Are Men Intimidated by You or Just NOT Attracted to You?

I remember many years ago, being about 20 years old, and I was out with a group of girlfriends. None of the men seemed interested in me.

At least not compared to the number of men who were interested in my friends.

I felt devastated. The men seemed interested in my girlfriends, but not me. I couldn’t figure it out. Not that I was trying to actually figure it out; I was too busy feeling sorry for myself.

One can’t get clarity when they are feeling sorry for themselves.

On this particular night, one nice young man did come up to me and introduce himself. He asked what I was doing with myself. I said: “I’m studying Law.” Which I was.

…And I’ll never forget his reaction. He pulled his head right back and stepped away from me, taking one step back, literally. And he said ‘OH’. ‘Woah. Ok.’

From that day on, I noticed that whenever I told men this, this particular reaction was not uncommon at all.

At the time I secretly smiled. “Heh, finally, I feel some sort of power in my life. I’m doing a LAW degree!”

Are Men Intimidated by You

The Boring Story: Men Don’t Want Me Because They’re Intimidated By Me

I remember walking away from that club where I was at, and weeks later, started to tell myself the boring story about how men don’t want to be in a relationship with me because they were intimidated by me.

I was actually totally clueless, because it was none of that. It wasn’t even that I was ‘successful’. It wasn’t that I actually intimidated men.

The reality is that attraction generally occurs when there is polarity.

Polarity happens when there is opposite energies, it didn’t have to be that way, it is just how it is in our universe.

Looking back, I now realise that it wasn’t that men were intimidated and THAT is why they didn’t or couldn’t be in a relationship with me.

It wasn’t about asking the question “are guys intimidated by me” or why are men intimidated by me. Rather it was about actually focusing on what matters.

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This Is The Wrong Question To Ask!

…And what ultimately matters is that men gravitate towards what is valuable to them for a relationship.

It was that there was no room to be in a relationship with me.

They had no perceived positive rewards for their efforts to court me, because I put out a tonne of masculine energy.

It was that I walked around, living my life from this place of thinking that my worth came from being career minded and successful.

And that became a habit. So much so that when I spoke to men, my body was tight, I wasn’t trusting, I was fully set on directing my own life.

Nothing wrong with that, right? Of course not.

And yet – it pushed the better men away, because I didn’t need their masculine direction.

I wasn’t soft, I was hard and trying to just be enough.

I was trying to be worthy. This focus on trying to be worthy made me wear masculine masks that only bought me less success in love and dating.

I bought in to the false idea that ‘men commit to women who are better; women who are achievers’ – which leads to the reality that:

When We Think This Way, We Will Always Be Alone

As women, our appeal to men in a relationship has nothing to do with how much we achieve.

It has everything to do with our soul; and our heart as a woman.

It has everything to do with how high value we show up. Things like your feminine radiance, kindness, health, and loyalty. (Click here to take the quiz “How Feminine Am I Actually”)

Achievements for appeal in a commitment relationships are for men. Men compete with each other to achieve more and therefore gain more status.

Because we all secretly know unconsciously that women trade up and compare men all the time.

As Jada Pinkett says: ”no woman wants a man other women don’t want”.

In other words, women go for the man with the most status they feel they can get.

(Men may value a woman’s status too, but in very different ways.)

We choose the best man we believe we are worthy of.

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Why We Need To Question The Idea Of ‘Men Are Intimidated By Me’.

If you focus on the question of do I intimidate men, then what happens is that even if they are intimidated by you, it doesn’t mean a whole lot.

If men are intimidated by us, fine.

But if we keep that story in our heads that men are intimidated by us…then we are simply avoiding facing the fake stories we tell ourselves about why we can’ get a guy.

if you think a guy is intimidated by you, that’s ok, but I believe your focus should be less on how intimidating you are due to being successful, and more on other realities that you may be unconsciously ignoring.

Realities such as:

Number 1 – Because we spend so much energy directing ourselves in our career and life, in other words – using this masculine energy in ourselves….

A man can’t be attracted to us for a relationship because we’ve already put out so much masculine energy in the world.

There’s NOTHING wrong with using our masculine. But when we go in to the dating world assuming that our worth comes from this; well, we don’t get to complain that men aren’t attracted to us and that there are no good men.

Number 2 – Or the other fake story we often tell ourselves. That…we prefer living with the internal story in our minds of ‘guys are intimidated by me’ than feeling how much we yearn for a deep attachment to a guy.

If we allowed ourselves to yearn for this deep attachment, and to focus on our desire to connect with men instead, we’d be much more successful in dating.

(Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man? “)

The One Truth I Discovered…

Here is an inconvenient truth. 

When we women say; ‘men don’t court me because they’re intimidated by me’…

Men actually just weren’t attracted to us. It doesn’t mean we AREN’T attractive; it just means that we didn’t show up that way in the eyes of men.

I hear women saying to me: ‘but, men are intimidated by beautiful women!! It’s true!’

I say ‘so?’ Why not be more approachable then, if we really value relationship and connection and opening to a man?

See, it’s one thing to feed our ego with nice thoughts about our beauty. It keeps fears at bay after all.

It’s another to be a woman of value to men and show up that way.

Here’s something interesting about being “beautiful”. You can always wear a sloppy item of clothing and dull your attractiveness on the outside.

But that wouldn’t change your inner radiance.

In fact, it would force you to become the kind of woman who relies on what is real: her ability to emotionally connect with men.

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Don’t Let Your Old Stories Hold You Back

I’m well aware that for a strong woman in her 30s who is finding it difficult to find a good man who is not a jerk, can feel disillusioned.

I completely understand feeling angry. Hurt. Sad. Pissed. Humiliated.

I can understand carrying a lot of resentment towards men due to having bad experiences (or even poor boundaries with men).

There’s a lot of pain surrounding not finding a man for most women in this world. We just try to cover it up with silly stories like:

“Men are intimidated by me”.

“There aren’t enough good men in my town.”

“Men aren’t good enough for me.”

“There’s a shortage of men in my town.”

None of those things are ever true. Yes, perhaps generally speaking, there’s more women than men in your town.

Be that as it may, it doesn’t have to many an ounce of difference in your ability to attract a great guy.

This is because men always gravitate towards you when you show up high value!

That’s the rule. Just like women flock towards the men of value to women!

Alas, when we are in pain, we have to survive somehow. And to SURVIVE, we have to tell ourselves an internal story that makes us feel good enough.

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Is He Intimidated By Me?

So, are men intimidated by you? Mostly not.

Maybe in the corporate world where they’re not thinking about dating you.

Even if they are intimidated by you, that usually only counts for a small percentage of the reason why they are not wanting a relationship with you.

…And even if they are, what does it matter?

How is men being intimidated by you even relevant to your love life?

What matters is whether men are attracted to you or not for a relationship.

So WHY are we really focusing on the silly story of ‘oh yeah well men are just INTIMIDATED by me!’.

Simply because we feel sad and hurt that we are alone.

And instead of feeling our pain, the story is more convenient.

See, the funny thing about pain is that like many difficult feelings, when they come up, we tense up and try to hold it at bay.

But there ARE some fears in life that we should feel more of. I’m not saying that you should wallow in fear. Not at all.

In fact, I’m really suggesting that if you felt your fears more, you’ll give them the respect that they require.

And when you gives them the respect that they demand (to be felt and to be processed), you’ll be able to at some point, let them actually guide you towards better decisions!

So, for many of us, instead of acknowledging our pain, and feeling our oneness with everyone’s else’s pain, we decide it’s more important to have a ‘cool identity’ and the idea that we are important and significant.

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Attraction Is The Thing That Lights Up His Life & Lights Up Yours.

THIS really means that to get in to a relationship with a guy, to get a boyfriend, we need to uncover the mask we wear of ‘being intimidating’.

If that mask or that defensive mechanism is not removed at some point, then we can’t reveal our vulnerable self that is worth far more for a real relationship to men.

Truly, decent men couldn’t care less how intimidating you are to men. They care about connecting with you – because this is what they can trust.

They can’t trust your masks. What is more valuable to men is that you reveal your true spontaneous, alive, and innocent feminine self.

Of course, provided we are feminine inside; which is most of us women.

I believe that our BS – ing  ourselves with a story about men being intimidated by us only closes us down to men further.

It makes you a smaller and smaller woman with less and less love in her life.

I know this because I have been there and felt it. It feels awful.

It took me ages to learn that my own silly story was destroying my ‘light’ as some new-agey people might describe it!

The Honesty That Is REQUIRED For You To Find A Good Man…

But what if this kind of honesty with yourself is required for you to find a loving relationship?

I want to ask you today to have the courage to be honest with yourself, instead of remaining a small woman for the rest of your life.

I want you to feel the power that comes with being incredibly feminine and attractive; and not falling for the silly ideal that you have to be masculine to be worthy in this world.


You could have failed school and many men would love you (perhaps more men than you think).

You could be a bimbo and men will love you for it.

You could be a stay at home mom and be provided for financially fully by your husband, and would still love you and commit to you.

You Could Fail At Life, And He’d Still Adore You.

(Perhaps even while other women are seething, HATING you for having this apparent fortune. Despite that, your man still adores you to bits.)

It’s other WOMEN and dishonest men who perpetuate these myths about what you have to be in order to be enough for everyone in this world.

And by the way, these women are acting from their fears. They’re not necessarily showing up as open, loving women, they’re women who are feeling disillusioned.

Disillusioned but too scared to feel their fears; because facing our fears is more painful, and harder than ignoring them.

Nobody loves you for being successful, for being intimidating, or for being more ‘powerful’ in society than other people are.

That’s the silly illusion that we’ve all fallen for at certain times in our lives.

People love you for your soul.

Is He Intimidated By Me Or Not Interested?

So is he intimidated by you or not interested?

There’s not a whole lot of difference. If he truly is intimidated by you, then that’s a man living in his fears.

And a man living in his fears can’t really be attracted to you or be in a relationship with you anyway.

Yes, some men are intimidated by beautiful women. But again, these are fearful men. Do you value a fearful man? You are the only one who can answer that.

The price you pay for telling yourself that men are intimidated by you.

The price we pay for telling ourselves the story that a guy is intimidated by us is bigger than the worth of the story.

In relationships, you either value connection and create connection…

…Or you value your own feeling of significance and create disconnection.

There’s nothing wrong with wanting to feel significant. This is a natural human need that we all have. But if you make this story a habit, it will make you more closed off and less vulnerable.

Again, the price of the story you tell yourself about guys being intimidated by you is that the story causes you to create disconnection.

See this article on why men pull away.

Here Is The Price We Pay For Telling Yourself The BS Story That Men Are Intimidated By Us:

  1. We will never actually become more attractive. Instead, we stay closed and guarded which will repel more and more men away from you.
  2. We don’t get to feel the power that comes with being able to attract any man you want.
  3. We may never have our own children (if you want your own children, then this could be a huge and urgent worry for you).
  4. We will never grow, instead we will remain closed, guarded and eventually, totally bitter.

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Men Are Attracted To Femininity & Value, Not Success…

Men are men.

Most of them are proportionally more masculine in relationships. Which means they are attracted to femininity and what is value to them as a man.

What am I getting at here? What’s the ‘answer’ in all this?

The answer is that even if we did a law degree, even if we run our own business; that success means nothing to us as a feminine soul in comparison to having a healthy, emotionally attached relationship with a man.

Did you also notice, I didn’t say “you are not pretty enough.”

I didn’t say: “men don’t think you are sexy”, in fact they probably do think you’re sexy.

It’s not hard to be sexy to most men. Sexy is easy to come by.

I am talking about men not being emotionally attracted to us. Which is a totally different thing. Attraction is a feeling; it’s not a judgement.

See, when I say men aren’t attracted to you, do you feel rejected?

If you do, that might be because you think there’s no hope, and that men are judging you.

They’re not. They just don’t feel attracted to you. And that’s just their FEELING. Nothing more.

The good news is, men are always responding to WOMEN.

They’re responding to YOU.

Which means, how you show up in the dating market is crucial.

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How You Show Up Is Everything!

If you’re always showing up as the ‘sexy, successful’ woman; then men will want sex with you, but not commit to you.

It’s important to tell yourself the truth and acknowledge that.

Unlike what other women would have you believe; looks aren’t important; but ATTRACTION is, when it comes to finding a man.

And ANY woman can be attractive; she just has to be feminine. Dark and light feminine; whatever she wants to be.

The missing ingredient in any case is still emotional attraction and being ATTRACTIVE to men.

What’s the real reason men seem turned off?

Did you wonder why, in my above story, the men backed off when I said I was studying Law?

If you were, great!

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I Was A Hard Woman, Not A Soft Woman…

The answer is NOT because I did a Law degree. It’s because of my energy.

And my energy is what is behind what I said. It’s the way I said it, and the way I go about meeting my needs every day of my life.

Is it any wonder men don’t approach me? My energy put out the message that my identity was about the achievements I had made.

My vibe was that was that of a hard woman, wearing masks to cover up her attractive natural energy.

How could men be attracted to me? Much less approach me and want a relationship with me?

Back then, I thought my worth was in my achievements.

Now, let me just say, doing this is not wrong. You can choose to put out ANY energy you want.

You can turn yourself in to a man if you want, and there would be nothing wrong with that at all. It really just depends on what you want in your life.

To guide you through what I’ve finally come to learn myself, I’ve put together the 17 Attraction Triggers that guarantee to get any man’s blood boiling…

Some of these triggers are primal, sexual, some of them are emotional. They will help you feel closer to your true self, your true core and feel more feminine and attractive. Here’s the link to 17 Attraction Triggers.

Finally, I’m very interested in hearing your opinion on all of this. What are your thoughts?

In fact, what is your true experience of dealing with men out there in the big wide world? Do you agree or disagree?

Share in the comments section below so that other women can also learn from you!

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Nice article but you will have an uphill battle pushing the return of femininity. The powers that be want role confusion and double standards. Look at the poor drones replying here. One woman knocking the idea of being barefoot and pregnant 8 times in 1950 making cookies…. 1. Women wore shoes inside the house.2. pregnant that many times meant surrounded by love, part of a team. Also in those days the women once the work was done all progressed to their front fences and held conversations with the neighbours or took the kids visiting. They didnt have social media, they… Read more »


Hi Renee, I enjoyed the article and have found it to be mostly true. However, this is where my frustration lies. Many women (myself included) have learned to be “hard” because we’ve been abused by men in the past. For me, it started in childhood, and then continued as I attracted and was attracted to unhealthy partners due to my conditioning. It’s like once you’ve been abused, other predators can smell it on you (probably the stress hormones), and you keep having the same experience, even when you think you are choosing different types of men. All I’ve ever desired… Read more »


Men aren’t “intimidated” by successful women, this is a cope. It’s simply that men are aware that most women want a man of higher status than her own. Why would he bother if he knows he’s just going to be found wanting? And why would the male doctor want the female doctor when he could go for the much younger nurse? Also a lot of the women commenting here sound like unbearable egomaniacs and probably aren’t as “successful” as they think they are. Lots of people have degrees and/or demanding jobs, it’s not really a big deal. Acting like the… Read more »


Most men are indifferent because of all the culture changes. Men no longer know where they stand. Most average men feel like their rights are gone. Women have been treating men like dogs for more than 50 years. And yet we’re expected to just shake it off. Ever see how a dog acts when beaten too much? And just so you know, I’m an older male. I saw the lies feminists spewed in the 60s. Most men loved and cared for their wives and children. Most weren’t cheaters either, women have painted men with a broad stroke paint brush. Now… Read more »

Lynda Shoup
Lynda Shoup

I have been told by many men that I am intimidating. I am a strong assertive woman that knows what she wants and have assumed it was men with low self asteam that felt this way. I do tend to be a bit masculine at times but it’s because I’m a single mother and have to take the roll of mother and father in my home. If the grass needs cut I cut it, tire needs changing on the car I change it. I have had successful relationships with strong men and not so successful with insecure men. I feel… Read more »

Chelley Meeks
Chelley Meeks

The writer of this article is completely out of touch with men, other women, and reality in general. Her first mistake is that it is into the second and nearing the third decade of the 2000’s, not 1953. If she has found her true self while barefoot, pregnant with her 8th child, and baking cookies in some man’s kitchen, then good for her! This horrifying stereotype is in no way the true subconscious desire of all women secretly nor the go-to, no-fail image that evokes the most natural amorous feelings within the overly-generalized male populace. Even the most overt misogynists… Read more »

Reply to  Chelley Meeks

Ummm, … your comments were as long as this article. How about getting your own blog/ website/ e-book ??? Stop riding on other coattails. Sheesh !!

Reply to  Chelley Meeks

Yes, yes, yes!!! We didn’t burn our bras in the 70’s to be making ourselves smaller, so men find us attractive. Gross. I tried that once and ended up in a DV marriage. I kept chipping away at every aspect of myself to be smaller for him, just for his comfort. Never again. I stand proud now of the strong-minded woman I am. If that’s not attractive- I’m okay with that too!

Reply to  Chelley Meeks

Chelley – I’d love to be friends.

Reply to  Chelley Meeks

Men, this is why it’s important to date young women who don’t carry this kind of baggage and still intuit how to have an open heart for real deep connection with their man.

Also, never ever never ever ever date a feminist.

Reply to  Chelley Meeks

Makes me wonder why you found yourself on this side of the internet if you weren’t secretly yearning for the secret to getting (and keeping) a man.

Amanda T
Amanda T

I am 6ft tall woman. I find many men see me more like a friend. Then some guys will use it as a conversation starter “how tall are you?” I have to say “Oh I dont know” and smile. In the past I have said the truth, and they say “no, I am 6ft, and we arent the same height.” They usually get angry at me, and Im not making up stories. I was so self conscious about my height, I know exactly how Tall I am. I’d love to wear heals, because In my heart I am very feminine.… Read more »


I am a feminine woman, yet men seem to rarely even notice me at all. I am friendly, flirtatious in a good way, dress well in either dresses or pants and a feminine blouse, some light makeup. Most of all I am genuine and being my true self. I am also physically visually impaired and use a white cane, this alone turns most men off and makes me unapproachable. Sure they will ask if I need any help with anything and I do accept their offer for help, but for actually being attracted to me? No. I do consider myself… Read more »

Reply to  Sue

“yet men are visual creatures and what they see, is not what they want”

Sure, that’s the men is.

” because I have so much I can give to a man, it is their loss though, because they are missing out on a chance to be with a wonderful, beautiful feminine woman.”

it’s your loss, not them. It’s your fault to not show them who you truly are. We have an infinite choice when it comes to fish in the sea. Yet you seems a bit arrogant at your post.

Samantha Derrick
Samantha Derrick

I dont agree
men are INTIMIDATED by beautifulw omen, there are sometimes men who state but can not approach a woman.I have even spoken to these men and they tell me thre are many isntances they see a beautiful women but they think she is “out of theri league”


I’m sorry, but I can’t take your comment seriously because of the spelling, grammar and punctuation errors. But it is ironic that you used the word “omen” for women, since women with your attitude are a seriously bad omen!

Really, have something to be intimidating about before you go claiming you intimidate men. Your intellect certainly isn’t intimidating.


If a woman is good-looking, there are 2 reasons why men won’t show much interest: 1. She looks unapproachable. Maybe she looks standoff-ish. Maybe looks like she doesn’t give a damn – emotionless/bored face. 2. She can’t/won’t hold a conversation. One-word answers, like she doesn’t wanna talk. Doesn’t show any clear signs of interest. Or she’s so shy she can barely talk, and then the man has nothing to work with. Or she’s hard to talk to, because she has nothing in common with the man. Or she’s just a boring person. I’m not sure how this fits into the… Read more »


Also, remember that men today are not sex starved anymore. Porn is not a multibillion dollar business for no reason. The escort business is not so successful for no reason these days. Men travel to a different city to make a call in backpage and then lay a prostitute. It’s much easier for men to get sex, so we do not walk around with a hardon for a woman anymore. Did anyone consider what impact this might have? I know I have done it. I see a gorgeous woman in starbucks with her laptop and earphone looking too busy to… Read more »


For those of us who noticed it, there is a big difference in attitude between women in the US and other parts of the world. Guys in my circle always talk about it, women in other parts of the world show femininity more naturally and so stir strong emotions in men.

Reply to  lamrof

I agree with this, I think it is because feminism hasn’t crushed the polarity like it has in the US.

Family, connection and quality time (dinner together, cooking!)are highest valued, not two income earners and living on a treadmill.

(BTW – I am a female, business owner and mother)


It sounds like you’re saying pretty women have to look less attractive so they don’t intimidate men? What? Of course not! A woman can dress however she likes and the right man won’t feel inferior.


the men who respond here aren’t even the men any women want… why are they here? rejected or something?


all these articles on all sides mean well but they each serve to make me wish I wasn’t even human,let alone female.. the species itself.. all this stuff about needing to seem soft and helpless and YIKES needing “direction” from a man is ..well…vomitous… but for women who want a man and want to stay in the game..of ‘humanity’ and how it works.. have at it……but its why im on the side of “no male or female in Christ” and “unless you enter heaven as a little child you will In no wise enter” and “you must be born again… Read more »

Reply to  Suzuki35

“I’m perfect just as I am!” she shouts to the empty forest. Heedless, the world spins on and the sun rises in the morning obeying the same laws as ever.

Or, if you prefer… “Am I so out of touch? … no, it’s the children who are wrong.” – Principal Skinner


Then you are out of touch!! Read a newspaper sometime unless you think that men have all of a sudden mysteriously become less smart or less capable. And please, may I remind you that as you turn your nose up at this, you are communicating on device, in a house or building or car, etc., most likely invented and built by men. We weren’t so stupid when we built and gave you all most of the modern conveniences in the world to make you feel so empowered that you now feel so superior to us men.


Okay!!! Feminists have zeroed in on Rene and as usual they are condescending, rude, self righteous, superior, intolerant, and obnoxious!!! And yes, I mean: Ginna Elda, Selena and “Alex” Et, Al. Also, as we usually see with feminists such as these they are always right and give themselves the right to tell others what to do and not do and tell them they’re WRONG because they are like G. W. Bush, “the decider”; they are the new “deciders” or maybe it’s just because they feel so inadequate and don’t understand why the world doesn’t choose them as its one and… Read more »


Wow this article is really sad. I couldn’t even read to the end. This article totally feeds into the patriarchal bullshit that women have fought so hard to overcome. It’s no secret that some men are intimidated by powerful women. Not because we aren’t “soft” or feminine enough, but because they are insecure in their own perceived masculinity and feel like it will degrade their position as the “superior” sex. Utter bullshit. Any man worth your time will love the fact that you are successful and confident within yourself. He won’t give a shit if you act in a way… Read more »

Reply to  Emily

That what we said! You missed the point.

Reply to  Love

I’m really confused by your comment. Are you trying to say that being yourself is not an attractive quality? People are naturally more attracted to those who are confident in who they are. I mean, do you really want to date someone and fall in love only to realise they are not who they pretended to be when you first met? Some women aren’t traditionally feminine and some men aren’t traditionally masculine, but there is someone out there for everyone. Why does every woman have to be the same to be considered attractive? That just sounds super boring to me.

Reply to  Emily

Yes you clearly missed the point, and you are blinded by the lie that is 3rd wave feminism. Have you ever been tempted to become friends with someone who attacks you at every turn and acts as if you’re an enemy? Well, that explains how men feel about women like you. Now I’m all in favor of women making their own choices, but you will never escape the results of your choices. I hope you’ve reconciled the fact that men aren’t attracted to you. If so good for you – you’ve reached your goal!

Reply to  John

Do you honestly feel attacked by people who are simply themselves? What a snowflake. Real men and women are not afraid to be themselves or to be around other real people. I feel like you have had bad experiences with women and need to use feminism as the excuse. I mean, how dare women have their own thoughts and opinions, right?

Reply to  Emily

Attraction isn’t a choice; men are men. Gender politics is not an antidote for the ever present laws of the universe.

“I’m perfect just as I am!” she screams at God himself. Heedless, the world spins on and the sun rises in the morning.

“Am I so out of touch? … no, it’s the children who are wrong.” – Principal Skinner

Reply to  Cody

If you really want to stick to the archaic stereotypes of men and women, then here’s a question for you: when did men become so scared of the chase? ‘Oh no, she has opinions! It’s too much hard work to have an actual conversation with this woman! I want an easy target with no sense of self so I don’t have to put any work into forming a relationship. Woe is me, I am terrified of women with a voice!’


This article is tragically sexist. Success, ambition, and drive are not synonymous to masculine, just as nurturing, caregiving, and kindness aren’t synonymous to feminine. What kind of bs? Ladies, you do NOT have to dull yourself to be appealing to any man. If he’s worth your time, he’ll be up for the challenge. If you want to be successful, have a wonderful career and be proud of taking charge of your life (and the world), do it. If a man is intimidated by that, it’s his problem, not yours. Don’t lower your standards, have them raise theirs.

Reply to  Mickii_B2

Do you purposely seek out the most challenging relationship you can? Do you really aspire to be “the challenge” in his life?

Reply to  Cody

Do you purposely seek out the easiest person? Do real people scare you or are you just lazy?

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European Minorities

Ginna, are you a lesbian? You mention you are masculine. Why do women think being masculine is attractive? As a man, if I want a bloke I will get one. I am looking for a woman. What’s wrong with being ‘successful and feminine’? Don’t be one of the men. Renee, you are spot on with the article. Majority of us men would like a feminine partner, not a masculine one. Not sure what twaddle feminists have been filling women’s heads these days, but they need to seriously stop taking advice from the movement. We also want a mother for our… Read more »

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