What to do When He Takes You for Granted: 3 Reasons Why & How to Stop it.

In order to know what to do when he takes you for granted, you first have to figure out the reason or context for him taking you for granted.

The problem you’re currently experiencing in your relationship with your man can’t be boiled down to just “he takes me for granted”. 

There needs to be a context before we decided what to do about the problem.

This means that together we need to establish where your relationship is actually at, and the possible reasons for him taking you for granted.

Without context, you could end up doing some very bad things in your relationship.

Bad things? Why bad things?

Because without understanding context and reasons for his actions, it’s easy to react out of fear and resentment.

Also, because when you think of what to do when your man takes you for granted, it’s very easy to take the low road, rather than the high road.

This may be due to some cheap advice given to you be well-meaning girlfriends.

Or it may be due to some cheap advice out there on the internet, compelling you to punish a guy as your first response.

Cheap, thoughtless advice will often be the beginning of the end of your relationship. Not just this relationship, but the next one and the next one. 

ignore a guy who takes you for granted

When he takes you for granted, just ignore him?

Here are some examples of damaging advice when he takes you for granted.

“Ignore a guy who takes you for granted.”

“Teach him a lesson when he takes you for granted.”

“When he takes you for granted ignore him.”

All of them sound great to the childish impulses inside of us.

But the part of you that has the capacity to carry yourself with class, and to take the high road, would frown upon such punitive behaviour. 

So, before you go ahead and think about how you can just ignore your boyfriend (in other words, punish him), ask yourself if you’d like him to punish you. 

If the tables were turned, how would him intending to punish you make you feel? 

Ask yourself if the evolved, smart, and compassionate part of you would approve of this approach?

Because as someone who has been there, I can tell you that it does nothing but cause more damage, hurt and pain to a man.

And for no real reason, other than you want the feeling of revenge and power.

There Are 7 Common Signs That A Woman is Perceived as Low Value to All Men. CLICK HERE to find out what they are.

No quality relationship is built on power trips

Always remember that no quality relationship or connection is built on power trips.

Yes, I’ve been there, done that. I’ve done the whole punishing thing. And looking back now, I regret the pain I caused him.

I regret how low I stooped. We women always talk about having “standards” for our men.

But what about having standards for how WE treat men?

Is one more important than the other?

Yes. One is more important than the other. Our standard for ourselves is far more important. 

Why?

Because it dictates the quality of man we attract into our lives.

If we try to build relationships based on power trips, we will attract nothing better than that in return. It’s simply the rule of reciprocity.

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What if he’s ignoring you out of malice?

Look. If he’s been downright nasty and abusive to you, then I understand your desire to get revenge.

If your soul tells you that the best thing to do is to punish him for deliberately trying to hurt you, then do it.

But don’t make the mistake of assuming bad intent in his actions when you can’t even be sure he had bad intent!

Don’t be trying to teach him a lesson for the sake of it when he takes you for granted. Since perhaps the problem is more due to a normal conflict or a gross miscommunication between you both.

Or perhaps he doesn’t take you for granted due to a miscommunication… 

But moreso because as a masculine soul, (a man with a masculine essence), his default behaviour is inherently in contradiction with your values as a feminine woman!

If you are really concerned that your man is deliberately trying to hurt you and damage your self esteem, see this article on the 6 behaviours you should never tolerate in a man. 

Figure out why he’s taking you for granted first

My question to you is this: is it true that your boyfriend or husband takes you for granted?

Is it true that he only makes time for you when it suits him?

Or is it that your needs and desires at this point in time are clashing with his?

Or is it perhaps that it’s too easy for you to feel like you are not special?

Here’s why I’m asking.

It’s because when you think to yourself “he takes me for granted”, there’s three possible reasons for him taking you for granted.

There Are 7 Common Signs That A Woman is Perceived as Low Value to All Men. CLICK HERE to find out what they are.

Why does he take me for granted?

The 3 reasons he takes you for granted…

Yes, there are three possible issues at hand, and you need to get an idea of which one applies to you right now.

That’s the first thing you must do.

Reason 1: He doesn’t actually want a committed relationship with you, but still keeps you around, giving you crumbs.

If you suspect this could be the exact situation you’re in, I have an article explaining why he keeps you around if he doesn’t want a relationship.

I suggest you go read that and take things from there. If you are unsure if this is your situation but want to find out if you could be, I have the answer…

I have another article that could help you distinguish if you might be in this situation, and the title is: 6 burning signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you. 

Reason 2: You’re in a relationship or marriage, and he doesn’t actually take you for granted. You just assume he does, based on your own rules for how he “should” be acting.

In fact, you know what? Perhaps his actions have more to do with the fact that he has masculine biases in his behaviour.

In other words, his actions may seem “unromantic”, “value-taking”, “lazy” or like he’s taking you for granted to you as a woman.

However, the truth may be that he’s just not aware or able to perceive your needs. If he was aware, he’d do more to meet those needs.

Reason 3: You’re in a relationship or marriage, and he is just out of resources.

What this means is that his resources are spent elsewhere. Maybe he’s exhausted. 

Maybe his resources are spent on building a business or on rising stress levels at his job.

Perhaps he has family problems, problems with his ex, his children, or even his health!

This leaves far less energy for courting you and being romantic with you!

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Before we discuss these three reasons further, let me establish something about the feminine bias you have within you (that men may very well just not UNDERSTAND!)

Feminine woman seek attention by default

So, are you making up the story that he only fits you in when it’s convenient for him, in your head?

Here’s why I ask: feminine women seek attention. We thrive on it and we need it to feel feminine (some women will sell their souls for some attention from men).

BUT it’s not always beneficial for women to seek it out, because it’s a dead end trap. Most attention is cheap and short-lived. It can disappear as fast as it comes.

So maybe the truth is that you have a rule about how much attention you OUGHT to receive in order to feel loved?

And, that is very dangerous. To you.

The more rules you have for how you feel loved, the less love you will find.

See my article on ‘Why can’t I be loved for who I am?

Here’s the truth: Maybe, you have more spare time than he does.

Maybe, you get bored more easily. Maybe he is more active and outdoorsy than you are, and enjoys always doing things and you’re more of a home body.

Maybe he is a masculine man who can only “get” that you need more from him when you express high value vulnerability. 

Here’s a fundamental truth about many men: they don’t have that much attention to give you. Usually because they aren’t women and don’t intuitively “get” a woman’s need for attention, company and attachment.

The masculine man’s equilibrium is different to a feminine woman’s equilibrium!

And if you want him to give you attention, you need to train him to do that by positively reinforcing him when he does give you attention.

Eg: he finally calls you – what you DON’T do is say in a resentful voice: “OMG, finally you called.”

This is a major downer for him to hear/feel from you.

He doesn’t notice the time; he’s busy, he’s working, he’s focused, and he’s being a man. You know – all those things that actually cause you to be attracted to him. Remind yourself that.

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Maybe what you want is his quality presence, not lots of attention

I’m here to suggest something important to you: that maybe you actually just want a man who is truly PRESENT with you.

You want a man who is intensely masculine, who owns himself and gives you deep attention, not cheap attention.

But to GET that, guess what?

You must be the other half of the equation.

What’s the other half of the equation?

It’s you having a highly evolved kind of feminine energy (the type where you choose to exist as love, even when you feel unloved).

Would you agree?

A toddler might scream and cry when they don’t get attention. (In fact, not even my 7 or 4 year old sons do this anymore, and they are that young!)

As an adult, if a guy does care about you, and you still hold on to your desire to punish him for taking you for granted, that’s problematic.

It is no different to a baby screaming for attention. 

If you want real presence from a guy, then gives your presence first.

LEAD with value, rather than trying to gain power over him. Especially when he very sincerely may not be trying to cause you hurt AT ALL. 

(What Is The One Specific Emotional Trigger Within Every Single Man in this World That Inspires Him to WANT to Commit to One Woman, Want to Take Care of Her, Worship Her and Only Her? Click here to find out right now…)

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If it really IS true…

There’s another side to this problem.

Maybe a man really IS only letting you in his life when it suits him. Maybe your thought is true; that “he only sees me when it’s convenient for him”.

Remember the first problem we talked about before? Where a man just gives you crumbs?

Yeah. It happens, and it happens a lot, to a lot of women.

It’s happened in my own life. As I’ve said before, sometimes, we really are somebody else’s back-up option.

But this should usually be pretty obvious to you if this is really what is happening.

Because usually what happens is that he either prefers to keep you at arms length, or he keeps other women around and you guys are in a very obvious cycle in the situationship.

Here’s what I mean by an obvious cycle. He talks, calls and texts other women. You guys go on “a break” or break up, and when those women are off the radar, he asks for you back.

You go back – sometimes because secretly, you don’t feel that you have many other options (You DO).

Ok so serious question now. Do you really believe that he only EVER makes time for you when it suits him?

Do you believe that he doesn’t actually care about you?

Do you believe that he’s not emotionally committed to you?

If yes, then you may be in a situation where you’re his ‘one of many’ type of woman, and not his ‘one and only’ woman.

Once you’re the one of many woman, that is very hard for you to change.

As such, there’s no benefit in trying to punish him, because he may likely never emotionally commit to you!

You’re better off cutting him loose.

If you’d like to learn more about what it takes to be categorised by men as the ‘one and only’ woman rather than the ‘one of many’, find out more here. 

If however, you think your man does love you and is generally emotionally committed to you, then perhaps there’s other reasons why he is taking you for granted.

Perhaps what you need to do instead is to make him miss you.

This is not selfish, it’s something you have to do with everyone in your life.

It is natural for humans to take people for granted: here’s why…

Another inconvenient truth. Are you ready?

It’s normal for us all to take people for granted. Why?

Because it allows us to conserve valuable energy.

Just because your guy is taking you for granted, or perhaps you assume “he only contacts me when it suits him”….doesn’t mean he is a bad guy.

It could mean that this is the natural order of things.

In the beginning of a romantic relationship, he is romantic with you and chases you, and at some point, that chasing and romantic gestures has to stop. 

You do the same thing. You change, too! It’s very normal.

A guy simply cannot be chasing you as intensely as he did at the beginning forever and still function as a normal, productive member of society!

Does this mean you should tolerate him never putting in any effort? Perhaps not. 

But it does mean that taking friends and lovers for granted is a part of the deal.

It’s a natural progression of every relationship.

Try to remember that our energy is finite, therefore we cannot focus intensely on one person at 100% capacity, 100% of the time!

So, friends, relatives, co-workers…we are going to take things for granted, not because we are bad people! But because someone up there, or evolution (whatever you believe in), made us that way.

How to avoid your boyfriend taking you for granted

…You have to teach him to value you more. Not just him, but others too.

When you teach him to value you more, you’re sending the message that there are other places in which you can invest your time (that would be more valuable to you as a woman).

No, I’m not talking about using the strategy of rotational dating, because I don’t believe in that particular strategy.

I’m talking about valuing your own time more, first!

If you want to teach him to value you more, start by valuing your own time more.

Yes, you can walk away when he takes you for granted. Not because you’re trying to get revenge, but because you believe in your soul that your time is worth more.

It’s our own responsibility to train others to value us.

We are not babies. We are responsible adults.

We are aware and conscious of our own relationships, and aware of our own ability to SHAPE our relationships and teach others to value us. (Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status am I on Facebook?”)

And we don’t do that by punishing a guy or ignoring him. This just erodes the trust in that relationship.

Instead, you can do some things that would actually add value to your life or to your relationship.

You can add value at the same time as giving him the gift of missing you, or making him feel a sense of loss. 

How do you make a man feel a sense of loss?

If you’re wondering how to make him feel a sense of loss, or how you can make him miss you badly…you can study the 5 simple steps to make him miss you…

And something simple you can do right now is to stop being desperate for his attention. Start to fill up your need for attention elsewhere.

That’s the first step.

If order for your relationship to be healthy, you need to have a solid identity outside of the relationship.

So, it will pay off for you to think about how you can develop that sense of identity, now.

Look for a passion or a purpose that adds to your value as a woman. Could you take up some new hobbies or passions? Here are 27 hobbies for women you could look at taking up. 

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how to Add value to yourself to increase attraction

We’ve talked a little bit about how you can add value to your life (finding a sense of identity outside of the relationship, valuing your own time more, and having passions).

How do you add value to yourself?

You could add value to yourself by learning how to banter, so that you can increase his feelings of attraction to you and excitement about you.

Banter is one of the best ways to connect with a man, because it allows you to open doors to deeper talks without pressure first. 

You can also add value to yourself by testing him. Testing him allows you to feel where he’s at and figure him out!

The next step is to test him.

If you think he’s just coming back for convenient sex, then test him!

In fact, my husband has a one-liner that is very good for testing a man. It’s called an attraction pebble (a pebble that you can throw that makes you look high value and not desperate). Find out what this test is here. 

What’s a quick test you can use, you ask?

Tell him you cannot have sex right now, you have had a bad day, but will he keep you company anyway?

Find out how far he’s willing to come if sex isn’t in the picture. Make him work for what you guys have together.

A man will fight for you if you add value 

People WILL come back to you if you are/were high value enough in the first place.

If you added enough value to their lives, they will fight for you. They will feel loss. It’s natural and it’s human nature. 

So you may be wondering, how would you know if and when is he coming back out of convenience?

Well, you may not know to start off with.

But you will learn through life experience and through having the courage to be attuned to a guy.

Attunement will allow you to feel for his intent and for what he’s actually going through in his life. 

Your intent matters…

Look; there’s a difference between doing this from a nasty, malicious place and doing it from a place where you want to make sure that he values your time together outside of sex.

I am well aware that many women who read this dating advice will jump up and down and go “yay!! This is PAYBACK!”.

I don’t intend this advice for those women.

I intend it for you.

Do it because you you want to add value and because you KNOW something about human beings.

Do it because you know that we will, from time to time, accidentally take people for granted, we will get self involved, or distracted in our lives. 

Just like the mammals that we are, we need to be pulled in to line by a well-meaning lover, or friend who cares.

Someone who cares enough to preserve the value of the relationship by not letting you treat it as a convenient place to just go to “take” value. 

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Summary & Where to go from here?

  1. Figure out why (find a context) for why he might be taking you for granted.
  2. Ask yourself if he’s taking you for granted or if your rules for how he should act are getting in the way.
  3. If he’s really taking you for granted or stringing you along, read my article on 6 burning signs he doesn’t want a relationship with you.
  4. Know that we all take people for granted, and he’s not necessarily a bad guy.
  5. Take responsibility for teaching him to value you more.

Have you ever felt taken for granted with a man you were dating?

Have you got any reminders/tips for other women on how to deal with this situation with dignity and self respect? 

(By the way, I want to teach you 5 secrets to having your man fall deeply in love with you and beg you to be his one and only. These 5 secrets are inside of my brand new program, “Becoming His One & Only”. Click HERE to get yourself a copy!)

renee wade

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Amy
Amy

I wanted to share my experience with all of you with many questions. I am living them and I know I am coming through as a High Value Woman thanks to all of the confirmations and learning points from Renee and David (so much delicious love for both of you!) A little background on me: I have had to live in my masculine energy most of my life to make something for myself – and it has worked – I’ve been made (I’ve reached the highest rung on my career ladder and have created/constructed even higher ones, financially independent, live… Read more »

Sylvie Vachon
Sylvie Vachon

I love this article, so true , a man who keeps you as an option will keep other women around as in my last relationship, always adding and chatting them up on facebook , yet his status still said single. Fed me crumbs, i realized i deserved better. If i was feeding this guy my feminine vulnerabity imagine how amazing it would be with a man who didn’t treat me like an option 🙂

Maya Pinyon
Maya Pinyon

Of course the man may just be a narcissistic selfish jerk who needs to be kicked like a bad habit?

meme
meme

I have been with my partner for 6 years and he done cross some boundaries that shouldn’t be cross. I give him the benefit of the doubt. I feel like he doesn’t respect me n my feelings because im way to nice. When he hurts my feelings he plays the victim and turn it around n make me feel like I’ve done something wrong. So when i call he ignores me and want pick up no matter how many times i call n text. I threaten him every time he hurt me n say im done but i always accept… Read more »

I'm Not Fooled
I'm Not Fooled
Reply to  meme

Be that nice to a more deserving man!

Marissa Hornaday
Marissa Hornaday

Hi Renee. I was dating a guy for about two months when he asked me to be his girlfriend. He then got news that he might be moving to Japan for work and told me that it wasn’t the right time to pursue anything. However, he continued talking to me as if I were his girlfriend and I let it happen because I was holding onto the hope that I would be one day. It was a constant roller coaster, wondering what to say to him, how to act, etc. And on top of it, it was a long distance… Read more »

Paul
Paul

Clearly he is stringing you along, dump him fast

I'm Not Fooled
I'm Not Fooled

You are not missing him! You are just feeling needy and he is not your answer.

Caralee
Caralee

Hi Marissa; I was wondering what ended up happening with your situation with this man and wether you ever got some sound advice other than some intense “dump him what a jerk” type answers. Obviously, he’s not a jerk or you wouldn’t have liked him so much in the first place! However, that doesn’t mean you were right for eachother so I’d just love to know how this panned out!

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Heilwig Fuhrmann

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Myanna
Myanna

Thank you. That’s advice really made me realize a lot. And now im not as stressed. I’ve been with my bf for about a year now, he moved in with me about 3 months ago, things were going great, I got attention, and felt appreciated. Then about 8 weeks ago i found out i was pregnant, and my hormones are all weird. My bf doesn’t give me any attention anymore, i’m lucky if i get one kiss, (peck) the whole day. He does not want to have sex anymore, nor even cuddle, I’m always getting mad at him before and… Read more »

Laura Lee
Laura Lee
Reply to  Myanna

How is everything today Myanna?

Paul
Paul
Reply to  Myanna

Sorry he moved in so you could be his move in maid and to save money, and he has someone else on the side he will soon make his number.

Fraya
Fraya
Reply to  Myanna

I had some of the same feelings when i became pregnant and again after having the baby. I know you are doing alot and are overwhelmed buy hormones and thoughts of being a single mother. Remember some guys are weird when it comes to having sex with the women carring theyre child. Even if they know its not harmful. Also… Has it occured to you that maybe you getting pregnant so quickly has scared him? Have you put yourself in his shoes? If i had just moved in with someone i would think of that as our trail period, trail… Read more »

Nana Lita
Nana Lita
Reply to  Myanna

Next time he comes home late. You just stay gone. Take the kids to your friend or your parent and have a good time for yourself without your boyfriend. Have a trip with the kid. When he comes home and sees you everytime waiting for him. He will assume that you will just nag but he will do it again. But when he comes and you aren’t there. He will wonder

aschloch12
aschloch12
Reply to  Myanna

What is the Feminine Woman going to Say?????

BOW DOWN TO YOUR MAN? AMAZING!!!

Renee Wade
Renee Wade
Reply to  aschloch12

You’re awesome.

I'm Not Fooled
I'm Not Fooled
Reply to  Myanna

Sounds like he wanted a mother! Not mutual responsibility!

Reena
Reena

can u help me in saving my relationship – Please

seema
seema

I need to share many things, I need your help else I will lose myself soon…

seema
seema

I need your help…

Miss_hollykins
Miss_hollykins

Great :), this is just the type of article I needed to read! Not just with men, but with people in genural.

It’s funny because every time I walk away from a situation, I end up loosing out, but not anymore! Because I can feel my fighting spirit kicking in!

Now I feel that I can say whatever I want to others and it really won’t make any difference whether others go or stay, as I’d much rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I’m not.

Nora
Nora

Renee can you elaborate more on how exactly to make him feel this sense of loss? I am confused: you say don’t respond “when” he comes back out of convenience. I can totally see what you are saying, I am just not sure how to carry it out literally. If I don’t respond then isn’t that ignoring him? I am not sure how to talk to him if I am not supposed to reject or ignore him but I am supposed to “not respond” Could you give examples of dialogue?

Martha
Martha

Hi Rene, I never listened to any type of relationship advise when I was younger because I thought my romantic life was so unique that no one could know better. My two long term relationships with younger men not only left me older and lonely, but very confused and still ignorant regarding relationships. The first time I felt frightened about love was when I accepted that I didn’t know how to keep in my life someone I love so much… not only I didn’t know but I helped pushing the relationship its unavoidable end… I was in the middle of… Read more »

FunnyMe
FunnyMe

Oh man.. this article hits the spot. I met a man almost a year ago and we started dating. Everything was great and moving along at what I thought was a serious relationship pace. I was wrong. I started noticing that he would be texting all of the time and would check his phone a lot. My first instinct is that he was seeing someone else. But why would he check in front of me? He is VERY career driven and cannot seem to stop thinking about work even when we are together trying to watch a movie. We broke… Read more »

Anita
Anita
Reply to  FunnyMe

Honey if he’s not ready for a serious relationship right now, I guess all you can do is decide if you love him enough to wait for the long haul.
If not, like you said, it hurts you to be with him when the situation makes you feel a convenience. I’d say in this case use Renee’s advice and find a way to be a giver and not a pleaser.

Paul
Paul
Reply to  Anita

Do not wait for him it is not your job to give the time to grow up.

Ali
Ali
Reply to  FunnyMe

If your parents were both 6s, your mother could have spent her 20s hooking up with 8s – but your father couldn’t have. Young women days often do that these days. However, when these women reach their late 20s / 30s they will have to drop back down to dating 6s if they want to secure commitment. This process is difficult to accept because after 10 years of hooking-up with 8s she will have to realize that in fact she was only a 6 the whole time (the same applies for 5s hooking up with 7s, 4s with 6s etc).… Read more »

Paul
Paul
Reply to  Ali

First get out the numbers game it is silly when guys do it and worse when a woman does it. Ladies if a real want to spend time with you he will show it, and try to date you and court you. It does not mattet if he has to travel to come see you and bee with, he will make the effort because you a worth to him.

Nana Lita
Nana Lita
Reply to  Ali

It’s natural that people choose to date someone that they find “attractive”. So when women date 8s even she is 6s then she overrated her looks. But when a man prefer 8s but he is 5 it’s ok for you right? These pick up artist numbers might be a one person perspective. Attractiveness varied

Paul
Paul
Reply to  FunnyMe

Your were just an option to him, second or third position at best

pawni gupta
pawni gupta

Its been couples of month…. I m being ignored a lot… Bt now i realise dat m over reacting…. He still dsnt cal me daily bt tym to tym hv cntct wid me nd meets me…
Thanku for making me feel nrml nd back again 🙂

Paul
Paul
Reply to  pawni gupta

A real guy does not need to talk to you every day, if he is setting up dates on the regular and you both talk a lot stop rushing it

I'm Not Fooled
I'm Not Fooled
Reply to  pawni gupta

Do you REALLY know what he is all about and do you accept that? Men don’t just fall into love, they may fall into sex or lust. But smart men add women into their lives, because they believe that she will be worth it and it’s the right timing. Some men never grow up! One is emotions – which women do best – and the other is logic. We need the balance.

mcharm
mcharm

Hi Renee, I thought at first I would join your courses, to get my ex back, but the more I read your findings, the more I realize that this is about getting back me, and finding the High Value Woman inside of me. If my ex comes back it is not through my desperate attempts at getting him back as I was doing before, but because he wants to be back. It is confusing him, my new behaviour of being nice to him, fun but not expecting anything or any love. Before everytime I saw him, I would be expressing… Read more »

ingrid
ingrid

I have a huge question but i dont know who to ask.i feel that your perfect. How do you do it. My boyfriend and me have been together for 2 years and you know the begining of the relationship was great he would see me all the timw althought he waS busy. Now i feel just taking for granted i read this but i find this hard because if i were to this it would just make him angry and fight. I dont see him that offten and when i do he would watch maybe a movie and then leave… Read more »

Paul
Paul
Reply to  ingrid

Guys date to advance the relationship that means taking you out at least once a week unless you want to see him more often. And we make time for those we really want to be with

PA
PA

“Never Allow Someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option.” MARK TWAIN

Motor King
Motor King
Reply to  PA

Thanks for reminder!

sarah
sarah

hey!! I fell in love wid a guy a few months back..!! we both wer vry happy… aftr a few days he started giving excusessaying his parents gt to knw n all… n recently he says he wants to break up wid me cuz he thinks I started bitching abt him..!! we both wer best friends before n now he refuses to evn b my frnd.. he says he wants to focuss more on his career n stuff..!!! I don wanna let go of this guy.. I love him a lot.. plzz help!!!

Paul
Paul
Reply to  sarah

Sweetie you are no longer a challenge to him, you gave him everything he wanted from you too quick.

I'm Not Fooled
I'm Not Fooled
Reply to  sarah

He was trying you out, like you were trying him out and you liked it and then he didn’t. So like is shared here, you need to become high value so he or whomever else comes along will find something to stay around for.

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