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May 19

How to be Vulnerable Without Being Needy

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 2 Comments

How does one show vulnerability without crossing over into needy territory? I’m not meaning to be flippant, but the short answer to that question is BE vulnerable. Let me share an example with you. Imagine a homeless man. He’s all alone in the street, without food, water, shelter and human companionship. He sleeps on the park bench during freezing winter nights and his mental health is all but ruined. Imagine him feeling the plight of his situation. He sinks into a despair so great that he cannot hold back his emotion. So he starts to really feel his sorrow and…

May 08

3 Reasons why it is High Value For Women To OFFER To Pay On the First Date

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 9 Comments

I know what you’re thinking. You’re thinking I’ve lost the plot. Maybe you’re thinking I’m anti-woman or that I don’t want the best for my fellow sisters out there. Nope. How could I suggest something so absurd? Good question! Because I’ve learned through painful experience that if you want to invest in the right people (or the right man) it’s important to think outside the box. Over the years I’ve realised that there is something very intelligent about offering to pay on the first date. No, I’m not suggesting that you become a provider. I am not suggesting that…

May 01

Should A Man Provide for A Woman 100%? Or is 50/50 OK?

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 18 Comments

Should the Man Provide for a Woman 100%? Or is 50/50 OK? This question, or some variation of it, keeps circulating in my facebook group for High Value Feminine Women. Due to the fact that this question produces polarising discussion, there’s always a small number of women who inevitably insult other women for having 50/50 relationships. I understand. Some women have been through the wringer with the wrong kinds of men, and after having these experiences, they assume that because their ex boyfriend who asked for 50/50 used and abused them, that the problem is the 50/50 setup, and that…

Apr 07

Women Who Date for Resources VS Women Who Date for True Love

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 9 Comments

Are you searching for true love, or are you searching for resources? There’s a huge difference between a woman who is searching for true love, versus a woman who is searching for resources. Why? Because there’s an enormous difference in the type of man these two types of women would attract. There’s also a difference in the amount of fulfilment, power and success they would both feel with men and dating. Of course, true love is a resource in and of itself. However, when you’re searching for true love, by default you actually ADD value; you give value and resources,…

Jan 24

8 Shocking Reasons Why Rotational Dating Can Be Low Value

By Renee Wade | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 16 Comments

Over the last 10 years, rotational dating theory or circular dating has become the stock standard advice given to women. “Date more men!” “Build your man funnel!” “Get more men in your rotation!”, they say. It’s coming up to 10 years I’ve been doing this work with women in all parts of the world, and in that time I’ve also come to notice some patterns. Which means I have noticed that in the world of relationship and dating advice, the advice generally falls into two opposing categories. These two opposing categories come down to: 1: Advice designed to make you…

Dec 20

The No.1 Trait of Dating Profiles that Men Fall in Love With

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Finding Love | No Comments

Let’s talk about the number 1 trait of dating profiles that men fall in love with…It’s certainly not photos of you in skimpy clothing or suggestive poses. (Unless attracting sleazebags is a part of your game plan.) And it’s certainly not a 47 point checklist of what you’re looking for in a man in your bio. In fact, when it comes to dating profiles, most people (men and women) have no clue what to put down. Do I say I love my family? Do I list down my hobbies? Should I mention how I’m not into playing mind games or…

Nov 11

Why Being Feminine is NOT Always High Value

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 9 Comments

🥶 One of the difficult things about doing what I do is that I see women sometimes get attached to “myopic” ideas that no longer serve them, and especially don’t serve the men that they come into contact with. I can’t blame them, I was there once too. One of these particular ideas is that feminine energy and “being feminine” is somehow everything. Why? Well perhaps in their mind “masculine men are attracted to feminine women.” Well, in one sense, that’s true. But when you really think and detach from the idea – when you zoom out, you see that…

Oct 25

Why the 80/20 Rule of Contacting a Man will Likely Make You LOSE Him

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 19 Comments

In our Facebook group, there’s been a lot of advice given around from women, and one of these pieces of advice is to let a man initiate contact with you 80% of the time, and you initiate contact with him 20% of the time. This advice is usually given from women in the group (not myself nor David) in response to questions along the lines of, “Should I initiate contact with a man?” Some women take this rule further, claiming that they never initiate with a man, and they don’t only use this rule in the dating stages, but also…

Sep 14

Relationship Timeline: Men VS Women

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 3 Comments

There are huge inherent differences between the relationship timelines of men and women. So as women, we need to know why the timelines are different and what it means for you. Here’s the truth: Men can father children pretty much throughout their whole lives. The world record holder for the oldest man to father a child is a 93 year old Indian farmer. Imagine that! To us women, that concept can be so foreign because we have our womb and our ovaries, and they do have an expiry date for doing the job of bearing children successfully. We are…

Aug 25

If You Never Initiate, You Will Lose the High Value Men

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 30 Comments

😳 Conversation is getting a wee bit silly over in our Facebook group. I have seen some folks suggesting many times to “never initiate” when dating men.

Aug 16

Polyamory: 10 Reasons Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 9 Comments

There are 10 good reasons Why Polyamory would Never Work Long-Term… yes I will probably get some flack from the poly communities, but put your thinking cap on and hear me out as to why polyamory isn’t all that it’s cracked up to be. Polyamorous relationships are getting more and more popular each day. Social media and dating apps has changed the way we date and find a partner. It’s caused our culture to value distractions, selfishness and instant gratification rather than real emotional connection. It’s caused us to treat the opposite sex like candy, and as an avenue through which…

Jul 29

How Your Refusal to Grieve Makes You A ‘One of Many’ Type of Woman

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 19 Comments

💔💔 I know many of us have been burned by a man (or men) in the past. However, it’s one thing to grieve, process and appreciate exactly what happened in our past – coming out of that experience more aware, emotionally calibrated to men and better at protecting our investment with men in the future. It’s another to refuse to grieve, process and feel – instead choosing to blame the male gender overall for being sh*t. That approach, though easy, just leads to gutlessness and invulnerability. It also leads to resentment and defensiveness, killing our chances of showing up high…

Jun 30

4 Steps to Stay High Value when He Doesn’t Text or Call

By Renee Wade | All, Attraction, Confidence | 6 Comments

There’s nothing worse than feeling emotionally invested in a man, and in the outcome of your relationship, only to find that he doesn’t text or call you back. The anger, the disbelief and the pain you can feel when you’re in this situation is horrible. Let me first assure you that you are not alone. You are not the only one experiencing this. So, what can you do if the guy you want isn’t calling or texting back? What can you do to help yourself in such a difficult and sometimes painful situation? First of all, you need to know…

May 16

Is He Serious About You or Just “Interested”? Critical Distinction.

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 4 Comments

Is he just “interested” or is he serious about you? There is a big difference between when a man is just interested in you, VERSUS when he’s serious about you. To know the difference is absolutely important for you as a woman, and here is why. A man could be interested in you for so many different reasons. Many of those reasons could be for his own gain and if so, a man’s interest is kind of cheap. And because of that, the interest that he may initially show you can often disappear overnight as well. So interest isn’t actually…

Apr 30

Why Men Don’t Put More Effort into the Relationship?

By Renee Wade | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 9 Comments

It’s frustrating when men don’t put much effort into the relationship right? You can complain about it. You can get angry about it. You can call all men lazy or you can inspire him to want to make the effort by what I’m about to share with you. So why DON’T men put more effort into relationships? Why do they have such resistance sometimes when it comes to dating & relationships? Well, let me tell you why.It’s because most men are not only terrible at understanding, feeling and relating to women – they are not intuitively driven to create intimate…