Have you seen one lately? A lady, I mean. I had to scratch my head a few times to think of one.
There are the ‘traditional’ types of ladies, such as Audrey Hepburn and a more modern example – Kate Middleton.
Then there are the modern ladies who dress the part, but whose choices in life are coloured by the progressive world we live in.
These modern ladies may not be considered a ‘lady’ by the old style ladies.
It’s wonderful to be a classy lady, but I believe our society no longer values the ‘uptight’ women who are always trying to please and be perfectly elegant.
Being elegant all the time is terribly one dimensional. If you have to be elegant all the time, then you lose that whimsical side to your personality.
In other words, you can lose that playfulness and fluidity in your personality that makes you able to connect on multiple different levels with many different people.
I mean, just because one is a lady doesn’t mean she is to be restricted in life.
It doesn’t mean she has to be untouchable, and unable to get herself dirty.
Confining oneself to strict ladyship is terribly one-dimensional and annoying for one’s friends, family and acquaintances.
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How To Be A Modern Lady
Firstly, to “define” our subject of interest:
Meaning of a Lady: A well-mannered and considerate woman with high standards of proper behaviour. A woman who is regarded as proper and virtuous.
As you read through this article, notice what I’m doing here.
The point of this article has gone over many a person’s head over the last decade that it’s been read…
Just keep your sense of humour and an open mind, and you’ll find the real way to be a modern lady.
(If you’re on this blog, my guess is that you’re probably already somewhat a lady.)
Nonetheless, here are some tips to get you further on your way to ladyship:
1. Be generous with expressions of gratitude such as: ‘Thank You’ and ‘I appreciate that’.
2. Don’t say that you need to go to the bathroom; just excuse yourself.
3. When in doubt, dress modestly.
4. If someone smiles at you; smile back.
5. Do try to bring extra guests to an event, party or function. But ask politely first.
6. It is imperative that you develop good posture, which isn’t too hard to achieve.
7. Do say that you need to go to the bathroom, and excuse yourself.
8. Whatever you do, do it with Poise.
9. If a gentleman offers to pay for your dinner, politely accept and say ‘Thank You’.
10. If somebody gives you a lift somewhere, always say ‘Thank You’.
11. Don’t be demanding of favours. Rather, inconvenience yourself than burden others with your demands.
12. Don’t engage in casual flings purely out of personal desperation for sex. (Here’s an article on The Secret Cost Of Casual Sex For Women.)
13. Don’t keep f*** buddies.
14. Keep your natural skin colour! Ie: Rather your skin be naturally white as snow than as orange as this.
15. Don’t get fake breasts. Unless you have had an illness that necessitates fake breasts, choose authenticity and real self love over trying to “trick” men into desiring you more. The smart men value what is real.
16. Don’t be too quick to reveal your age, weight or bra size.
17. Respect a man.
18. Model after Audrey Hepburn. Or learn the art of being a classy woman here.
19. Reveal your age, weight and bra size.
20. Listen more than you speak.
21. Don’t talk on the phone in movies, in lectures, or at the dinner table.
22. Don’t respect a man if he doesn’t deserve your respect.
23. Wait for people to finish their sentences before you speak.
24. Don’t complain about the weather. You cannot change it anyway.
25. Don’t interrupt other people’s conversations. Politely wait.
26. Wait to be served or to ask a question, even if it is a quick question.
27. Don’t discuss religion or politics at the dinner table.
28. Don’t speak in a foreign language when there is another person or other people around who do not understand it.
29. Politely report and express your disappointment about a bad meal to a waiter. Don’t crack it at the waiter.
30. When in Rome, do as Romans do.
31. Be on time.
32. Apologize for being late.
33. Call if you are going to be late.
34. Respect other people’s opinions. Don’t shove your views in their faces as gospel.
35. Don’t be tyrannical.
36. Hear others out before assuming your way of doing things is the superior way.
37. Believe you are number one. (Here’s an article that will show you how to be the number one high value woman!)
38. Shine the light upon others.
39. Be modest in character.
40. Don’t think you are number one.
41. Don’t laugh at other people’s misfortune.
42. Give other people credit if they have helped you (even if they don’t know they helped you). Give more than they “deserve”.
43. Assume every day is a new beginning.
44. Don’t burp or fart out loud in front of people.
45. Think before you speak.
46. Don’t scare people (within context).
47. Don’t wear the same jacket as everybody else.
48. Don’t carry weapons.
49. If you say you will do something, follow up on it.
50. Honour anyone who has ever helped you. And never forget that they have helped you.
51. Wear the same jacket as everybody else.
52. Be charming.
53. Don’t tell sexist or racist jokes.
54. Always RSVP to events.
55. Don’t use call waiting. Use an answering machine instead.
56. Don’t lead men on.
57. Don’t flirt with men you’re not interested in.
58. Always leave a tip. (Oops).
59. Have a tidy appearance.
60. Keep good personal hygiene.
61. Have messy hair.
62. Recognize inconsistencies in personality for what they are. Inconsistencies. A chance to re-align your values. These do not define a person.
64. Respect your neighbors and close the windows and doors when you are getting frisky with your man. (Common sense is not always so common).
65. Treat people as equals.
66. Make mistakes. Be obvious about it.
67. Honor your mistakes.
68. When leaving a social function, always say goodbye to everyone you spoke to.
69. Win some false friends and true enemies. And know you’ve succeeded anyway.
70. Be reasonable.
71. Be unreasonable. Reasonable people are stuck in their own limited version of reality.
72. Think carefully before you do something you regret. Instead, ask yourself: “what do I REALLY, truly value in my life?”
73. Ask yourself: “where’s the good in this?”
74. Remember, you are MORE than your behavior.
75. Accept the features you have been given, and in turn, accept other people’s features.
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Now over to you. Yes, you! 🙂
So what does being a lady mean to you? What tips have you got for us? Any questions about my list? Confusions? Feel free to type away!
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