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Aug 25

If You Never Initiate, You Will Lose the High Value Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 21 Comments

😳 Conversation is getting a wee bit silly over in our Facebook group. I have seen some folks suggesting many times to “never initiate” when dating men. Where do I even start with this? If you’re going to latch on to a principle, that’s fine, but let’s get our definitions straight first, because initiating is clearly getting confused with chasing. Initiate = cause a process or action to begin Chase = pursue in order to catch or catch up with Let’s use our thinking caps – we aren’t mindless women following dogma about what it means to be “feminine” without…

Jul 29

How Your Refusal to Grieve Makes You A ‘One of Many’ Type of Woman

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 18 Comments

💔💔 I know many of us have been burned by a man (or men) in the past. However, it’s one thing to grieve, process and appreciate exactly what happened in our past – coming out of that experience more aware, emotionally calibrated to men and better at protecting our investment with men in the future. It’s another to refuse to grieve, process and feel – instead choosing to blame the male gender overall for being sh*t. That approach, though easy, just leads to gutlessness and invulnerability. It also leads to resentment and defensiveness, killing our chances of showing up high…

Jun 30

4 Steps to Stay High Value when He Doesn’t Text or Call

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence | 6 Comments

There’s nothing worse than feeling emotionally invested in a man, and in the outcome of your relationship, only to find that he doesn’t text or call you back. The anger, the disbelief and the pain you can feel when you’re in this situation is horrible. Let me first assure you that you are not alone. You are not the only one experiencing this. So, what can you do if the guy you want isn’t calling or texting back? What can you do to help yourself in such a difficult and sometimes painful situation? First of all, you need to know…

Apr 16

10 Telltale Signs He Is A Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 8 Comments

10 Telltale Signs he is a Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male OMG, OK, so listen to this. There I was… on a cold winter night in the dodgy end of town. I wouldn’t come to this part of town even during the day, let alone at night, but anyway. I was there with my husband and two of his guy friends. We were all in our twenties back then, so we were youngish. David had gotten some free tickets to some local kickboxing and MMA fights, and I had never watched fights live before, so I thought I would…

Dec 27

3 Undercover Ways to be More High Value Over Other Women & Get Him to Choose You

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence | 21 Comments

I know right? That title is soooo preposterous! Well, if it’s preposterous then so be it. There’s nothing wrong with secretly wanting to compete with other women. In fact, intra-sexual competition is alive and well. In other words, women are always competing with other women, and the same goes with men. The only difference is, us women mostly compete in much more covert and behind your back kind of ways than men do. And there’s no shame in recognising that. To compete doesn’t mean you’re not a feminine woman. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. In fact, the more…

Jul 20

3 Things that Make You a High Value Woman To Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 334 Comments

Article updated 2018 Several years ago, my husband David and I, started teaching people about what it means to be a High Value, High Status Woman. This was way back before a lot of people started using the term ‘high value woman’. Since then, a lot more people have been using the term high value, and they’ve made the term their own, and helped a lot of people, which is fantastic! However, with so many more people teaching about the term, I wanted you guys to have my perspective, to hopefully make the meaning of high value more complete in…

May 25

The 9 dangers of leaning back and why it's not feminine

The 9 Dangers of “Leaning Back” & Why It’s Not Feminine

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 68 Comments

Article updated 2018 There are many people who strongly believe in leaning back when dating. Since the early days of the internet, when Rori Raye started spreading her idea on leaning back and circular dating, or rotational dating, which means dating several men at the same time, the idea of leaning back has spread. Some people say that you shouldn’t take too many initiating actions with men, and let him chase you, whilst you still must remain warm and receptive. Apparently, this is because it’s the natural role of a man to come forward, to work for you, and take…

Feb 02

polyamorous relationships, he wants one and what to do

Polyamorous Relationships: He Wants One. What Do I do?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 40 Comments

Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? Article updated 2018 What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life). What if we…

Sep 15

If He Loves You More Than You Love Him, Is It Worth a Chance?

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 31 Comments

Article updated 2018 Hi Renee, I have been following your blog and it has changed my life significantly. Thank you. I recently met a guy who I believe truly loves me, the problem is, He has a lot of habits I used to have but worked really hard on myself to quit.（ex. talking too much) If I am being honest, am not sure I love this man but I realized I have been too picky with men. This guy calls me, checks up and tells me he loves me often (too often even). Should I give him a chance? Hi…

Jun 16

4 Top Secret Ways to Access Your High Value Vulnerability

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment | 23 Comments

Article updated 2018 ‘’You don’t bleed. That’s why you can’t keep a guy.’’ Erol said to his long time friend, Jacinta, whilst twisting his foot into the ground to kill his cigarette butt. They’ve been friends forever and always love to chat about their relationships… “I…what? I don’t bleed?” “Yeah, you don’t bleed. You need to bleed in order for him to have feelings for you. I’m exaggerating, but I’m kind of not, too.” “What the hell are you talking about?” Erol chuckled. “Look, I don’t actually mean bleed, that is a metaphor to say, hey, you should make it…

Mar 20

The Secret Cost For Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 3)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 24 Comments

Article updated 2018 Having casual sex encourages women to be afraid to ask for commitment We want a man’s commitment for a reason. Don’t short-change yourself. Because there is so much pressure on women to give up sex easily these days, this is even more reason to resist that push for quick sex from men. Why? Because it’s also a test. Good men also test how easily they can get a woman to have sex with them. Not having sex for validation and approval, and not having sex indiscriminately, or too early, will set you apart from the crowd. Just…

Feb 28

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 2)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 57 Comments

Article updated 2018 Some women can be detached from casual sex Some women consider themselves progressive, and claim that sexual liberty is a must for women. Yes, it is. But on an overall percentage, more women than not will experience some suffering after casual sex (if the man isn’t committed). The trouble is that women usually have sex with men that have actual value. Research has shown that when women are looking for short term sex, or casual sex; they get very choosy and usually mate with the better men because there’s no shortage of willing men for just sex….

Feb 16

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 1)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 38 Comments

Article updated 2018 One cold winter morning, Felesha Fox came running alongside her friend, Frances Fox. “Hahaha, look at all these male foxes chasing after me, Frances! There’s about 10 of them!” Frances, looking a little embarrassed and scared, turned around to see 10 male foxes or more, chasing her friend Felesha Fox. “Why don’t you have even one dashing lad chasing you down, like me?” “My dear friend Felesha, you are mistaken, I do have one dashing lad chasing me. He’s at home right now.” “Pffff. Just one fox? Don’t you want lots of them around you? Look at…

Jan 04

Can Fear of Abandonment Make You More Beautiful

How the Fear of Abandonment Can Make You More Beautiful…

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence | 54 Comments

Article updated 2019 Can fear of abandonment make you more beautiful? Is there anything worse than dealing with someone who has become completely indifferent to relationship and life? I mean the people who have numbed themselves so much that they just don’t care. They don’t care about you, but more importantly, they’ve stopped caring about themselves. They choose to be thick and impenetrable. They choose comfort over love. Or they choose mediocrity over infinity. They’ve been denying what’s true of their deepest heart for so long that they seem to have become indifferent. And having indifference to your own need for…

Feb 15

19 Ways Of A High Value, Feminine Girlfriend

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 59 Comments

Article updated 2019 When I was 10, I liked a guy called Shannon, but Shannon didn’t like me; he liked my friend Tilly who wore skirts. When I asked her why Shannon didn’t like me and liked her, Tilly said I was a boy and Shannon would like me if I wore a skirt. 10 year olds named Tilly are smart. When I was 13 walking down the river bank with my best friend at the time, who has since passed away, a couple of boys walked past and said to us ‘nice tits, ugly head’. I didn’t have any…