Don’t Be Afraid to offend Men!

Don’t be afraid to offend men! Unless of course, you’re deliberately being critical or mean.

There’s a little blind spot for feminine women in dating, and that’s the act of projecting.

Projecting as in…we are sensitive souls. We thrive and grow through praise.

So we assume that if someone bantered to us with a seemingly negative comment (that is actually just playfulness), then they must hate us and that they are a horrible person.

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Remember, Men Aren’t As Easily Offended As You Are!

Men who have had healthy masculine role models and influences simply aren’t that easily offended, if at all!

The masculine thrives on challenge! Whereas the feminine thrives on praise.

This feminine bias in mindset means that we assume that even playful banter can mean horrible things, which is not true.

(If you’re grown up with lots of brothers, you are probably already somewhat desensitised or even “acclimatised” to playful banter).

Men, unless they are pansies, usually grow up challenging each other.

(I use the word pansies to describe men who think more like women, which is the definition of the word. I do not mean it as an insult!)

See, it’s not uncommon to hear men use words like “pathetic” and “loser” in their banter to other men.

In fact, so many women have been using this one special phrase that I teach to my members, (a form of banter) to get any man’s undivided attention…

And this phrase is not intuitive for women, but it makes so much sense to men!

Check out what that phrase is here.

CLICK HERE to discover the ONE PHRASE you can say to ANY man that will capture his attention, trigger his curiosity and make him hang onto every word you say!

Why It’s High Value To Use Playful Banter With Men

So, it’s ok. You’re doing yourself a huge favour by bantering with men.

Even if you are seemingly challenging them or using words that might seem insulting. It’s all about your intent.

It’s banter. Not a game of insulting random men on dating apps.

The high value men can handle it.

High value banter helps you eliminate the wrong kinds of men.

Narcissists and abusers cannot handle such banter, and this is why we teach this method; so that you can quickly eliminate them online.

The other reason why high value banter is so useful, is because it helps you quickly identify which men are there with the intention of attuning to you.

Men who are only dating online to pass the time, to get attention, or to play women, will not be able to handle this high value banter.

So, again, do not be afraid to use banter! You can learn more about how to build emotional attraction with men using banter in this article.

Because as a single woman dating, your task is not just to find and keep a man.

That’s your bias as a woman: to try to keep and attach to people, or at the very least, the interactions you have with them.

But that isn’t your only task.

Your task is first and foremost, to eliminate the wrong men, especially in online dating.

We as women tend to not want to lose people. Even if they’re crappy people. But that doesn’t serve us.

Instead, we must cultivate the strength to eliminate the wrong men.

It serves us to eliminate the weak ones, and be proud that we have that ability and awareness to do so quickly.

Case study: Learn how Kristin went from being completely burnt out with online dating, sick of getting ghosted and completely exhausted from giving her heart and soul with nothing in return… To having high value men begging for her attention & having the most “electric” date of her entire life. (…All by changing one simple strategy.)

Don’t Make The Mistake of Trying To Just Be “Feminine” All The Time

I know there’s this culture out there of trying to be “feminine” all the time and not ever risking looking “masculine”.

This kind of advice is moreso for women who really don’t have any relationship with their feminine energy.

If you feel like this is you, I have an article on this for you: How To Be More Feminine: 18 Ways Of A Soft, Feminine Woman.

CLICK HERE to discover how much you truly live in your feminine energy with my specially crafted 9 Question Quiz!

If you already have a somewhat healthy relationship with your feminine, then you’re free to explore the masculine side of the world.

It really is ok to have more than one part to you. Feminine is not all you are.

In fact, remember when you were growing up, you, or many of your girlfriends may have explored a tomboy side of them.

That was healthy and a part of growing up.

(In fact, the tomboy is one of the 8 feminine roles that allure and attract men. And we teach about this in one of our Attraction Control Monthly volumes.)

Learn more about how to use the 17 attraction triggers to get a man’s blood boiling uncontrollably here.

More than 10 years ago when I started The Feminine Woman blog, I also got a little over excited about “feminine” energy, and thought I had to be that all. the. time.

Thankfully, I’ve grown more aware and more relaxed. More importantly, more appreciative of my ability to explore the masculine.

And what freedom that has given me!

Try The Dark Feminine Art Of High Value Banter For Yourself

So, don’t be afraid to offend men. My husband D. Shen (who is my co teacher and co creator of our programs), will tell you.

In fact, he has a free class on the Dark Feminine Art of High Value Banter. I think you should take it sometime (the class is right here).

It’s been a total game changer for many women, and it will help you sort through the trash that is in the pool of online dating.

Case Study: Learn how our introverted Alena finally overcame her skepticism to start using “High Value Banter” …And the result? He asked her out almost instantly, and for the first time in her life, she started attracting highly esteemed men & making real progress in overcoming her own anxious attachment patterns. 
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Sapphire
Sapphire

Yes to this! So much fun going beyond ‘social-norms’… 💯👌

Gaby
Gaby

Gosh I don’t know what it is but man this feminine bias of projecting sure is strong because I’ve watched the high value banter class, read the related articles including this one, and yet I still feel rather hesitant to using playful banter for the same fear of insulting men. Even though I can understand that they’re used to it because all their mates banter with them, I still feel like it would come across differently from a woman. We know men have sensitive egos right? Even the high value men still have egos so I’m scared to bruise it.… Read more »

Maria
Maria

An interesting idea, but still I don’t understand it well. Is this not going to make you less authentic? Or one of the boys? I’m a woman who likes to be outdoors, hiking on my own with my dogs or horse riding, driving an oldtimer tractor to do some work on the meadow, so it’s not that I am very very feminine throughout. Lately two 11 years old boys were helping me and one of them really hurt his foot. I immediately took of his shoe and took care of him, but his friend gave a look, a bit startled… Read more »

Maria
Maria
Reply to  Renee Wade

Hi Renee, thanks for further explaining the topic; I like your commitment to share those thoughts! The idea of learning a skill makes it more clear to me. I’m still thinking about it to make up my mind about this, but sometimes it takes a while to grasp a new idea. My confussion might be the fact that some women get a bit rude or sarcastic to men although their intention is being playfull. Playfulness and a bit teasing is something I like to do with people I know well. Recently a men was helping with a small excavator in… Read more »

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