How to Deal With Jealous Women

How to Deal With Jealous Women

A more physically ‘perfect’ or glamorous woman needn’t always cause jealousy amongst other women, but a beautiful, feminine woman can cause enormous jealousy.

If you’ve always been a beautiful and feminine woman, you would have experienced countless jealous looks and perhaps even jealous schemes, engineered by other women. It’s everywhere. And you can be a plain Jane and cause this jealous stir among other women, because you have something other women feel they do not; the amazing and mysterious force of femininity.

And, jealous women can be women on the street whom you don’t know, or even a jealous friend or jealous friends, in the form of ‘frenemies’ – friends who sometimes seem like a friend, and other times seem to want the worst for you. (Click here to take the quiz on “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”)

Good looks do not keep a man. Every woman knows this deep down. And a physically gorgeous woman; even a famous woman crowned the most beautiful woman in the world, cannot have it all. Take Halle Berry for example, having been cheated on or left by every man she’s been with. Take Marilyn Monroe, who died way before she should have. Take Elle Macpherson, who in her 40s still has gorgeous looks, and yet she hasn’t held or kept a man. Take for example the large number of famous women who have committed suicide or died of some sort of drug overdose. No amount of beautiful looks or fame will fulfill a woman. You can be the most beautiful woman on earth, and still feel unloved.

But when a woman is truly feminine, she tends to never ever be short of men in her life if she’s single, or if she’s taken, she may find it hard to fight off her man’s adoring, admiring affections even if she wanted to. 🙂

Jealousy on Fire

More often than not, a loving, devoted and amazing man in another woman’s life will cause jealousy on fire in some other women.

More often than not, even if a feminine woman is single, other women will hate her, for no reason other than the fact that this woman has something that they feel is out of reach for them; true, radiant femininity and consequently, beauty! Which is the ultimate attractor of masculinity. Every woman can achieve true femininity, but not every woman does. In fact, women who are jealous are often not even really aware of what this other woman has that she doesn’t. All she knows is that she wants what she’s got, deep down.

Feminine women attract male attention. Feminine women can have the pick of the bunch, and yes, feminine women CAN have it all. Because true femininity is radiant and gives love. It is love and it is a force for life. Feminine energy is adored by men who are masculine at their core (most men), and regardless of her looks, a woman like this may still get the pick of the bunch.

Throughout the course of your life, (if you follow the femininity movement and embrace your feminine sexual core), you will most definitely encounter a trail of hateful and angry women. Regardless of your age. Jealousy isn’t just incited in other women only when you’re young and beautiful. It occurs simply if you are beautiful. And femininity is beautiful. Men will jump hoops to protect it, love it, embrace it and chase it.

Jealous women may just give you a nasty look, a hateful sideways glance, and if you’re lucky, they may bitch about you behind your back. If you’re unlucky, jealous women will go out of their way to bring you down.

And in this heavily masculine ambition driven society, there are plenty of them. Because women suppress their feminine energy to get things done, and to conform. So they don’t often get what they truly want to experience. Which is love.

Ultimately, we’re all looking for a feeling, and more often than not, most women want to fill up with love and to give love. Masculine women don’t tend to attract this in to their lives. So if you are feminine, you’ll have something that they feel they are missing out on, yet don’t quite know what it is or how to achieve it.

And life is unfair to start with. So we don’t all have the same opportunities. We’re not all born with stunning looks, and we’re not all given the requisite knowledge to live happy, fulfilling lives and to enjoy enriching and fulfilling intimate relationships and marriages.

Now if you’re a very feminine woman, you will most likely not feel a great deal of jealousy if you see another beautiful woman who is truly happy. In fact, you’ll most likely be really happy for her and want to revel in this happiness with her. Even if you do not have it yourself! This may be because you feel you too, can have what she has.

You are a rare creature 🙂 not all women can revel in the good fortune of another woman.

If you are the kind of woman who feels guilty being in the spotlight, and although you feel and enjoy being feminine, find it hard to fully enjoy it without feeling bad about taking away the spotlight from other women.

Never dull your femininity to make other women feel like they are enough.

There’s a reason why anti-feminists often say that it is unattractive women who instigated the first and subsequent waves of feminist movements. (please note: I don’t know how accurately researched this video is, and I am aware that it is not necessarily true that it is solely unattractive women who instigate and support Feminist movements). However, I understand their position and can see why they perceive this to be the truth.

And unattractive is not purely physical. I believe a woman can actually change her looks and become uglier on the outside through her internal thought processes.

One way in which you can deal with jealousy is by befriending the jealous woman and lead her to feel more confident in herself, and being more giving to her. Giving her reasons to feel loved and accepted. That will bring out a different side to her. And, you can show other women who are less confident that they can have, and deserve to have everything that they want and need. However, there are times when women just don’t want to change or feel truly great about themselves. In these cases, you’ve just got to do some serious ‘pattern-breaking’; breaking of their patterns/habits! 🙂

How to deal with jealous women

If you find yourself in a situation in which you are surrounded by oppressive women who you can sense are not only talking about you behind your back, but actively do things behind your back to bring you down, it’s time to take action. Because you cannot let women like this walk all over you. A woman still has to be able to put her foot down when it is needed. (read my article about passive, aggressive and difficult women)

You may believe that a feminine woman should just stay quiet and perhaps just sacrifice her own needs to avoid being around these women. Not true.

I have said before that a feminine woman needs to have a masculine part to her as well; and this is a situation in which you need to go in to more masculine mode to stand up to women like this.

A story

I’ll give you an example. In my own life, I’ve experienced being in a workplace full of women several times. This time last year I was working as a perfume ambassador. Whilst in some places, women in this type of occupation would be quite feminine (and there were a couple where I worked), there were a few very masculine and butch women. (Click here to take the quiz “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”)

On my first day, I encountered a young woman who also worked as a perfume ambassador, just for a different agent. I adore people, so I cheerfully introduced myself and intended to make a friend. Before I noticed the energy she was putting out. She had no interest in befriending me, in fact she immediately asserted herself as a manager, but made her position sound higher than what it really was. Because I was new there, I was easy to fool.

We shall call her ‘B’.

Immediately, B was asserting herself upon me and I was following her commands, although I actually wasn’t obligated to follower her commands. But she was still very oppressive, and I made the mistake of getting stuck in a ‘master-servant’ type role with her, which was very uncomfortable.

B’s intentions showed up more when I needed her expertise to guide me to where to find items, where other products were located, etc. She would never be concise and accurate. She was always deliberately vague, so much so that I had no idea where she was pointing me to. She wanted me to keep asking her, and ultimately, look foolish. I unfortunately let myself fall in to this role with her repeatedly.

She also knew I was never taught to use a register, and that it wasn’t a part of my job to be able to use one; yet she would tell me to put things through the register in front of a customer, and walk away without offering assistance.

During these incidents, I had to ask her repeatedly for directions and she would roll her eyes at me when I couldn’t follow her instructions. I kept on with this situation because I didn’t really want to believe that she could be so deliberately manipulative.

I noticed also, that her behavior got worse when my man came to visit me at work. He did this often, and was always very affectionate, protective and loving. He often picked me up from my shifts. Sometimes he would bring me a drink or food for my lunch break, and other times he just came briefly, to see how I was. I began to sense that every time he did come to see me, she would pull another woman aside, and talk about me and point at myself and David.

Over time, I noticed that the other women who I thought I had made friends with stopped wanting to talk to me. I felt left out and excluded. I ended up in tears in the ladies’ room, and found it hard to work. I found it hard to push on in this environment, and the energy was very bad.

One day her and another colleague were talking, and she confessed that she had never been on a date (she is 24, nearly 25) or had a man interested in her. I felt bad for ‘B’, and thus continued indicating that I was still open to her, and open to befriending her in some way, as I am with most people.

Until one day I met another colleague from a different department who told me how she was in tears one day after work because of the way ‘B’ had been treating her. I was forced to acknowledge that ‘B’ was preying on seemingly ‘weaker’ and softer women, who were more feminine, and more vulnerable, as this new colleague I met was very feminine.

And this is the trouble with being a very feminine woman. Whilst the majority of men will love you for it, and not want to hurt you in any way, there will be women who will want to put you down. Women, I find, tend to be different around other very feminine women. I’ve met women who love this and feel at home with other feminine women, but I’ve also come across women who smell femininity from a mile away and proceed to trample all over it. I personally love women, and celebrate femininity.

You’re probably wondering how I ended up dealing with ‘B’. One morning, I noticed that one woman whom had always been nice to me stopped talking to me completely and starting being very snarky. I had a sneaking suspicion it had something to do with B. So I took the liberty of confronting my friend and asked. Indeed, B had told her, among other things, a blatant lie about me.

So I went up to B and confronted her in front of every employee, stating to her that she shall come to me from now on, to tell things to my face, rather than telling fibs behind my back. I proceeded to ask her why she was doing it, and I hadn’t seen myself cause fear in another woman for a long time, but I had to do it to liberate myself and to show her that I wasn’t going to tolerate her behavior.

The point of my story is to show that there are scenarios in which a feminine woman must assert herself and go in to more of a masculine mode. It’s all part of being a dynamic and whole woman who is able to bring out different sides of herself when it is needed. (read my article about light and dark feminine)

You need to raise your level of masculinity, become even more masculine than them, to bring things back to a little more fairness.

When confronted with jealous women, or even other aggressive women who disrespect you or your womanliness, it is important to stand your ground, rather than shy away from it. I learned this lesson, as I let the situation go on a lot longer than I should have!

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Do you have any strategies to deal with jealousy from other women? Or do you have any juicy stories? Feel free to share with us 😀



  • Real Woman

    Wow so pathetic and childish @person B. Ive delt with jealous women for so long now that Im not even interested in making any new women friends after cutting off the last one I dealt with. Women have acted jealous of me rather I am single or taken! Women who are also beautiful themselves have also behaved in jealous behavior towards me. Its really ridiculous.

  • Jenny from the Flock

    This is some of the worst writing I’ve ever read. Life isn’t that black and white, and it sure as he’ll isn’t about keeping a man. It’s about living and loving your real self, not some poorly-written tripe about being feminine.
    Also, this post is a bit homophobic.

  • Samah

    I know that feeling very well.and I dealt with it since my teen years.I never considered myself “beautiful” and i still feel like soo many of the girls around me and my friends do everything they can to make themselves the more beautiful and better and smarter by putting others down.and I still forgive.I was always the humble quiet girl that doesn’t want problems.
    Few months ago I want to a new place for training and i met a girl from the first second we met I felt like she was giving me that ” look” I think soo many of you experience,she was so rude to me.and we don’t even know each other and i haven’t done anything to her.I left that place .
    Anyway that’s part of life I think.if I wanna be my truest self a lot of people will hate,it’s their problem..
    And a lot of female friends specially hate this ,they want you less than them so that they are better than you.
    I wonder where are the rare good female friends who support each other and celebrate their femininity and feed each other.
    But that’s fine. Thanks for this amazing articles renee it feels great to know that this is part of a lot of women’s journey 🙂
    Your so beautiful Renee

  • R.White

    i do get hate from women, didnt know how feminine i was, so i took the quiz and it says 70% feminine, but they sent me an email on the explaination and i actually think i might be a bit higher like 75% or 80%. some questions i just put none of the above cause i didnt know how i would reply. but i dont think 70% is enough to generate hate. i get hated on by women, i dont know what it is that drives them to be insecure, cause im nice and cordial and actually stay to myself mostly, and they still was insecure. and men? for some reason men single me out alot, or nitpick at me, so i would assume they hate me too. *shrugs*
    but i do be getting the buzz in my ear about how alot of them compliment me, *rarely say it to my face though*

  • I hope I won’t run into the issue of being jealous of younger girls when I reach the age of 50, 60 or 70; one of the reasons I am interested in psychoanalysis, psychology and self-actualisation etc is to ensure that I don’t run into these kinds of shitty situations when I am older.

  • Carli

    i work with two female haters – thanks for the compliment girls-!!

  • MysteryGirl

    Great read ! I had a girl friend that stopped talking to me altogether, and before she stopped things wasn’t going to good for her! Things have never really been fair to her and I was supportive, comforting, and a really good friend to her. Like you, I’m in A relationship and been married to my hubby 3short years and he jumps through hoops for me. He is awesome! we have two incomes so Yea I’d have extra money and we’d do lunch together frequently. She’d even carpooled with me because she live close by. She’d be real quiet when my hubby picked us up on days his car was in the shop and we’d be done to one. She is very attractive, however she has been single for awhile. I understand how she feel, she usually have a depressed demeaner and I’d encourage her. I just didn’t understand it. I did nothing wrong but felt hurt. I have tried confronting her after work one day, and I wanted to offer her a ride and she ignored me like I wasn’t even there, so it was the end of our friendship.

  • luvpolitics .

    Thank you for that Renee! I am a man here, a masculine gay man, and I found your post through a Google search for which I was seeking dialogue on “how to deal with jealous people/coworkers,” and I am so glad I did! While I may not be a woman, it was insightful and therapeutic to read about your experiences as a humble, beautiful and feminine woman, as I have seen women such as yourself go through MUCH WORSE, but never could really recognize it as I was a “man,” and felt men did not have to deal with such issues. But recently, my experiences have changed as my new living environment (Washington, DC) has exposed my to a myriad of competitive, sneaky, cutthroat, manipulative, rude and outright envious people that I have ever had the misfortune of meeting. The completion here is fierce, and I have found that these people who stoop to any level to sabotage, disrupt, discount and or just plain ruin any progress or success for me at the work place and where I live. Mostly, I am a cisgender, gay, black male who has always been attractive ( and flattered to fight off many beautiful women) but I gained weight for a period of time due to some personal issues with my sexuality but then lost the weight and started to really apply myself in life. Now that I am thin, handsome, young, and ambitious again–I have received a terrible backlash by my coworkers, some roommates, people I see on the metro and in public places, and it has my scrambling for answers as I have never dealt with such toxic people. For me, I believe I upset many of the females workers I deal with because I do not flirt or entertain their compliments (I am gay) and my male coworkers hate me because all the girls flirt with me? In public, I get nasty stares and glares from other men (some of it hate glares and some annoyed “f*** you pretty boy” death glares) and it really has started to get in my head to the point where I wear sunglasses and headphones just to block out the microagressions from these people. I have had some flirty roommates sort of get the hint that I am not interested, and now they scurry out the rooms when they hear me approaching and other passive aggressive things. Men have surprisingly been very terrible towards me, which was surprising, as I find older white men really give me the envy glare…I have seriously never had to deal with so much under-handed, and toxic behavior in my life and I really had to get MEAN (I am a sourthern boy at heart with manners and respectfulness) with these people to show them that they were dealing with someone who could be just a nasty, but in a professional way. I had to quickly change the way that I dealt and interacted with these people and really had to rely heavily on my intelligence to risk assess every situation and to work three times as hard to ensure my work projects and reputation were not ruined. Now that the manipulation is on my radar– I feel it a challenge to overcome and take relaxation in my accomplishments after its all over and done. IT has affected my dating, as I get nasty stares from guys I would date but give me nasty stares because they assume I think they are out of my league? What a really nasty world we live in but we have to stay positive and share our stories. Thank you for sharing yours. I am glad you put Ms. B in her place!!!

  • Ariana

    I hear you.

    Try being a feminine AND religious/spiritual female in NYC… It’s a dog eat dog world over here. I grew up Christian, and have had a rough upbringing to be honest, and by God I got through it & it has made me more wise and understanding. And very humble. My family is not from here and my mom struggled to keep me here with my relative. My family is very spiritual and have endured battles with people who hate them for that very fact alone. Coupled with being humble, giving, honest. Some people find these qualities alone (not even considering physical attractiveness) as VERY intimidating. As a Christian, they can see God is in your life and envy that with their hardened hearts. But as my mom would say – salvation is free; Jesus is for everyone.

    So no chip on my shoulder, no diva attitude. If anything I tend to just keep to myself most times. I was always the overweight one growing up (215 at my heaviest), but could never lose the weight UNTIL I actually FINALLY graduated high school and stopped hanging out with those people and loved and nuturer myself. I dropped 50 pounds in just 3 months after leaving.

    I agree… I’m also really feminine and I keep myself up, but I get a lot of frigid responses from girls. I have only had 3 real girl friends like sisters in my life, in addition to my mom and aunt who have been with me through everything and I consider them my best friends as well. NYC is the worst place for BOTH feminine and religious/spiritual/Christian woman. Christian faith ADDS to and ENCOURAGES femininity, so it’s like a double dose. There are a lot of manly, overly ambitious, immoral/”loose” women running wild here. Just speaking some truth.

    Plus, I don’t have the money like they do for the lavish lifestyle anx expensive things, so I don’t mind. I would like to go somewhere where the girls are more down to earth.

  • Stacy Hirsh

    I always see these two particular bitches at the mall snickering at me, I don’t see anything funny about me, I dress casually, nothing out of the ordinary and whenever they are together they look at me and laugh for no reason. They are just immature women in their 20’s and they are not that good looking, One is on the chunky side and rather average looking and the other girl is really skinny, like borderline anorexic skinny and also average looking. They are always talking to eath other in some foreign language and then they look over at me and snicker, I don’t know what their deal is. >:(

  • Storm Morrisby

    The beauty of another woman is not the absence of your own.

  • Storm Morrisby

    Its really so frustrating…. I am lucky to have a group of beautiful open minded and empowering woman I have the pleasure to call my girl friends. But time and time again I see so many woman being catty putting others down! Because you work hard and make the effort to be the best woman you can be some get intimidated and down right catty.
    I have seen this dynamic in various working environments, now have just experienced it with my cousin in a living environment. Keep our heads high and move forward ! Empower each other FFS ! 🙁

  • kosten

    interessting article. yet, I disagree with you in 2 Points strongy: 1. never try to befriend a jealous woman! You can not win with a woman that is less attractive than you. She will always try to put you down. Making yourself less attractive might be wrth a try, but if you do look like a model, she will still be jealous and try to push you out of her way. what you Need is a man that defends you, than there will be no Problem with being beautiful. Also, I disagree with your idea that every woman can be attractive. It is simply not true. Some woman just are short, have small eyes, chubby Features and have bad bone structure. They can not Change even if they loose weight and work on their femininity as much as they want to. They might reach a Level where they gain “Attention”, but they have to continously work for it hard, while woman who are naturally attractive have it easier. This is the base for jealousy. Nature has not planned for us to be all equal. Nature also has its own social order. It is our unnatural societies that give ugly woman the changes to attain a lot of Partners and fame. In an ancient tribe, this would not be possible. Pretty woman would be Alpha and ugly woman are beta. Today, woman bleach their hair blonde, lighten their Skin, lighten and enlarge their eyes , reshape their nose, etc. etc.. they spend millions in make up, just to be regarded as pretty. Yet, men sense it is fake Beauty, even if they can not pin it down. It is visible. So dont say everyone can become the same. We can not. And we should not. Also do not advice woman to befriend jelaous Girls, that is actually a rather dangerous path. Jealous Girls or woman go to extremes to push the other away, they even ruin the life of the pretty Girl while pretending to be a friend. . not good advice. . another word of caution: check on how attractive you really are, rather than on your own opinion. I know plenty of ugly woman who constantly Claim to look like models, yet, they do not and they never get a model Job. If you fall in this cathegory you need a reality check, These are the ugly ones that are trying to gain Attention. These woman can get very agressiv when confronted with real Beauty.. do not befriend, but avoid! and do not be Kind to them, it will not make it better.. On the other Hand, if you deal with a really beautiful woman, try to ignore her Looks and try to treat her like you tread everyone else.. Best regards, K.

  • Kara

    It’s very unfortunate. And the sad thing is that even men are not above it. A lot of them just pretend like they are. I was reading an article in Psychology Today that asked if women prefer a man who’s helpful or good looking(as if we can only desire ONE trait). I said both, as I prefer both, always have and always will. Some guy wrote some bitter comment insulting good looking men and casting them all out as dogs. One young lady responded and told him that she had a friend who was good looking and ALSO a GOOD PERSON.

    I guess it was too much for his ego to handle that a man CAN be kind AND HANDSOME. He proceeded to insult her by saying that she was “delusional” and lusting after her already MARRIED friend. He also alleged that her handsome friend would leave his wife when the “right woman” came along. Someone vouched for him again and told him that all she said about him was true.

    Some men who don’t look like Brad Pitt( no one is “ugly” but everyone’s beauty is on a different level and everyone has different taste in the opposite sex, which is perfectly fine) seem to WANT to believe that ALL handsome men are “scum” who dog women out, which I KNOW from personal experience IS NOT true. I love and prefer kind handsome men. They’re awesome! That’s the REAL reason they usually get cast in the “cad” roles in movies. Regardless of what some guys may say, it’s jealousy simple and plain. Jealousy does not limit itself to the female gender.

  • Kim

    I go through something like this at my job. It’s a group of grown women who are always together like a clique. They’re always talking, gossiping and laughing all the time about everyone especially me. I found the ring leader of this particular group is always the one starting with me, she says something about me within earshot and I know she is testing me. I just ignore her because she obviously has issues going on on her life if she always takes the time out of her day to say something negative about me, my hair, or what I do….it’s childish behavior that should be left in high school and not followed to the workplace. Grown people should be worried more about their paycheck than worrying about other people at work…it’s petty. That is why I refer to this group as “Messy Betty and the crew” 😉

  • Noemi

    To be honest , I have this side of me…I mean I do not talk badly about other feminine women, but I do get jealous because I imagine how her femininity would fulfill my man…and I cry because of this. It takes time for me to befriend very feminine women because of my jealousy. Then again, I befriend them anyway and after that my jealousy starts to evaporate but it is a big weakness for me as I always think that I do not have the required feminine energu to fulfill my man and I have the tendency to pair him up with a girl whom I think would suit him better than me…

    • Ariana

      Don’t think this way Noemi! Listen to some slow, sexy music (like some classic Soul and R&B songs), buy more fitting outfits, and try to tap into your own well of feminine energy. Slow down, take in the moments flirt, be sexy, be more of a free spirit

      You will feel it within you over time and trust me – he (and many other men) will definitely take notice.

    • Kim

      As long as you don’t have urges/plans to harm these women you are perfectly normal. Everyone can experience jealousy, what sets the healthy apart from the unhealthy is the desire to harm another human being, whether physically or psychologically. I don’t think you are an evil jealous psycho bully like the type of woman most of these comments are referring to.

  • Maryana Anatoly

    I went through this a lot of times . One woman was so nice to me but I saw in her eyes that she hates me first time when she saw me . She said that I am so beautiful… We become friends.
    And one day she told me that I want be attractive to her husband . I felt so bad ! Because I have my own husband who loves me so much and I love him. It’s was very sad 😬 . We only been together a few times with a families and we all talked. I always tried to wear fluffy dresses and skirts to don’t bring her husband attention to me. She was always in tight clothes and leggings . And now she is accusing me that I am only want be friend with her because of her husband 😂😂 any advice ? It’s just very sad and funny also

    • Kim

      Here is some advice: STAY AWAY FROM HER. This woman can not offer you true friendship, only drama. Find a healthy minded woman to be friends with and spare yourself the negativity.