Article updated 2018
Warning: Pick Your Friends Carefully
Do you have any dreams? Do you have wishes? Any desires or planned outcomes? Do you have any goals in life? And do you have anyone around you who’s pulling you away from your goals and desires? (Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”)
Do you have in mind the kind of relationship you’d like to have?
Do you have a picture in mind, of who you would like to be, represent or become?
Now…..who do you spend most of your time with? Who is in your friendship group? Who is your closest friend?
We all eventually become like who we spend our time with. It’s subconscious, it’s under the radar and it has a huge impact on our lives. So much so, that it will determine whether we’ll end up happy or depressed, wealthy or poor, healthy or sick. Your influences are infinitely important! (read my article about how other woman can ruin your happiness with a man)
Yes, that means that if you persistently hang around a bunch of rude, angry people, you will eventually end up rude and angry. Yes, this also means that if you hang around overweight, unfit people, eventually, you will become overweight and unfit, too.
Haven’t you ever been with a close friend or boyfriend/husband, and you both said the same thing at the same time? Or were thinking the exact same thing?
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I know of a woman (a friend of a friend) who spends a lot of time with her significant other. One night, they were asleep in bed together, and she woke up from a dream she had had, only to find her husband had awoken from exactly the same dream.
You’ve seen couples who look alike, right? In some close couples, this is particularly apparent in their later years. They have the same facial expressions and mannerisms.
We all do this subconsciously, as a way to feel more connected to the people around us. Especially the ones who mean the most to us.
There is a story of how a group of women living together in the same place/environment for a while; eventually find their menstrual cycles become synchronised. This has been known as the McClintock Effect.
If you’re on this blog, you are most likely a woman who values growth to an extent. You are most likely a woman who values learning and becoming more. You probably also understand and appreciate the value of becoming closer to your feminine core, and becoming more woman. If, however, you spend lots of time hanging around with people who primarily value certainty (comfort), and prefer to keep the status quo, then forget about your dreams, because these friends will bring you down.
One of the fastest ways to get to where you want to go – to become who you want to become, is to surround yourself with people who are already where you want to be. If you surround yourself with what some would term ‘shallow’ and/or egocentric women who are bitchy; you’ll end up becoming like that, too. (read my article about finding your true purpose as a woman)
Who do you think most people like to make friends with? People who are at the same level as them, or below them. So that they feel good about themselves.
Don’t hang around people who don’t honor your dreams, your soul and what your represent purely to settle for SOME sort of connection.
We all need love but most of us will settle just for connection. Are you in a friendship group where you can’t share your true passions? Are you passionate about becoming a truly feminine yet strong woman, but afraid to share this with your friends?
Today, make a promise to yourself: Honor yourself and choose your friends carefully, because you will become who you spend your time with.
So, over to you: are you happy in your current friendship group?
Do you feel supported unconditionally by your friends?
Who do you spend most of your time with? Feel free to share with us your thoughts below.
And you might want to go for Part 2 of this topic.
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Renee is the founder of The Feminine Woman & co-founder of Shen Wade Media where we teach women how to show up as a high value high status woman whom easily inspires a deep sense of emotional commitment from her chosen man. Together with her husband D. Shen at Commitment Triggers blog, they have positively influenced the lives of over 15 million women through their free articles and videos as well as 10’s of thousands through paid programs through the Shen Wade Media platform.
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