, am not sure I love this man but I realized I have been too picky with men. This guy calls me, checks up and tells me he loves me…

Jun 16

4 Top Secret Ways to Access Your High Value Vulnerability

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment | 17 Comments

‘’You don’t bleed. That’s why you can’t keep a guy.’’ Erol said to his long time friend, Jacinta, whilst twisting his foot into the ground to kill his cigarette butt. They’ve been friends forever and always love to chat about their relationships… “I…what? I don’t bleed?” “Yeah, you don’t bleed. You need to bleed in order for him to have feelings for you. I’m exaggerating, but I’m kind of not, too.” “What the hell are you talking about?” Erol chuckled. “Look, I don’t actually mean bleed, that is a metaphor to say, hey, you should make it obvious how you…

Mar 20

The Secret Cost For Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 3)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 22 Comments

Having casual sex encourages women to be afraid to ask for commitment We want a man’s commitment for a reason. Don’t short-change yourself. Because there is so much pressure on women to give up sex easily these days, this is even more reason to resist that push for quick sex from men. Why? Because it’s also a test. Good men also test how easily they can get a woman to have sex with them. Not having sex for validation and approval, and not having sex indiscriminately, or too early, will set you apart from the crowd. Just because a…

Feb 28

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 2)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 53 Comments

Some women can be detached from casual sex Some women consider themselves progressive, and claim that sexual liberty is a must for women. Yes, it is. But on an overall percentage, more women than not will experience some suffering after casual sex (if the man isn’t committed). The trouble is that women usually have sex with men that have actual value. Research has shown that when women are looking for short term sex, or casual sex; they get very choosy and usually mate with the better men because there’s no shortage of willing men for just sex. Women usually don’t…

Feb 16

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 1)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 35 Comments

One cold winter morning, Felesha Fox came running alongside her friend, Frances Fox. “Hahaha, look at all these male foxes chasing after me, Frances! There’s about 10 of them!” Frances, looking a little embarrassed and scared, turned around to see 10 male foxes or more, chasing her friend Felesha Fox. “Why don’t you have even one dashing lad chasing you down, like me?” “My dear friend Felesha, you are mistaken, I do have one dashing lad chasing me. He’s at home right now.” “Pffff. Just one fox? Don’t you want lots of them around you? Look at you! You are…

Jan 04

How the Fear of Abandonment Can Make You More Beautiful…

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence | 49 Comments

Can fear of abandonment make you more beautiful? They say that the opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference. And I don’t know about you, but I don’t hate humans often. I hate certain ideas and I hate mediocrity (which means I hate myself sometimes). On the occasion that I do feel hate, it’s towards people that I care about and it’s because they are not open (they are not love). They are in denial about truth. In other words, they’re indifferent to relationship and life. They just don’t care. They choose to be thick and impenetrable. They choose fear…

Feb 15

19 ways of a High Value, Feminine Girlfriend

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 56 Comments

19 ways of a High Value, feminine girlfriend When I was 10, I liked a guy called Shannon, but Shannon didn’t like me; he liked my friend Tilly who wore skirts. When I asked her why Shannon didn’t like me and liked her, Tilly said I was a boy and Shannon would like me if I wore a skirt. 10 year olds named Tilly are smart. When I was 13 walking down the river bank with my best friend at the time who has since passed away, a couple of boys walked past and said to us ‘nice tits, ugly…

Oct 17

Are men really more attracted to airheads over the strong and successful women?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 75 Comments

Are men really more attracted to the flighty type of women over the strong and successful type? Veronica asks Trevor: “I saw a study the other day that said that men are more attracted to dumb women, and that intelligent women are seen as problematic in a relationship. Do you see this as true?” Trevor: Well, men like to be right, and intelligent women can stop them feeling that way in a relationship. Veronica: groan. **** This conversation reflects exactly the kind of views many people have in the world, based on my experience. Specifically, the view that a woman…

Jun 20

How to Be Radiant Beyond Your Wildest Dreams and Have Any Man You Want

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence | 40 Comments

Until a woman is 25 or 35, radiance is mostly given to her on a platter — young skin, healthy hair, flexible body, white teeth and a fresh face. That’s the physical stuff youth naturally endows us with. Very quickly though, we begin to lose this effortless bounty, and the world begins to seem as if it is populated by millions of glowing 18-year-olds. Click here to take the quiz on “How Feminine Am I Actually?” If you’re anything like me, you’ve felt panic somewhere along the line about losing your youth. It’s actually a good thing, a heads-up, a…

Mar 11

Why It’s OK (And Even Attractive) For Women To Cry Any Damn Time

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence | 63 Comments

Isn’t life better and easier when you don’t cry? Aren’t you stronger and cooler than the damsels in distress who cry to get their way? Isn’t it better to have things handled? People will like you more if you’re a non-crying cool girl, right? Click here to take the quiz on “How Feminine am I Actually?” Bullshit. On the surface, people will like you more because you’re agreeable and don’t reflect their own difficult emotions back to them. But if you keep things superficial all the time, who can really be there for you when you are down? There’s nothing…

Jan 28

The Real Pain of When Men Pull Away & How To React in A High Value Way

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 142 Comments

So truthfully, why does he pull away? Sometimes when a man pulls away, it’s because there was no actual emotional attraction in the first place. When there isn’t enough attraction and connection in a dating situation, things will fizzle out – no matter how much we want to hold on. In these situations, when a man pulls away, it means that we should let it go. Usually, when the relationship was based on sex and perhaps, just convenience in the beginning – it’s a good sign that he’s pulling away forever. But very often, men pulling away isn’t a bad thing….

Dec 27

Why Men can Lose Trust in Women who have unattached sex

Think casual sex is harmless? Think again.

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 203 Comments

What do you suppose men sacrifice when they sleep around a lot? A committed relationship? Maybe. Click here to find out if you’re Dating a Commitment Friendly Man A good reputation? Yes, men can jeopardise their future potential to have a high value mate through perpetual promiscuity (See the book social Psychology and Human Sexuality, 2001). But more importantly – what, on a reproductive/biological level, do men sacrifice? Quality. They sacrifice quality. And that’s quality of the women. Many men who sleep around don’t mind this; all they are looking for is novelty in experience anyway. Almost any willing woman…