7 Steps to Develop Character as a Feminine Woman

Femininity without character is a bit of a flop. You can look all good, get your hair and make up done, put on some beautiful clothes, smile widely, and be nice, polite and accommodating, but without character you run the risk of being boring as a woman.

Before I talk more about this, it is important to define character. As there is more than just one facet to it.

Character is defined as:

The aggregate of features and traits that form the individual nature of some person or thing.

Moral or ethical quality; qualities of honesty, courage or the like;

Integrity; good repute; a person, especially with reference to behaviour or personality.

You may know of only a small number of women with true character. The reason is because many women (and men) like to follow the herd and stay safe, rather than stand out and be unique, or take the lead.

They would prefer to stay ‘safe’ and within the clan than to be authentic.

As per the definition above, character is about the features and traits (of personality) that make up you as an individual.

It’s integrity. It’s honesty. It’s the combination of all things that make you you.

How to Develop Character As A Woman

How to Develop Character As A Woman

Don’t get me wrong, I do think that human beings are not given enough credit at times.

We are incredible creatures, but I think you would agree that there is not enough integrity around.

Our culture has become all about the me in everything. That’s why we aren’t really taught how to interact with each other in relationships, etc. Too many people value their image over the true value of the emotional connection in their relationships.

You may think that we’re all individuals anyway – and whilst this is true – I rarely come across a woman whom is truly happy to be themselves.

I mean real, raw and 100% authentic.

It’s rare for people to take the risk to stand for something. To fight for what she believes in.

And when I do come across a woman like this, you might agree with me when I say that she commands a great deal of respect. You cannot truly respect someone without character.

The kind of woman who lacks character is the kind of woman who is boring. She’s predictable, because she just slots into the majority in the bell curve.

She’s happy to just follow what everyone else does.

And when a crisis happens, she lacks the courage to do what is right. You cannot trust this woman, and neither can you respect her.

Related: Why You Can’t Trust People & 6 Hidden Signs They’re Untrustworthy.

Furthermore, women without character often lie.

If that’s a little too intense for you, I will say that a woman without character is afraid of the truth; at the very least.

A woman without character lies to feel better about herself – to get something from others.

She’s also the snobby girl who ignored you in high school and wouldn’t give anyone but the ‘hot’ guys or popular girls the time of day.

Above all, she’s scared. She’s scared as hell of being rejected, of uncertainty, and of losing acceptance from others.

(Read my article about why can’t you be loved for who you are?)

How To Be A Woman Of Character

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1: Accept And LOVE Your ‘Imperfections’.

Let’s start with imperfections in personality. Everybody makes mistakes.

You’ve been a raging bitch before, and so have I. It’s OK if you can rise above your mistakes and become better from them. And it’s particularly important to do it in the moment. Not later, when it’s easier, because it’s classy.

This is one way character is actually developed. No-one just stumbles across true character. It takes experience, it takes fearless honesty with yourself and with others.

It takes courage to admit a mistake and learn from it. This is one facet that makes up true character.

Human beings are imperfect by nature, so don’t be afraid to be wrong, to have made the wrong choice and therefore needing to readjust.

Readjusting is the most authentic thing you could do.

Conversely, ignoring it, lying to yourself and pretending that you never stuff up is inauthentic and leads you to sell your soul for an image, and for the acceptance of others.

So: Choose to keep learning and growing. Accept imperfections in yourself and others.

And now to get on to the physical “imperfections”:

The things that you consider imperfections are most likely the things that make the people closest to you love you so much. Character can be seen from your ability to accept and LOVE what you’ve been given (physically).

For example, I am a tiny woman at 5 foot 3 inches. At 5 foot 3, I don’t stand very tall. But, I realized that this is one of the reasons why the people who care about me love me. I wouldn’t be ME otherwise.

Also, take Cindy Crawford’s mole for example. It’s easy to see that as a flaw. But, she made a huge career out of that mole!!

woman of character accept imperfections

Take Johnny Depp’s ex French singer/actress girlfriend, Vanessa Paradis. She has a huge gap between her front teeth.

woman of character accept imperfections

It’s adorable! Handicap, you think? Only if she thinks so!!

Most importantly:

These physical “imperfections” don’t give character in of themselves. It’s a woman’s ability to accept it as a part of her, and love this part of her that gives the trait (and thus her) true character!

2: Stand For Something, And Stand Up For It.

If you believe in something, don’t run around pretending that you don’t.

Having character is all about being able to stand for what you believe in and not being afraid to voice it. If you don’t do this, you run the risk of lacking individuality; hence, lacking character.

You may think this is common sense. Yes, it is. Probably to you and I it is.

But if you just take a short moment to think about it: most people shy away from revealing certain things about themselves, or refrain from sharing their support or belief in a cause for fear of being in the minority, and therefore not accepted by others. They fear judgment.

Related: Is There A High Value Way To Deal With Judgemental Assholes?

For example, I’ve seen some people trying to hide their self-help book in their handbag from the view of other because they fear people will think they’re handicapped.

Or they want to appear self-assured, strong and independent – thus, being seen with a self-help book would be embarrassing to them.

This behaviour is mostly a result of a lack of courage.

But what if your interest in a self help topic is the thing that may help you connect with another lonely human who also shares your interest? What if they admire you for it?

Don’t Succumb To Other People’s Limitations!

3: Align Your Values And Beliefs With Your Actions.

Ask yourself: What do I actually stand for?

Is there an idea, belief or value that I would die for?

What do I truly believe in?

What do I represent?

Do I have enough character to rise above my challenges in life (situations where my needs are not met) – and stick to my values anyway?

Am I living according to my true standards? Or am I being less of myself than I could be?

Am I going to sell my soul for some emotional safety?

People will violate their values to meet their needs. Most people.

The key to true character is to catch yourself before you violate what you stand for, and rectify the situation. Find a solution. Grow. Be true to yourself.

I will give you an example of what I mean here, as I know I may come across as a little bit vague.

Take this example: the man or woman who says that they will never cheat on their spouse.

And….somewhere along the line……whoopsadaisys!!!

They’ve cheated on their love. Why? I mean, you said you never would, right? It’s totally against what you believe in?

On the one hand, it’s true that, if your sexual/intimate/love needs are not met, one will want to justify their violation of their own beliefs (in this case, cheating) with the reasoning that their needs weren’t met.

A person of true character has the integrity to deal with the situation.

Either make the relationship better – make it how you want it to be (make no excuses, do all that you can), or leave. That is true character. And it’s one reason why I once said that there’s no such thing as a home-wrecker.

(Because when something is wrong in our lives, it takes character – internal resourcefulness – to add value to it until it changes, rather than blame others.)

Every woman has an element of changeability in her emotions, and I don’t believe your job as a woman is to control them.

But there are just some things – some basic, foundational values she must have in order to be a woman of character.

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4: Develop Poise.

See my post: 7 Steps to Instant Poise for a detailed article on poise.

Poise helps with character because it gives you presence. It also helps to add to the overall visual effect of character, and it shows that you’re confident.

5: Do What Is Right, In Any Situation.

Give value from the heart t those you love and trust.

Don’t do it only when it’s easy, or when you’ve been given the ‘OK’.

As a woman, you don’t need to be combative or arrogant to do what is right. It’s part of a real woman’s job to leave the world a better place than it was.

An example of this is something that everybody has seen and witnessed in their lifetime: the school bully and the victim.

It is a very rare occasion in which you see a child or young adult standing up to a school bully. But the one who does is the one with character. It takes character to stand up for somebody. 

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Again, as a woman, you don’t have to be combative. Often, it’s enough to just say ‘no’ from a place of attunement and certainty.

And when standing up for others, it could be as simple as acting from a place of truly caring.

There’s something I always tell myself, and it’s really stuck with me through the recent months: I’d rather be hated for doing what is right than be accepted for doing what is wrong. 

6: I Know It’s Hard, But Accept The Ageing Process!

Your wrinkles are your character lines. They show the way you move your face!

If you have habitually been depressed, then your wrinkles probably reflect that you’re somewhat an unhappy person.

In which case, you have to change the way you feel (something I’ll get in to in later posts), and your lines will then fade and change according to your new facial movement patterns.

Plastic surgery only changes so much before your old, habitual (negative) emotions kick back in and this will start to show up on your face.

But if you’re a really happy person, you’re wrinkles will likely be in all the right places, and you’ll always be radiant.

This is a beautiful thing despite what certain groups, media and modern advertising has tried to brainwash you in to thinking.

There really is nothing worse than a “frozen” face engineered by plasticity, don’t you think?

7: Don’t Be Afraid To Voice Your Thoughts And Opinions.

They’re important. Some women travel through life listening and nodding to what everyone else says, and shy away from asserting themselves when necessary.

They don’t want to voice their opinions. It’s not about trying to grab attention all the time; it’s about being YOU.

Remember that you, just like anyone else, have the right to express your opinion.

I know a woman who is really nice, by definition. She’s really pleasant. The only problem is, when I’m with her, I feel like shaking something out of her because every time I (or someone else) expresses an opinion, she just nods.

There’s no response. Nothing.

The thing is, I WANT to hear her thoughts. I want to know what she thinks, but she’s intent on her quietness. And her response is always the same.

Consequently, the conversations are:

  • Predictable
  • Un-stimulating
  • Dispassionate; and
  • Neutral

When you put these 4 things together, the result is that there’s no real connection there.

It’s hard to remember the conversations or to create any fun, happy memories with a person like this.

Even if you disagree with someone on something, and you’re always arguing with them; at least you’re adding something to the conversation. At least you’re emitting energy.

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Things That Negate Character

  • Conforming (akin to a sheep)
  • Lack of confidence
  • Thinking only of yourself
  • Being nonchalant about things; especially things that matter.
  • Following fashion trends to excess
  • Not challenging yourself – everything in your world is either growing or it’s dying. There’s no in-between. If you’re not challenging yourself, then you’re less likely to add value to others, to conversations, etc.
  • Feeling the need to lie. Integrity is central to character – To have character you must exude candor, honesty, and sincerity.

And finally, another quick example. You know those friends whom you thought were friends, but when something unexpected happened in your life – they disappear?

Perhaps you made a once-off mistake, perhaps something happened to you that made you less “useful” to them than you once were – and all of a sudden, they disappeared off the radar?

Kaput. Their friendship was gone?!

Yep. That’s what I consider a lack of character. What about you?

Related: Are Low Value Friends Even Worth It?

Examples Of Women With Character:

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(Please  note: Some of the examples below show people whose moral character could possibly be questioned – however, they are listed because of their devotion to their unique identity/character.

Vanessa Paradis

Mother Teresa

Audrey Hepburn

Louise L. Hay

Goldie Hawn

Examples Of Men With Character:

Karl Lagerfeld

Laurence Fishburne

Jack Nicholson

Anthony Robbins

Nelson Mandela

Christian Bale

Eminem

Coach John Wooden

Do you agree with this post? What do you think is true character? Do you have any juicy stories of your experiences with women without true character?

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