Finding Love

This Does NOT Make You ‘Wife Material’

This Does NOT Make You ‘Wife Material’

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 55 Comments

My assistant Jenny forwarded me this question the other day: “I met my guy in Feb 2013 from Okcupid. In March 2013 (3weeks later) he asked me to be his girl. In April 2013 he asked me to move into his house. Aug 3, 2013, he broke up with me.- I cooked, cleaned, washed clothes, etc. I am wife material I know that much. Around May he started to back off, but I did not see the signs because I was still on a love high. Questions- Why would he give up a good woman? (he said I am everything he has…

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How to Radiate Deeper Femininity

How to Radiate Deeper Femininity and Attract Men You Can Trust

By | All, Attraction, Finding Love | 33 Comments

Listen to yourself when you are talking. Listen to others in a social situation, trying to fit in and ‘have a good ol’ time with the mates’. Listen to friends, to your lover, to your boyfriend. The words we speak are mostly blind to what is really going on inside. Words often try to minimize our own vulnerability and ability to feel. We say ‘Oh it’s okay…” When our real feeling is that we hate that person. We say ‘Oh maybe he was just….a little…forgetful. Or busy.” Well, what if we actually are angry at him? And what if that…

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This is why men don't call often

THIS is Why Men Don’t Call More Often…

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 119 Comments

My man and I openly discuss relationship topics and the differences between men and women very often. We are both very passionate about it and this mutual passion is one reason I can write this blog. One day recently, my man David and I were having a conversation about why men don’t call and how women chronically over analyse when he doesn’t call – a conversation that just made me laugh in amusement. I laughed in amusement because no matter how many times I have a new realisation about how different a masculine man is to a feminine woman, it’s…

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He Pays for His Ex Girlfriend’s Bills but Won’t Pay for Mine?

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 111 Comments

What to DO when your Boyfriend is still emotionally Attached to his Ex A question from Kira: “Dear Renee, After reading your writing for awhile now, I’d like your input on something. My boyfriend still shares his cell phone family plan with his ex girl friend, who he split up with two years ago. They work together she can easily pay him. Additionally, I manage his bills and pay it online for him. After about a year I brought it up, but he said he felt bad that it would be more expensive for her, so he wanted to wait…

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OK to need a man

It’s OK to Need A Man, It Really Is!

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 73 Comments

It’s ok to need a man. It’s ok because you choose to need a man. It’s ok to be a mature woman and make that conscious choice to need the right man. A good man. It’s ok to admit that you do (or have) needed your father. Or at least imply that your father is protective. Which is to openly imply that you allow your father to be in a role where you need him. (Click here to take the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) Why isn’t it ok to admit that you need a man who…

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6 KEY Differences between a little girl and a woman

6 KEY Differences Between a Little Girl and a Real Woman

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 59 Comments

You may already be a woman in some areas of your life.  One thing is for sure…the area of intimate relationships is the place where most of us show up as little girls and little boys. Ironically…at the same time, we demand a man out of our partner. Or we claim that the dating market is full of little boys. The truth is…we wouldn’t be so enthusiastic to say there are tonnes of little boys in the dating market if we were showing up as a woman. Because a woman notices the little boys, but her attention is too diverted…

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Why Cant I Be Loved for Who I am

Why Can’t I be Loved for Who I Am?

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 24 Comments

Why Can’t you be Loved for who You are? People often exclaim ‘Why do I have to DO something to find a man/woman? Why can’t I be loved for being ME?’ – You can. The catch is, you must relax and actually BE you. (Click here to complete the quiz on “How High Value High Status am I on FB?) Not the you that you think you should be. That’s not really YOU. You must choose to stop spending your life saying and doing things just so others will think you are cool and accept you. It’s not the being…

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How to Deal with Fear of Being Alone

How to Deal with Fear of Being Alone and Him Leaving You?

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 68 Comments

How do you Deal with fear of being Alone and fear of a Man leaving You? Find out in this article… If there was one thing I could have every woman understand about herself; it would be that our biggest fear is that we will be abandoned. With friends, this fear exists, with parents, it also exists, but nowhere is this fear more intense than dealing with men. (Click here to take the quiz “How Feminine Am I Actually”) Now, there are women in our population all over the world who are just more masculine; and it’s in their biology, not…

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Are Men Intimidated by You

Are Men Intimidated by You or Just NOT Attracted to You?

By | All, Attraction, Finding Love | 246 Comments

Find out…Are Men Intimidated by you? Or are they Simply not Attracted to You? I remember several years ago, being about 20 years old, and I was out with a group of girlfriends. None of the men seemed interested in me. At least not compared to the number of men who were interested in my friends.  I felt devastated. The men seemed interested in my girlfriends, but not me. I couldn’t figure it out. Not that I was trying to actually figure it out; I was too busy feeling sorry for myself. One can’t get clarity when they are feeling…

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ignore a guy who takes you for granted

What to Do If He Takes You for Granted

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 109 Comments

My question to you is this: is it true that your boyfriend or husband takes you for granted and only makes time for you when it suits him? Or is it that it’s too easy for you to feel like you are not special? (Click here to get your “Goddess Report”) In other words; are you making up the story that he only fits you in when it’s convenient for him, in your head? Here’s why I ask: feminine women seek attention; we thrive on it and we need it to feel feminine (many women will sell their souls for…

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Understanding Men

5 Insights into Men that Will Ease Your Worries

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 219 Comments

When it comes to understanding men, there are two important things I want you to know. Because I find that it’s very easy to forget all the little details and everything else when you are stressed out or upset about your relationship issues. And it’s helpful to remember these basics before you make decisions you will regret. Before giving you the five insights into men — (click here to take the quiz on “Am I dating a Commitment Friendly Man?“) — I want to lay a quick but important foundation with you. Here are the two most fundamental principles: 1) Most…

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What to know BEFORE buying a Man any Gift

The 6 Rules You Must know BEFORE buying a Man any Gift

By | All, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 89 Comments

If you’re like me, you love giving gifts. It’s just a nice feeling – ESPECIALLY when you like and respect that person. Hey, sometimes buying gifts for someone else feels 100 times better than it does buying something for yourself. It’s nice to put a smile on someone else’s face, isn’t it? But in all honesty, when it comes to men that you are romantically interested in; be careful. You may think buying and giving gifts nothing big, but, it does matter; especially when you are only dating and not sure if he is committed to you. (Click here to…

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alpha male test

5 Simple Signs He is NOT An Alpha Male

By | All, Attraction, Finding Love | 554 Comments

The following are examples of what I feel an alpha male would not look like. Having said that… Beware of these if you are in a Long-term Relationship! If you are in a long term relationship right now, take these 5 indicators LIGHTLY. They do not hard core apply to YOU all the time, because when you spend THAT much time with someone, you realise that we all have moments where we slip in to different roles and he might have done something once or twice that indicated he was a beta male but really he isn’t. (Click here to complete…

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Why He Pulls Away when you spend time

Why He Pulls Away when you spend time Together & How to Deal with it

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Why He Pulls Away When You’re With Him & How to Deal With It This is a great question from a wonderful member named Katie G. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> QUESTION Hi Renee, Congratulations to you and David on your wedding! So. I finished both programs, Commitment Control and Understanding Men, a couple of months ago. I loved them: what I learned from you took my relationship from “eh, we’re not really there yet” to the next level so, so quickly! In fact, my boyfriend and I are getting set to move in together, and this weekend he was telling me how hard…

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Is this man going to propose or what

Is this Man Going to Propose or What?

By | All, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 5 Comments

Find out…will this Man Propose or Not? This is a question from a lovely lady, Penelope. >>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>  QUESTION “Hi Renee, I hope you had a wonderful honeymoon! If you could spare some insight on my situation, I would really appreciate it.  I feel just a tad foolish considering your last mail out. My boyfriend is from UK.   I am from Spain.  He is working in Beijing currently.  We had been dating in Spain for 7 months before he had to come here for work. We ended up pursuing a long distance relationship and I came to Beijing for 2 months to visit him early this year.  It…

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