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Commitment

Why Men Push for Sex

The Truth: What Men Are Looking for When They Push You for Sex

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 150 Comments

Article updated 2018 Sex is the thing that women are obligated to do with men if they want to keep a man around. I’m kidding. Sex is the thing we think we have to do with men to keep them around. We feel pressured. Who doesn’t know a woman friend who gave a blow job or had sex with a man to ‘keep him happy’? When a man is in love, he can have zero sex with a woman and still stick around, whilst being emotionally attracted to her and faithful to that one woman. Still, why do women feel…

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Are men really more attracted to airheads over the strong and successful women?

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 77 Comments

Article updated 2018 Are men really more attracted to the flighty type of women over the strong and successful type? Veronica asks Trevor: “I saw a study the other day that said that men are more attracted to dumb women, and that intelligent women are seen as problematic in a relationship. Do you see this as true?”  Trevor: Well, men like to be right, and intelligent women can stop them feeling that way in a relationship. Veronica: groan. **** This conversation reflects exactly the kind of views many people have in the world, based on my experience. Specifically, the view…

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why men pull away

The Real Pain of When Men Pull Away & How To React in A High Value Way

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 155 Comments

So truthfully, why does he pull away? Article updated 2018 Sometimes when a man pulls away, it’s because there was no actual emotional attraction in the first place. When there isn’t enough attraction and connection in a dating situation, things will fizzle out – no matter how much we want to hold on. Because that’s what a strong relationship is built upon – emotional attraction and emotional connection. In these situations where there’s not enough connection and attraction right from the start, it usually means that we should let it go. Usually, when the relationship was based on sex and even…

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Why Men can Lose Trust in Women who have unattached sex

Think casual sex is harmless? Think again.

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 207 Comments

Article updated 2018 What do you suppose men sacrifice when they sleep around a lot? A committed relationship? Maybe. Click here to find out if you’re Dating a Commitment Friendly Man A good reputation? Yes, men can jeopardise their future potential to have a high value mate through perpetual promiscuity (See the book social Psychology and Human Sexuality, 2001). But more importantly – what, on a reproductive/biological level, do men sacrifice? Quality. They sacrifice quality. And that’s quality of the women. Many men who sleep around don’t mind this; all they are looking for is novelty in experience anyway. Almost…

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Not wanting to manipulate

Not Wanting to Manipulate Makes us Manipulative

By | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love | 30 Comments

Article updated 2018 “But I just don’t want to manipulate him like that…” Said the woman who preferred to keep a clean conscience. Just like most women, you probably don’t like to be called a “manipulator”… because no body likes a manipulator… After all, wouldn’t it be too selfish for us to have what we really want? And wouldn’t we have to manipulate others in order to get that? Imagine a salesman trying to pull you over in the street, only being keen to close the sale. We hate people like that… why? Because they’re only EVER in it for themselves. Our…

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Vulnerable Craving Hearts attracts Trustworthy and Devoted Man

Vulnerable Craving Hearts Attract Devoted and Trustworthy Men

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 59 Comments

Article updated 2018 After work she eats until she numbs herself. When she’s numb from food, she reads a romance novel, maybe watches dramatic TV. When she gets frustrated enough at living love through a stupid-ass novel, she hates other women who have loving husbands to distract her from her true craving for a man. When she becomes too fat for her own ideals, she begins an exercise regime just to feel good enough about herself to keep her authentic craving for a man at bay. When she hates other women long enough for having what she believes she doesn’t…

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How to Communicate with an Angry man & become closer afterwards

How to Communicate & Get Closer to An Angry Man

By | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 90 Comments

Article updated 2018 Our intention to stay connected to a man in an argument is worth gold. Our intention to hold on to resentment and the need to be right in an argument is worth nothing. Anyone of us can live our lives from the place of needing to be right. And many of us do. It is a terribly mediocre existence, though, because it is never ending – so the pattern of needing to be right will continue as long as you exhaust yourself trying to be right. It is a doomed cycle and it is the path you…

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new perspective on why women are abused

A Different Perspective on Why Male Partners Abuse Women (& how to stop it)

By | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 165 Comments

Article updated 2018 Warning: Abuse can be a very serious and very sensitive issue for many women… If you are already in an abusive situation, the perspective of this article may not always serve you, so please take caution in how you interpret this article. If you are in an abusive situation, then for your sake do everything you can to get out of there if you can. You are too important to be continually subjected to abuse, whether that’s physical, emotional, or sexual. You can review safety tips and guidelines for addressing an abusive situation, including getting help and…

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Should I Put More of the Blame on Men

Should I Put More of the Blame on Men for Failed Relationships?

By | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 71 Comments

Article updated 2018 “If the woman is being stupid and he’s being a jerk admit to both. It’s as if you’re were siding with the guy.” “Blame the men from time to time.” “Men are wrong, too!” I hear these statements from hurt and frustrated women from time to time. This letter is to you if you have ever felt like you are being asked to do ALL the work in a relationship with a man. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) This letter is also to you if you have ever…

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what to do when he doesn't call

4 Steps to Maintain High Value When He Doesn’t Call or Text

By | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 76 Comments

Article updated 2018 If you have been dating a man for less than 6 months, then it is likely that you are still in the process of proving your value as a potential mate to each other, so you’ll need to be aware of how to maintain that high value if you truly love the man you are with. High value. It’s the reason people try to play games, get plastic surgery, it’s the reason people try to be mysterious. Being mysterious and playing hard to get is really just an attempt to preserve our value as a mate. Because…

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Why Men Pull Away when you Need them

Why Men Pull Away When You Need Them the Most

By | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 68 Comments

Article updated 2018 What’s more scary than being with a man who suddenly disappears when you are hurting badly over something in your life? This lady named Sarah left this question on the blog in the comments section: “Renee, I love your articles they always make so much sense! I have a problem with my boyfriend. Ive known him for three years, and he is a very rough around the edges, ‘tough love’ kind of guy. He seems to be caring and loving and calling a lot mostly when things are good. But as soon as I am going through a…

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He’s not ‘Making EXCUSES’

He’s not ‘Making EXCUSES’, You Just Haven’t Inspired His Commitment

By | All, Commitment | 97 Comments

Article updated 2018 The word you use to describe another person’s actions is everything. I believe that the words you use, make you do amazing things in your life or terrible things. Because the words you use reflect the intent you infer upon others. In other words, you could be assuming hostile intent in a man when most humans truly have positive intent (at the very least, positive intent to make themselves feel a certain way). And of course, the words you use reflect the meaning you place on things. And that meaning could be ruining your relationships or inspiring them…

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How to Keep a Relationship After Repeated Breakups

How to Keep a Relationship After Repeated Breakups?

By | Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 40 Comments

Article updated 2018 Good day Renee, I have no idea where to start with this mail. I met Matthew when I was 18, that was 7 Years ago. We have had a very up and down relationship. We have two wonderful little boys together. For the first two years of our relationship was a fairy tale, and from there o, we have been arguing and fighting ever since. Everything will be fine for like three days and then for three days its arguing and fighting again.. It’s very exhausting. This is my problem, We were together for about 4 years…

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This Does NOT Make You ‘Wife Material’

This Does NOT Make You ‘Wife Material’

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 55 Comments

Article updated 2018 My assistant Jenny forwarded me this question the other day: “I met my guy in Feb 2013 from Okcupid. In March 2013 (3weeks later) he asked me to be his girl. In April 2013 he asked me to move into his house. Aug 3, 2013, he broke up with me.- I cooked, cleaned, washed clothes, etc. I am wife material I know that much. Around May he started to back off, but I did not see the signs because I was still on a love high. Questions- Why would he give up a good woman? (he said I am…

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This is why men don't call often

THIS is Why Men Don’t Call More Often…

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 124 Comments

Article updated 2018 My man and I openly discuss relationship topics and the differences between men and women very often. We are both very passionate about it and this mutual passion is one reason I can write this blog. One day recently, my man David and I were having a conversation about why men don’t call and how women chronically over analyse when he doesn’t call – a conversation that just made me laugh in amusement. I laughed in amusement because no matter how many times I have a new realisation about how different a masculine man is to a…

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