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Commitment

12 secret reasons some people will always be distant from you

12 Secret Reasons Some People Will Always Be Distant From You

By | Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 53 Comments

Article updated 2018 She sat there, all alone, on the curb, crying. She just had it. She had just lost someone dear to her, and now she had nobody – nobody to even call her and ask how she is – and didn’t know what to do about it. A woman of many family members. A few friends. And yet nobody was there for her. She wanted to commit suicide, sometimes. It was all just too hard. She had friends, but they didn’t feel like real friends. Her family wasn’t nice to her, and her last relationship broke up, even…

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this is why women really push men away

This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away

By | Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 93 Comments

Article updated 2018 This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away …Because pushing him away is a lot better than feeling him ‘here’ with us and consequently being more vulnerable to his betrayal. Especially if we’ve been truly open and vulnerable to him. …Because we want you to work harder for us. …Because we are scared to trust you. …Because outside of our natural desire for sex during/before ovulation, or the beginning or the end of a menstrual cycle, our desire for sex is lower, and sex takes a lot of energy when we don’t want it. …Because relationships take…

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If He Loves You More Than You Love Him, Is It Worth a Chance?

By | Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 31 Comments

Article updated 2018 Hi Renee, I have been following your blog and it has changed my life significantly. Thank you. I recently met a guy who I believe truly loves me, the problem is, He has a lot of habits I used to have but worked really hard on myself to quit.(ex. talking too much) If I am being honest, am not sure I love this man but I realized I have been too picky with men. This guy calls me, checks up and tells me he loves me often (too often even). Should I give him a chance? Hi…

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4 Top Secret Ways to Access Your High Value Vulnerability

4 Top Secret Ways to Access Your High Value Vulnerability

By | All, Attraction, Commitment | 24 Comments

Article updated 2018 ‘’You don’t bleed. That’s why you can’t keep a guy.’’ Erol said to his long time friend, Jacinta, whilst twisting his foot into the ground to kill his cigarette butt. They’ve been friends forever and always love to chat about their relationships… “I…what? I don’t bleed?” “Yeah, you don’t bleed. You need to bleed in order for him to have feelings for you. I’m exaggerating, but I’m kind of not, too.” “What the hell are you talking about?” Erol chuckled. “Look, I don’t actually mean bleed, that is a metaphor to say, hey, you should make it…

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5 Advanced Ways To Have Close Relationships That Others Envy

5 Advanced Ways To Have Close Relationships That Others Envy

By | Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 13 Comments

Article updated 2018 “He left me. I suddenly broke down in tears. I told him I was so hurt that he didn’t call me after we had sex for the first time. We weren’t even on a date when I burst out crying; I just bumped into him at college.” Kristy said to Gianna. Gianna raised her eyebrows and stopped breathing for one minute. “Wow. Ouch.” “What? That’s all you gonna say?” No no, I’m just processing all of what you said right now, Gianna said while letting out a big puff of cigarette smoke slowly. Oh, OK. “I can’t…

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The Secret Cost For Women When They Have Casual Sex

The Secret Cost For Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 3)

By | Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 24 Comments

Article updated 2018 Having casual sex encourages women to be afraid to ask for commitment We want a man’s commitment for a reason. Don’t short-change yourself. Because there is so much pressure on women to give up sex easily these days, this is even more reason to resist that push for quick sex from men. Why? Because it’s also a test. Good men also test how easily they can get a woman to have sex with them. Not having sex for validation and approval, and not having sex indiscriminately, or too early, will set you apart from the crowd. Just…

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Can Fear of Abandonment Make You More Beautiful

How the Fear of Abandonment Can Make You More Beautiful…

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence | 54 Comments

Article updated 2019 Can fear of abandonment make you more beautiful? Is there anything worse than dealing with someone who has become completely indifferent to relationship and life? I mean the people who have numbed themselves so much that they just don’t care. They don’t care about you, but more importantly, they’ve stopped caring about themselves. They choose to be thick and impenetrable. They choose comfort over love. Or they choose mediocrity over infinity. They’ve been denying what’s true of their deepest heart for so long that they seem to have become indifferent. And having indifference to your own need for…

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Check These 7 Things Before “The Commitment Talk” Threatens Your Relationship

By | All, Commitment | 25 Comments

Article updated 2018 I was crying for an hour. I had assumed that enough years spent invested in my man would mean he’d automatically propose marriage. I had fantasies that he would propose on his own without me EVER mentioning marriage; because that would mean I was like, extra awesome. Hah. I didn’t realise that there’s ways to get a man to commit that are genuine. I thought I should just go along in the relationship until he automatically proposed. Related Post: How to Get him To Propose and Marry You Without Looking Low Value So what was I to…

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Why Men Push for Sex

The Truth: What Men Are Looking for When They Push You for Sex

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 159 Comments

Article updated 2018 Sex is the thing that women are obligated to do with men if they want to keep a man around. I’m kidding. Sex is the thing we think we have to do with men to keep them around. We feel pressured. Who doesn’t know a woman friend who gave a blow job or had sex with a man to ‘keep him happy’? When a man is in love, he can have zero sex with a woman and still stick around, whilst being emotionally attracted to her and faithful to that one woman. Still, why do women feel…

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Are men really more attracted to airheads over the strong and successful women?

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 77 Comments

Article updated 2018 Are men really more attracted to the flighty type of women over the strong and successful type? Veronica asks Trevor: “I saw a study the other day that said that men are more attracted to dumb women, and that intelligent women are seen as problematic in a relationship. Do you see this as true?”  Trevor: Well, men like to be right, and intelligent women can stop them feeling that way in a relationship. Veronica: groan. **** This conversation reflects exactly the kind of views many people have in the world, based on my experience. Specifically, the view…

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why men pull away

The Real Pain of When Men Pull Away & How To React in A High Value Way

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 158 Comments

So truthfully, why does he pull away? Article updated 2018 Sometimes when a man pulls away, it’s because there was no actual emotional attraction in the first place. When there isn’t enough attraction and connection in a dating situation, things will fizzle out – no matter how much we want to hold on. Because that’s what a strong relationship is built upon – emotional attraction and emotional connection. In these situations where there’s not enough connection and attraction right from the start, it usually means that we should let it go. Usually, when the relationship was based on sex and even…

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Why Men can Lose Trust in Women who have unattached sex

Think casual sex is harmless? Think again.

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 217 Comments

Article updated 2018 What do you suppose men sacrifice when they sleep around a lot? A committed relationship? Maybe. Click here to find out if you’re Dating a Commitment Friendly Man A good reputation? Yes, men can jeopardise their future potential to have a high value mate through perpetual promiscuity (See the book social Psychology and Human Sexuality, 2001). But more importantly – what, on a reproductive/biological level, do men sacrifice? Quality. They sacrifice quality. And that’s quality of the women. Many men who sleep around don’t mind this; all they are looking for is novelty in experience anyway. Almost…

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Not wanting to manipulate

Not Wanting to Manipulate Makes us Manipulative

By | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 30 Comments

Article updated 2018 “But I just don’t want to manipulate him like that…” Said the woman who preferred to keep a clean conscience. Just like most women, you probably don’t like to be called a “manipulator”… because no body likes a manipulator… After all, wouldn’t it be too selfish for us to have what we really want? And wouldn’t we have to manipulate others in order to get that? Imagine a salesman trying to pull you over in the street, only being keen to close the sale. We hate people like that… why? Because they’re only EVER in it for themselves. Our…

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Vulnerable Craving Hearts attracts Trustworthy and Devoted Man

Vulnerable Craving Hearts Attract Devoted and Trustworthy Men

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 59 Comments

Article updated 2018 After work she eats until she numbs herself. When she’s numb from food, she reads a romance novel, maybe watches dramatic TV. When she gets frustrated enough at living love through a stupid-ass novel, she hates other women who have loving husbands to distract her from her true craving for a man. When she becomes too fat for her own ideals, she begins an exercise regime just to feel good enough about herself to keep her authentic craving for a man at bay. When she hates other women long enough for having what she believes she doesn’t…

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How to Communicate with an Angry man & become closer afterwards

How to Communicate & Get Closer to An Angry Man

By | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 90 Comments

Article updated 2018 Our intention to stay connected to a man in an argument is worth gold. Our intention to hold on to resentment and the need to be right in an argument is worth nothing. Anyone of us can live our lives from the place of needing to be right. And many of us do. It is a terribly mediocre existence, though, because it is never ending – so the pattern of needing to be right will continue as long as you exhaust yourself trying to be right. It is a doomed cycle and it is the path you…

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