A more physically ‘perfect’ or glamorous woman needn’t always cause jealousy or envy among other women.
But a beautiful, feminine woman can cause enormous jealousy.
If you’ve always been a beautiful and feminine woman, you would have experienced countless jealous looks and perhaps even jealous schemes, engineered by other women.
It’s everywhere. And you can be a plain Jane and cause this jealous stir among other women, because you have something other women feel they do not; the amazing and mysterious force of femininity.
Where Can You Come Across Jealous & Envious Women?
Jealous and envious women can be women on the street whom you don’t know, or even a jealous friend or friends, in the form of ‘frenemies’.
(A frenemy is a friend who seems like a friend, and other times seems to want the worst for you.)
Good looks do not keep a man. Every woman knows this deep down.
And a physically gorgeous woman; even a famous woman crowned the most beautiful woman in the world, cannot have it all.
Take Halle Berry for example, having been cheated on or left by every man she’s been with.
Take Marilyn Monroe, who died way before she should have.
Take Elle Macpherson, who in her 40s still has gorgeous looks, and yet she hasn’t held or kept a man.
Take for example the large number of famous women who have committed suicide or died of some sort of drug overdose.
No amount of beautiful looks or fame will fulfill a woman. You can be the most beautiful woman on earth, and still feel unloved.
But when a woman is truly feminine and high value, she tends to never, ever be short of men in her life if she’s single.
It’s the feminine and high value women who tend to make men fall in love them. Find out why in this article “2 Traits Of Women That Men Routinely Fall In Love With.”
Even if a woman is taken, she may find it hard to fight off her man’s adoring, admiring affections even if she wanted to.
Intra-Sexual Competition & Envious Women Are Ubiquitous
Enter the concept called intra-sexual competition among women.
(I’m sure as a woman, you’re familiar with this, right?)
Where there’s competition, there’s envy and jealousy. Because the emotions of envy and jealousy are an evolutionary tool that signals to us that we are faring worse than a rival is, and need to be more competitive.
(In fact, as distasteful as women’s behaviour can be when they feel jealous or envious, these emotions are not only necessary, but ubiquitous too. Find out more about why this is the case in this research conducted by David Buss.)
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Jealousy on Fire
More often than not, a loving, devoted and amazing man in another woman’s life will cause jealousy on fire in some other women.
Also, even if a feminine woman is single, other women can still hate her.
For no reason other than the fact that this woman has something that they feel is out of reach for them.
Which is one of the ultimate attractors of masculine men.
Every woman can achieve true femininity, but not every woman does.
In fact, women who are jealous are often not even really aware of what this other woman has that she doesn’t.
All she knows is that she wants what she’s got, deep down.
Feminine women attract male attention. Feminine women can have the pick of the bunch, and yes, feminine women CAN have it all.
Because true femininity is radiant and gives love. It is love and it is a force for life.
Throughout the course of your life, (if you embrace your feminine sexual core), you will most definitely encounter a trail of hateful and angry women, regardless of your age.
Jealousy isn’t just incited in other women only when you’re young and beautiful. It occurs simply if you are beautiful.
And femininity is beautiful. Men will jump hoops to protect it, love it, embrace it and chase it.
Jealous women may just give you a nasty look, a hateful sideways glance, and if you’re lucky, they may bitch about you behind your back.
If you’re unlucky, jealous women will go out of their way to bring you down.
And in this heavily masculine ambition driven society, there are plenty of them. Because women suppress their feminine energy to get things done, and to conform.
So they don’t often get what they truly want to experience. Which is love.
Signs A Girl Is Jealous Of Another Girl
- She seems to preferentially take the side of others (even strangers), even though you’re supposedly “friends”.
- She opportunistically criticises you and points out flaws in you.
- She may exclude you from events, parties and new social opportunities.
- She seems to never compliment you. (I’ve issued a warning about girlfriends who never compliment you for a reason!)
- She steals away attention from you, whether inconspicuously or conspicuously.
- She talks behind your back.
- She tries to befriend you or get close to you, but it just feels fake.
Many Women Envy Other Women With Love In Their Lives
Ultimately, we’re all looking for a feeling, and more often than not, most women want to fill up with love and to give love.
Very masculine women don’t tend to attract this in to their lives. So if you are feminine, you’ll have something that they feel they are missing out on, yet don’t quite know what it is or how to achieve it.
And life is unfair to start with. So we don’t all have the same opportunities.
We’re not all born with stunning looks, and we’re not all given the requisite knowledge to live happy, fulfilling lives and to enjoy enriching and fulfilling intimate relationships and marriages.
Now if you’re a very feminine woman, you will most likely not feel a great deal of jealousy if you see another beautiful woman who is truly happy.
In fact, you’ll most likely be really happy for her and want to revel in this happiness with her. Even if you do not have it yourself! This may be because you feel you too, can have what she has.
You are a rare creature 🙂 not all women can revel in the good fortune of another woman.
If you are the kind of woman who feels guilty being in the spotlight, then even though you enjoy being feminine, you may find it hard to fully enjoy it without feeling bad about taking away the spotlight from other women.
Never dull your femininity to make other women feel like they are enough.
Consider this video if you’re curious about why some feminists may avoid the concept of becoming more feminine.
And unattractive is not purely physical. I believe a woman can actually change her looks and become uglier on the outside through her internal thought processes.
One way in which you can deal with jealousy is by befriending the jealous woman and leading her to feel more confident in herself.
By being more giving to her, you build HER confidence by giving her reasons to feel loved and accepted.
That will bring out a different side to her.
And, you can show other women who are less confident that they can have, and deserve to have everything that they want and need.
However, there are times when women just don’t want to change or feel truly great about themselves. In these cases, you’ve just got to do some serious ‘pattern-breaking’; breaking of their patterns/habits!
How do you deal with women who are jealous of you?
If you find yourself in a situation in which you are surrounded by envious, jealous or oppressive women who you can sense are not only talking about you behind your back, but actively do things behind your back to bring you down, it’s time to take action. Here’s what to do:
- Accept the truth. Acknowledge how she really is by observing how she acts towards you and treats you (rather than focusing on what she says). She probably feels in competition with you, and you need to know that and accept that.
- Don’t blame yourself.
- Stand up for yourself.
Because you cannot let women like this walk all over you. A woman still has to be able to put her foot down when it is needed. (read my article about passive, aggressive and difficult women).
You may believe that a feminine woman should just stay quiet and perhaps just sacrifice her own needs to avoid being around these women. Not true.
I have said before that a feminine woman needs to be multi dimensional.
She needs to have dark femininity as well as light femininity. And this is a situation in which you need to go in to a different mode to stand up to women like this.
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A Story: She Was So Jealous, She Abused Me
I’ll give you an example. In my own life, I’ve experienced being in a workplace full of women several times.
More than a decade ago, I was working as a perfume ambassador. Whilst in some places, women in this type of occupation would be quite feminine (and there were a couple where I worked), there were a few very masculine and jealous women.
On my first day, I encountered a young woman who also worked as a perfume ambassador, just for a different agent.
I adore people, so I cheerfully introduced myself and intended to make a friend. (Obviously this was before I noticed the energy she was putting out.)
She had no interest in befriending me. In fact, with a stone cold face, she immediately asserted herself as a manager.
She made her position sound higher than what it really was. Because I was new there, I was easy to fool.
We shall call her ‘B’.
So Jealous, She Became Oppressive
Immediately, B was asserting herself upon me and I was following her commands, although I actually wasn’t obligated to follower her commands.
But she was still very oppressive, and I made the mistake of getting stuck in a ‘master-servant’ type role with her, which was very uncomfortable.
B’s intentions showed up more when I needed her expertise to guide me to where to find items, where other products were located, etc.
She would never be concise and accurate. She was always deliberately vague, so much so that I had no idea where she was pointing me to.
She wanted me to keep asking her, and ultimately, look foolish.
I unfortunately let myself fall in to this role with her repeatedly.
(By the way, here are 10 Seemingly Harmless Signs Of A Toxic Relationship.)
She also knew I was never taught to use a register, and that it wasn’t a part of my job to be able to use one; yet she would tell me to put things through the register in front of a customer, and walk away without offering assistance.
During these incidents, I had to ask her repeatedly for directions and she would roll her eyes at me when I couldn’t follow her instructions.
I kept on with this situation because I didn’t really want to believe that she could be so deliberately manipulative.
Jealous Of My Relationship With My Husband
I noticed also, that her behaviour got worse when my husband came to visit me at work.
He did this often, and was always very affectionate, protective and loving. He often picked me up from my shifts.
Sometimes he would bring me a drink or food for my lunch break, and other times he just came briefly, to see how I was.
I began to sense that every time he did come to see me, she would pull another woman aside, and talk about me and point at myself and David.
Over time, I noticed that the other women who I thought I had made friends with stopped wanting to talk to me.
I felt left out and excluded. I ended up in tears in the ladies’ room, and found it hard to work.
I found it hard to push on in this environment, and the energy was very bad.
One day her and another colleague were talking, and she confessed that she had never been on a date (she is 24, nearly 25) or had a man interested in her.
I felt bad for ‘B’, and thus continued indicating that I was still open to her, and open to befriending her in some way, as I am with most people.
Until one day I met another colleague from a different department who told me how she was in tears one day after work because of the way ‘B’ had been treating her.
And this is the trouble with being a very feminine woman.
Whilst the majority of men will love you for it, and not want to hurt you in any way, there will be women who will want to put you down.
Women Are Different Around Other Very Feminine Women
Women, I find, tend to be different around other very feminine women.
I’ve met women who love this and feel at home with other feminine women, but I’ve also come across women who smell femininity from a mile away and proceed to trample all over it. I personally love women, and celebrate femininity.
You’re probably wondering how I ended up dealing with ‘B’.
Asserting Boundaries With A Jealous Woman
Remember when I mentioned that even as a gentle, soft and kind woman, you still have to have boundaries and a dark side to you?
Well, I asserted my boundaries.
One morning, I noticed that one woman whom had always been nice to me stopped talking to me completely and starting being very snarky.
I had a sneaking suspicion it had something to do with B.
So I took the liberty of confronting my friend and asked. Indeed, B had told her, among other things, a blatant lie about me.
So I went up to B and confronted her in front of every employee, stating to her that she shall come to me from now on, to tell things to my face, rather than telling fibs behind my back.
I proceeded to ask her why she was doing it.
(I hadn’t seen myself cause fear in another woman like this for a long time).
Yet, I had to do it to liberate myself and to show her that I wasn’t going to tolerate her behaviour.
The point of my story is to show that there are scenarios in which a feminine woman must assert herself and embrace her own direction.
You may cause a ruckus, but you will also be respected.
You may think you’re too confrontational or masculine for doing so, but you will have protected yourself, exactly as you should.
After all, if you don’t protect yourself from other women oppressing you and denigrating you, then who will?
It’s all part of being a dynamic and whole woman, who is able to bring out different sides of herself when it is needed. (read my article about light and dark feminine)
You need to use your dark femininity, or simply just your human assertiveness around other women.
Yes, sometimes, you have to become even more masculine than them, to bring justice to your own life.
When confronted with jealous women, or even other aggressive women who disrespect you or your womanliness, it is important to stand your ground, rather than shy away from it.
I learned this lesson, as I let the situation go on a lot longer than I should have!
Do you have any strategies to deal with jealousy from other women? Or do you have any juicy stories? Feel free to share with us 😀
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