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Oct 25

Why the 80/20 Rule of Contacting a Man will Likely Make You LOSE Him

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 14 Comments

In our Facebook group, there’s been a lot of advice given around from women, and one of these pieces of advice is to let a man initiate contact with you 80% of the time, and you initiate contact with him 20% of the time. This advice is usually given from women in the group (not myself nor David) in response to questions along the lines of, “Should I initiate contact with a man?” Some women take this rule further, claiming that they never initiate with a man, and they don’t only use this rule in the dating stages, but also…

Sep 14

Relationship Timeline: Men VS Women

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 2 Comments

There are huge inherent differences between the relationship timelines of men and women. So as women, we need to know why the timelines are different and what it means for you. Here’s the truth: Men can father children pretty much throughout their whole lives. The world record holder for the oldest man to father a child is a 93 year old Indian farmer. Imagine that! To us women, that concept can be so foreign because we have our womb and our ovaries, and they do have an expiry date for doing the job of bearing children successfully. We are…

Aug 25

If You Never Initiate, You Will Lose the High Value Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 24 Comments

😳 Conversation is getting a wee bit silly over in our Facebook group. I have seen some folks suggesting many times to “never initiate” when dating men. Where do I even start with this? If you’re going to latch on to a principle, that’s fine, but let’s get our definitions straight first, because initiating is clearly getting confused with chasing. Initiate = cause a process or action to begin Chase = pursue in order to catch or catch up with Let’s use our thinking caps – we aren’t mindless women following dogma about what it means to be “feminine” without…

Aug 16

Polyamory: 10 Reasons Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 7 Comments

There are 10 good reasons Why Polyamory would Never Work Long-Term… yes I will probably get some flack from the poly communities, but put your thinking cap on and hear me out as to why polyamory isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. Polyamorous relationships are getting more and more popular each day. Social media and dating apps has changed the way we date and find a partner. It’s caused our culture to value distractions, selfishness and instant gratification rather than real emotional connection. It’s caused us to treat the opposite sex like candy, and as an avenue through which…

Jul 29

How Your Refusal to Grieve Makes You A ‘One of Many’ Type of Woman

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 18 Comments

💔💔 I know many of us have been burned by a man (or men) in the past. However, it’s one thing to grieve, process and appreciate exactly what happened in our past – coming out of that experience more aware, emotionally calibrated to men and better at protecting our investment with men in the future. It’s another to refuse to grieve, process and feel – instead choosing to blame the male gender overall for being sh*t. That approach, though easy, just leads to gutlessness and invulnerability. It also leads to resentment and defensiveness, killing our chances of showing up high…

Jul 25

The Women Men Commit to Versus the Women Men Leave

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Relationship Issues | 2 Comments

Let me share something important with you. There is a huge difference between the types of women that men commit to, versus the types of women that men leave. And the difference is not what you think it is. I used to know this woman who was absolutely drop dead gorgeous. Everywhere she went, she turned heads. On top of that, she had a great bubbly personality, so all the guys loved to talk and interact with her. Yet, all throughout her life, she kept attracting men and relationships that were subpar, damaging, and even toxic! She had a boyfriend…

May 16

Is He Serious About You or Just “Interested”? Critical Distinction.

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 4 Comments

Is he just “interested” or is he serious about you? There is a big difference between when a man is just interested in you, VERSUS when he’s serious about you. To know the difference is absolutely important for you as a woman, and here is why. A man could be interested in you for so many different reasons. Many of those reasons could be for his own gain and if so, a man’s interest is kind of cheap. And because of that, the interest that he may initially show you can often disappear overnight as well. So interest isn’t actually…

Apr 30

Why Men Don’t Put More Effort into the Relationship?

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 8 Comments

It’s frustrating when men don’t put much effort into the relationship right? You can complain about it. You can get angry about it. You can call all men lazy or you can inspire him to want to make the effort by what I’m about to share with you. So why DON’T men put more effort into relationships? Why do they have such resistance sometimes when it comes to dating & relationships? Well, let me tell you why.It’s because most men are not only terrible at understanding, feeling and relating to women – they are not intuitively driven to create intimate…

Apr 16

10 Telltale Signs He Is A Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 8 Comments

10 Telltale Signs he is a Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male OMG, OK, so listen to this. There I was… on a cold winter night in the dodgy end of town. I wouldn’t come to this part of town even during the day, let alone at night, but anyway. I was there with my husband and two of his guy friends. We were all in our twenties back then, so we were youngish. David had gotten some free tickets to some local kickboxing and MMA fights, and I had never watched fights live before, so I thought I would…

Jan 20

10 Seemingly Harmless Signs of a Toxic Relationship

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 13 Comments

Let me tell you a seemingly harmless, but really toxic story. Imagine two young and healthy people get together, a man and a woman. They are both very physically attractive (above average in looks in fact) and they both have decent jobs. On the surface, everyone, even their peers, think that they have a good marriage and above average lifestyle. They make good money and look good together too. They have everything in front of them. They’re building a car wash business together, and together they have a whole lifetime ahead of them. About their personalities. One of them seems…

Oct 26

When He Stops Chasing You & Being Romantic: What To Do?

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 25 Comments

Hi Renee & David, I really need your opinion on this. Everyone else I’ve talked to has more or less asked me to fight fire with fire, and I’m not really that kind of a human. So, my man and I, we’ve been in a relationship for some time now (is almost 3 years long enough?) and he was/is a masculine at his core. So far, however you’ve described a masculine man, he fits that description to a T. I try to understand that he has that drive in him, the ambition to achieve his goals and I understand that…

Sep 20

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5 Unconventional Ways To Make Him Love You More

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 19 Comments

Article updated 2018 “Become the kind of person that other people want to love.” This seems like such a weird statement to make. Shouldn’t we just be loved for who we are? Well, here’s the truth: What makes someone love you more is essentially also what fosters a beautiful connection with them. So by putting even just 1 or 2 of these unusual tips to use, you are not only potentially inspiring a man to love you more, you are actually becoming more and more skillful at creating deep connection with men (and secretly, with any human!). And that’s what…

May 25

The 9 dangers of leaning back and why it's not feminine

The 9 Dangers of “Leaning Back” & Why It’s Not Feminine

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 70 Comments

Article updated 2018 There are many people who strongly believe in leaning back when dating. Since the early days of the internet, when Rori Raye started spreading her idea on leaning back and circular dating, or rotational dating, which means dating several men at the same time, the idea of leaning back has spread. Some people say that you shouldn’t take too many initiating actions with men, and let him chase you, whilst you still must remain warm and receptive. Apparently, this is because it’s the natural role of a man to come forward, to work for you, and take…

Feb 02

polyamorous relationships, he wants one and what to do

Polyamorous Relationships: He Wants One. What Do I do?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 40 Comments

Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? Article updated 2018 What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life). What if we…

Jan 15

6 Behaviours You Should Never Tolerate In A Man

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 37 Comments

Article updated 2018 Cheating and abuse are the first things people think of when they consider what they should never tolerate in a relationship. This article is not going to be about cheating or abuse. Why? Because firstly, whilst of course abuse should not be tolerated; abuse is actually a wide topic – it goes far beyond just physical abuse. Sometimes, the behaviours that seem the most innocent on the surface can actually be deeply abusive. For example, acting like your partner is not causing you any hurt or anger (not being responsive) when you consciously know you’re withholding yourself…