10 Steps to Healthier & More Feminine Hair

Getting and Maintaining Beautiful Hair

Article updated 2018

Beautiful, healthy hair just gives a woman that extra look of radiance, health and feminine beauty. Not to mention long, gorgeous hair helps a woman maintain a youthful look well into her later years. It’s important to keep your hair healthy through your diet as well, but this article will be more about taking care of your hair itself.  (Click here to download the “Goddess Report”)

10 steps to healthier hair:

Step 1

Get yourself a really good quality hair brush. Don’t just use some badly made hair brushes, or old brushes with broken or uneven teeth, as they can snag your hair and cause breakage. Ideally, get yourself a brush with boar bristles, or a brush with bristles made out of bamboo. These types of brushes are much kinder to your hair, and help to evenly spread your natural oils through your hair, and bring a beautiful, luscious shine to it.

Step 2

If you have tangles, don’t just yank any old brush through them. Use only a wide-toothed comb to disentangle your hair. Fine-toothed combs are just terrible for your hair; it splits the hair shafts! Not only this but using a fine-toothed comb can damage your roots, as well.

So, especially when your hair is wet – use a wide-toothed comb to brush your hair.

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Step 3

This is counter-intuitive for most women – but, when you brush your hair, start brushing it from the ends first, and gradually move upwards with the comb or brush. This will do wonders for helping you get the knots out, and will cause a lot less breakage! A lot of the time, brushing your hair from the roots down just puts more stress on your hair, and makes knots worse!

And, when brushing your hair, do it gently 🙂 and don’t yank the brush through in a hurry – make some time before work, or before whatever daily commitments you have, to brush your hair gently, forming it in to a beautiful, shiny crown of glory! Don’t dig your brush into your scalp, either. Gently does it!

And, as much as you can – let your hair dry naturally and avoid brushing your hair when it is wet. When your hair is wet, it is much weaker because it swells and stretches like an elastic band, and brushing it in this state can cause the hair follicles to snap.

Step 4

Pay special attention to the ends of your hair. Most women do so much damage to their hair by curling it, straightening it and putting hundreds of different styling products in it! Even if you DO use heat protection, your hair can suffer. So, remember to put a little bit of oil on the ends of your hair every now and then – perhaps once a week or once a fortnight, whatever suits you. This will help restore moisture, strength to your hair and give it that ‘bouncy’ effect.

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Step 5

You need to regularly and properly condition your hair. I don’t mean using just the standard conditioners like Pantene or Sunsilk, but actually deeply condition your hair with a high-quality oil that actually penetrates the roots. See my post on ‘Achieving Feminine Beauty and Healthy with Coconut Oil‘ for a conditioning method using virgin coconut oil.

Most women who know how to take care of their hair know that most of the time, the most natural things can have the greatest benefits – and, they’re cheaper to use, too! 🙂

Most modern shampoos contain a whole host of chemicals and ingredients in them! A lot of these chemicals and ingredients actually dry out your hair. If you want to use shampoo, go with an organic shampoo – or with a high-quality shampoo range such as Aveda or Carita (a beautiful French shampoo range). These two ranges are much more expensive than the conventional shampoo products you buy in the supermarket or in chain hair care stores, but you will most definitely notice the difference in your hair!

Step 6

If you want to grow your hair long, regularly massage your scalp with the pads of your fingers in a slow, circular motion. If you like, you can even use an essential oil or a little bit of virgin coconut oil, or olive oil to massage your scalp. Massaging the scalp helps encourage circulation, and helps make your hair grow.

Step 7

Refrain from washing your hair every day – another surefire way to completely dry out your hair, and strip it of its natural oils. Your hair produces oil not because it’s dirty but because it protects your hair, and helps keep it strong. Have you ever noticed that when your hair is oily, it gets tangled up a lot less, and it is actually stronger? It’s because your hair and body knows what it’s doing – and is trying to help your hair by conditioning it with its own oils!

The more you let your hair get oily, the faster and stronger it will grow. Let your hair have this process.

A little trick

And, if the greasy look really bothers you – just get some baby powder, and put it on your hair, and brush it through! It absorbs the oils of your hair. You’ll be amazed at how well this little trick works and actually takes away the greasy look completely!

If you have dark hair – the baby power will most likely show up when you use it. So the Toni and Guy spray-on products will be a great alternative to baby powder.

Step 8

When drying your hair, never, ever wrap the towel around the length of it and scrub, rub, or wring the hair!! No, no no! This can damage the hair shaft! Just take the towel, wrap it around your hair gently and pat-dry it. This is much easier on your hair, and not to mention it won’t produce as many knots or tangles in the length of your hair!

Step 9

If your hair is long, and if you are growing it longer, make sure you tie it back when you go to sleep at night, or even braid it. This helps to stop knots and tangles. You can even use a hair net or a silk hair cap when you sleep, to keep it all in place and to stop it from spreading all over the place.

Satin or silk pillowcases can help, too – they are much softer on the hair and helps to stop breakage and yanking of the hair overnight if you toss-and-turn in your sleep a fair bit.

Step 10

Avoid washing your hair in very hot water. Most people have outrageously hot showers, and wash their hair in the same extremely hot water. The excessive heat can cause damage to your hair.

If you have the money, also invest in a water filter for your shower head to filter out any harsh chemicals that are damaging to your hair, such as chlorine, in the water.

I use a shower filter at home, and not only has it made a difference to my hair – it’s made an enormous difference to the state of my skin! Instead of having bits of dry skin peeling off my face when I step out of the shower, my skin still remains soft and healthy, ever since I used a shower filter. There can be some pretty harsh chemicals in the water you use to shower, so seriously consider this option.

Dr. Mercola makes really good shower filters, and this is the one I use at home, made by him: Pure and Clean Shower Filter. Please note: we have absolutely no affiliation with Dr. Mercola; he’s just a really cool natural doctor who’s made a huge difference in the lives of millions of people through his thorough and passionate research into natural health. 🙂

I hope this post has helped you know more about how to take care of your hair, and I’m sure I’ve missed some great tips, so if you have any more good tips for hair care, please add them, and share them in the comments section!

Have a LOVELY day! 🙂

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How can I make my hair grow faster and healthier?

Ronak adeel

Its really wonderful feeling to have long hair…:)
n ur suggestion r really benifical…:)


should we brush our hair when it is dried completely from natural air to avoid breakage of hair?
i use TREsemme shampoo and conditioner. but from that only 70% hairfall is reduced. and i want to reduce more. what should i do?


my hair fall about 37 whenever i brush my hair when it is wet after i take shower. i will try not to brush my hair when it is wet. i think this will work 🙂

stephanie gonzalez

I am going to take your adivce and try it myself. Because I think it would really work and it sounds really smart so thank you. I will never forget this.


Hey, thanks sooooooooo much this was really helpful!!!!

Summer Jane
Summer Jane

Renee, This page was the first one I looked at as I started my Internet search on how to better take care and grow my hair. Thank you! Great resource. I am 40 and my hair has always been dry, but as I age, it has become more noticeable, of course. I have had great success with “pre-shampooing.” Your coconut oil treatment is similar to what I do. I shampoo about twice a week and make sure that I treat my hair with oil beforehand. I use a 2:1:1 ratio of pure coconut oil, avocado oil, and virgin olive oil.… Read more »

Marcos Rosasco

Should you be looking for methods to make your hair grow faster than I can suggest is to never comb your hair even though it is wet, it’ll make the hair fragile and the best technique to dry it out is let it air dry.


What I most neglected was cutting my hair regularily. Firstly, it involved finding the time to spend 2 hours at the salon, and secondly, I didn’t feel I could pay 35pounds every couple of months. So, I got my own scissors! They are good ones too, and were only 8pounds. Now my mom and sis and me we each trim each others ends at least every 2 months, and I find it quite easy! Neither of us is as daring as to try out layers etc, but after having layers all the time long, straight hair is actually really nice.… Read more »


Speaking of Keratin… it is in your hair and nails and there is a new relaxer trend called Brazilian Blowout. It is a brand and the stylists have to be certified to use it but it is supposed to be a lot less stress on the hair than the normal chemical relaxers. I am biracial and I have basically strong hair but it is really think and really curly and really frizzy so I have to relax it so that it is manageable. I hate that I have to because it dries out my scalp and I have lots of… Read more »

Summer Jane
Summer Jane
Reply to  Amelia

I use tea tree oil when I give myself a scalp massage with oil before shampooing. ONLY use 1 to 2 drops tea tree oil per tablespoon of carrier oil (e.g., olive oil, avacado oil, etc.). Tea tree oil is very strong and should not be used undiluted on hair or scalp. It can cause severe breakouts and dryness if used by itself. I use grapeseed oil with it on my scalp. I have oily hair at my roots; grapeseed oil is a light oil and rinses out well, not leaving my scalp overly oily.


Ms.C- I shampoo my hair every fourth and even fifth day and I go to the gym regularly and sweat BUCKETS when I am there. Trust me, all you need to do is get in the shower and let water and your hands do the washing. I have to admit, the cleansing process takes longer, you’ll have to let the water completely soak your hair and use the balls of your fingers to massage and massage and keeeep massaging and it’s really the water that will clean your hair. Whether or not you SHOULD shampoo twice a week is really… Read more »


What if you’re working out and working while sweating, should you still shampoo only twice a week? And then inbetween those days do you conditioner or just not wash at all?

Summer Jane
Summer Jane
Reply to  Ms.C

I work out 3-4 times a week. I do not “wet” shampoo after every workout. I only shampoo twice a week and not always on workout days. I use either a dry shampoo (Sauve has a nice one with Keratin) or rinse my hair well, massaging my scalp with the pads of my fingers, and condition. I have to admit, if I am in a real hurry, I just shower off and do not wet my hair–I just spray on a leave-in conditioner and brush well.


@ Rosebud- I do believe your problem may be the baking soda. Baking soda is highly alkaline which opens up the hair cuticle. Along with mixing it with head and shoulders, this can be a very drying combination.
I used to use baking soda to wash my hair as well and I had to stop because it dried my hair out too much. Hope this helps. 🙂

Reply to  Amy

@Amy: I do believe you may be on to something! 🙂


@Rosebud: Perhaps you used an excess amount of shampoo to wash the olive oil treatment out? Or, as Stephanie said – try switching the shampoo you’re using. About the buildup – maybe you use too much oil to condition? When you use a lot of products, it can cause buildup – maybe you haven’t fully washed out the olive oil in your hair and the residue from that is mixing up with a bit of excess shampoo/conditioner? Do you do what I suggest in my ‘achieving feminine beauty and health with coconut oil’ article – and RINSE off the oil… Read more »


It may be an excess of protein, which makes hair turn suddenly very unmanageable and brittle. I would say switch the shampoo and conditioner you’re using and continue with the olive oil. As for buildup, you can get rid of that by rinsing your hair with a solution containing vinegar – quite easy to find the recipe online! Sort of like shampoo – gets rid of buildup and adds shine. I’ve never tried it myself but I have a friend who does it and it seems to work just fine. Also, become a member of the longhaircommunity – I posted… Read more »


Thank you Stephanie, I have been using more conditioner than shampoo now… Only, my hair is still so dry! I just left olive oil overnight the day before yesterday! What is wrong with my hair? It isn’t moveable or anything, and I have terrible buildup. =(


@Rosebud: yea yea bumps are normal 🙂

I’ll leave the rest up to Stephanie because she’s answering the questions better than I am.


I’ve actually never even thought of making homemade shampoo or conditioner! That sounds like such a good idea. I’ve seen loads of hair mask or deep conditioning treatments you can make with stuff from your kitchen so I’m sure there’s some articles on google about that sort of thing. And yes that’s absolutely normal with the braids – it’s inevitable really. I’ve never seen a girl in my entire life leave a braid in her hair for the whole day and take it out without having lots of waves because of it. I actaually use the overnight braiding to emphasize… Read more »


I have another question too =/
When I put my hair in a braid, or a bun, or a hairband, or if I just use a clip or a hairpin, my hair gets this awkward bump in it that takes a long time to go away. Multiple bumps if I do a braid. Is this normal?


No no I love rants, especially when they’re so informative!
Are there any really good conditioners I can make, then? I tend to trust homemade things more than store-bought stuff, and there are barely any stores that sell organic shampoos/conditioners in my country, and the ones that do will be way too expensive.
Also, I love The Art of Being Feminine, I check it all the time!!
Thank you so much for all your help =)

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