Why Men Don’t Put More Effort into the Relationship?

It’s frustrating when men don’t put much effort into the relationship right?

You can complain about it. You can get angry about it. You can call all men lazy, or you can inspire him to want to make the effort by what I’m about to share with you.

So why DON’T men put more effort into relationships?

Why do they have such resistance sometimes when it comes to dating & relationships?

Well, let me tell you why. It’s because most men are not only terrible at understanding, feeling and relating to women – they are not intuitively driven to create intimate relationships.

They’re intuitively driven to create sexual encounters with you, but not the type of long term committed relationships that us women need.

And that’s not me disrespecting men, in fact I love and appreciate men exactly as they are.

I’m just telling it as it is, and I’ve been saying it for more than a decade now.

For most men, relationships feel as intuitive to them as reading a 74 page instruction manual on using the lawn mower is for us women.

Think about it, when boys are growing up, they never talk about relationships with their buddies like us women talk to our women friends. You already know this, right?

So as a result of this, us women are much more well versed in the world of relationships than men are or could ever be.

So for the most part, men are simply reacting to the energy of the woman that is in front of him.

Men may be driven towards sex, but they’re not intuitively driven to create a long term committed and intimate relationship until the right woman shows up.

As women, relationships are really important to us. Our emotional wellbeing, our livelihood and our self esteem is very often tied to the relationships we have around us.

So what I’m saying is that intimate relationship is the domain of the feminine energy.

That doesn’t mean that relationship in general isn’t important to men, not at all! Of course it is! It’s just that most men are not well versed in that realm of life, and you may have noticed this yourself.

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What Draws A Man To You?

Men don’t have the pleasure and privilege of bearing children inside their bodies, and so they don’t quite feel the need for attachment as much as we women do, but that’s not a bad thing.

Ultimately, men need to go out, be fearless and do their hunting.

However when it comes to relationships, it almost always comes down to your feminine core that invites, allures and draws a man to you. Its your energy that inspires a man to want to make you his one and only.

In order for men to take the step to invest and commit to a relationship with you, he needs to feel that he’s investing in a high value yet feminine and vulnerable woman.

That’s the kind of energy he’ll respond positively to. He needs to feel like he has something precious to hold onto, cherish and protect.

But here’s the good news. You as a woman, have everything it takes to inspire your man’s deepest commitment and make him want you and only you.

In other words, in order for you to have and experience that deeply committed relationship that us as feminine women all crave, you need to understand what it takes to become your man’s one and only. That is where all of your answers lie.

CLICK HERE to LEARN the One Specific Emotional Trigger Within Every Masculine Man That Inspires Him to Want to Take Care of You, Worship You and Deeply Commit to You.

Men Will Give ALL Their Time And Attention To This Type Of Woman

Here’s an inconvenient truth

A man will give you all of his time, attention, emotional energy and resources when you become his one and only type of woman, and he will give you virtually nothing when he sees you as his one of many.

When I say virtually nothing, I mean he’ll do the bare minimum just to keep you around. That means that he’ll try just hard enough to keep you lingering as a resource in his life, but never anything more.

And that’s nothing like the love, the adoration and the commitment that women receive when they’ve become their man’s one and only. So as you can imagine, there’s nothing quite as important for you as a feminine woman to understand the process behind being your chosen man’s one and only.

This is why I’ve put together a very special program titled “Becoming His one and only”.

Inside this program, I want to teach you in detail the 5 secrets to having your chosen man fall in love with you and beg you to be his one and only.

You can get yourself a copy at here.

Anyway I hope this article has helped you and I can’t wait to speak to you again very soon. Please leave me a comment below, telling me if you liked this post or not! I always read my blog comments!

renee wade

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I don’t think it has to do with men not discussing relationships with other men, I know this because I’ve heard men talk about their relationships amongst each other.
The real issue is immaturity, greed and lack of communication skills.
It’s all within the mentality of the individual

Elizabeth Reynolds
Elizabeth Reynolds

Good morning Renee, I want Thank you and your Husband Wade for this Program, your work is Amazingly informative and I’m enjoying it so much. Just got done watching your video above and you mentioned there was an *Online* version of the DVD> >>

***How To Become His One & Only***

I would like Very much to know where I can find this *Online* version of thus Video. Please advise-

Elizabeth Reynolds


Just like @Kofybean here. “Women always want more” Do you have any idea how frustrating it is to make the effort to call, to visit frequently, to compliment your woman….just for her to continue saying: “you don’t speak my love language” “you don’t appreciate me” “you don’t do enough of this… you don’t do enough of that” “I still don’t feel satisfied, and I shouldn’t have to tell you why” “If you start singing/playing guitar for me now, then I’ll know its only because I asked, and not because you want to…so I won’t enjoy it” I may not be… Read more »


If men didn’t put any effort into dating and relationships there would be no dates or relationships because women do even less.

Here is the inconvenient truth: women will demand all the time, energy, and money they can from a man, and once they have squeezed him for every ounce, thats when they will start complaining that he doesn’t do enough.

She will compete with everything he loves until he either loses himself or her loses her. Women always want more but that’s not a conversation you’ll address.


I think you are wrong. Guys brag about their relationships with their bros all the time. And I also believe guys put more effort into relationships. Countless times I have seen men go all in with a woman. And later down the road she ends up breaking his heart. Some people I know haven’t gotten over their last girlfriend/wife and it has been years. But I know a lot of women who can’t even remember much about their last relationship or any relationship for that matter. So if that’s true explain that.


Hi Renee, I have been re-reading and re-watching your programs and posts, to try and figure out what is happening in my relationship.This is the first time I have been in a long term relationship, (nearly 3 years) so Im unsure if this is my boyfriend pulling out ( because he is doing his manly stuff) or because he isnt interested anymore but doesnt have the courage to end it, since we live together. I just feel lonely, sad and deeply hurt. I hope I have to strenght to figure this out.

Much love


I’ve been reading and watching for years. I value your work. Thank you for what you do!


This is great information! I appreciate all of your articles!!

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