Finding Love

Sep 22

This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away

By Renee Wade | Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 94 Comments

Article updated 2020 This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away …Because pushing him away is a lot better than feeling him ‘here’ with us and consequently being more vulnerable to his betrayal. Especially if we’ve been truly open and vulnerable to him. …Because we want you to work harder for us. …Because we are scared to trust you. …Because outside of our natural desire for sex during/before ovulation, or the beginning or the end of a menstrual cycle, our desire for sex is lower, and sex takes a lot of energy when we don’t want it. …Because relationships take…

Mar 20

The Secret Cost For Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 3)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 24 Comments

Having casual sex encourages women to be afraid to ask for commitment Article updated 2020 We want a man’s commitment for a reason. Don’t short-change yourself. Because there is so much pressure on women to give up sex easily these days, this is even more reason to resist that push for quick sex from men. Why? Because it’s also a test. Good men also test how easily they can get a woman to have sex with them. Not having sex for validation and approval, and not having sex indiscriminately, or too early, will set you apart from the crowd….

Feb 28

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 2)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 58 Comments

Some women can be detached from casual sex Article updated 2020 Some women consider themselves progressive, and claim that sexual liberty is a must for women. Yes, it is. But on an overall percentage, more women than not will experience some suffering after casual sex (if the man isn’t committed). The trouble is that women usually have sex with men that have actual value. Research has shown that when women are looking for short term sex, or casual sex; they get very choosy and usually mate with the better men because there’s no shortage of willing men for just…

Feb 16

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 1)

By Renee Wade | Attraction, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 40 Comments

One cold winter morning, Felesha Fox came running alongside her friend, Frances Fox. “Hahaha, look at all these male foxes chasing after me, Frances! There’s about 10 of them!” Frances, looking a little embarrassed and scared, turned around to see 10 male foxes or more, chasing her friend Felesha Fox. “Why don’t you have even one dashing lad chasing you down, like me?” “My dear friend Felesha, you are mistaken, I do have one dashing lad chasing me. He’s at home right now.” “Pffff. Just one fox? Don’t you want lots of them around you? Look at you! You are…

Jan 31

Is Having Low Value Friends Even Worth It?

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 74 Comments

“Hi, could you write an article on how to recognize/meet/make friends with similar minded/good-hearted/positive women? Most of my friends tended to be kinda selfish, lazy, admitted being jealous of me for whatever reason even though I always praised them on the good I saw in them to make them love themselves, but they mostly focused on the negative. In the end, I realized I was drained being in their presence. I always gave and gave my time, understanding and loyalty, and very few times did I get the same care from them. I couldn’t tolerate being friends with people who…

Jul 14

High Powered Career, Trust, and Your Relationship with Men

By Renee Wade | All, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 34 Comments

As a graduate student with a double degree in Law and Arts, I perfectly understand the desire to keep a well-earned career. It’s a woman’s birthright. But what if you and I just asked each other why? Why do we do the hard work and choose the high powered, kick-ass careers in the first place? Well, the answer, based on our survival instinct – is to just make some damn money to survive. And status. But money. We need money to make a life for ourselves. Money is a good tool to have. But what about when we’ve made enough…

Apr 26

The Truth: What Men Are Looking for When They Push You for Sex

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 171 Comments

Sex is the thing that women are obligated to do with men if they want to keep a man around. I’m kidding. Sex is the thing we think we have to do with men to keep them around. We feel pressured. Who doesn’t know a woman friend who gave a blow job or had sex with a man to ‘keep him happy’? When a man is in love, he can have zero sex with a woman and still stick around, whilst being emotionally attracted to her and faithful to that one woman. Still, why do women feel pressured to sex…

Feb 15

19 Ways Of A High Value, Feminine Girlfriend

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 60 Comments

When I was 10, I liked a guy called Shannon, but Shannon didn’t like me; he liked my friend Tilly who wore skirts. When I asked her why Shannon didn’t like me and liked her, Tilly said I was a boy and Shannon would like me if I wore a skirt. 10 year olds named Tilly are smart. When I was 13 walking down the river bank with my best friend at the time, who has since passed away, a couple of boys walked past and said to us ‘nice tits, ugly head’. I didn’t have any breasts, I was…

Oct 17

Are men really more attracted to airheads over the strong and successful women?

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 79 Comments

Article updated 2020 Are men really more attracted to the flighty type of women over the strong and successful type? Veronica asks Trevor: “I saw a study the other day that said that men are more attracted to dumb women, and that intelligent women are seen as problematic in a relationship. Do you see this as true?” Trevor: Well, men like to be right, and intelligent women can take that feeling away in a relationship. Veronica: groan. **** This conversation reflects exactly the kind of views many people have in the world, based on my experience. Specifically, the view that…

Aug 18

The Rareness of Loyalty and How to Find It

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 21 Comments

Article updated 2018 It can take courage to feel that somebody in our life is not in fact loyal; they are just one among the people hanging around us. There’s a plethora of people who don’t let themselves feel the devastation and the loneliness that comes with having a sudden and accurate perception that their social network and even their family may not be loyal. Do you want to find out if you’re dating a commitment friendly man? Click here to take the quiz! Many people block these valuable emotions out; and then go and watch reality TV to feel good…

Apr 18

How to go from self-sufficient single to connected couple

How To Go From Self-sufficient Single To A Connected Couple

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 12 Comments

Article updated 2018 I was sitting on the couch of a good girlfriend of mine. Our toddlers were playing together, and the house, a cozy two-bedroom, smelled of the traditional Chinese food she had just made for dinner. Francisca’s older boy was in his room climbing and jumping on things, as 8-year-olds are known to do. Then her husband came home, and with as much love as a human male could muster, swept his younger son up in a big hug. The little boy looked satisfied and safe in daddy’s arms. Click here to find out if you’re dating a…

Dec 27

Why Men can Lose Trust in Women who have unattached sex

Think casual sex is harmless? Think again.

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 218 Comments

Article updated 2018 What do you suppose men sacrifice when they sleep around a lot? A committed relationship? Maybe. Click here to find out if you’re Dating a Commitment Friendly Man A good reputation? Yes, men can jeopardise their future potential to have a high value mate through perpetual promiscuity (See the book social Psychology and Human Sexuality, 2001). But more importantly – what, on a reproductive/biological level, do men sacrifice? Quality. They sacrifice quality. And that’s quality of the women. Many men who sleep around don’t mind this; all they are looking for is novelty in experience anyway. Almost…

Nov 24

Not Wanting to Manipulate Makes us Manipulative

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 30 Comments

Article updated 2018 “But I just don’t want to manipulate him like that…” Said the woman who preferred to keep a clean conscience. Just like most women, you probably don’t like to be called a “manipulator”… because no body likes a manipulator… After all, wouldn’t it be too selfish for us to have what we really want? And wouldn’t we have to manipulate others in order to get that? Imagine a salesman trying to pull you over in the street, only being keen to close the sale. We hate people like that… why? Because they’re only EVER in it for themselves. Our…

Oct 22

Vulnerable Craving Hearts attracts Trustworthy and Devoted Man

Vulnerable Craving Hearts Attract Devoted and Trustworthy Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 59 Comments

Article updated 2018 After work she eats until she numbs herself. When she’s numb from food, she reads a romance novel, maybe watches dramatic TV. When she gets frustrated enough at living love through a stupid-ass novel, she hates other women who have loving husbands to distract her from her true craving for a man. When she becomes too fat for her own ideals, she begins an exercise regime just to feel good enough about herself to keep her authentic craving for a man at bay. When she hates other women long enough for having what she believes she doesn’t…

Oct 05

How masculine jobs and lives can affect a Woman’s Beauty and Feminine energy

How Masculine Jobs Can Affect a Woman’s Beauty and Feminine Energy

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 81 Comments

Article updated 2018 I know that you have a busy day. Just give me 60 seconds and let’s to this quick little exercise. Think about a time where you felt incredibly beautiful. and feminine. Even if you don’t feel beautiful now, you are courageous enough to feel what it was like to feel feminine and beautiful in the past. So, just focus on a time where you just felt beautiful and feminine. I don’t mean attractive, I mean, beautiful and feminine. Attractive is too objective a description for what I’m talking about here. How did you breathe when you went to…