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What does Respect Look like to a Man?

Article updated 2018

Everybody knows men crave respect in an intimate relationship with a woman.

But it’s not always automatic to give it. Lately I’ve been toying with the idea that respecting a man is not 100% always a woman’s conscious choice, specifically in an intimate relationship situation. (Click here to complete the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”)

Here’s why: I feel deep respect for my fiancee, and it’s not logical. I don’t TELL  myself to respect him. He earned it by not being willing to be a passive man. I FEEL respect. It’s in my gut, it’s in my heart, and it exists as a part of my body. It is a part of me, almost like the lifeblood that runs through my body.

However, I have also chosen to GIVE respect to him even when I was scared.

Do you feel the same? Do you think that respecting a man is not your choice? Perhaps it is something you have to FEEL for a man?

Men who Command a woman’s Respect Automatically

I believe there are some men in the world, a smaller population of men, who command respect from a High Value woman automatically. (Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”)

For example: we walk past them in the street and it’s just the way he carries himself, the way he walks past you without checking you out and instead is fully focused on his mission in life; and he is true to that mission 100% and know his place in the world – you can’t help but respect him.

A woman who holds herself as Low Value might just chase after him and try to sleep with him and hope he will marry her, but a High Value woman will silently acknowledge him under her breath and give him respect instinctively.

A lot of men don’t deserve your respect; they talk a lot and do little, like many women do anyway. (read my article on the ideal man)

Respect in a Relationship with a Man

But when it comes to a relationship with a man, here’s what I suggest. You may not respect him fully YET. But give him the benefit of the doubt for one month.

You have to give yourself the chance to FEEL respect for him and give him a chance to be the Man.

Unless of course, he is completely useless as a man in a relationship. Some men just like to walk through life getting easy sex and not caring about anyone but their Mom. IF they even care about their Mom. And they like to just check you out and they have no idea that human beings have feelings; and that we have a soul, deeper than just being a piece of meat.

These men are probably not worth your time.

And – you don’t have to respect any man who is not worthy of your respect OUTSIDE of dating or a relationship. But when it comes to dating and having a relationship with a man, respecting a man matters, for the health of the relationship between you both.

BUT – here’s why  suggest giving the man you’ve chosen to date, the benefit of the doubt and respect him:

If you don’t start off respecting a man in any way at all, he can’t trust you, and the foundation of your connection falls to pieces. He can’t be the man you want him to be in the relationship, because you don’t even believe in him. You’re not giving him that gift. And if you don’t believe in him, he won’t trust you, or commit to you fully. He’s going to doubt you and feel afraid.

If instead, you start off dating a man coming primarily from FEAR – you can’t show respect or feel respect anyway. You’re not even there yet, because you are too fearful, and too much in survival mode.

Another thing…

The majority of women in this world prefer to marry UP. To heighten their social status, to be more financially stable…to be with a man who is more intelligent than her and makes more money than her. It’s instinctive. It doesn’t mean you can’t marry a man who makes less money than you do – provided you respect him and are really attracted to him, it doesn’t matter.

But biologically, women are driven to seek men of status; and to seek men of higher status than we are.

(What is the ONE thing you can say to ANY man that will capture his attention, trigger his curiosity and make him hang onto every word you say! Click here to find out right now…)

Men know women seek High Status Men

And here’s why that matters in relation to respect: men know intuitively, that women prefer to seek men of High Status. They know that intuitively. They can’t always SAY that, but they do know it. Which means, if you are criticizing him, and if you are pointing out everything you think is a flaw, and if you CAN’T let him take YOU places and make decisions, he will automatically feel emasculated, and he won’t commit fully to you.

He might be casual with you, but he won’t commit fully to you.

There’s no reason to. He doesn’t get one of the most crucial things he wants from a woman; respect.

If you don’t respect a man – your eyes show it, your body language shows it, the words that come out of your mouth show it. So he feels it. And if he feels that you don’t trust him; that’s a sign to him that you don’t see him as a valuable, respectable man. (read my article on how to find a good man)

Be Honest With Yourself about the Type of Man You REALLY Want

Although I am almost certain that respecting a man mostly isn’t your choice (though I’d like your input on this one), I DO believe that in the beginning stages of a relationship, you are both quite unsure and don’t know each other that well yet; so you need to give him the benefit of the doubt. And when you DO this; many men will step up to the plate and BE that strong, powerful man for you; earning your respect, but in any long term relationship, you can’t just call him weak or emasculate him and EXPECT him to be the man you want him to be.

This is why it’s crucial for you to NOT just go for any man who seems willing and available to HAVE a relationship with you.

Not only are you hurting yourself, you’re hurting him.

If you want an Alpha Male, if you WANT a High Status man, don’t pretend that you don’t. Be honest with yourself; be authentic. Don’t cheap out and go for a man you’re not really attracted to because you feel desperate for a relationship. I have done this before, and I was essentially a complete fraud. I was to scared to go for a Higher Value man; and I guess for good reason: I had not BECOME a High Value woman myself yet. (read my article about alpha male)

Is Respecting a Man Really Your Choice?

I still believe that if you are choosing to date a man; that you need to at least have the courage to respect him first for one month, unconditionally. But don’t expect respect in return unless you are a High Value woman, either. And unless you genuinely choose to be there dating him.

It’s become obvious to me that many people throw the word respect around as if they own it. They say: “oh I don’t respect that person, I have no respect for them; they did this, and they did that; oh what a loser.” – well, nobody respects you either.

Don’t claim you don’t respect people just so you can feel all high and mighty for a minute. People can feel that empty clawing for a moment of significance and self importance because you feel like you are small. Genuine respect is felt. Genuinely give respect where it is due, and if you are unsure whether to to give respect; give them the benefit of the doubt.

I am aware that there are plenty of people out there who prefer to sit on the couch and do nothing their entire life and who have no respect for anyone. Well, they don’t even respect their own existence in this world; they don’t even respect the life they’ve been given.

If you are able to give a man that you’ve chosen to date respect to start with, then, over time, you will see, and learn more about him. And you can make your decision from there. (read my article on the right time to sleep with a man)

Here’s where you can start with men. How to Give a Man Respect:

9 times out of 10, in the relationships I observe today, it’s the woman who wears the pants. And the man remains passive. In reality, he’s scared as hell. His testicles are in her jar, up in her secret little hiding cupboard.

Unless you are a naturally masculine woman, this isn’t your natural place. It’s not your place to emasculate a man and not trust him to do anything, or make any big decisions, or feel the need to point out what the should do and where he went wrong.

So try not wearing the pants for one month with the men you meet.

Don’t be passive either; that doesn’t work. I know that most women who hear this will go and be passive instead; and start operating from another extreme.

But – don’t sit there waiting for a man to do everything; you can give a suggestion, but trust him enough to let him make his own decisions for you both about where to go, and YES – let him make every mistake under the sun in his life without telling him what to do.

The reason you don’t want to do this is the reason you have to do it. Because it scares you.

That’s what it means to be with a man; allowing him the opportunity to be a man for you, and to make his own mistakes. He will want to do better for you when he sees that you will accept him even when he stuffs everything up. That’s the way men test women.

And if you feel you are too scared to do this; try anyway. You can always leave the relationship if you want. You won’t die from it.

So with all this ‘Talk’ about respect, respect, respect, you might wonder; what IS respect, and what it means to respect a man. I’ll give you some suggestions.

How to Respect a Man:

(Choose from these options based on whether you’re just dating a man for 1-5 months, or in a long term relationship. I trust you to choose.)

And if you are more masculine  that’s fine. Ignore these; because you may not want a relationship where the man is masculine and you are feminine. Choose another type of relationship that is true to you.

1)  Respecting a man means to not wear the pants.

2)  To give him the gift of your joy and not withholding your joy out of fear.

3)  To respect the fact that he has an ego, and this ego needs to feel good. You have the choice to laugh at that and say to this: ‘what a joke’ – that’s up to you. But it all depends on how much you genuinely want a relationship and want true love, and not just a significance trip for yourself. People can feel the difference between these two, by the way.

4) When he makes a mistake, don’t say: “I told you so.” or “Remember when I TOLD you NOT to do that?!” Find something more compassionate to say. He’s a human being.

5) Smile and enjoy the fun when he forgets a turn off or goes in the complete wrong direction. Oh. No? Do you prefer to roll your eyes and cross your arms and shake your head and tell him where to go? If you do, them I ask; do you choose a loving and passionate relationship, or do you choose a dictatorship?

6) Want the BEST for him by actually wanting him to trust his OWN word first. NOT yours. He can’t feel safe to trust yours until he is man enough to trust his own and follow his own path.

 

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I remember an acquaintance of mine, they are a couple. His wife was extremely controlling and would say condescending things, and it was clear she never wanted the best for him; but just to keep him close. My fiancee and I would talk to her husband about a new business idea of his around our dinner table, and we would give him ideas and suggestions, and he would ponder them; during that time his wife would keep yelling out objections.

Whilst her husband was pondering new ideas with us, we’d discuss them with him and then he might say: “actually, I think I’ll follow David and Renee’s reasoning and listen to you.” and she would blurt out: “What?! NO! Listen to your WIFE!”

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Here is my conclusion on How to Give a Man Respect:

When in doubt, and you’re just dating a man and he is not committed; give unconditional respect for one month. Genuine, real respect. Don’t wear the pants. If after a month and you’ve done this genuinely, and you are not more attracted to him, and you’re not ‘feeling’ it, then leave.

And if you’re reading this and you’re in a long term relationship or marriage, you do it for 90 days. Yes, 3 whole months.

Take the Understanding Men program, click here to read more information of this program. 

Thanks for reading. I’m still wondering; do you agree that to respect a man, you have to FEEL it in your gut?

Do you believe that respecting a man is not your choice?

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Tara Mitchell

Where can I find an EVEN man? One that’s not a cartoon, one sided “beta vs masculine” type. I’d just like to meet a guy that uses logic and makes sense! He’s smart, secure, and self sufficient and so am I. We spend our days adding value to ourselves for our union, and our nights lightning each others load and filling up each others cup. We respect each other because we are RESPECTABLE people. We create our life and fill in the positions with discernment of each others skills. We don’t do anything or avoid anything for gender. We only… Read more »

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But what do u do when the respect you give is taken for weakness. What if you gave respect from the beginning and the guy used it against you and thought BC u showed him respect it meant that u wud put up with whatever and then you grew to not respect him anymore. It’s hard to respect a guy who propositions other women, breaks promises and rejects u. I know it turned into lack of self respect if u stuck around for thus but my point is what if its inevitable that giving a guy undeserved respect will always… Read more »

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Matryoshkadollie

Sorry but so much of this seems so one sided. Too many men don’t respect women! Need proof? Google manosphere, return of kings, Roosh v, mens rights, pick up artists. any website for mail order brides and you’ll see what I mean. Whole thing is dusgusting, yet people blame feminism instead of the misogynists? I agree with Jessica. Respect has to be earned!

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tommy hall

Women aren’t looking for respect. Women are looking to be protected and lead by someone who has a backbone. They want a leader and they want to be loved and cherished by that strong, principled leader. Back in the old days women respected their men because they feared them to some degree…men had the power to break their necks in less than 15 seconds. Now this fear is virtually gone, as feminism and political correctness has all but destroyed the essence of maleness, along with the sexual tension/polarity that comes from the masculine/feminine dynamic.

Linda de Jong
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Linda de Jong

Seriously? Example A from the manosphere.

Newflash – women want to be respected just as much as men do. And if that respect isn’t forthcoming, neither is the love.

wildcucumber
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wildcucumber

Single guy, are ya?

Frank
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Frank

Men have no power anymore. Feminism did that to our society and it is destroying the family. Millenial men are opting out of marriage because they see what has happened to their friends,fathers and grandfathers. Men are tired of being mistreated by their wives and the system. 75% of divorces are filed by women.Men get stripped of their children and their wealth. You women did this to yourselves by swallowing the Feminist lie. Live with it!

Norski
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Norski

Just found your site. This is the first “woman’s blog” I’ve been able to endorse, let alone take seriously. You’ve hit the nail right on the head with this post. It’s so refreshing to hear stuff like this amidst the 3rd wave feminist nonsense that’s polluting everything lovely about the gender I so deeply adore. One thing is for sure: The fastest way to get me to be a gentlemanly, go-getter, goal oriented, danger and fun seeking, chivalrous badass is to do small, subtle things that make me feel like you believe in me. The second I see captivation in… Read more »

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

Sad. Someone has to “get you to be a go getter”, but you think you deserve the respect of a leader? You can’t even lead yourself to be a go-getter.

Lysander
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Lysander

That is the kind of attitude that makes men run. Why do you feel the need to degrade him? As a man, I’ve felt the inspirational effects of a feminine woman. It makes you want to be better in every way, even in the ways you didn’t necessarily care about before. Woman these days don’t inspire any sense of devotion from the men in their lives. Maybe it’s a two way street, but you cant come at someone with the attitude you have here Tara and expect anything good.

Frank
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Frank

Just another feminist troll name calling. You are a good example of why Men are running away from women like you as fast as they can.

Luke
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Luke

Why do women feel so threatened by choosing the backseat or passenger seat once in a while?? Men are naturally dominant. That’s what women should be attracted to. For more modern women to be more dominant in the relationship worries me. The reason men are so dominant and aggressive is to protect their family or tribe. So many women throughout history have been far more willing to take the backseat for their men to do what they’re made for. If society collapses – which is possible, these men will have to step up and be the aggressive leaders again. I… Read more »

Alex
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Alex

“Why do women feel so threatened by choosing the backseat or passenger seat once in a while??” You want to know why? I’ll tell you why. Because at a time when all women did this all the time, they were being taken advantage of, treated like doormats and made to feel like they weren’t as important as the men. It was all ‘oh honey, sit down or go back to the kitchen, you don’t know what you’re talking about.’ This is what happens when one gender is made to domineer over another. Just like with men feeling emasculated and unimportant… Read more »

Paul
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Paul

Why do women want to turn an Alpha male into a beta and an beta male into an Alpha male. I you want a male who can lead let him lead let him lead. And if you want a lazy beta male too scared to displease you get yourself a soft male, who spends all his time trying to serve you like your butler, and trying to be your therapist instead of your manly man.

Frank
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Frank

Most women want a servant and not a Man to provide for them with no back talk. Men have had it.

Marie
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Marie

I thought feminine energy and feminine women are more passive?

kofybean
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kofybean

What good is respect if you only “silently acknowledge him under her breath”? I’m sure this article means well but the evo psychology is complete b.s.

Women arent programmed like computers to seek certain men amymore than men are programmed to seek certain womem.

If you follow that logic you just advocated a society where women throw away love and swing from man to man until she gets the richest one. And men, in return, dump woman after woman for a younger one. Society would crumble under such an environment. Every relationship would be a doomed to failure.

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Kofybean. I think you may have missed the point. “Silently acknowledge him under your breath” I think mean the woman who also respects herself has an understated yet confident presence about her. Not gaga and needy. And when it says let him make mistakes it doesn’t mean tell him he’s great because he sold the house cars cloths and emptied the bank retirement and college funds and bet them on a horse race thrn take tje winnings and open a llama ranch in North Korea to avoid taxes (lol). For you to respect a man he must first respect himself.… Read more »

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kofybean

Did you read the article? Or did you just write your humble opinion irrespective to the subject matter? The article convolutes respect with attraction. Just because you aren’t attracted to someone doesn’t mean they dont deserve respect. The article states that respect is not a conscious decision. Which is a trashy argument for disrespecting people, because hey… you can’t help it. The article provides metrics for respect based solely on attractiveness and idealisms as if the human species were a monolith of one single male archetype. Honestly, it reads like a bunch of superiority jargon. Suggesting that people shouldn’t be… Read more »

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Hi Kofibean. I was not disrespecting you bu any means. And yes i did read the article a couple times. Why would i comnent to you otherwise. My point was simple but long winded. I took it to mean over the top fauning from a woman means you have an insecure or superficial lady. Wheras a strong confident woman is understated. She doesn’t need attention. Also they don’t need to be over the top. A good man will be discerning in his taste and preferences. And vice versa. This is a superficial article on the internet. Not meant (at least… Read more »

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

You’re doing your best to ignore the specifics to this article. It is talking about 1) a relationship/dating scenario.. It does NOT apply to men and women simply engaging. She also makes clear her information is SPECIFIC to ultra masculine/feminine type dynamic. Again, NOT every general type of relationship. For THIS particular type of relationship, these are the keys functions and issues. She was very clear on what this was about and it was absolutely nowhere near what you attempted to change it to.

Frank
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Frank

When women swing from man to man it is called Monkey Branching or Hypergamy and they all do it.

Jessica
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Jessica

When it comes to respect, it has to be earned and given in order to receive it. This is goes for both sexes. Some of the comments made valid points. If you don’t respect yourself, why should others respect you? Society has disotrted the views about respect towards men. I don’t respect men who lie, cheat, steal, murder and hurt women and children. I DO respect men who take care of their children, take care of their wives, treat women like the queens they are. I treat my husband like the king that he is because he does what he… Read more »

Fire343
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Fire343

Thank you!! I completely agree!! Men have to be genuine to earn respect and so do women. Equal. Fair. Reasonable. We as a society has gone one extreme to another it’s ridiculous. Thank you for these points!

Jessica W
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Jessica W

You’re welcome. I posted that comment. I changed my postname so no one confuses me with another Jessica. I’m standing on that.

EL
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EL

I mostly agree with you. But I think I also believe in the concept of unconditional respect. It’s seeing and respecting the person behind all of his/her positive or negative actions. Just like women need unconditional love, and feel very touched when a man loves her despite her failures and flaws, when men receives unconditional respect from his partner, I think it inspires him to become a better man. I see this in children too, if you love a child and see the child’s value and worth despite his/her misbehaviors, flaws or even when the child breaks your heart, it… Read more »

Luke
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Luke

Thank you. Saying that your partner has to constantly earn your respect is like treating them like a stranger on the street. I mean, we have memories for a reason. That person had to have done something right once. It’s also good to have faith in the person you love.

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

You forget marriage and long term relationships are agreements. Often, actual contract agreements. You can not continue to respect a PERSON who is not true to their word or upholds their agreement. Especially when it affects YOUR life so intimately. I’m certain you wouldn’t be giving unconditional respect and holding onto memories if your wife decides to pick up a boyfriend and sleep with him everyday before you come home.

Fire343
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Fire343

Agreed Jessica! Thank you! See people, both men and women need to earn respect. It’s not hard! We were both meant to be equal.

Frank
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Frank

WE are not equal. We are different.

Frank
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Frank

Women are not queens,they are people.Thinking of yourself as a queen is where the problem starts. You all seem to have an outrageous sense of entitlement.

Arthur
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Arthur

I’m not sure I understand the courage associated with respecting someone. I didn’t realize it took cast amounts of courage to show respect? I thought it was common courtesy if the one in question at least deserved it. I have a backbone and show respect because I believe you should treat someone the way you want to be treated. Although with all but the exception of one woman I dated for 3 years, they all showed me appalling disrespect for very mundane things, such as making a wrong turn or burning the bread we were going to have with dinner.… Read more »

Jessica
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Jessica

Dear Arthur: Thank you for sharing your truth. When Renee is speaking of the courage it takes to offer respect unconditionally I believe she is speaking to a woman’s (or anyone’s) fears. Fear can drive us to want to be controlling of an outcome. If we’re in fear mode or coming from a place of lack, then we would be inclined to be controlling. When we try to control a situation or another person (and their reactions/action) it is because we’re afraid of getting hurt. When I was 16, I was afraid my bf would cheat on me (showing my… Read more »

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

Jessica is right. It has to do with fear. But a portion you are forgetting is that a woman sits in a very difficult and uncomfortable place is this situation. She may have acted out of trust (which is the basis of respect) to men in the past who turned out to abuse her trust. In the type of relationship the article is referring to, the woman gives almost all control over to a man – to do as well with or mess up as bad as he will. Ask yourself, how comfortable would you be meeting another man tomorrow… Read more »

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Mona

I think women should choose a man as a partner who they respect naturally for who he is and what he does. However, if you are in a long term relationship, and especially when you live together, there will be times when respect has to be a conscious choice, no matter how Alpha he is, there will be times when the woman feels he is being a fool, but if she chooses to respect him anyway, that feeling will be temporarily and soon she will be compelled to genuinely look up to him again. People generally should try to respect… Read more »

Viki Samoja
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Viki Samoja

The problem is, there are not enough of such men to go around, image of a strong masculine man has intentionally been smashed into pieces in the last 50 years, we have a proverb in my country “silent water brings down mountains”, even the strongest wall can be toppled if you really put your will into it. It is easy to say “just choose the one who is already good for you”, nope, not working like that, personally i can work on myself to become this kind of a man but it will not solve the underlying problem, without any… Read more »

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

If a man, needs women to do things so that he becomes a man, he is NOT a man already. Do you not realize, a leader leads? He doesn’t wait ti be “let to lead” and he doesn’t wait for the person he is responsible for to do things first

Maria
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Maria

WOW!! I really needed to read this article. I’ve been in a 2 yr relationship which has turned a little ugly for the past few months. He claims I don’t respect him and constantly take away his masculinity. Your article has proven him right and I feel awful. He is a hell of a guy that I have expected more out of over time. Shame on me. I truly love him and hopefully we’ll marry one day but not if we stay on the same path we are going. I really must take a hard look and thing before speaking..… Read more »

Luke
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Luke

He’s scared that you’ll dump him. Most women do not see being the top breadwinner like men see it. Most men don’t throw their wives out for not bringing in more money or being unemployed. That’s not the way most of us are wired. A lot of women are liable to throw their man out for not having a job.

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

Women throw men out that don’t have a job because men do not willingly pick up the other end of the relationship when they don’t have a job. Women do. Men would rather dominate women and have them do the work they don’t want to do. Women aren’t lazy and pleasers often. So she will look to be useful in any way. Men only want to be useful in the way they want to. So they will just simply, not work but also no really LIGHTEN the load at home. My father is retired for 10 years now . My… Read more »

Will
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Will

You’re gettin’ there. But, your foundation isn’t quite solid. You’re missing the vital stone that must be present. That foundational stone is that all men deserve a woman’s respect. Women must recognize that all men must be honored for a woman’s very existence and everything that she has is from men. Think about it, you owe it to men that you could write your post. Women don’t define a man. Your post says as much. Thus, if one has a Y-chromosome, then honor him for you life depends on men. When you, as a woman, think you can judge which… Read more »

Jonatan
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Jonatan

man its time we accept that we all grew up in a womans womb and that actually they have xx chromosomes and we men have xy meaning that in essence we have half female essence and actually the y chromosome is a deffect. we as men want to be respected but we need to respect women first.

YB Y
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YB Y

Right.

Frank
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Frank

The y chromosome is a defect. Quit trolling.And learn some respect.he Man provides an x or a y chromosome at conception. Nothing defective about the arrangement at all.

Paul
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Paul

TO Will, i think your way of thinking its kinda unnatural and full of resentment towards females. I urge you to look deep into your fears and star realising that woman are far superior that men in so many levels… The world its a mess because of war, rape, murder all things that men have comitted for centuries, fortunately we are entering into a fase where we as men are becoming real men, meaning we are not afraid of women and therefore respect them and feel inspired from them. Femininity its the future if we want this world to be… Read more »

Luke
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Luke

Ah, but Will is right in some ways. Men have created everything in society and most women take it all for granted. They only hear the same crap that you just dished out, that men are responsible for war and misery. BUT, creation is harder to do than destruction. It’s easy to destroy, but to invent the computer and cell phone, making women feel more better about socializing…? That took work. That took a lot of years to get right. If there ever was a patriarchy, not only did men pay for it in blood, but also deeds. I’m sure… Read more »

Will
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Will

Luke: I vaguely remembered something about Arthur Schopenhauer, probably from college nearly 40 years ago. Even though he was into eastern religions, he pretty much explained in his various statements Genesis 3:16 “To the woman God said…’Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.'” Most people don’t know that the Hebrew word for ‘desire’ here is the same found in Genesis 4:7 where God tells Cain, “[Sin] desires to have you, but you must rule over it.” It means “to devour as in one’s prey.” Even if you don’t believe in God, still simple observation… Read more »

Joan
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Joan

I certainly don’t believe in a world where men need to be eradicated and castrated. I also think its harsh to say that men aren’t taking there responsible position in the family is because of the women so the men don’t feel its worth it. Ok, for sure there are some take over women out there but that I don’t feel is the problem entirely. A lot of women living in masculine energy can be a problem for the men though. There are also a lot of men who shouldn’t be breeding (sorry my opinion)cause the women aren’t being selective… Read more »

Henry
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Henry

HUMANITY WAS BRON THROUGH A VAGINA EACH OF US HAVE LIVED AND NURTURED IN A WOMAN’S WOMB. BIGOTED MEN ALWAYS FORGET THIS DISHING OUT SOME OLD RELIGION CRAP. RELIGION HAS BEEN ALWAYS THE CAUSE OF DESTRUCTION, SEPARATION, FEAR AND VIOLENCE. WOMENS NATURE IS CREATE, THATS WHY THEY MAKE BABIES IN THEIR BEAUTIFUL BODIES AND PRODUCE MILK THEY ARE THE REAL CREATORS. I FEEL HONOURED BY THE WOMAN WHO GIVES ME HER TIME AND LOVE(MY WIFE) AND ALL MEN SHOULD BE GRATEFUL WHEN THIS HAPPENS TO THEM.

YB Y
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YB Y

Amen!

Frank
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Frank

A Mangina you be. A wimp betacuck! IMHO!

Fire343
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Fire343

Um no I’m sorry my friend, you have this all wrong. Sure there is war and nastiness that goes on around the world, but we are talking about relationships here dude not what’s happening on cnn because of “men”. What men and women fail to realize is that we were meant to run side by side loving each other, not one extreme or another. A woman should not be with a man if he is no good for her or abusive in any way. As a man should not stand for a woman constantly disrespecting him or walking all over… Read more »

Jessica W
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Jessica W

You ain’t lyin’. Too bad most people don’t think like that. When men and women battle each other, nothing is left but bitterness, hatred, disrespect, and blaming between the sexes.

YB Y
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YB Y

This is also true. However, it was men who held women down to begin with. Then when women try to move to their rightful position as equal…it’s called feminism.

Fire343
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Fire343

For sure, I agree if men were the ones putting down these women nowadays then these women have every right to stand up for themselves. What’s very idiotic that I have a problem with is women in today’s age who have never even been oppressed that are so disrespectful and selfish and spoiled and entitled and fee like they can walk all over men and play the victim card when there are actually decent men out there who treat women great and who haven’t done anything wrong. Those little girls who think they are women need to grow up and… Read more »

YB Y
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YB Y

Women who have never been oppressed?? I’m sure most women (even girls) today have experienced some form of sexism. You throw words like “common sense” around, yet you speak as if sexism (like racism) no longer exist. Which, is far from the truth. The article states that respect has to be earned. Yes, anyone should be respectful to anyone who is respectful to them. However, I’m not sure how fresh you are to the dating scene, where you are from or if you’re male or female but there are just as many (if not more) “little boys” (who think they… Read more »

Fire343
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Fire343

Sorry buddy, but you have it backwards again. There are very many women nowadays that act entitled and feel they can walk all over men and treat decent men like shit. All because of this “feminist” movement and women’s rights, not because they’ve been treated badly. Not sure what neighborhood you grew up in but you better get outside more. What people fail to realize is that we men and women were made to be equal with one another and run side by side with each other in life and enjoy it to the fullest.

YB Y
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YB Y

Buddy? I’m a woman. There is no such thing as the feminist movement. It’s propaganda. And you have already said men and women should work together. I agreed with that. However, you still did not address the lack of intellectual and emotional progress in males.

Fire343
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Fire343

I figured you were a woman, for sure. Stop being so sensitive, it’s ok, not trying to bad mouth anyone. Just saying that the spectrum here has been tipped sideways nowadays and the very idea that women want to be equal is a great thing and that’s awesome but…now women have taken it too far and really walked all over men who are decent, hardworking and respectful who have not deserved this behavior from women. If a man is lazy, selfish, entitled, disrespectful, hurtful, and childish, absolutely he deserves an ass kicking and needs to be put in his place… Read more »

YB Y
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YB Y

…and judging by your avoidence of not recognizing the role many males play in their own ” downfall”, proves my point. I am in no way sensitive (I’m the exact opposite actually) and I have never disagreed with you. So why do you keep reiterating the same points. I am trying to get you to acknowledge the role males play in them not receiving respect as well. That’s all. This is the struggle and resistance to change I was speaking of. One sentence you’re saying men and women are suppose to rule together…then you say its ok if women WANT… Read more »

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

YES. Yes. and YES!!!!!!!! You were very clear with your point. He is trying his hardest to play dumb.

Fire343
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Fire343

Oh sorry, forgot to address your lack of intellual argument. Actually men are very intellectual and emotional beings just as women are. It’s just that we differ in certain things with intelligence and emotion. Don’t believe me? Read a medical book or especially psychology and you’ll learn the interesting chemistry between both male and female. What I’m sensing here is that you’ve had some rough experiences like we all have honestly and that’s ok that’s understandable. Just don’t take it so seriously, be happy 🙂 there are decent people in this world I promise you.

YB Y
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YB Y

Actually your response is proving my argument. I’m done here. Nice conversing with you.

Fire343
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Fire343

Its ok 🙂 at the end of the day just remember, winning an argument every time with decent men such as myself may make you feel better, but it will always make you alone. Realize your place in society, you must give men respect in order to be loved by them. Have a great day 🙂

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

Funny. Being right when speaking to a man will “always make you alone”? It’s unnerving how dumb you really are. You just keep proving why you don’t deserve anything. Not even respect. You admit you can’t even deal with a woman if you don’t get to FEEL RIGHT lol –even when you KNOW YOU”RE WRONG! hilarious

Frank
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Frank

You are one bitter lady.

Frank
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Frank

You just lost the argument!

Frank
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Frank

No feminist movement? You are a troll!

Frank
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Frank

Feminism is a bought and paid for ism to destroy the family. Gloria Steinem CIA. Betty Freidan Communist Party USA. It is a tool to destroy the family and the nation.

YB Y
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YB Y

Well said.

Sharon
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Sharon

To Will, I agree 100% with what you said. It was perfection. I’m the recent widow of a retired military man (former Special Forces) who I respected unquestioningly. I stood with him thru thick and thin…addiction, PTSD, and cared for him as a C3 quadriplegic after a motorcycle accident with a drunk driver. Thru his tender (and sometimes not so tender) guidance and leadership, I thrived; my son became more confident. I came to realize that I should be respecting all men I meet in whatever situation. RIP Chris

jasmine
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jasmine

I guess a man gave birth to you, right?

Geraldine
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Geraldine

I believe that I should always respect my man and I’ll take your advice on not to wear the pants for 3months. Thank you for this beautiful article on respect

nambuye
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I respect my husband, I even kneel for him and serve him or when am greeting or talking to him, I love my place as a woman, that way I feel protected and loved

Intrigued
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Intrigued

Hmmm. I read your article and I think that the concept of respect is simple. If you respect yourself, then others respect you. I don’t think gender is the issue. I am definitely an alpha female and I find that most people are way too insecure. To be successful in anything, handle your business. When it comes to femininty or masculinity, you can be feminine and be alpha. Some people are just stronger and meant to lead. Most are meant to follow. I have always attracted alpha males who knew not to do some of the dumb stuff in the… Read more »

YB Y
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YB Y

My thoughts exactly! As an alpha female, it’s definitely a challenge.

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

Most is spot on, but i think you know just because you respect yourself does NOT mean everyone else will respect you.

Holly
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Holly

Well firstly I have to start off saying that the man that springs to mind is the man from terninator five that’s the human robot. He’s made up of a human but robot underneath and he’s been designed to have killer instincts. Their was a part in the film were he’d been set up to kill the humans that were set to destroy the machines and win the battle. Because the terminator is such a good person underneath, he doe’s the hero thing and destroys the killing mashincines. He basically risks and puts his own life on the line for… Read more »

Lone Alpha
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Lone Alpha

It is about time! The veil of ignorance that feminism has placed over your eyes is beginning to thin. The warmth of the light of truth feels good on your face doesn’t it, ladies? While I am happy to see a trend moving in a positive direction, I have some regretful news to deliver. Many men have given up, as this war of the sexes has claimed many casualties. Even me, a lone alpha(the hallmark of a true leader is a man who leads himself) has decided to bid you farewell for the time being(perhaps not forever as I do… Read more »

Sharon
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Sharon

Sadly, I’m afraid you’re right. Society has duped women into this craziness and taken from us so many good men. Not all of us are like that though. And you are right about the kids. This is being passed down unfortunately and it has to stop.

Tanya Rachel Wieczorek
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Tanya Rachel Wieczorek

I agree with most of Alpha’s comments, however I take exception to “you all wanted this war” — um alot of us we’rent even alive in the 60’s/70’s when feminism started, its unfair to lump us into one category like that, not every woman ‘wants this war’ – I couldn’t stand feminists even before I found this blog.

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

Yet I bet you enjoy all it’s rights.

Frank
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Frank

My Lord you are a bitter woman.Why?

Viki Samoja
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Viki Samoja

Even in this men are unknowingly acting to protect women, they saw what feminism does to them, they saw how it is hurting them, and yet they were powerless to stop it. I think that men who go there own way are in fact “falling on a grenade” en masse. Because they know that if there is one thing that will make women stop this self destructive thrend, it is fear of abandonment. The society is falling apart, the ones who have eyes have seen it, “and some of us must be sacrificed, if all are to be saved” men… Read more »

Fire343
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Fire343

Thank you! Finally someone who realizes that we men are just trying to be ourselves and be genuine! This feminist movement bullshit has crippled all men and there’s nothing we can do about it, utterly disgusting.

EL
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EL

I think the main issue is for some reasons, (for the conspiracy people, maybe it’s deliberate social engineering) the culture value teaches men are women’s enemies and competitors. Women prove their worth when they don’t need men, or can manipulate them. Then it turns around and teaches men that women are not your friend, not someone for you to protect for cherish. They are for you to satisfy self-centered/me-first desires only. You prove your masculinity when you use as many women as possible to satisfy yourself. Sometimes, it does almost seem like there’s a deliberate effort to create a break-down… Read more »

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

My question is — EVERYONE here is pointing to a specific time when women began behaving in a way of using men. You all seem to COMPLETELY IGNORE that you can not pick a time when men DIDN’T use women to satisfy themselves. Please, name a period where men had to be virgins, or died if they cheated, or didn’t cheat, or DIDN’T USE PROSTITUTES. I’ll wait. Feminism was answer to a problem women had since THE BEGINNING OF TIME. Far past the era when men hunted, they still used the term “protector”. How man men are really “protecting” women… Read more »

Frank
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Frank

So you fix the perceived problem by acting just like the “Bad men” you rail against.

Frank
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Frank

There is a deliberate effort to destroy the family. NGO’s of various types push this feminist bs with that goal in mind.

myriam
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Renee this is yet another awesome article by you. Iam learning so much from youinto my relationship and I am seeing great results…Thank you so muchfor your work.

Andrew
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Andrew

Most woman don’t know how to respect men these days and the other way around too; it is a vicious circle. I’m a nice guy that is tired of being verbally abused by women thus I have made the personal choice not to share myself in any relationship now. I am happy being single to the day I die. Sorry ladies too late!

Fire343
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Fire343

I agree buddy, it’s hard on us men nowadays because women don’t respect us when the respect needs to be there. If we are being an asshole and not caring for her, yes, we need to be put in our place. Women nowadays don’t respect though no matter what. Until they’ve learned this, I agree, I’m just better on my own.

Certainly The Truth
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Certainly The Truth

most of the women today don’t know how to respect us men, and they are so very nasty to talk too nowadays and do curse at us much of the time. ATTITUDE PROBLEM.

Luke
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Luke

No shit. Feminism has taught them that male authority or male dominance or male aggression are all evil, archaic things to constantly fight against.

Norski
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Norski

Self described “intellectuals” who identify as someone with a high IQ are among the stupidest people I’ve ever met in terms of actions. (I include most 3rd wave feminists in this group – not all, some are just merely stupid)

Lose your minds and come to your senses. Instinct is there for a reason.

Renee Wade
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This is too good. 🙂

Tara Mitchell
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Tara Mitchell

you can’t prove that they aren’t. I mean … look at you. Who would want to talk to you? How could a women respect a man like you?

Frank
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Frank

How could a Man love a bitter woman like you? No normal Man could!

Frank
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Frank

And they wonder why they can’t find a “Good Man”!

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