Ange and Brad
According to this trashy video, I ought to be worried about a half-naked Angelina Jolie in the shower with my man, whilst filming a scene of a movie.
Clue: the point is not about her being naked in the shower with Johnny Depp (or your man). The point is the message they are sending:
“you should be worried about this ‘super-human’ woman when she’s around your man. Because, you know, feeling scared and feeling bad about yourself is….well, good. (Good for us anyway).”
“You should be insecure in your relationship.”
This may seem extreme, but this is what women are letting themselves be subjected to every. single. day.
Watch for the underlying message. Or don’t read or listen at all. They don’t deserve your attention.
It might be a facebook add encouraging you to get lip enhancements because, God Forbid, your lips just aren’t “full” enough. It could be a report about how all famous and successful men are unfaithful.
Or it might be a news report about how so-and-so failed miserably at something important.
Never mind the success stories (there are a tonne of them by the way). They are not spoken about. And they wouldn’t report it. Because that might just make you too happy, and give you too much power and inspiration.
Keeping you under control serves them better.
What goes in (input) = message
In other words, what you let go in to your mind = the message you are sending to your brain, your nervous system, and your habitual thinking patterns.
What you let come in to your mind affects you more than you realize.
If you don’t believe me, observe a 7 year old child after she watches a show like Hannah Montana and the Jonas Brothers Show.
And then observe her behavior after watching a show like Tom and Jerry.
And keep in mind: many parents actually limit their children’s intake of trashy tv and media. However, most adults don’t even bother limiting the messages that come in to themselves. You are being affected just as much as that child. Unless you make a conscious choice not to.
Who knows, such messages that come in to your brain repetitively could cause the disintegration of relationships or friendships that matter to you. It eats away at your sense of confidence.
Reasons to feel bad everywhere, every day
The above video is no different to an article proclaiming Megan Fox’s superiority, or a video worshipping Victoria’s Secret model Miranda Kerr’s beauty, that should make every woman bow their head and feel humbled, or less beautiful.
They want you to buy in to the ‘they are super and I am a nobody’ message.
If you are confident, these statements shouldn’t even bother you, but the point is about the subconscious messages that are out there everywhere, whether it be on television or in a magazine. You should at least be aware of how it might affect the people around you.
Now, more than ever, every single one of us, men or women, have a multitude of reasons to feel insignificant, inferior, and like we aren’t beautiful enough, or at least, not without make up!
Gee. I mean, how could you walk out of the house without make up? You lazy woman!
This is L’oreal talking. Not you.
Who has the right to influence you?
One question: who are “they” to tell you, or influence you to feel like crap about yourself?
Who on earth has the right to do that?
Nobody, of course.
You were born beautiful. You were born enough. Period.
Angelina Jolie is Angelina Jolie. So? She’s only superior to us if we let her be.
I get emails from women detailing their problems with jealousy, their crippling fear around other beautiful women, and they feel far less successful than a stranger they don’t even know in Hollywood.
The mess that is projected on to us
It’s so easy to succumb to this mess. And that’s what it is: a sick and twisted mess, designed to sap you of your confidence, your genius, your radiance and your immovable sense of pride.
And don’t tell me you don’t have any of that, because you do. It may just be buried.
Now, this is nothing personal to Angelina Jolie or Megan Fox, or any other famous woman I have mentioned. Each of them deserve to shine, they are indeed beautiful and I am sure they are good people.
However, this is not about that. This is about an epidemic of unnecessary fear – that is plaguing women, perpetuated by sources that don’t care, causing women to obsess over things that don’t serve them, and to sabotage their relationships, partly because of the influence of some trashy, mediocre viewpoint expressed in a “beauty” or gossip magazine.
Why are women addicted to this gossip and media?
So, if this is so bad for us, why do we keep going back to it? Why do we let ourselves live in fear? Why do we let ourselves (shamefully) diminish our own sense of self-worth, with the help of a bunch of corporates who wouldn’t care if we lived or died?
The answer is: fear.
Fear is in us for a reason. Over millions of years, we have evolved from less sophisticated creatures (reptiles), to become who we are today. As we have evolved, we have developed new layers of brain on top of the most primal part of our brains – the part which psychologists call the “lizard brain”. The lizard brain is the part of us that is there for our survival. It helps us stay alive so that we can have babies and propagate the species. Survival is the main point to this part of our brain.
This part of our brain LOVES the gossip and drama that the magazines deliver to us, and this part of our brain LOVES fear. Why? Because this part of our brain tells us that fear is there to protect us. And we are being exploited by our culture to believe that we should feel fearful, not just when we truly should, but every minute of the day!
This part of our brain, and the obsession it has with fear, is so powerful that given the right external stimuli (such as above trashy video), it will convince us that we are in fact, right to give in to fear not just when we should, but every single minute of the day, and with every other beautiful woman that comes in to our sphere.
The media idolizes beautiful people, such as Angelina Jolie, or Salma Hayek or Halle Berry, not because they are better than you, but because the media knows that it feeds us. If they encourage us to let our own fears control us, then they have succeeded, because if our fears make us feel protected and “in the know” (laughable!), then who are we going to go back to to keep feeding that fear, to get the drama and entertainment, and to “protect ourselves”?
I’m glad you asked.
Why, the media of course!
It will sure take care of us and let us know which woman we ought to prepare to fight off our man!
The trap: sometimes, for example if you are about to get assaulted or raped, your fear may serve you, but the fear you are being subjected to (or CHOOSE to be subjected to), by advertising for large corporations who care little about anything but getting you to invest your need for drama and fear-feeding in them.
A suggestion: choose to get hooked by sources that matter. Sources that tell the truth, and clear your mind of trash. Sources that show you who you really are, and what your potential really is, rather than showing you nothing but your gravest fears.
Your outer beauty and your image is important. You should aim to look and feel your best, but this is a whole different message to: “you should feel like crap next to Angelina Jolie”.
Do you often feel insecure? Do you fear losing your man?
If you do, it’s not the real you talking. It’s the media, the news, whatever.
Here are some suggestions to not get trapped like most women, and to start living a happy, meaningful life:
1) Consciously make sure your thought process (and what influences your thought process) is best suited to putting you in a great mental and emotional state.
2) Stop feeding your addiction to feeling bad, or to knowing every piece of gossip: turn the TV off and go for a run. Listen to an uplifting audio, or dance to an uplifting beat.
3) Find and continue to follow sources that are inspiring. Take a look at these sources:
Follow The Feminine Woman on Facebook
Watch (and bookmark) this video
Consciously infiltrate your mind with messages that show you your worth, rather than diminishing it.
And always remember: your attention must be earned.
Most media, news or radio platforms simply have not earned it.
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trish
It is all to make money in the end, they are selling their look. They want you to buy make up, get your hair done, all down to money. They use out negative feelings to make us try to look better, to be someone we are not. Those actresses look the same as us without the make up and styling by professionals. It does insecure women good to see those women with out all the trimmings. It is all a mask for what is underneath. They have to put on a face for the rest of the world, and they have to work hard to keep it all going. They can keep their strict diets and harsh exercise routines to themselves, i love my cakes and scrummy meals, it is me and i am happy.
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alexia
Are there more websites like this, I been searching but I haven’t found anything close to as good as this website. I read all the articles and I love it but I need more help in the feminine department. I been raised as a boy and I don’t like the way I am.
As a girl I wanted to be a dancer, to be a cheerleader, to play with barbies, to wear dresses, to sing, to write, to have long hair, and my favorite color was pink.
My parents, especially my mother HATED all these things about me and punished me and taught me that these things are wrong, stupid and bad. Threw out and barbie dolls I had, made me wear boy cloths, chopped off my hair and told me I was only allowed to play sports, no arts.
I was raised by my grandmother the first 5 years of my life and she taught me differently. Bought me pretty cloths, took care of my hair, always got me barbies and loved to share her femininity with me. When my parents got me, everything changed for the worst.
I thought to myself growing up “ok i’ll do what my parents want but when I grow up, I will do it my way.” Now that I’m 18 and out of the house, I found that I am more of man than most guys I know. I look like a girl, walk like a girl but my attitude, the way I talk …my mannerisms are all MALE.
I couldn’t be boy enough for my parents and now I’m not woman enough for myself. I hate this. I want to go back to how I was before but it’s so hard. I’m so unhappy. I need lots of help! Please give suggestions! It’s like I need deep feminine therapy pronto!
I found some like this but you have to pay to read any of the good stuff and I really don’t have much money so I am skeptical about which ones are worth the money and which are just a scam. So I need really good recommendations of sites, books (anything really) to help me get the feminine back in me.
I didn’t even realize I lost my way until recently and I feel a big part of me is missing.
BTW thank you so much for making this site, I realllyyyy need it.
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trish Reply:
November 20th, 2011 at 3:57 pm
I have seen many women who have good style and class, they are the ones i emulate. It does not cost much, they are very select and they know how to spend their money without losing out on quality, some of the lower priced clothing looks much better and it is more durable. Colour your hair the way you want it, wear it the length you want it, choose your jewellery to match your outfit. Women have far more choice now, and some of lower priced things look the part and the quality is good. Being feminine is not a case of being ‘girly’ or appealing to men. I love being female but i am also strong and independent and i enjoy being intelligent, There are many ways you can be feminine, look for examples around which you find positive and the rest will follow.
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T-Bear1981
Oh, how I yearn to meet a woman, that’s herself, natural and without the “war paint”.
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Most of the ladies at work are really hard to connect with, game-face on constantly, wannabe barbies(some at least).
Even outside the job, in the coffee bar or just hanging out or having fun(trying to), it’s like talking to a robot or a facade most of the time.
I admit though, they are strong and independent, and yet so, I don’t know how to explain it, unappealing as a potential mate/partner, does that make any sense at all?
I do see them laugh once in a while, that’s undeniable, but not like my mother or my sister laughs, heh, they light up the whole room.
Also, there is a lot of gossip, like fashion and new product of this and that, and must have have various magazines.
There’s a 3 to 1 female/male ratio where I work and I don’t feel lucky at all, sure I get to see more curves and other ehh womanly features, that sparks the “thoughts” but those are mostly beyond my control, are random and happens many times a day. But I am 29, I do want a mate soon, 8 years without a real intimate and warm relationship has kinda left a hollow spot somewhere. Sex is not really an issue, though, but it’s you know, not like I remember it from when I was in a relationship, it’s more “business”.
What I am trying to say, is that I’d wish for more women who are more “real”, more down-to-earth and less caring about what others happen to think of them(at least at my job or maybe I need to change my social habits). But most of all I could use a real laugh for once, not one of those “take-out-of-pocket-to-be-polite” smiles/laughs. Meh I need to visit mom soon to cheer me up, but alas it’s a 4000 mile journey. Also where the hell did all the goofy, playful and childish women go all of a sudden? Guess I got old or something eh?
I hope your words reach a lot of women Renee, I could sure use one of the warm feminine kind right about now, you know one who’d actually show signs of human emotion. If for nothing else than to just make me feel just a bit more needed(?), yea, I guess that’s about right. Who needs a man when you’re a hardcore career woman. I don’t mean to be sexist or anything, if nothing else, I’ve learned that nowadays that I can hardly say anything like “I’d want my woman to show me when she’s hurt and cry when I was a douche bag or cry with laughter when I said something fun”, that is sometimes all it takes for me to be assaulted by various militant feminists, who then claim I want a weak, submissive woman. I am confused to be honest. I don’t see why showing emotion is a weakness at least for women it’s something I’d want/need. It’s probably a bit different for me as a guy, I prefer to keep a game-face on among the guys and be “a man” :p. But at home, I’d like to just be me, with my “want-to-be-herself” future mate. If I ever meet one
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JP Reply:
June 24th, 2011 at 7:43 am
Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Your post is very insightful. As a woman its good to know that we don’t have to try to be perfect for a man to want us. Just being ourselves (real & authentic)and enjoying who we are is enough. I think we all want someone who is real and with whom we can be ourselves. I hope you find that person for you.
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T-Bear1981 Reply:
June 24th, 2011 at 6:04 pm
Thanks JP I was just trying to be as honest as I could be or as my maleness allowed me to
. The make-up can really bother me, I mean mascara and some light powder thingie is fine, but those who look like a chemical factory, really is a man-repellent in my case :p I actually more or less dropped in by accident, trying to find out it was getting abnormal, cause lately my “drive” has been working overtime, and I mean several times a day thinking about stuff that has nothing to do AT ALL with work :p. So I just searched if thinking about sex many times a day was the general thing for most guys and it seems it so. I guess I’m fine, but further down the list was The Feminine Woman and so I started reading and thought why not give a piece of what I feel on most my days. I hope it helped the other way around, I’ve learned a few things about the Venusian race during my stay, although admittedly I felt a bit awkward and out of place. But there’s no harm in trying to understand women better I hope! 
I hope I find her too, but no good thing comes to those who wait, right?
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Asma Reply:
June 24th, 2011 at 9:03 am
Aww T-Bear…can come to my house. We’re all goofy with laughter here lol. In all seriousness keep your chin up. You WILL find what you’re looking for.
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T-Bear1981 Reply:
June 24th, 2011 at 6:11 pm
I try! I really do.
I bet there are tons of goofy and playful women including many around here I guess. My main time evolves around work and just being with the guys and “casual relationships”. But it’s becoming blatantly apparent that it doesn’t really satisfy a set of needs that I can’t really define or describe very well just yet.
T-Bear
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mary89 Reply:
September 1st, 2011 at 1:19 pm
Your taste in women is interesting. Glad to know that you want a normal woman who is comfortable with her sexuality & behaves in a natural way…… a cheerful woman who has no problem shoins her emotions & real self. Unfortunately a lot of men I know prefer those women with lots of make up , plastic surgury & fake smiles & behaviour.
Michael D. Denny
Ladies: As a very heterosexual, unwed Man actively in the “dating scene”, I can honestly say Angelina Jolie is NOT particularly attractive.
Something else for you ladies to keep in mind when you see these things, is just WHAT is being soled, and to WHOM they are trying to sell it. While some Men may have that inclination, most of us do NOT find the emaciated, frail physical type of the Angelina Jolie’s of the world particularly attractive at all. While she is a “pretty” girl, that is about as far as I can go with it and find her body itself completely unattractive.
Males models are trying to sell products to Men based on what MEN think the opposite sex will find attractive.
Female models are trying to sell products to a FEMALE audience based on what those Women think Men will find attractive.
Balance is the key. Neither bone thin, nor chubby. Healthy and a little athletic, curvy not chubby, enjoys great food but not indulgent.
The first and most important thing here, is self respect. Respect yourself enough to take care of yourself. Being healthy, vibrant, cheerful and full of life. Someone like Angelina Jolie is none of those things.
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Cara
Thank you very much, Renee. Especially for the websites. They are wonderful and I’m glad you’ve led me to more sources of positivity in the day! (There can never be enough.)
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Renee Reply:
May 28th, 2011 at 7:57 pm
Oh you are so welcome! Thank You for reading.
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Helena
I love what you have written:) It’s sad to see all the companies that extract the self-confidence out of us to get our money – and almost all women react to that and decide to better be somebody else.
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trish Reply:
November 20th, 2011 at 4:04 pm
I have seen those people who run those companies, they are far from what they are selling. Most of them are older, not wearing anything they are selling and their clothes are awful. It is the same with the fancy cars, the ones who build them do not reflect the cars they build. The image is everything, it sells, and women who are insecure can fall for the marketing in magazines and on TV. Watch the ones who sell goods to make you look and feel better, most of them are overweight and far from fit. It is marketing and it works for those who are not happy with themselves or they believe they can be better. When it go out i never see the people they portray in the pictures, i feel that i am in good company and i just want to make the most of my day and be happy.
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JP
What’s funny is that in some of the gossip mags they run stories about how insecure Angelina is about losing Brad. So I guess even she isn’t immune to it. We are all human. I think mainly why Johnny Depps wife would be concerned (and most women would) was bc of Angie’s past behavior not so much her looks… and the scene itself well it would be pretty difficult for any wife to let her husband take a steamy shower with another woman. I think it’s best to avoid situations where temptation may arise. However, Johnny is an actor and its part of his job… his wife knew that going into it. Those are the kinds of things you gotta deal with when you’re married to an actor.
I have to admit I used to have a small addiction to trashy gossip rags. I worked in the office at a grocery store where I went hours w/o anything to do. I would pick up those magazines & read through them. It went from just passing time to intentionally looking for the latest one. When i stopped working there, I found myself buying them at the checkouts or reading through them as fast I could while in line. My current boyfriend got on to me about how trashy they were & made me realize what a waste of money it was. I still glance at them from time to time, and even give in & buy one ocassionally. But I try my best to resist.. I am still extremely drawn to the “Best & Worst Beach Bodies” or the “Who has gained/lost weight” issues. I know it’s unhealthy and superficial, but it’s almost like I can’t help myself when I see that on the cover! I think it’s because for years I always thought I was fat ( I never actually was… ) and seeing those “perfect” famous movie stars getting fat or losing weight made me feel better. It was like see they gain weight too or they can lose weight and so can I. It’s stupid, but true. I think of all the comfort it gave me, and even though I am much more secure about my body/weight, I zero in on those stories and find it hard to not get my “fix” bc thats what I was so used to doing.
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Asma Reply:
May 27th, 2011 at 3:40 pm
Hi JP,
regarding the statment about people reacting a certain way to Jolie because of her history…I can’t help but have some pretty strong thoughts on this. I think you are right that it is probably true that people would view AJ in this way. However, I want to acknowledge there are lots of people who don’t either. I just don’t at all see Jolie in the light that the media and parts of the public tend to accuse her of. The tabloids have been reporting on schisms between Brad and Jen’s marriage a couple years before Jolie even came into the picture. I believe there were even some interviews where Brad said he wanted many children, 6 or 7. When JA was interviewed she was more hesitant. It seemed like she wanted to focus more on her career (absolutely nothing wrong with that). Then there was Jolie who was going through a transformation of becoming a single mom after a divorce as well as coming into new revelations of the plight of people around the world which led her to the path of humanitarianism. Getting a man was the last thing on her mind. Next thing you know, Brad meets her and pursues both her and her son. To him, they were of like mind, they found one another at the right time and fell in love. It is not as if she decided one day, “I am going to set my life’s purpose to steal men who are take and put the fear of God into other women.” To me, it is very obvious that it was just a simle case of different people wanting different things in a relationship with Brad and Jen, and when he found someone who seemed to want the same things he did, he went for it. Not that she set out to steal him.
To me, Angelina was on the path to self growth and personal development which led her to this man who wanted her. If you think about, isn’t this what we women are advised to do in order to become better relationship material? Eliminate fears, insecurities, and develope our confidence and sense of self so we can bring a better quality of self to the table towards the ones we love, namely our man? I am not sitting here advocating being disrespectful to the institution of marriage and nabbing other women’s men. However, I don’t see at all that AJ did that. Brad Pitt also wanted her and it looked like he did quite a bit of pursuing there. All I am saying is, could it be possible that instead of perpetuating this silly fear that this temptress stole away this man from that sweet girl that if we looked at the picture more closely, that it was really just a case of all the ingredients being right and ripe for something like this to take place? If she was that man stealing I do not think they would have been together as long as they have been being partners in life doing what they love doing, which is raising children and travelling around the world to be of help in the best way they can. I think Jennifer is doing quite well too. She’s beautiful, she’s healthy and vivacious and also seems like a truley genuine and caring person who’s making the most out of her life…why can’t we stop being so insecure and actually maybe learn from these people, because honestly to me, neither of them seem so bad. Sorry for the rant.
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jasmin Reply:
May 28th, 2011 at 5:56 pm
@ asma
I have to ask why you spend so much time thinking about and analyzing celebrities that you don’t know.I have no lessons to learn from these people. They haven’t cured cancer or won the Nobel Prize.They just make MOVIES.
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Asma Reply:
May 28th, 2011 at 6:30 pm
Hi jasmin,
I don’t spend that much time thinking about celebrities. I was only making a point with my thread that instead of labeling people as a this or a that, maybe we can just understand circumstances and know that we are all human and learn from one another and see the best in one another. That’s all. The only reason why my last post said what it did was because the subject matter was Angelina Jolie’s track record according to some people as “man stealing” so I was speaking on the basis of that. It can pertain to anyone be it Angelina Jolie or my next door neighbor. Frankly I am tired of stories of who cheated on who and who stole who in the press. If we as women could eliminate these insecurities and fears from our psyches the media would not be able to prey upon us. Instead of looking at certain women as “temptresses” and “enchantresses” out to steal men and our men, maybe we could take the time to see that we are ALL temptresses and enchantresses since there is always someone out there who maybe hungry for our own specificities. Hopefully this makes sense. My purpose was/is not to analyze celebrities, but the public’s psyches that feels so fascinated with this stuff and labeling without being able to understand the whole picture. I’m off my soap box about this now.
Asma Reply:
May 28th, 2011 at 7:51 pm
In a nutshell, my post was not about looking up to “celebrities” per say, but to illustrate that we’re all human, doing the best we can and maybe give one another the benefit of the doubt be it celebrities or our next door neighbor. Can we, as Marie Forleo says “update our mental software” regarding this particular topic of fearing other women stealing our man? I’ll shut up now lol.
JP Reply:
June 2nd, 2011 at 11:40 am
Asma: I understand what you’re saying, and I didn’t mean to paint Angelina as a temptress. I just meant that she got involved with a married man on the set of a movie. Johnny’s wife is probably threatened more bc of that fact than bc Angie is so hot. I don’t care if Brad & Angie were meant to be and it was written in the stars… what they did was wrong, simply bc he was married. I didn’t mean she set out to steal him away, but that they both crossed a line knowing that he was married. She crossed it once with Brad… she could cross it again with Johnny right? It’s best to not put yourself in situations where things might develop and happen with someone else when you are already married… if you can help it. If it’s your job (acting) it’s best to be as professional as possible and not cross any lines. If you are unhappy in your marriage take the steps to correct things or get out and then pursue other options… cheating is unacceptable regardless of the situation.
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Asma Reply:
June 2nd, 2011 at 12:10 pm
Hi JP,
I do agree with you in the general sense that it’s wrong when someone is married to get involved regardless. I just don’t necessarily agree with the fact that just because it happened with Brad it could happen with Johnny too. Audrey Hepburn also had an affair with William Holden while he was married that started on the set of “Sabrina” and she is touted as one of the world’s most classy humanitarians (which she was). I did not hear anymore stories that it happened with other married men. Same thing with Katherine Hepburn. She was involved with Spencer Tracey for over two decades but she was not involved with any other married man. Because she felt those feelings for Tracy himself, not because he was married. That was my point more than anything. It takes two to be involved and Brad had just as much weight in deciding to pursue her while being married. I’ll bet if AJ were married, you wouldn’t be seeing the husbands of the lead actresses all paranoid that he’d take away their wives if they are on set with him (maybe some would but I am speaking in general terms here). So why do we women do that all the time? Sometimes life does not work so linear and principled. When we take the chance of falling in love and cultivating relationships, we always riks the chance of getting hurt. That does not mean we should not move and be so laden with judgement against people either. We all are a work in progress. I think Brad and AJ, however wrong they were(and I do agree it was wrong), do feel sincerely for one another and that is why they ended up with one another and not anyone else, which to me means does not necessarily mean that AJ feels that kind of attraction for Johnny. Just because he is taken and she fell for a taken guy before does not mean that the ingredients of feelings are there for her to fall for every single taken guy, you know what I mean? However I totally agree with you otherwise. It’s just that one little detail that tends to pick my brain lol. Thank you so much for addressing me with respect and kindness just now, I really appreaciate that. Once again, I do agree with you on the overall aspect. Have a lovely day, JP.
JP Reply:
June 2nd, 2011 at 12:53 pm
Yes I do know what you mean. I think it’s just because there is a reason to doubt… (the well it’s happened before reason) and because every woman finds her man to be desirable and worthy of love so why wouldn’t other women see him that way. I don’t think the fact that he is married is what Johnny’s wife thinks will draw Angie to him, but the fact that Angie might find him to be just as desirable as she does. That’s just me trying to see it from Johnny’s wife’s point of view… From my point of view, Im sure Angie will have many male costars, married or unmarried, that she will feel nothing for at all. I don’t think she’s after every married man by any means. So, I agree with you too
I appreciate your respect & kindness as well! Take care.
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Asma Reply:
June 2nd, 2011 at 1:32 pm
I gotcha JP. I don’t blame Johnny’s partner for thinking he’s as desirableas she does LOL. Thanks for understanding. You take care too.
V
Hello Renee
Thanks for posting this article. Honestly, I’m having this kind of ” fear “. I feel jealous when I’m standing next to pretty girls. Now, I’m kinda relieved. At least, I’m beautiful without make up. Ah huh~
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Renee Reply:
May 28th, 2011 at 7:58 pm
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trish Reply:
November 20th, 2011 at 4:11 pm
You see those women as pretty or beautiful, do you ever wonder if they see you the same way? Do you ever wonder why someone is looking at you? You might take it the wrong way, but i have seen women getting the adoring looks and they were unaware of it. My daughter got those looks and misinterpreted them or thought they were looking behind her. I think we look in the wrong directions at times and we miss things. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, just like flowers, we all have different tastes. I like sunflowers, but some prefer roses!
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VolleyGirl
So true Renee!! This is for sure one of my favourite posts!! I am sick and tired of looking into magazines and seeing people saying that we are not good enough , we are not tall enough, skinny enough, smart enough, blond enough, rich enough… ENOUGH IS ENOUGH… I used to think that I wasn’t good enough when I would read gossip magazines and see how skinny the models are … and thinking ” what have I done to deserves this?? ” why I am not like them?” ” why am I cursed with curly hair”. I would even starve myself so that I could loose weight…
Now that I think about it, I think that I was being so stupid and manupilated so easily. And the funny thing is, I was never happy trying to be something that society wanted me to be!
Now that I accept myself, I can say that I am truly happy. Sometimes I see girls running to shops because they HAVE to HAVE the latest bag that such and such has. I don’t see a problem with people admiring celebrities ,I also admire them. But to want to be EXACTLY like them??? Who wants to look like clones?? What about CREATIVITY and INDIVIDUALITY?
Thanks again Renee
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Yas
Amazing stuff Renee. This is what all women need to hear!! Love your work girl!
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Luci
It’s just a media fabricated illusion about their superiority, nothing more…
What a great article, it’s really perfect and you expressed it so well!
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Renee Reply:
May 28th, 2011 at 7:59 pm
Oh Luci Luci! I wondered where you have been, as I have not heard from you in ages. Thanks, I know you like the topics regarding media-created ideas. Take care. xoxo
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S. .D
My Dear Renee:
I could carelss about Angie. That type of stuff doesn’t bother me. Angie has her own set of issues.
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Denise
Dear Renee:
You are as always right on target. I just wanted to share something I read the other day…
“If you were born an original…Why do you want to die a copy?”
We are all unique, we shouldn’t forget that. I admire woman that take care of their looks, and are “coquette” enough to flaunt their uniqueness. I feel that we can get “inspired” yes…but a copy…never!
Best regards to all the beautiful, unique ladies!
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Renee Reply:
May 27th, 2011 at 12:44 am
Hey Denise
I love that quote, thanks for taking the time to share it.
-XxX-
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trish Reply:
November 20th, 2011 at 4:14 pm
Thank you, we needed to hear that.
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Asma
I just managed to watch the video. That was dumb. But you know? Frankly I think that we women also need to take responsibility for how we respond to things too. So because of what happened with Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt, every actor’s girl is going to be afraid if they have a passionate scene with her? I’m sorry but that seems a little silly to me. This one woman is not out to get every “taken” man out there on the planet ladies. Gimme a break. Last time I checked, she is in a very happy relationship of her own, regardless of how we may feel about it starting in the first place. Good grief. Now I have a migrane lol.
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Asma
Awesome article! Thank you, Renee! This is a tough one and I am so glad for the sources you provided. In the past three years I can safely say that I don’t get too negative about myself when I look at this stuff anymore. I get more inspired like “Oooh look at Angelina Jolie she looks gorgeous. I wanna do that thing with her hair and buy a flower so I can look and feel good too” or something like that. But, there was a time where I did not see myself that way at all and felt quite inferior to beautiful women and I know that there are a ton of women out there who still do. I was lucky enough to overcome that, but what about my fellow sisters who are not in touch with their fabulousness yet internally or externally and needlessly self-loath? I am a testament to how reading and being exposed to empowering material and messages can really pull you out of this terrible, in many cases, life-long rut. I am also a testament for what can be from the opposite. It’s amazing how truly we are affected by what we feed ourselves, not just physically food wise (which is also very important as what we eat has a tremendous affect on us), but mentally as well. I am making a major conscious effort right now as we speak, to do a lot of cleaning. I gave up some websites, blogs and replaced them with new ones (like yours Renee) or with reading material and puzzles and games that feed my intellect and emotionality. I am also giving up facebook here starting on the first of June because honestly, it’s too much temptation (for me anyways) to fall into that need for that fear based drama and gossip that manages to just creep in. I feel ten thousand times better, and speak of the devil right as I was thinking about this topic, Renee you go and post this post. Isn’t that amazing?
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Renee Reply:
May 27th, 2011 at 12:42 am
Thank You Asma. I love to see other women sharing my vision.
You are doing what many wouldn’t in consciously choosing what comes in. Yes, facebook can be bad at times, too – but that’s why I do the same with my facebook page.
I fan people and organisations who want to see the world change (like the dalai lama and Anthony Robbins), and I block off any outrageously negative updates.
As women, our attention must be earned, not just given.
xoxo
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Asma Reply:
May 29th, 2011 at 11:49 am
Hi Renee,
sorry for the late reply. Thank you for the encouragement there. I agree it is what you yourself do with things like facebook and stuff that makes a difference. You like, befriend, and share lots of positive things and use it as a tool to spread good. I did not have more than fifty or so friends and most of them I knew intimately. I always posted posts that were about sharing good adult conversation like my teaching experiences, asking questions to learn, politics and sharing knowledge and stimulate thought and conversation that tends to normally not get spoken about. This is what I have always done with my friends, so I continued on a more mass level on facebook with them whom I don’t see often and I really enjoyed and loved that part about it.
However, the downside was/is, not all my friends know one another, and what some may understand about me others don’t and friends who I never would have introduced in person have gone at it on my wall because of totally different thought patterns so they misunderstand one another and I hate seeing that. I love my friends, each and every one of them, and I want to be understanding and provide care and safety the best way I know how. I don’t want to alienate anyone. Another thing that I want to save myself from is any kind of desire for too much attention. That is so easy to do on facebook. I have always been more private and more quiet and shy as a person. Most of my life my thoughts were kept to myself and shared with groups of intimate friends. For people like me the medium of facebook and texting can be a good and bad thing. I don’t want to get addicted and come to a place of oversharing and attention seeking so that is another big reason for me to drop it. It can also cause unnecessary drama. If there are crushes or ex’s, it’s too easy to want to go look them up and find things that can stir up unnecessary inner turmoil. Who needs that? I deactivated my account for good yesterday, and I feel really really good. That and I replaced my reading material with the sites that you provided above and I have not felt this good mentally in awhile so thank you again for the material and inspiration for doing this.
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Brittany Reply:
June 1st, 2011 at 8:29 am
I have been thinking of deleting my facebook for awhile now. It’s kind of pointless now and I barely go on it. It’s just kind of weird now. My cousin posted something on my wall, and I didn’t see it and yesterday my mom asked my why I didn’t reply to my cousin. There is no privacy anymore.
I’m torn on whether I should actually delete it or not :/ On the one hand, there is no privacy with it even if you put the highest security setting, however, it is easy to get in touch with a lot of people at once about something.
Asma Reply:
June 2nd, 2011 at 8:25 am
Hi Brittany,
trust me I klnow the feeling of being torn. I played around with the idea for a year had facebook for two). Just do it when you’re ready.
I must say that since I deactivated it, I feel really happy. Like light and like a whole space opened up in my brain. I don’t have to worry about privacy or about becoming addicted to too much attention and absorb other people’s energies that is negative. It’s a real relief.