It’s frustrating when men don’t put much effort into the relationship right?
You can complain about it. You can get angry about it. You can call all men lazy, or you can inspire him to want to make the effort by what I’m about to share with you.
So why DON’T men put more effort into relationships?
Why do they have such resistance sometimes when it comes to dating & relationships?
And why do men stop trying in relationships?
Well, let me tell you why. It’s because most men are not only terrible at understanding, feeling and relating to women – they are not intuitively driven to create intimate relationships.
They’re intuitively driven to create sexual encounters with you, but not the type of long term committed relationships that us women need.
And that’s not me disrespecting men, in fact I love and appreciate men exactly as they are.
I’m just telling it as it is, and I’ve been saying it for more than 15 years now.
For most men, relationships feel as intuitive to them as reading a 74 page instruction manual on using the lawn mower is for us women.
Think about it, when boys are growing up, they never talk about relationships with their buddies like us women talk to our women friends. You already know this, right?
So as a result of this, us women are much more well versed in the world of relationships than men are or could ever be.
So for the most part, men are simply reacting to the energy of the woman that is in front of him.
Men may be driven towards sex, but they’re not intuitively driven to create a long term committed and intimate relationship until the right woman shows up.
As women, relationships are really important to us. Our emotional wellbeing, our livelihood and our self esteem is very often tied to the relationships we have around us.
So what I’m saying is that intimate relationship is the domain of the feminine energy.
That doesn’t mean that relationship in general isn’t important to men, not at all! Of course it is! It’s just that most men are not well versed in that realm of life, and you may have noticed this yourself.
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What Draws A Man To You?
Men don’t have the pleasure and privilege of bearing children inside their bodies, and so they don’t quite feel the need for attachment as much as we women do, but that’s not a bad thing.
Ultimately, men need to go out, be fearless and do their hunting.
However when it comes to relationships, it almost always comes down to your feminine core that invites, allures and draws a man to you. Its your energy that inspires a man to want to make you his one and only.
In order for men to take the step to invest and commit to a relationship with you, he needs to feel that he’s investing in a high value yet feminine and vulnerable woman.
That’s the kind of energy he’ll respond positively to. He needs to feel like he has something precious to hold onto, cherish and protect.
But here’s the good news. You as a woman, have everything it takes to inspire your man’s deepest commitment and make him want you and only you.
In other words, in order for you to have and experience that deeply committed relationship that us as feminine women all crave, you need to understand what it takes to become your man’s one and only. That is where all of your answers lie.
Men Will Give ALL Their Time And Attention To This Type Of Woman
Here’s an inconvenient truth…
A man will give you all of his time, attention, emotional energy and resources when you become his one and only type of woman, and he will give you virtually nothing when he sees you as his one of many.
When I say virtually nothing, I mean he’ll do the bare minimum just to keep you around. That means that he’ll try just hard enough to keep you lingering as a resource in his life, but never anything more.
And that’s nothing like the love, the adoration and the commitment that women receive when they’ve become their man’s one and only. So as you can imagine, there’s nothing quite as important for you as a feminine woman to understand the process behind being your chosen man’s one and only.
This is why I’ve put together a very special program titled “Becoming His one and only”.
Inside this program, I want to teach you in detail the 5 secrets to having your chosen man fall in love with you and beg you to be his one and only.
You can get yourself a copy at here.
Why do men stop trying in relationships?
There are several most likely reasons why. Tell me which one feel like it applies the most to you:
- Because they feel like their efforts are not deeply felt and appreciated by their woman.
- Because external stressors are sapping his energy, time and hope in life.
- Because whenever they do something for you, they are expecting a visible, tangible response (either good, bad, or meh) and they’re not getting much of a response, so they stop trying because the effort wasn’t worth it.
- Because you’re taking far more value than you’re giving.
- Because they’re afraid of failing.
- Because the relationship isn’t important enough to them.
- Maybe he has too many backup options or he was already overly invested in an ex. This might mean you were in a rebound relationship.
- Because while they put lots of effort in at the start of the relationship to woo you, it’s now time to move onto a more stable cycle in the relationship (which is good for child rearing or creating a more stable life where energy is conserved).
- Because everything is too serious and stressful and they need more playfulness from you.
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Over to You!
Anyway I hope this article has helped you and I can’t wait to speak to you again very soon.
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Renee is the founder of The Feminine Woman & co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach women how to show up as a high value high status woman whom easily inspires a deep sense of emotional commitment from her chosen man. She graduated with a bachelor of Law and bachelor of Arts majoring in sociology and psychology. She has been a dating and relationship coach for women in the past 15 years and together with her husband D. Shen at Commitment Triggers blog, they have positively influenced the lives of over 20 million women through their articles and videos as well as 10’s of thousands through paid programs through the Shen Wade Media platform.
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