đ„¶ One of the difficult things about doing what I do is that I see women sometimes get attached to “myopic” ideas that no longer serve them, and especially don’t serve the men that they come into contact with. I can’t blame them, I was there once too. One of these particular ideas is that feminine energy and “being feminine” is somehow everything. Why? Well perhaps in their mind “masculine men are attracted to feminine women.” Well, in one sense, that’s true. But when you really think and detach from the idea – when you zoom out, you see that…
In our Facebook group, there’s been a lot of advice given around from women, and one of these pieces of advice is to let a man initiate contact with you 80% of the time, and you initiate contact with him 20% of the time. This advice is usually given from women in the group (not myself nor David) in response to questions along the lines of, “Should I initiate contact with a man?” Some women take this rule further, claiming that they never initiate with a man, and they don’t only use this rule in the dating stages, but also…
There are huge inherent differences between the relationship timelines of men and women. So as women, we need to know why the timelines are different and what it means for you. Here’s the truth: Men can father children pretty much throughout their whole lives. The world record holder for the oldest man to father a child is a 93 year old Indian farmer. Imagine that! ï»żï»żï»żï»ż To us women, that concept can be so foreign because we have our womb and our ovaries, and they do have an expiry date for doing the job of bearing children successfully. We are…
đł Conversation is getting a wee bit silly over in our Facebook group. I have seen some folks suggesting many times to “never initiate” when dating men. Where do I even start with this? If you’re going to latch on to a principle, thatâs fine, but let’s get our definitions straight first, because initiating is clearly getting confused with chasing. Initiate = cause a process or action to begin Chase = pursue in order to catch or catch up with Let’s use our thinking caps – we aren’t mindless women following dogma about what it means to be “feminine” without…
There are 10 good reasons Why Polyamory would Never Work Long-Term⊠yes I will probably get some flack from the poly communities, but put your thinking cap on and hear me out as to why polyamory isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. Polyamorous relationships are getting more and more popular each day. Social media and dating apps has changed the way we date and find a partner. Itâs caused our culture to value distractions, selfishness and instant gratification rather than real emotional connection. Itâs caused us to treat the opposite sex like candy, and as an avenue through which…
đđ I know many of us have been burned by a man (or men) in the past. However, it’s one thing to grieve, process and appreciate exactly what happened in our past – coming out of that experience more aware, emotionally calibrated to men and better at protecting our investment with men in the future. It’s another to refuse to grieve, process and feel – instead choosing to blame the male gender overall for being sh*t. That approach, though easy, just leads to gutlessness and invulnerability. It also leads to resentment and defensiveness, killing our chances of showing up high…
Thereâs nothing worse than feeling emotionally invested in a man, and in the outcome of your relationship, only to find that he doesnât text or call you back. The anger, the disbelief and the pain you can feel when youâre in this situation is horrible. Let me first assure you that you are not alone. You are not the only one experiencing this. So, what can you do if the guy you want isnât calling or texting back? What can you do to help yourself in such a difficult and sometimes painful situation? First of all, you need to know…
Is he just “interested” or is he serious about you? There is a big difference between when a man is just interested in you, VERSUS when he’s serious about you. To know the difference is absolutely important for you as a woman, and here is why. A man could be interested in you for so many different reasons. Many of those reasons could be for his own gain and if so, a man’s interest is kind of cheap. And because of that, the interest that he may initially show you can often disappear overnight as well. So interest isn’t actually…
It’s frustrating when men don’t put much effort into the relationship right? You can complain about it. You can get angry about it. You can call all men lazy or you can inspire him to want to make the effort by what I’m about to share with you. So why DON’T men put more effort into relationships? Why do they have such resistance sometimes when it comes to dating & relationships? Well, let me tell you why.Itâs because most men are not only terrible at understanding, feeling and relating to women – they are not intuitively driven to create intimate…
10 Telltale Signs he is a Highly Evolved, Deeply Masculine Alpha Male OMG, OK, so listen to this. There I was⊠on a cold winter night in the dodgy end of town. I wouldn’t come to this part of town even during the day, let alone at night, but anyway. I was there with my husband and two of his guy friends. We were all in our twenties back then, so we were youngish. David had gotten some free tickets to some local kickboxing and MMA fights, and I had never watched fights live before, so I thought I would…
Let me tell you a seemingly harmless, but really toxic story. Imagine two young and healthy people get together, a man and a woman. They are both very physically attractive (above average in looks in fact) and they both have decent jobs. On the surface, everyone, even their peers, think that they have a good marriage and above average lifestyle. They make good money and look good together too. They have everything in front of them. Theyâre building a car wash business together, and together they have a whole lifetime ahead of them. About their personalities. One of them seems…
I know right? That title is soooo preposterous! Well, if itâs preposterous then so be it. There’s nothing wrong with secretly wanting to compete with other women. In fact, intra-sexual competition is alive and well. In other words, women are always competing with other women, and the same goes with men. The only difference is, us women mostly compete in much more covert and behind your back kind of ways than men do. And there’s no shame in recognising that. To compete doesn’t mean you’re not a feminine woman. It doesn’t mean you’re a bad person. In fact, the more…
“You can’t handle the fact that you hurt me!” David said to me as we argued. âWhat? Um, hellooo. I’m the master of handling stuffâ, I thought. âYES, I can handle it!â I said to him. “No, you can’t.” He said. “You cannot handle the fact that you hurt me.” Sigh. âWhat exactly do you need from me?â, I asked. We were in the car, he was driving us to the grocery store and I said something that had hurt him, but I didn’t think it was a big deal. I tried to brush off what I said. Meh. I…
Hi Renee & David, I really need your opinion on this. Everyone else Iâve talked to has more or less asked me to fight fire with fire, and Iâm not really that kind of a human. So, my man and I, weâve been in a relationship for some time now (is almost 3 years long enough?) and he was/is a masculine at his core. So far, however youâve described a masculine man, he fits that description to a T. I try to understand that he has that drive in him, the ambition to achieve his goals and I understand that…
âThereâs two things you need to knowâ, Grandma said. 1: A man in love with you will move mountains for you. 2: Never lose hope that he is out there, because there is a man out there who will love you that much. I wanted to add a 3rd thing to that: 3: You can inspire almost any man to love you this much through putting the connection and attraction first. Any woman who has a man madly in love with her has knowingly or unknowingly inspired that love from him, through the basic principles that create emotional attraction and…