Why Can’t you be Loved for who You are?
People often exclaim ‘Why do I have to DO something to find a man/woman? Why can’t I be loved for being ME?’ – You can.
The catch is, you must relax and actually BE you. Not the you that you think you should be. That’s not really YOU. You must choose to stop spending your life saying and doing things just so others will think you are cool and accept you. It’s not the being loved for who you are that’s difficult!
When you are Truly who you are, you’ll naturally attract people who love you, and repel people who don’t love you. And that’s a good thing. It’s having the Courage to be who you are at your true core that is difficult. That takes years of practice, because we are so used to using Masks.
Start by watching the way you talk to people. What are you saying and why are you really saying it?
Then start feeling your own body when you’re interacting with men, and women. Are you tense? Are your shoulders slightly shrugged? Is your tummy tight?
If you find any of these things are happening, then you’re not being you. You’re not relaxed in to the moment, in the present. It’s very hard to be real, when your body and mind are tense.