“There’s two things you need to know”, Grandma said.
1: A man in love with you will move mountains for you.
2: Never lose hope that he is out there, because there is a man out there who will love you that much.
I wanted to add a 3rd thing to that:
3: You can inspire almost any man to love you this much through putting the connection and attraction first. Any woman who has a man madly in love with her has knowingly or unknowingly inspired that love from him, through the basic principles that create emotional attraction and emotional connection. Principles that foster mutual vulnerability, emotional depth and everlasting love. And that is accessible to any woman, no matter her background, age, looks, or social status.
So as you read this, always remember that you have the power within you to inspire any man to love you this much. I’ve seen plenty of women do this by using the resources that they had forgotten already exists inside of them. You can learn more about how to do this by getting a copy of my brand new (FREE) DVD titled “Becoming His One And Only.“
Now let’s find out what the 5 unusual signs are…
1: He tries to find solutions to every problem you have, even the problems that you thought were impossible to solve
A man in love can suddenly become outstandingly resourceful in ways that he’s never been before. And he just cares more to give to you.
As you would probably already know, men generally love to solve problems and feel successful at solving problems. Yet – at the same time, solving your problem takes energy, and a lot of energy at that.
So, one certain way to tell a man is in love with you, is that probably at least 70% of the time you have a problem, he will want to, and work to, solve that problem for you. He’ll especially want to solve the ones that seemingly, no one else can solve for you.
A man who is really in love with you will care less about spending a lot of physical and emotional energy on you, compared to a man who isn’t in love and just wants casual sex. And that’s why this is one of the signs that he is madly in love with you.
This wanting to solve your problem reminds me of the movie “The Box”, with Cameron Diaz and James Marsden in it. It wasn’t the main point of the movie, but in the movie, his wife had a problem with her leg that caused her to limp, and her husband was trying to make or provide a prosthetic leg for her. It is just a typical sign of a man who is in love with a woman. He becomes extra resourceful and willing to solve your problems.
2: He tries to provide more and better than your ex boyfriend(s) did
When a man has fallen in love with you, that actually means he has developed a powerful emotional connection with you over time. And as such, he might eventually come to feel like providing for you is his ‘purpose’.
This doesn’t mean that he can’t have another purpose outside of you (indeed, ideally, he would have another purpose or mission), but providing for you is definitely a part of that purpose.
A man who isn’t in love (but is perhaps casually involved with a woman), or who is just with a woman out of convenience, might provide at least a little something for her. Whether that be a little bit of help solving problems around the house, or giving her some cash here and there.
And yet, a man who is madly in love with you, and doesn’t just want something casual with you, will specifically even want to provide more than anyone else has for you in the past. It’s a wonderful feeling for a woman.
If you feel like a man is giving you crumbs, that could be a sign that he’s not in love, and so now is the time to ask yourself: ‘is it worth my time and energy investing in a man who is not nearly as invested in me?’ ‘what price do I really put on my time?’ (and I’ll give you a hint: maybe you don’t put a high enough price on your time!’)
You see, for men, they inherently feel the need to prove themselves resourceful and worthy of keeping a woman, her love (and her reproductive resources) to himself. For example – men need to have confidence, resourcefulness, ambition, emotional stability, to earn enough money, etc.
And this is especially true when a man is madly in love with you. He will want to provide you with more, and better than you ever had, even if he physically can’t in the near future. It’s the desire and the effort he puts in to do so. You may not see the fruits of his effort immediately, but he will want to see you provided for, better than you have ever been. And that is emotionally, financially, and spiritually. Money is not the only thing a man can ‘provide’.
3: He spends money he doesn’t even have on you
Now, if a man doesn’t do this, it doesn’t always mean that he is not in love with you. This is just a symbol of a man’s willingness to take risks.
So, it doesn’t mean he’s not in love with you if he ISN’T spending money he doesn’t have. He could be taking risks for you in other ways. I mean, every man is different and every man is in a different situation.
But this sign, he spends money he doesn’t even have on you, is along the same lines of risk taking behaviour. Men and women in love both take more risks, and men often do it in big ways, but there are other kinds of risks he can take to show he is ready to be vulnerable to you and to sacrifice something to be with you.
It’s kind of like, you will do things you don’t normally do when your brain has been taken over by the chemicals of romantic love. To quote anthropologists who study the brain in love, it feels like “someone is camping in your head”. You will take risks that you wouldn’t normally be willing to take.
And spending money he doesn’t even have is definitely a risky thing to do. There’s a disclaimer that goes with this sign though – the money he spends has to be on YOU. For example, a guy going in to debt to hire a porsche to drive around to pretend he’s really rich, isn’t risking anything for you, unless you asked to sit in a porsche. He’s just trying to create an image of wealth for himself.
Examples of this ‘spending money he doesn’t even have’ could be buying you something that you can’t afford but need, or buying you something that you’ve been wanting but won’t buy for yourself. Or it could mean taking you somewhere on a trip, and putting it on his credit card.
“Is he risking something for me?” (as opposed to just hanging with you when it’s convenient and when there’s no other options available to him at the time)
“Is he making himself vulnerable to me? (even if they are different to how I am vulnerable to him?)
Again, this sign is specific. If he doesn’t spend money he doesn’t have, it doesn’t mean that you should try to get him to do that. No way! The real message you should take from this unusual sign he is madly in love with you, is ‘he takes risks he wouldn’t usually take, for you. To win you.’
Here’s an article I wrote on the 10 Ultimate Signs of A Healthy Relationship.
4: There’s a tenderness when he speaks your name
Use your gut with this one, not your head. This sign is not necessarily something to analyse, it’s more something to feel with your gut. Is there a sense that he’s more vulnerable than he usually is when he speaks your name? When he speaks your name, does his voice seem softer and more loving than usual? Does he say your name differently than he says other people’s names?
When a man is not in love, he’ll never speak your name with a sense of tenderness or vulnerability, only because the connection and attraction is just not there between you guys.
However, sometimes, even if a man is madly in love with you, he’ll have moments along the way, where he uses your name in a more detached way, and there will always be these moments in a long term relationship. So this is not some hard and fast rule that he has to say your name tenderly every second of the day. It’s more about, are there times where he does?
5: He will care for the people you care about, even if he doesn’t like them himself
You see, when we are in love, we become less selfish. This is why some people don’t seem capable of falling in love – because they’re just not equipped with the right relational patterns to be vulnerable enough to fall in love. Some people have been abandoned too many times in their childhood, for example and they don’t have the innocence and the emotional resources to bond emotionally with another person in a way that makes them fall madly in love.
Some people also have what we call ‘shiny object syndrome’. People with shiny object syndrome will find it much harder to fall in love, as they subconsciously value things and experiences, not vulnerable, human connection.
If you’re with a man and he says ‘I don’t care for your best friend Latiesha, she’s a dickhead anyway, I don’t like her, but you can be friends with her’ or – ‘your mother’s a b*tch. I don’t want to hear about her.’ – then maybe he’s not madly in love, or just not in love in this moment.
Remember, this is just a guide. Men are human too. For example, a man can be sick, bedridden, or so broken down and exhausted that even though he’s madly in love with you, he doesn’t have the energy to care about your friend Latiesha right now.
And that concludes the 5 Unusual Signs He Is Madly In Love With You.
Always remember that research has proven that couples can remain madly in love with their one and only 10, or even 20 years after first beginning their relationship. And yet, even in these cases, there will be conflicts and hard times in a relationship where in some moments, you’d be silly to expect he felt like he was in love with you.
Actually feeling in love is not physically possible 100% of the time, otherwise nothing would ever get done. I remember I teased my husband once years ago. I said “yeah you love me but you’re not in love with me.” and he said “I’m always in love with you.” – as nice as this felt, I don’t take his words too literally.
What he really means is that the feeling and attachment he had in our relationship has remained the same from the beginning. And that’s the truth – once a man truly falls in love with a woman, and he forms that rare (sometimes once in a lifetime) deep emotional bond with her, it can be hard to ever change or break that. (and just between you and I, I’m always in love with him too!) 😉
By the way, if you want a man to fall madly in love with you, it’s not that hard. It’s about showing up as his ‘one and only’ woman, rather than one of many. Because unfortunately, in this day and age, it’s very easy for women to get stuck in the ‘one of many’ basket, and it’s just about how you show up.
What you want is to show up as the ‘one and only’ type of woman, and everything will come easily for you from there. And here’s the GOOD news: I’ve got a FREE DVD you can have, titled “Becoming Hid One and Only”. Go and get your hands on a copy over here: www.BHOODVD.com
Let us all know how you knew a man was in love with you! Other women can learn from your story, because the best teachers we have are each other. So I’d love to hear your story and your views!
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