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The 9 Dangers of “Leaning Back” & Why It’s Not Feminine

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 47 Comments

There are many people who strongly believe in leaning back when dating. Since the early days of the internet, when Rori Raye started spreading her idea on leaning back and circular dating, or rotational dating, which means dating several men at the same time, the idea of leaning back has spread. Some people say that you shouldn’t take too many initiating actions with men, and let him chase you, whilst you still must remain warm and receptive. Apparently, this is because it’s the natural role of a man to come forward, to work for you, and take care of you…

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Polyamory: Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 16 Comments

If you haven’t read PART 1 of this post, I suggest you read that first. It will give you the details you need to understand this article. This post was originally inspired by a woman in a pickle with a man who claimed he was polyamorous and then turned monogamous to be with her, and then he slept with someone else. Read it here… All relationship and marriage setups are valuable Let me get this out of the way: I am not advocating that monogamy is the only way. It definitely isn’t. I respect the value of polygyny (a man…

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Polyamorous Relationships: He wants One. What Do I do?

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 38 Comments

Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life). What if we need to learn…

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6 Behaviours You Should Never Tolerate In A Man

By | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 13 Comments

Cheating and abuse are the first things people think of when they consider what they should never tolerate in a relationship. This article is not going to be about cheating or abuse. Why? Because firstly, whilst of course abuse should not be tolerated; abuse is actually a wide topic – it goes far beyond just physical abuse. Sometimes, the behaviours that seem the most innocent on the surface can actually be deeply abusive. For example, acting like your partner is not causing you any hurt or anger (not being responsive) when you consciously know you’re withholding yourself (as well as…

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The One Perfect Thing to Say When a Man Says He Needs “Space”

By | All, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 29 Comments

What if your man or boyfriend is needing space in the relationship? “I freaked out. He told me calmly that he needs some space and I didn’t know what to do. I tried to talk him through this, I begged him not to leave me because I’m afraid he will leave me for another woman”. The anxiety of a man needing space. It’s enough to make many women feel their stomach suddenly drop 1,000 miles through the floor. It can make you feel blinded by fear of the worst. Unfortunately and fortunately, this dizzy time of worry and stress is…

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4 Top Secret Ways to Access Your High Value Vulnerability

By | All, Attraction, Commitment | 17 Comments

‘’You don’t bleed. That’s why you can’t keep a guy.’’ Erol said to his long time friend, Jacinta, whilst twisting his foot into the ground to kill his cigarette butt. They’ve been friends forever and always love to chat about their relationships… “I…what? I don’t bleed?” “Yeah, you don’t bleed. You need to bleed in order for him to have feelings for you. I’m exaggerating, but I’m kind of not, too.” “What the hell are you talking about?” Erol chuckled. “Look, I don’t actually mean bleed, that is a metaphor to say, hey, you should make it obvious how you…

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Your man tells you to “F**k Off”. Now what?

By | All, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 30 Comments

He got angry and told her to F**k Off…. Me & my boyfriend had an argument a few days ago he blamed me for a few things which was silly things & not true. He was angry & recently been under a lot of stress. Also he lost a close friend of his. He was ratty with me from the night before. He said I had started to act like I was at the beginning of relationship paranoid & not being able to talk properly. At one point he said maybe your getting bored in our argument. I later said…

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Is Having Low Value Friends Even Worth It?

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 69 Comments

“Hi, could you write an article on how to recognize/meet/make friends with similar minded/good-hearted/positive women? Most of my friends tended to be kinda selfish, lazy, admitted being jealous of me for whatever reason even though I always praised them on the good I saw in them to make them love themselves, but they mostly focused on the negative. In the end, I realized I was drained being in their presence. I always gave and gave my time, understanding and loyalty, and very few times did I get the same care from them. I couldn’t tolerate being friends with people who…

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How the Fear of Abandonment Can Make You More Beautiful…

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence | 49 Comments

Can fear of abandonment make you more beautiful? They say that the opposite of love is not hate; it’s indifference. And I don’t know about you, but I don’t hate humans often. I hate certain ideas and I hate mediocrity (which means I hate myself sometimes). On the occasion that I do feel hate, it’s towards people that I care about and it’s because they are not open (they are not love). They are in denial about truth. In other words, they’re indifferent to relationship and life. They just don’t care. They choose to be thick and impenetrable. They choose fear…

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7 Burning Signs a Man is Being Low Value

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It might seem arrogant to deem someone as having low value, or low mate value. And, it’s not easy to be the ‘mean’ girl, sitting there, evaluating a man’s mate value. Click here to take the quiz “Are you Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?” By mate value, I mean the signs that show a man’s overall value as a romantic partner. It also refers to his potential reproductive success. For example, a strong, confident man would most likely have more reproductive success than an unhealthy, lazy, unconfident man. I know it seems unfair. But without me even saying it, we all…

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Dancing Naked, Slut Shaming, and Shit Sex…

By | All, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 25 Comments

She barged into my room without knocking. What were you doing?! She said. She crossed her arms and looked me up and down. Then her mouth moved up in the shape of a smirk. ‘Ahh, you were dancing. Don’t think I don’t know exactly what you were doing.” I looked downwards, the 17 year old me, knowing my mother would never approve of me dancing. I was even looking at myself in the mirror. Worse. I was enjoying dancing and looking at myself in the mirror. Take the quiz on How Feminine Am I Actually? Click here. “Get that towel…

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Check These 7 Things Before “The Commitment Talk” Threatens Your Relationship

By | All, Commitment | 25 Comments

I was crying for an hour. I had assumed that enough years spent invested in my man would mean he’d automatically propose marriage. I had fantasies that he would propose on his own without me EVER mentioning marriage; because that would mean I was like, extra awesome. Hah. I didn’t realise that there’s ways to get a man to commit that are genuine. I thought I should just go along in the relationship until he automatically proposed. Related Post: How to Get him To Propose and Marry You Without Looking Low Value So what was I to do? Well, I…

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High Powered Career, Trust, and your Relationship with Men

By | All, Finding Love, Relationship Issues

High Powered Career, Trust and Your Relationship with Great Men As a graduated student with a double degree in Law/Arts, I perfectly understand the desire to keep a well-earned career. It’s a woman’s birthright. Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?” But what if you and I just asked each other why? Why do we do the hard work and choose the high powered, kick-ass careers in the first place? Well, the answer, based on our survival instinct – is to just make some damn money to survive. And status. But money….

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How can one be high value in a society that keeps us insecure?

By | All, Confidence | 19 Comments

Got sent a link to a dailymail article today…on the tragedy of somebody’s dental veneers of all things. Then, I see to the right of the page an article of photos about 61 year old Bruce Willis filming an ad with tonnes of young, gorgeous, sexy women barely clothed… Click here to take the quiz on How High Value Am I on Facebook? The writer used words like “….But Bruce Willis is also a man. While shooting an Italian commercial, the 61 year old looked like a kid in a candy store as he got close to a gorgeous woman….at…

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Why Men Push for Sex

The Truth: What Men Are Looking for When They Push You for Sex

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 128 Comments

The Truth: What men are looking for when they push you for sex Sex is the thing that women are obligated to do with men if they want to keep a man around. I’m kidding. Sex is the thing we think we have to do with men to keep them around. We feel pressured. Who doesn’t know a woman friend who gave a blow job or had sex with a man to ‘keep him happy’? When a man is in love, he can have zero sex with a woman and still stick around, whilst being emotionally attracted to her and…

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