Are You Masculine, Feminine or Neutral? A Quiz

masculine, feminine or neutral

What is your sexual essence – Masculine, Feminine or Neutral?

This post is a quiz on the sexual essences. We have compiled some questions so that you can get a better idea of whether you’re living in your feminine, masculine or in neutral sexual essence. It will also show you whether you are naturally more feminine at your core, or more masculine at your core. (read my article about how to be feminine)

This quiz is meant to be a bit of fun, and meant to be taken lightly so if you get something that was unexpected, try not to get your knickers in a knot! :)

Answer the questions honestly. And imagine you are with an intimate partner whom you trust. :)

1) When I’m working on a project, I

A) Tend to get distracted easily
B) Tend to be completely focused and don’t notice significant events/noises/other people trying to talk to me
C) I neither get distracted nor become completely focused

2) I:

A) Can talk on the phone, fry a steak and greet visitors at the same time
B) Have to do one thing at once, otherwise one or more of the tasks suffer significantly in effectiveness
C) My partner and I both share tasks and are able to talk to each other at the same time

3) When my close friend has a problem in their life, I like to…

A) Prefer to talk to them about it, listen to them, understand them
B) Solve their problem somehow
C) Think about things rationally and work them through

4) In the bedroom, I’d more often prefer someone who is:

A) Physically larger than me
B) Physically smaller than me
C) I don’t Mind

5) Which of the following more accurately describes the kind of intimate partners you’ve had in your life:

A) My partners have tended to assume they are right about everything
B) My intimate partners have told me that they think I always think I’m right about everything
C) I’ve rarely had any disagreements with my partners in the past; things tend to go smoothly.

6) In the past, at parties or social situations, I have tended to:

A) Have the desire to get up and dance when the music is on
B) Preferred to stay sitting and talk seriously with others or watch others tear up the dance floor
C) Do what everyone else is doing

7) Which of the following best describes your intimate relationships throughout your life, when something is wrong:

A) I have tended to close up, (arms clasped around my knees and folded against my chest), and shut out my partners words, as the tone of their words and intensity of their bodily gestures cause me to shut down, perhaps leading me to stop listening and blocking out their words
B) I have tended to withdraw from my partner, wanting to get away from the relationship and even questioning whether I should be in the relationship
C) I’d rather discuss things rationally with my partner rather than wanting to leave or shutting my partner out

8 ) It would hurt me more if my intimate partner were to say:

A) You are looking old and run down lately
B) Where is your life headed?!! You seem to be losing direction.
C) You really treat men differently than you treat women

9) In the bedroom, I’d mostly prefer:

A) My intimate partner took control, and I surrender to them
B) My intimate partner let me take control, and surrender to me
C) Nobody surrenders and nobody takes control

10) It would hurt me more if my intimate partner were to say to me:

A) You’ve put on weight, you need to eat less and exercise more
B) You’re making a bad investment with your money
C) You’re very unlike me

11) After making love, I more often:

A) Want to cuddle with my intimate partner
B) Feel very relaxed/want to fall asleep
C) I’m going to make a cup of tea

12) I’d more often prefer that my intimate partner was:

A) Stronger than me physically
B) Less strong than me physically
C) Of the same physical strength as me for their proportion

13) I would more often prefer as an intimate partner:

A) Someone who sweeps me off my feet, is sensitive confident and takes charge
B) Someone who is open to me and trusts me
C) Has the same interests and common goals as me

14) Which of the following situations would frustrate you more:

A) When I ask my partner what we are doing, they say “I don’t know, what do you want to do?
B) When I’m driving, my partner tells me to stop and ask for directions
C) When my partner doesn’t pull their weight around the house

15) When I’m in a store and I can’t find something I am looking for, I

A) Tend to feel completely comfortable asking a store manager or sales representative where the item may be
B) Tend to not want to ask where the item may be, but look for it until I find it
C) I don’t mind either, whichever is the quickest way.

If you answered mostly As, your sexual essence is more feminine. If you answered mostly Bs, your sexual essence is more masculine. If you answered mostly Cs, your sexual essence is more neutral.

If you have 12 or more As, then you are highly feminine at your core.

If you have 12 or more Bs, then you are highly masculine at your core.

You can find the original sexual essence quiz at Our quiz on sexual essence is based on the same ideas, but we have added our own questions to the pre-existing ones, and refined it in a way that we think provides extra understanding and knowledge. Check out the original quiz if you are interested.

What were your results? Do you have any questions? Has this made you more aware of your own or your partner’s tendencies in intimate relationship? Or more aware of what kind of partner you want?

Renee the feminine woman


  • George

    Reply Reply March 11, 2014

    Some of the questions I could answer differently depending on my mood/mindset at a given time. The First time I took this quiz I got 13 A’s and 2 C’s, and when I took it again I got 10 A’s and 5 C’s. I’m not really surprised by this though. Also, I’m not weak, but that isn’t meant to imply that I think femininity = weakness… by no means! I just said that because some people tend to consider a person who was born male to be weak if they are more feminine. It’s just that the way I tend to think and feel about things is like what I hear women – including my girlfriends – say about how they think and feel. Plus, when I’m talking with my female friends about personal issues and such, I never really feel like I don’t understand them because they actually do make sense to me. We get each other.

  • m

    Reply Reply January 2, 2014

    lovely quiz I scored 12A’s 3C’s which isn’t a surprise me as I’ve felt very feminine

  • Kira

    Reply Reply July 28, 2013

    8 a’s, 5 b’s & 2 c’s. I suppose that means I fluctuate between masculine and feminine a lot. I have the focus of the masculine, the frustrations of the feminine and the desire for the masculine. (Meaning I desire a masculine man over a feminine man).

    I think that it might be a little hard to balance all that. I’ve been dappling in my feminine state a lot recently and I find her to be very enjoyable and amazing. She has really breathed some life into me but at the same time the masculine still calls. I enjoy experiencing and being but I desire to do. I honestly don’t think I can live without either one of them and be fully happy. I need the masculine state to enjoy the feminine state and the feminine state so that I have the motivation to continue forward.

    I have a question that I think might help me piece it all together. What exactly does the masculine state feel like? For some reason, I have it in my head that it’s non-feeling but I know that isn’t true. But are the feelings just as powerful? I don’t think I’d like being in that state too often if they weren’t but I’m not sure how it really works.

    I do have to thank you though Renee because you’ve saved my life. Without this blog, I wouldn’t have either of them and I’m so happy that you’ve shared the feminine with me. I wouldn’t trade her for the world…Hmm, maybe that makes me more feminine…

  • Holly

    Reply Reply July 25, 2013

    I’m really happy and suprised as I scored 3-c and 12-a! Although I could have gone for b on some of the answers (the multitasking question and the sexual questions spring to mind), I decided that I am capable of multitasking, only in the past I’ve always put myself down and labeled myself incompetent. As for the sexual question, I know a weaker man wouldn’t interest me sexually so I’ve gone with the knowledge I know best of.

    Either way, I scored highest on a which would make me more feminine that I would have guessed.

    I guess that means that I need to form a higher opinion of myself instead of what’s wrong with me.

    Also, your right Renee, men are more career driven and women are more relationship driven. I realized how sad I felt when my daughter went on holiday with her dad and his family

    • Holly

      Reply Reply July 25, 2013

      And I was at home on my own, realizing that I’ve lost contact with half my family . It made me feel very sad and triggered depression within me.

      Now I wish that I had a closer family unit so I can only hope to use the law of attraction to bring about things I would like within my life.

      Although getting a good job is important for anyone in life, as everyone needs to work, it’s just that a Job to a women means something different to what it would mean to a man.

      I’d say that’s one thing I find attractive in a man, is someone who takes pride in their work. I’m not even sure what it is about that qulity but I sense within that it triggers an emotional response, I just can’t tell precicely what it is.

  • Tom

    Reply Reply March 25, 2013

    With a score of 11-A’s, 1-B and 3-C’s I would say it clearly shows that I live much more comfortably in the feminine than the masculine.

    It makes sense though; when I try to live in a more masculine essence I have discovered it is like a badly fitted jacket. Sure it can be worn but you cant move around well at all. I feel inhibited, un-expressive, depressed, withdrawn, and in general not myself. I dont like it all :(

    Thankfully I have a girl that has opposite polarity from me so we get along great! Most of the time LOL

  • Renee Evon

    Reply Reply March 21, 2013

    When I started this test I was afraid of that is was going to say I was more Masculine, only because I have been a strong woman, and seem to make more of the decisions in my marriage. But to my surprise I had 10 A’s and 2 B’s and the rest C’s. It made me feel much more comfortable and it just affirmed what I I believe is true.

  • tchotchke

    Reply Reply March 21, 2013

    I am so relieved to discover that I am “highly feminine”. I really wasn’t sure because I have such a violent temper and can hate to the point of murderous thoughts. Also, I’m pretty rebellious; submission is difficult for me. I’m very mathematical and logical, love science, hate poetry. I can be pretty tough mannered and my language can be foul. So I wasn’t sure if I could use Renee’s suggestions – if they applied to me. Now I can go ahead and apply all she says and realize that the above are just personality characteristics.

  • Rochelle

    Reply Reply March 20, 2013

    Wow! I answered A to all of them except 3 and 5 where I answered C and gave no masculine answers. I feel surprised. I already discovered that I am mainly feminine at my core but still ;-)

  • Nana

    Reply Reply March 20, 2013

    9a, 2b, 4c.
    Nice quizz :)

  • mary89

    Reply Reply September 4, 2011

    Wow! you can’t believe my result! I am really surprrised by it:
    5 A – 5 B & 5 C …….Right in the middle.So I’m neutral. I thaught I was masculine.

  • TF

    Reply Reply May 11, 2011


    I really enjoy reading your posts and find the information you share to be very informative and enlightening and entertaining :)

    This particular one was fun, but I love silly quizzes LOL. I have done similar quizzes before and it always turns out the same for me… very feminine, a little masculine, and maybe one or two neutrals. Which just adds to the fun for me seeing as I am a heterosexual male LOL.

    In this specific case I had 12.5 A’s, 0 B’s and 2.5 C’s. The 0.5 is because of question 7.. I vary between C or A by whatever my mood is at the time.

    I agree with your comment post to Tracy about polarities.. my GF has many more traditionally masculine traits than I do, which must be why we are attracted to one another. Gender studies is so fascinating :P

  • Pat

    Reply Reply May 11, 2011

    I got 7 B’s, 5 A’s, and 3C’s I operate in more masculine tendencies but I believe it has been more because of survival and being a single parent for a long time. I am allowing more of my feminine energy to emerge however, it is reaking havoc in my relationship! My partner has highly feminine energy and is not liking the change because it is requiring him to step up to the plate and become more responsible. I am not sure where this will leave us however, I am welcoming the change into my life it feels more relaxing and calmer for me.

  • A.

    Reply Reply March 9, 2011

    I don’t need to take the quiz. I’m feminine because I’m a woman and it’s impossible to be anything other than that.

  • April

    Reply Reply January 1, 2011

    Hi, I really enjoyed this quiz! Though I have a question on 7.What do they mean by closing down emotionally? Is that similar to withdrawing? But out of the 15, I had 12 a’s, 1 b (I don’t dance lol) and 2 c’s. I really love this sight. A few years ago I made a conscious decision to express my feminineness and not be emoerassed/scared of it. This sight really has helped my feminine journey. Thank you so much ^_^.

    • Renee

      Reply Reply January 3, 2011

      Hello lovely April!
      Thank You for your gratitude and wonderful feedback :)
      Closing down emotionally means to not let a man in, being afraid to let him in your your true feelings, thoughts and desires.
      Wanting to withhold.
      Hope that helps!

  • Jaqueline

    Reply Reply November 6, 2010

    I am currently considering acting on my desire to express myself as a woman rather than a man. While I am aware that this little quiz is by no means a through examination of my personality in toto, I was pleased and not surprised that I received 12 As, 2 Cs, and only 1 B.

    I feel so good at being validated even a little as to being feminine at my heart, and I liked this quiz a lot!

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply May 10, 2010

    12 A’s and 3 B’s. Definitely feminine. I think I always was, but I’ve put up walls most of my life to protect myself. Its only now that I am in a safe and loving relationship that I feel safe enough to drop the defenses and be feminine again.

  • Lilith

    Reply Reply May 7, 2010

    I had 7 times neutral, 5 times feminine and three times
    masculine. Being neutral sure fits me. :)

  • danne

    Reply Reply April 28, 2010

    i am more on the feminine side than the masculine. But i have some of both.

  • MWL

    Reply Reply April 28, 2010

    I answered A eleven times and B four times, but suspect that if I took the same test next week that my answers could vary depending on my mood. I certainly feel confident that I am more feminine than masculine!

  • Tracy

    Reply Reply April 28, 2010

    I am more feminine. I had 9 A’s, 4 B’s, and 2 C’s.

  • Renee

    Reply Reply April 28, 2010

    @Tracy: that’s interesting. It depends on the individual answers you had for which particular questions.

    And this quiz is not meant to be 100% conclusive of whether you’re feminine or masculine at your core – because your natural femininity or natural masculinity may be overshadowed by the habits you’ve adopted over the years.

    For instance, if you’re a highly driven career woman, you may be more masculine, but it doesn’t mean that if you stripped this tendency away, that you’re not actually feminine at your core.

    And, this can get a bit confusing because someone who has a feminine sexual essence, yet has dulled this to succeed or to survive (for whatever reason) would naturally attract a partner who polarizes them (a more feminine partner).

    The energy we put out is very important.

  • Amara

    Reply Reply April 27, 2010

    I had 1 C, 2 B’s, 12 A’s!! But the question about who should take control in bed and who should surrender… ummm I like role play so it varies! He can be the Master and I his slave… I can be the teacher and he my student… so that would be a neutral answer to me and that would make it 2 C’s!! ROFL!! ssshhh……

  • tracy

    Reply Reply April 27, 2010

    i had exactly 5 of each. 5 A’s, 5 B’s, and 5 C’s….so not sure what that means lol.

  • Jess

    Reply Reply April 27, 2010

    Thanks for this, I got a bit of this and a bit of that for my answers. The question about ‘what would you like to do today’ ‘what would YOU like to do?’ made me giggle. I always find that frustrating!

  • S

    Reply Reply April 27, 2010

    Apparently I’m more feminine at my core !

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