Are You Masculine, Feminine or Neutral? A Quiz

Are You Masculine, Feminine or Neutral? A Quiz

What is your sexual essence – Masculine, Feminine or Neutral?

This post is a quiz on the sexual essences. We have compiled some questions so that you can get a better idea of whether you’re living in your feminine, masculine or in neutral sexual essence. It will also show you whether you are naturally more feminine at your core, or more masculine at your core.

By the way, you can also take the quiz “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”, click here to take the quiz now.

This quiz is meant to be a bit of fun, and meant to be taken lightly so if you get something that was unexpected, try not to get your knickers in a knot! 🙂

Answer the questions honestly. And imagine you are with an intimate partner whom you trust. 🙂

1) When I’m working on a project, I

A) Tend to get distracted easily
B) Tend to be completely focused and don’t notice significant events/noises/other people trying to talk to me
C) I neither get distracted nor become completely focused

2) I:

A) Can talk on the phone, fry a steak and greet visitors at the same time
B) Have to do one thing at once, otherwise one or more of the tasks suffer significantly in effectiveness
C) My partner and I both share tasks and are able to talk to each other at the same time

3) When my close friend has a problem in their life, I like to…

A) Prefer to talk to them about it, listen to them, understand them
B) Solve their problem somehow
C) Think about things rationally and work them through

4) In the bedroom, I’d more often prefer someone who is:

A) Physically larger than me
B) Physically smaller than me
C) I don’t Mind

5) Which of the following more accurately describes the kind of intimate partners you’ve had in your life:

A) My partners have tended to assume they are right about everything
B) My intimate partners have told me that they think I always think I’m right about everything
C) I’ve rarely had any disagreements with my partners in the past; things tend to go smoothly.

6) In the past, at parties or social situations, I have tended to:

A) Have the desire to get up and dance when the music is on
B) Preferred to stay sitting and talk seriously with others or watch others tear up the dance floor
C) Do what everyone else is doing

7) Which of the following best describes your intimate relationships throughout your life, when something is wrong:

A) I have tended to close up, (arms clasped around my knees and folded against my chest), and shut out my partners words, as the tone of their words and intensity of their bodily gestures cause me to shut down, perhaps leading me to stop listening and blocking out their words
B) I have tended to withdraw from my partner, wanting to get away from the relationship and even questioning whether I should be in the relationship
C) I’d rather discuss things rationally with my partner rather than wanting to leave or shutting my partner out

8 ) It would hurt me more if my intimate partner were to say:

A) You are looking old and run down lately
B) Where is your life headed?!! You seem to be losing direction.
C) You really treat men differently than you treat women

9) In the bedroom, I’d mostly prefer:

A) My intimate partner took control, and I surrender to them
B) My intimate partner let me take control, and surrender to me
C) Nobody surrenders and nobody takes control

10) It would hurt me more if my intimate partner were to say to me:

A) You’ve put on weight, you need to eat less and exercise more
B) You’re making a bad investment with your money
C) You’re very unlike me

11) After making love, I more often:

A) Want to cuddle with my intimate partner
B) Feel very relaxed/want to fall asleep
C) I’m going to make a cup of tea

12) I’d more often prefer that my intimate partner was:

A) Stronger than me physically
B) Less strong than me physically
C) Of the same physical strength as me for their proportion

13) I would more often prefer as an intimate partner:

A) Someone who sweeps me off my feet, is sensitive confident and takes charge
B) Someone who is open to me and trusts me
C) Has the same interests and common goals as me

14) Which of the following situations would frustrate you more:

A) When I ask my partner what we are doing, they say “I don’t know, what do you want to do?
B) When I’m driving, my partner tells me to stop and ask for directions
C) When my partner doesn’t pull their weight around the house

15) When I’m in a store and I can’t find something I am looking for, I

A) Tend to feel completely comfortable asking a store manager or sales representative where the item may be
B) Tend to not want to ask where the item may be, but look for it until I find it
C) I don’t mind either, whichever is the quickest way.

If you answered mostly As, your sexual essence is more feminine. If you answered mostly Bs, your sexual essence is more masculine. If you answered mostly Cs, your sexual essence is more neutral.

If you have 12 or more As, then you are highly feminine at your core.

If you have 12 or more Bs, then you are highly masculine at your core.

You can find the original sexual essence quiz at Our quiz on sexual essence is based on the same ideas, but we have added our own questions to the pre-existing ones, and refined it in a way that we think provides extra understanding and knowledge. Check out the original quiz if you are interested.

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What were your results? Do you have any questions? Has this made you more aware of your own or your partner’s tendencies in intimate relationship? Or more aware of what kind of partner you want?


  • Rosiebyanyothername

    Neutral-ish? These are the questions I didn’t have definite answers for:
    Q1. Depending on how close the deadline is I might work pretty distractedly (I think looking at many different things helps with idea generation at the start). If I’ve already decided what to do and the deadline is looming, then tunnel vision tends to set in.
    Q6. I like to do what my friends are doing – they’re why I’m there, right?? I guess that’s a C?
    Q8. Option A is confusing. It strikes me that it could be an expression of concern OR an attempt to put one down, depending on the context. B is confusing too – are they saying this out of concern for my well-being? I picked C since that seems to point to a lack of moral integrity (or is it natural to treat men and women differently? I tend to treat them the same, except with men I’m “seeing”).
    Q10. A makes me think, “that may be true, but you’re not the one who has to do the work!”. B – I hate to be wrong…but if I am, I certainly appreciate being told. Particularly if it’s not too late to salvage the situation! I picked A, lol.

    Just wanted to comment on Q14. My answer to this was definitely A – can’t stand a man who doesn’t know his own mind! I’m all right with planning a date, but that’s different – that implies that we *planned* to have me plan the date.

    • Super Janice

      Then you are feminine in your core.

      • Rosiebyanyothername

        How do you figure?

        • Super Janice

          Feminine women always want men to be assertive.

    • Super Janice

      Haha! For Question 6, my answer is A because I prefer to dance to my favourite songs! Usually, I dislike pop songs, so I would rather not go to parties if the songs I dislike are often played in parties!

  • Super Janice

    I understand that my question 8 and 10 are Bs because I was always scolded by my mother for various reasons. My mother said that it is normal to answer B for both these questions because everyone hates to be wrong. (but I would say majority of us do!)
    I’m glad that my question 1 is B. Unlike my friend Olivia, I am able to focus when I do projects, which brings me high efficiency when working!
    I’m also glad that my question 7 is B. “Wanting to leave” gives me courage to end relationships when I feel that there is something wrong!

    • Rosiebyanyothername

      Definitely agree that everyone hates to be wrong, lol. I didn’t know what to answer for 8 and 10 because option A would have offended me, but B would have made me feel worse about myself…yet I know I am not happy having picked a “direction” for my life and in always trying to be right!

      • Super Janice

        Are you feminine in your core?

      • Super Janice

        Masculine people like to pick a direction for their lives and always try to be right. You don’t like it. So you must be a feminine woman.

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  • Masked Introvert

    What if you’re equal parts feminine and masculine, but they both are more than neutral?

    • Super Janice

      Then you are neutral.

  • Elizabeth


    I’ve taken both the quizzes you have made available and they both say basically the same thing: Neutral. More specifically, the one that emails you the results said I’m 50% feminine (which in itself brings the question of is this a neutral result?) and this quiz gave me a straight up neutral, neutral result (it also gave my fiance a masculine, neutral result).

    Both of my results (and the one for my fiance) appear very accurate considering how we are personally.

    My question is: What does neutral mean? Does it mean that I’m neither masculine nor feminine (a true asexual anomaly? Something I highly doubt personally…)? Does it mean that I am capable of existing in both energies comfortably and able to switch between them as needed to suit the situation without draining me like a feminine energy would be drained by “playing masculine”? Or further still…does this mean I have equal parts masculine and feminine that are expressed in different ways with some very feminine qualities and some very masculine qualities? Or is it a combination of the last two parts?

    I’m not trying to be a bother or give anyone a headache but my results have been plaguing me for quite some time now (to the point that to try and gain some clarification I asked my fiance to take the quiz). His results offered no answers and so I am left asking the very person who made the quizzes (or posted them at least)…What Do My Results Mean????? (lol) I’d really appreciate an answer because it would not only offer clarification for me but would help me better explain the answers others (I’ve tuned a lot of females into what you’re saying and it’s like light bulbs go off every time). I apologize for posting such a lengthy post.

    Thank you,

    Elizabeth 🙂

  • Amber Athens

    This quiz has problems. It can’t measure Masculine, Feminine or Neutral. there is another problem. When I tallied up my score it came out evenly. I had 5 A’s, 5 B’s and 5 C’s, so what does that make me? There should have been more than 15 questions. There should have be 16 questions so there couldn’t be an even amount of letters in the tally of the score. I didn’t get this:

    “If you answered mostly As, your sexual essence is more feminine. If you answered mostly Bs, your sexual essence is more masculine. If you answered mostly Cs, your sexual essence is more neutral.

    If you have 12 or more As, then you are highly feminine at your core.

    If you have 12 or more Bs, then you are highly masculine at your core.”

    According to this test and the way its set up I’m nether Masculine, Feminine or Neutral. I’m nothing and don’t exist yet in reality I’m Feminine, but this test makes me nothing!

    • Super Janice

      You are neutral.

  • George

    Some of the questions I could answer differently depending on my mood/mindset at a given time. The First time I took this quiz I got 13 A’s and 2 C’s, and when I took it again I got 10 A’s and 5 C’s. I’m not really surprised by this though. Also, I’m not weak, but that isn’t meant to imply that I think femininity = weakness… by no means! I just said that because some people tend to consider a person who was born male to be weak if they are more feminine. It’s just that the way I tend to think and feel about things is like what I hear women – including my girlfriends – say about how they think and feel. Plus, when I’m talking with my female friends about personal issues and such, I never really feel like I don’t understand them because they actually do make sense to me. We get each other.

    • Super Janice

      You are feminine.

  • m

    lovely quiz I scored 12A’s 3C’s which isn’t a surprise me as I’ve felt very feminine

  • Kira

    8 a’s, 5 b’s & 2 c’s. I suppose that means I fluctuate between masculine and feminine a lot. I have the focus of the masculine, the frustrations of the feminine and the desire for the masculine. (Meaning I desire a masculine man over a feminine man).

    I think that it might be a little hard to balance all that. I’ve been dappling in my feminine state a lot recently and I find her to be very enjoyable and amazing. She has really breathed some life into me but at the same time the masculine still calls. I enjoy experiencing and being but I desire to do. I honestly don’t think I can live without either one of them and be fully happy. I need the masculine state to enjoy the feminine state and the feminine state so that I have the motivation to continue forward.

    I have a question that I think might help me piece it all together. What exactly does the masculine state feel like? For some reason, I have it in my head that it’s non-feeling but I know that isn’t true. But are the feelings just as powerful? I don’t think I’d like being in that state too often if they weren’t but I’m not sure how it really works.

    I do have to thank you though Renee because you’ve saved my life. Without this blog, I wouldn’t have either of them and I’m so happy that you’ve shared the feminine with me. I wouldn’t trade her for the world…Hmm, maybe that makes me more feminine…

    • Jai

      Those were my exact scores and I am dealing with finding my balance now. I don’t want to operate in my masculine energy so much because, as I reflect on it, I realize I attract more feminine energy men…which I tend to get frustrated with. Weird dichotomy

  • Holly

    I’m really happy and suprised as I scored 3-c and 12-a! Although I could have gone for b on some of the answers (the multitasking question and the sexual questions spring to mind), I decided that I am capable of multitasking, only in the past I’ve always put myself down and labeled myself incompetent. As for the sexual question, I know a weaker man wouldn’t interest me sexually so I’ve gone with the knowledge I know best of.

    Either way, I scored highest on a which would make me more feminine that I would have guessed.

    I guess that means that I need to form a higher opinion of myself instead of what’s wrong with me.

    Also, your right Renee, men are more career driven and women are more relationship driven. I realized how sad I felt when my daughter went on holiday with her dad and his family

    • Holly

      And I was at home on my own, realizing that I’ve lost contact with half my family . It made me feel very sad and triggered depression within me.

      Now I wish that I had a closer family unit so I can only hope to use the law of attraction to bring about things I would like within my life.

      Although getting a good job is important for anyone in life, as everyone needs to work, it’s just that a Job to a women means something different to what it would mean to a man.

      I’d say that’s one thing I find attractive in a man, is someone who takes pride in their work. I’m not even sure what it is about that qulity but I sense within that it triggers an emotional response, I just can’t tell precicely what it is.

    • Super Janice

      It’s OK if you are incapable of multitasking. That doesn’t make you less feminine or more masculine!

  • Tom

    With a score of 11-A’s, 1-B and 3-C’s I would say it clearly shows that I live much more comfortably in the feminine than the masculine.

    It makes sense though; when I try to live in a more masculine essence I have discovered it is like a badly fitted jacket. Sure it can be worn but you cant move around well at all. I feel inhibited, un-expressive, depressed, withdrawn, and in general not myself. I dont like it all 🙁

    Thankfully I have a girl that has opposite polarity from me so we get along great! Most of the time LOL