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May 25

The 9 Dangers of “Leaning Back” & Why It’s Not Feminine

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 49 Comments

There are many people who strongly believe in leaning back when dating. Since the early days of the internet, when Rori Raye started spreading her idea on leaning back and circular dating, or rotational dating, which means dating several men at the same time, the idea of leaning back has spread. Some people say that you shouldn’t take too many initiating actions with men, and let him chase you, whilst you still must remain warm and receptive. Apparently, this is because it’s the natural role of a man to come forward, to work for you, and take care of you…

Feb 02

Polyamorous Relationships: He wants One. What Do I do?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 38 Comments

Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life). What if we need to learn…

Jan 15

6 Behaviours You Should Never Tolerate In A Man

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 26 Comments

Cheating and abuse are the first things people think of when they consider what they should never tolerate in a relationship. This article is not going to be about cheating or abuse. Why? Because firstly, whilst of course abuse should not be tolerated; abuse is actually a wide topic – it goes far beyond just physical abuse. Sometimes, the behaviours that seem the most innocent on the surface can actually be deeply abusive. For example, acting like your partner is not causing you any hurt or anger (not being responsive) when you consciously know you’re withholding yourself (as well as…

Nov 07

12 Secret Reasons Some People Will Always Be Distant From You

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 41 Comments

She sat there, all alone, on the curb, crying. She just had it. She had just lost someone dear to her, and now she had nobody – nobody to even call her and ask how she is – and didn’t know what to do about it. A woman of many family members. A few friends. And yet nobody was there for her. She wanted to commit suicide, sometimes. It was all just too hard. She had friends, but they didn’t feel like real friends. Her family wasn’t nice to her, and her last relationship broke up, even though she loved…

Sep 22

This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 77 Comments

This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away …Because pushing him away is a lot better than feeling him ‘here’ with us and consequently being more vulnerable to his betrayal. Especially if we’ve been truly open and vulnerable to him. …Because we want you to work harder for us. …Because we are scared to trust you. …Because outside of our natural desire for sex during/before ovulation, or the beginning or the end of a menstrual cycle, our desire for sex is lower, and sex takes a lot of energy when we don’t want it. …Because relationships take courage that we…

Sep 15

If He Loves You More Than You Love Him, Is It Worth a Chance?

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 31 Comments

If He Loves You More Than You Love Him, Is It Worth A Chance? Hi Renee, I have been following your blog and it has changed my life significantly. Thank you. I recently met a guy who I believe truly loves me, the problem is, He has a lot of habits I used to have but worked really hard on myself to quit.（ex. talking too much) If I am being honest, am not sure I love this man but I realized I have been too picky with men. This guy calls me, checks up and tells me he loves me…

Jun 16

4 Top Secret Ways to Access Your High Value Vulnerability

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment | 17 Comments

‘’You don’t bleed. That’s why you can’t keep a guy.’’ Erol said to his long time friend, Jacinta, whilst twisting his foot into the ground to kill his cigarette butt. They’ve been friends forever and always love to chat about their relationships… “I…what? I don’t bleed?” “Yeah, you don’t bleed. You need to bleed in order for him to have feelings for you. I’m exaggerating, but I’m kind of not, too.” “What the hell are you talking about?” Erol chuckled. “Look, I don’t actually mean bleed, that is a metaphor to say, hey, you should make it obvious how you…

May 18

5 Advanced Ways To Have Close Relationships That Others Envy

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 13 Comments

“He left me. I suddenly broke down in tears. I told him I was so hurt that he didn’t call me after we had sex for the first time. We weren’t even on a date when I burst out crying; I just bumped into him at college.” Kristy said to Gianna. Gianna raised her eyebrows and stopped breathing for one minute. “Wow. Ouch.” “What? That’s all you gonna say?” No no, I’m just processing all of what you said right now, Gianna said while letting out a big puff of cigarette smoke slowly. Oh, ok. “I can’t believe you burst…

Mar 20

The Secret Cost For Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 3)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 22 Comments

Having casual sex encourages women to be afraid to ask for commitment We want a man’s commitment for a reason. Don’t short-change yourself. Because there is so much pressure on women to give up sex easily these days, this is even more reason to resist that push for quick sex from men. Why? Because it’s also a test. Good men also test how easily they can get a woman to have sex with them. Not having sex for validation and approval, and not having sex indiscriminately, or too early, will set you apart from the crowd. Just because a…

Jan 04

How the Fear of Abandonment Can Make You More Beautiful…

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence | 49 Comments

Can fear of abandonment make you more beautiful? They say that the opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference. And I don’t know about you, but I don’t hate humans often. I hate certain ideas and I hate mediocrity (which means I hate myself sometimes). On the occasion that I do feel hate, it’s towards people that I care about and it’s because they are not open (they are not love). They are in denial about truth. In other words, they’re indifferent to relationship and life. They just don’t care. They choose to be thick and impenetrable. They choose fear…

Aug 07

Check These 7 Things Before “The Commitment Talk” Threatens Your Relationship

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment | 25 Comments

I was crying for an hour. I had assumed that enough years spent invested in my man would mean he’d automatically propose marriage. I had fantasies that he would propose on his own without me EVER mentioning marriage; because that would mean I was like, extra awesome. Hah. I didn’t realise that there’s ways to get a man to commit that are genuine. I thought I should just go along in the relationship until he automatically proposed. Related Post: How to Get him To Propose and Marry You Without Looking Low Value So what was I to do? Well, I…

Apr 26

The Truth: What Men Are Looking for When They Push You for Sex

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 135 Comments

The Truth: What men are looking for when they push you for sex Sex is the thing that women are obligated to do with men if they want to keep a man around. I’m kidding. Sex is the thing we think we have to do with men to keep them around. We feel pressured. Who doesn’t know a woman friend who gave a blow job or had sex with a man to ‘keep him happy’? When a man is in love, he can have zero sex with a woman and still stick around, whilst being emotionally attracted to her and…

Oct 17

Are men really more attracted to airheads over the strong and successful women?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 75 Comments

Are men really more attracted to the flighty type of women over the strong and successful type? Veronica asks Trevor: “I saw a study the other day that said that men are more attracted to dumb women, and that intelligent women are seen as problematic in a relationship. Do you see this as true?” Trevor: Well, men like to be right, and intelligent women can stop them feeling that way in a relationship. Veronica: groan. **** This conversation reflects exactly the kind of views many people have in the world, based on my experience. Specifically, the view that a woman…

Jan 28

The Real Pain of When Men Pull Away & How To React in A High Value Way

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 142 Comments

So truthfully, why does he pull away? Sometimes when a man pulls away, it’s because there was no actual emotional attraction in the first place. When there isn’t enough attraction and connection in a dating situation, things will fizzle out – no matter how much we want to hold on. In these situations, when a man pulls away, it means that we should let it go. Usually, when the relationship was based on sex and perhaps, just convenience in the beginning – it’s a good sign that he’s pulling away forever. But very often, men pulling away isn’t a bad thing….

Dec 27

Why Men can Lose Trust in Women who have unattached sex

Think casual sex is harmless? Think again.

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 203 Comments

What do you suppose men sacrifice when they sleep around a lot? A committed relationship? Maybe. Click here to find out if you’re Dating a Commitment Friendly Man A good reputation? Yes, men can jeopardise their future potential to have a high value mate through perpetual promiscuity (See the book social Psychology and Human Sexuality, 2001). But more importantly – what, on a reproductive/biological level, do men sacrifice? Quality. They sacrifice quality. And that’s quality of the women. Many men who sleep around don’t mind this; all they are looking for is novelty in experience anyway. Almost any willing woman…