The Temperament of a Feminine Woman

temperament of a feminine woman

Welcome back and remember to stay Feminine, Fun and Free!

I think we’ve all had those moments where something our man has done (or somebody else) gets the blood broiling to the max!  You’ve probably had those times when things have been particularly hard, like you’ve lost a loved one, or you’re struggling for money, or your man does something you didn’t expect that really hurt you? The times that put a lot of stress on your intimate relationship? Often, these are the times which really test our character and temperament.

Also, when you’re not feeling good, it becomes very hard to see the good in things, and in people. Or to even find it within yourself to commit to changing anything. It’s easy to throw in the towel and choose not to care.

If you’re a human being, I’m sure you’ve made mistakes when dealing with your man, and when dealing with people in general, and that is OK. If you are not making mistakes, you’re not learning. In fact, if you think you’re stuck in self-development, it’s probably because you’re not failing fast enough!

The common temperament of modern women

Perhaps due to the feminist movement, or due to other factors as well, women are often reacting to – and dealing with – situations in a very masculine way. In fact, many women these days are quite condescending and authoritative and even autocratic to men if they perceive that the man is intellectually “inferior” or if he has done something “wrong” according to the woman.

I have heard of women laughing in the face of “neanderthal” boys. This is not ideal. And, because so many women these days do choose to attend college and ruthlessly chase a career – men who are seemingly not as “educated” are sometimes looked down upon and worse still – women are competing with men in the same field (which is mainly a problem if you’re wanting to have a great relationship. You cannot be competing with your man)! (read my article about why you should look up to your man)

The fact is – each man has his own set of strengths that make him feel like a man, and that lie at the heart of his masculinity. Some men are more intellectuals, some have a lot of physical strength and excel at things like building and plumbing, etc.

Let me just start with a few common situations in which a woman’s true temperament can be witnessed:

- when her man doesn’t help around the house

- when he leaves his rubbish, dirty clothes, etc all over the house

- when he is “lazy”

- when he is ‘checking out’ other women

- when he forgets a special date

- when he doesn’t express his feelings

- when he loses his job, or gets a pay-cut

- when his business fails

- when he loses a large sum of money

- when he has a drinking problem

- when he smokes, gambles, looks at pornography

- when he spends more time watching or playing sports than she considers ideal

- when he spends too much time at work

- when he doesn’t pay enough attention to the children

- when he doesn’t pick up on her thoughts/feelings

- when he gets in trouble with the Law – perhaps for doing something ‘immoral’ in order to provide for his family. (Some men will do anything to provide for their family!)

These are just a few examples of situations in which a woman’s character and temperament can easily be revealed. A lot of women in today’s society want to go head-to-head with their men, ‘excel’ during a painful argument, to be ‘right’ and often women will (as the term is often used) “crack it” at their men, and keep tabs on them and control them like their man was their child. In fact, pretty much every woman I know (who hasn’t been exposed to the wonderful wisdom and understanding of femininity and the dynamics between man and woman) treat their boyfriend and husbands this way.

The problem is also, that their men let these women walk all over them because they ‘fear’ their wives or girlfriends. Men everywhere are doing this. They fear spending some money on a set of golf clubs for fear that their wife will crack it at them, or get upset. They fear playing sports in case their wife will get temperamental about it, etc.

A lot of men are walking around on eggshells. I have known women who break their husband’s golf clubs because they hate their husbands spending so much time on golf. Obviously, I’m not saying the relationships problems they have are entirely the woman’s fault, but this does show a lack of understanding of men.

A woman’s temperament and a man’s love

If something upsets you or angers you, you will know that you have deeper feelings, and the anger and resentment that you show in dealing with the situation are most definitely a coping mechanism/facade. A way for you to get your significance/certainty back when you feel it is lost (I am not saying it’s not OK to be angry, it’s fine to have anger – it’s more about how you treat others as a result of your emotions, and also about how you use your emotions for the better).

As counterintuitive as it is, you will have a much better result with your man if you show your vulnerabilities, and even cry when you are upset/angry.

My feeling is that most men cannot leave a woman who is vulnerable. However, you can BET he’s going to be able to leave you (not always permanently, I mean also leaving the house momentarily, etc) if you make him walk on eggshells, make him fear your temper, and try to control him.

A lot of women take that “I’ll kick him in the balls” approach. This won’t command respect from him, and will not encourage his masculinity, it will just slowly but surely make him resent you! I’m not trying to discourage you having a feisty side to you, as that can be useful! I am just saying that using your anger/pain in a better way will get you to a better result, and ensure you greater happiness. A lot of women do not realize this, but your vulnerability is your power.

We all have choices…..

So, if you do have a bit of a raging temper, I would suggest that every time you are in a heated moment, to remind yourself in that split second (a ‘moment’ – and we all have a moment where we can make a defining decision) to make a choice. To make a choice to step up and focus on the positive outcomes of being vulnerable instead of going head-to-head with your man. (read my article about why do men pull away)

Ultimately, this just means that there will be 2 masculine egos at work which doesn’t help anyone! Of showing sadness/tears instead of aggression and resentment, or to show support for your man when it is the hardest to show. To be understanding and considerate. To let go and to be free is one of the best things that you can do for your relationship with your man.

A masculine man needs a feminine woman of better moral standing whom he can look up to. Something ethereal and a woman of worthy character. If a woman is dealing with situations in a masculine way, it will do little to serve her relationship.

Some examples of responses you can choose instead:

- calmness

- serenity

- humility

- free-hearted rather than defensive

- emotional rather than having her defences up

- thoughtful rather than thoughtless (thinks before she speaks)

- the ability to be more submissive in character rather than fighting, whether intellectually or emotionally (a woman should still definitely hold her own and not ‘play dumb’). It’s more about honoring the different energies between masculine/feminine and not breaking down the foundations of your passion and love by arguing with him like a man would!

- the ability to show your vulnerabilities rather than hide them (to give your man a chance to step up and take care of you, and to feel like your man)

- using emotion and her intuition instead of “reasoning”, “reality” and “factual” arguments. (Again, a woman does need to have this in her character. I believe a woman should definitely be able to think factual – but it’s not where she lives. There needs to be a balance).

- understanding rather than rash, defensive and judgmental

- It’s important to remember that whatever people are doing, there is always a reason. And you are not going to make the world a better place by judging them. But you will by understanding them.

This especially applies to your man. In times when his sense of pride is being challenged, maybe at work or around his friends, it is important that he knows he can rely on your feminine strength (your belief in him, and your positive words). When I say tolerance, I don’t mean that you have to ignore or suppress your feelings. I mean that it will serve you better to seek understanding rather than being judgmental.

- note: tolerance = acceptance of others’ uniqueness. A knowing and accepting that people are all different. And knowing that just like you, they have feelings too.

- nurturing

- leaning towards a cheerfulness rather than being a constant criticizer. A lot of men prefer to spend their time on golf, cars, drinking, football, beer, prostitutes, or whatever because they have no compelling reason to return home to their wives. If you want your husband or boyfriend to be more considerate of you, just be more understanding of him, and give him a reason to want to be with you.

As well as the feminine appearance, the feminine temperament is so important. You must develop traits that are typical of a worthy character. Feminine women should be a symbol of life, freedom and serenity. Anyway, that’s all for this article. Be sure to say hi in the comments section if you haven’t yet, I’d love to hear from you! :)

The quest is not to be perfect, for we can never ever be perfect. The quest is more about becoming a woman of value.

 Renee the feminine woman

56 Comments

  • a

    Reply Reply March 4, 2014

    My man left me instantly last night. He asked me if I was going to put our son to bed. I told him I didn’t mind if he stays up a little while longer to watch tv. Then he asked if I care whether our son goes to bed. I pointed out he’s his son too and that he can also put him to bed. He immediately got dressed and left. I was calm in the discussion. However, I also felt targeted and confused. He came home in the morning, changed clothes and still has not called or come back. I have not called him either. I feel punished for speaking up. I feel as though I am also walking on eggshells. He is not working now. So hes been caring for our child during the day while I work. Since he has not come home, I could not work.

    • Mona

      Reply Reply March 4, 2014

      I know nothing about your situation, and whether your man is out of work out of choice, but I wouldn’t think so, in which case it is really difficult for him to have self esteem and feel like a man. Don’t get me wrong, I understand that it must be very hard for you as well, but if you don’t want to make it any harder by having disharmony in the home, let him have the last word when you notice that he is getting worked up over something. But that’s just my – a laywoman’s – $0.02.

      • a

        Reply Reply March 6, 2014

        Thank you Nana and Mona. I guess the other thing that puzzles me is that day he spent the entire day at his mom’s house. I took our son with me to do laundry that day. Then I came upstairs to cook dinner. It seems bitchy wives get all the respect.

        • Joan

          Reply Reply March 6, 2014

          Bitchy has its place, when you feel that way and only in authenticity. But its only a small part of femininity.

          Vulnerability works much better. I know its harder, I still want to hold my pride and fight like a man really I do. And I used to. The fights were terrible. And he never considered my feelings.

          Last time we fought I was vulnerable. The pain was terrible so the tears were authentic. He sat down and wrote me a long letter, sort of apologizing(he’s very proud bushman). There were never letters before. I know the letter was not perfect but there was an I love you on it.

          This letter was not a perfect love letter, but my point is don’t downplay vulnerability. Or your femininity. I believe it will serve you well in this situation. I have that much confidence in it. The not so perfect love letter was not easy for him. He is not like that. All the work I’ve been doing on this site has brought me to dinners out, presents, hugs and kisses. And all I chose him for was his stability, to provide a good life. Which he was doing. But it was all cold till I came here.

          • a

            Reply Reply March 12, 2014

            Thanks Joan!

  • Yasinta

    Reply Reply February 12, 2014

    Hi Renee,

    I’d like to ask your input, this is about other people, not our man.
    what do you suggest if there is a situation where our anger is accumulated, like this particular problem I have with my boss, he is in his 60s, and since a year ago he got promoted which caused him got pressure. It made him become an anoying person, we used to look up to him but now he don’t care about anything other than his work done (and don’t care how it done). As a 5,5 years secretary I know him and his carrachter, but this past year I have fade up with his childess/improfessional thing, he caused “mess” which caused us the employees got hard times to take care of it. Well our atmosphere of work place is not tight, we joke a lot, and he might think that we are ok and consider it as a joke, but not me, and my other superior (a man) think the same thing with me, he just let him and try to find another way to solve the problem, but me, it destract me a lot, I actually thinking about talking to my boss in personal and explain, but since I knew his habit and personality, I doubt that he will listen to me or even take my words to consideration.

    Any input you can sugest me to do to him?
    I don’t wanna lose my feminity, but sometime when the button pushed we got no control of our outcome. And I’m also afraid that the level of my patient which might not wide enough also effect my personal life, and caused me really lost my femininity & love.

    Appreciating your feedback

  • Gayou

    Reply Reply January 26, 2014

    Hi Renee I need some help cause I’m french and I don’t understand verry well all you want to say . I’m in love with self development, i’m feeling very stuck in sefl-development books. What do mean about your sentence ?

    ” . In fact, if you think you’re stuck in self-development, it’s probably because you’re not failing fast enough! ”

    Looooove from France ♥

  • Holly

    Reply Reply November 22, 2013

    You would think people would be grateful that their other half’s have a life of their own, never mind smashing up the golf clubs or whatever. They would soon have something to moan about if there other half was by their side every free moment. Hopefully this is the minority your talking about.

    Some men are this way inclined also. My ex would never go out with his friends at a certain point, I felt that I didn’t have any time or breathing space.

    This is what makes me think theres a truth to astrology as quite a few men I’ve met with cancer sun sign are clingy and possessive to the point of suvocation.

    Life is good with a happy medium from my perspective.

  • Olivia

    Reply Reply November 20, 2013

    Hi!

    I have been trying to find an answer to my problem with my previous problem: CRYING. He was really masculine in every way, but got seriously angry and distant whenever I showed my vulnerabilities and started crying for something he had said that had hurt me. He thought that I was trying to manipulate him. What does this tell about him – is he masculine or not, or is it just about some old fears that he has? He was really often asking me to be “tuff” and to be like a guy, and he’s opinion was that I should have been happy all the time and it was wrong for me to be anxious, sad, etc…

    The relationship adviser Katharina Phang tells women to solve their problems and to become more stable. On her own words: “I would be turned off too if my man was anxious and sad all the time”. What do you think about this? Is it even possible for a girl to become completely stable and happy, especially regarding to the relationships? I find this confusing, because your advice seem to be different from her’s (and also I naturally find your’s more pleasant, because the more I try to “not to be anxious” the more anxious I get.) I have learned that the only way to get out of the difficult feelings is to accept or show them – but this seemed to be the reason that my ex ran away. What do you say??? I don’t want to be afraid of crying with my next boyfriend. I want to feel safe and comfortable to feel what I feel and to show my emotions, and probably get some comfort, but many people are telling me that this is completely wrong.

    Thanks for all your beautiful insights, Renee. You’re the best. XXX

    • Nana

      Reply Reply November 20, 2013

      Hi Olivia,
      Renee will probably come and give you a more accurate and better answer but here is some thoughts of me, knowing that I’m not an expert :D

      The problem with crying is that your man can easily feel blame. When you cry, your man think he did something wrong, he could not take care of you and this is something men hate.
      So maybe, when you cry, try to find the right words not to blame the man. You can explain to him that you are very emotional and are easily hurt but that it’s not obligatory his fault, this is just how you deal your emotions. A man can indeed feel manipulated if you cry like for blaming him. And maybe subconsciously this is what you do : You cry to get something from your man wether it’s comfort or excuses etc… This is indeed manipulation even if you don’t mean it consciously.
      Also, talking about emotions, you are right. The more you accept them, the more you can go through. But accepting and feeling them does not always mean showing them. If you cry just because you can’t help, you would like to leave and cry in a corner but you can’t because the context does not allow it, tears are coming to fast, then it’s fine. But if you cry because a part of you want your man to behave the way YOU want him to behave, then it’s not that good ;)
      This is the kind of behavior of a little girl. But this is something pretty natural from us girls, this is how we easily get attention, don’t blame you just understand and work on it ;)

      So to summarize, you maybe need to think about your real motivations/emotions behind your tears. Also, when your man says or does something that hurt you, get in mind that your man is not like you and that he probably does not mean to hurt you. So learn to not take everything he says/does against you, get some distance and more confidence within you so you don’t feel hurt for a yes or for a no.
      This is not to your man to make you feel worthy :) If you cry to hear what you want to hear, this is indeed manipulation. Have self-love and feel worthy and you won’t cry that easily anymore :)

  • Ariel

    Reply Reply November 10, 2013

    Hello beautiful Renee,

    How should I respond if my man is stressed out and has a mean attitude (mostly about financial problems) and he says I’m not “there for him” even when he acts mean even though I feel as though I am. And it really hurts my feelings. Sometimes, I do just grow quiet and close down when he says a mean comment and I can feel myself slowly resenting him.
    I do love him but I don’t want my resentment to damage our relationship forever.

    Any advice from anyone?

  • Mona

    Reply Reply March 17, 2013

    Hi Renee,
    I love your page. Some of your points I have already lived by before I discovered you, but I have learned so much more since I have been reading your articles, and I believe it’s a lifelong journey. I have been married for 15 years and it has always been from ok to good, no major problems, but since I have been studying men it has been amazing, we can’t keep our hands off each other, can’t wait to see each other, it’s like we just met, but better, because there is trust and security at the same time. He doesn’t like his job very much and had always wanted to be self employed, but I am ashamed to say that I used to discourage him from doing so, but not anymore, I trust him and we are planning to set up our own business. Looking forward to be the secretary and having a steamy affair with the boss ;-)

    • Gracie

      Reply Reply April 10, 2013

      yay for you!

  • Nana

    Reply Reply November 11, 2012

    The part about women treating their men like kids and their men being feared of them is so true…And as you said it is not only women’s fault. The fact is, there is something wrong in men : they’re often not “man enough”. I actually believe that most of the women yelling on their men, controlling them on everything, are just pushing the limits again and again to get a reaction from their men. They want the limits, they want their men to show them that YES they are men and they won’t let anyone control their lives, starting with their wives. Because if they let them do so, why wouldnt they let other do too? How could they protect their wives, children etc, then if they don’t have enough personality, authority to impose their needs? Men are not only feared of their women, they’re feared of conflicts. They don’t like them, they give up and accept everything to avoid them. This is definitely not something reassuring for women. I have the deep feeling that most women who dominate their men, are in fact, women who are looking for men to be men enough, they don’t want them to be submitted. But if you don’t try to control, dominate your man at first, you will never know if you have a real masculine man in front of you or a weak one…Because it’s easy to look mannish and dominating when you just have submissive persons in front of you. Where you show your real nature is when you have another strong personality in front of you! So that’s why, as a woman you feel you have to test him. All that is subconscious of course.You want him to rebel but most of the time he does not. Because most of men are submissive nowadays.
    Our poor men are submissive and lost in our society in which we make them women, telling them their masculine traits are bad. So they try to please their women, avoiding conflicts because they feel like they don’t have the right to impose their masculinity… They don’t understand and know what and how they are supposed to be. They’ve been told that what they are deep inside is bad and they have to destroy it, they have to change their nature ! How sad it is !
    Reality is women claim they’re like men, don’t need them, and shout them out and control them because this is how western feminism raised them, but subconsciously, in their female brains, in their female biology, their extreme behaviors are motivated by the craving of getting real men, those who will show they’re men enough not to let women tell them what they have to do and how and when, those who will show so much confidence and self-respect that they will feel safe and cared in their arms. The perpetual angriness of these women towards their men, are finally symptoms of their frustrations and feeling of insecurity with their men. They’re both responsible and victims of this situation. Men receive contradictory messages from women. One through their words, and one through their effective behavior. And Women lie to themselves, brainwashed by a generation of feminism that does not respect nor men, nor women!

    • Amber

      Reply Reply February 18, 2013

      Spot on! Truly! Are my conscious? :)

    • Heather

      Reply Reply April 4, 2013

      Sadly, our society has also made we women feel it’s bad to BE feminine. We’re called weak and needy and emotional. So, thank you women in your 50′s and 60′s for burning your bras and demanding we go into the workforce and earn a living. What we’ve effectively done is screw up gender roles to the point where men aren’t sure what they’re supposed to do and women are left to pick up the slack and act as both man AND woman while also supressing their femininity.

  • bonye portia

    Reply Reply October 3, 2012

    dearest,i am going through a lot now in ma love life.i am the implusive type.i always ask for a break up wen am not always ready for.i just asked ma boyfriend for a break up but i still love him.please what do i do.

  • Rochelle

    Reply Reply September 20, 2012

    ” using emotion and her intuition instead of “reasoning”, “reality” and “factual” arguments. (Again, a woman does need to have this in her character. I believe a woman should definitely be able to think factual – but it’s not where she lives. There needs to be a balance).”
    Absolutely! And I feel like society has taught women to only go with factual logic and what is heard, rather than intuition and emotions. I believe it’s part of the whole feminism vs femininity revolution. Intuition is real not a myth. most of the time when a man would say or do something I felt was off for no real visible reason, or felt uncomfortable in his presence I found out at times why I felt that way afterwards..And I would just get away from the situation before anything would happen. But when I have tried to be “logical” and rationalize by telling myself “oh I don’t think it was anything to worry about”, while ignoring any bad feelings, it was a mistake. So of course we need to think but really pay attention to intuition especially when just getting to know someone

  • TamSam

    Reply Reply August 15, 2012

    I NEEDED THIS!! I’ve been the woman described in this article

    Thx!

  • Claire

    Reply Reply February 8, 2012

    Dearest Renee (and all feminine women),

    These articles are saving me. I read them over and over. I never thought I was feminine or masculine. I just thought I was a person. And now, I see that all the choices I have made to stay and compete in this fast-paced masculine society (which I thought I was supposed to do) are killing my spirit.

    Before reading these articles, my life felt like it was falling apart, and, at the base, I discovered that it was because I was blatantly ignoring myself.

    Thanks to you, I understand why. After four years of antidepressants, and trying to figure out what was “wrong” with me–why I wasn’t enjoying pursuing a career, or any of the things I was “supposed” to enjoy–these articles are healing me. I am, slowly, every day, becoming happier and vibrant.

    It’s a big decision to slowly shift from masculine mentality to feminine. Being raised by a VERY masculine (and gorgeous) mother, who was (and still is!) all about women’s independence, I wanted to be just like her. But now I know that I can’t, if I want to feel alive! I’m 100% feminine, and that was the “missing piece” all along. Acceptance.

    I can’t thank you enough. You may have just saved my relationship (the man of my life), and 10 years of my life.

    THANK YOU.

    Love and hugs,

    Claire

    • Renee

      Reply Reply February 9, 2012

      Dear Claire,
      Thank You for stopping by and for reading.
      I especially LOVE that you have the awareness to know that you can only feel alive when you don’t suppress or reject your own nature – your feminine energy.
      All the best,
      Renee.

      • Angel-eyes

        Reply Reply April 15, 2014

        This is excellent what Claire has put. It makes a’lot of sense and I questioned if my up bringing affected my core essences, such as having reason to question what or who I am.

        Well I can’t do that anymore, I am who I am, weather that makes me more or less of something or another.

        It’s an exhausting emotional mind battle trying to pigeon hole my core essence.

        We all have our factory settings at birth, but at the end of the day, lifes circumstances can drastically change what takes place in a persons psycho sexual development.

        Sadly some life events are irreversible and leave permanent markers on a persons inner Psyche.

        We are more than biology, we are external recipients to life circumstances, both good and bad.

        Sometimes in life it only takes one major life event, or even few in a row to a break a person.

        Maybe the breaking point is actually a good thing because maybe that’s the time true authenticity shines through any fairness.

        Imagine if a person spent their whole life covering up what they struggled to let service and then suddenly they developed a major illnesses that was life threatening.

        I highly doubt that a person would have the time or energy to be none authentic.

        What if that person was in pain, I don’t think that for one moment a person would be able to cover-up their authentic pain if it was unbearable.

        I like what Renee put about not suppressing or rejecting the self.

        I feel this falls into the assertive catergory.

  • LittleOrange

    Reply Reply November 8, 2011

    I disagree with this. Isn’t using tears manipulative? I’ d rather be assertive and tell him what bothers me in a calm voice.

    • Rochelle

      Reply Reply September 20, 2012

      I don’t think so if you do feel like crying. But agree you can tell him what’s bothering him in a calm voice yet focusing on how you feel about the situation rather than blaming him

  • Tierra

    Reply Reply September 28, 2011

    Just saying Hi! Love the articles on femininity, you have a way of saying things that maybe hard to hear in a helpful way

  • Olya

    Reply Reply July 6, 2011

    I love you! :)

  • Vita

    Reply Reply April 9, 2011

    Jane Eyre! :)

  • Negs

    Reply Reply January 6, 2011

    Thanks for you wonderful and very insightfull articles! Thought the scientific evidence of femininity’s effects on males may interest you all. Check this out…a very interesting article on the effect of women’s tears on men: http://www.healthzone.ca/health/yourhealth/men'shealth/article/917285–women-s-tears-lower-testosterone-in-men?bn=1

  • Cat

    Reply Reply August 16, 2010

    Hi Renee,

    Thank you for writing these.

    Please do write more articles.

    I have couple of questions, I need assistance with.
    1. At work, when you work with men, should you still be femine? would it decrease chances of getting promotins?
    2. When you hang out with gorup of people? should you be feminine with men in those groups- if situation plays out like this, end of the evening the girls take cabs home and guys drive home… guys dont offer to drive girls home… if you are paying for your own cab and taking care of yourseld while out, how can you split up between being feminine and gentle when you have to look out for yourself?
    3. Can you please give advice as to how to act, when guys go out without you, and walk away when you show emotion, and dont want to change things that bother you?

    Looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

  • Jackie

    Reply Reply August 7, 2010

    sorry..to rephrase my last comment I meant to say today’s modern women think if they let go..their world will come crashing down!! What they don’t realize is..if they “let go” for a minute and just let their femininity come out and trust that everything will be ok..they would feel so much better in their relationships and at peace in their lives!!

  • Jackie

    Reply Reply August 7, 2010

    Hi Renee!! I think this may be your best article yet! It’s true that women with more passive personalities (i.e. a softer temperament) always succeed with men and in general feel more relaxed, whole and in sync with their feminine energy! Modern women think that if they “let go” for a minute and just let their femininity come out and trust that everything will be ok..they would feel so much better in their relationships and at peace in their lives!!

  • Megan Lynn

    Reply Reply July 12, 2010

    Hello Ladies

    I’m glad I came across this article. I think a lot of it is about balance. Be strong when needed and back down over trivial things. Keep your own feelings in mind as well as his feelings.

    I believe that the feminine role is supposed to be the submissive one and I believe that a masculine man looks for a submissive woman. I think that women want a leader/teacher and the man is looking for someone to lead/teach. I think that men want to dominate and women(many times secretly) want to be dominated. Don’t be afraid to let go of things that anger you and give in where it doesn’t affect you greatly! It will please him. LOL

    Yin and Yang

    Black and White

    Self and Other

    Life and Death

    I believe the whole universe consists of opposites which balance out each other.

    Women balance Men.

    Men bring logic where women bring emotion.

    Men bring tangibility where women bring meaning. <– I'm not sure if that one makes sense.

    It's like where Adam gave Eve his rib. He gave her a body. She gave him a reason to live.

    My husband tells me that women are the crowning jewels of the universe. Women and their femininity are why the world go around. Embrace it. Give in.

  • Ms.C

    Reply Reply July 2, 2010

    Wrong article, this comment was for the polarities. But basically Lynette was Tom’s boss at their firm and then her boss had to fire him.. thus Tom ends up demasculinized into cheating. ):

  • Ms.C

    Reply Reply July 2, 2010

    These polarities remind me of a couple in Desperate Housewives
    Lynette & Tom Scavo..
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uJqdIulmAiE
    They are both on the whole masculine role and he eventually …
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mGVB-lRjbjE

  • ati

    Reply Reply June 6, 2010

    One thing I seriously do not understand that how do most bad girls have athletic bodies,secondly Many of the professional female athletes(not all) tend to be bad girls and lead lives without discipline,and also most girls generally in pornography are not of athletic build and fast twitch muscle dominant.There also very disciplined ,athletic ,fast twitch dominant high testosterone girls who are not ‘bad girls’.It is not only the high testosterone that matters ,but also nature vs nurture factor reigning in personality factor in different proportions.There are many girly girls and nerdy girls in external appearance and by their talk who are also ‘bad girls’in reality.Appearances can be very deceptive.

  • Ms Summer

    Reply Reply May 25, 2010

    This is definitely one of my favourite articles! It is beautiful. I am now re-reading them all because they are so very encouraging:)

  • Ms Summer

    Reply Reply May 2, 2010

    Twinkle, I know exactly what you mean! I feel like that with Renee too, lol not making her a granny-sub in any way but things are said as plainly in this blog as I should have heard them from age 16 :)

  • Renee

    Reply Reply April 20, 2010

    Thank You very much Dena for your gratitude! :)

  • Dena

    Reply Reply April 18, 2010

    i love this blog. I learn so much more from u Renee. THANK YOU! i have really learn now how to express my feminine temperament all the time instantly whenever i have a disagreement with my boyfriend. its like magic. We bounce back from it faster and he’s more attentive, appreciative and protective. ITS WONDERFUL. FEMININITY RULES!

  • Dena

    Reply Reply April 18, 2010

    Hi Renee, i love your article.Your wisdom on femininity is very UPLIFTING I’m a very “FEMININE’ ,confident,yet humble women. And yes, your right about masculine controlling women being jealous of it. too bad! Feminine woman Rule!

  • Faerie

    Reply Reply March 13, 2010

    Thankyou so much for your insightful wisdom. I have been struggling a lot with controlling my temper over my fiance’s laziness, not knowing how to deal with it but always regretting my reactions afterwards. Now I feel like I have a way to control it. After reading your article – to catch my temper in the split second where I can make a decision and be vulnerable and understanding instead of being tyrannical (which always does damage to me, my man and our relationship) – thankyou thankyou thankyou!

    • Renee

      Reply Reply March 13, 2010

      That’s ok Faerie. Thank YOU for your gratitude. It means a lot to me. :)

  • BelleVeritas

    Reply Reply February 1, 2010

    Well, I’ve dated a man off-and-on for many years who never responded to my tears. He was extremely left-brained, masculine, and I think has no empathy because he does not seem to feel emotions himself. You said a “real Man” would not walk away to his woman’s tears.
    Our pattern was always his wanting to date some woman he didn’t know and see where it goes…after four mos.

    And, yes, I see LOTS of things I’ve done “wrong” for what it’s worth.

    I don’t think I will ever trust him again, but I love the experience because I’ve learned a LOT from it.

    Belle

  • twinkle

    Reply Reply January 31, 2010

    I’m so glad you’re talking about this because many women leapt off the pedistal years ago and i notice many pretty women today–looks good body, etc. are NOT as pretty as they used to be. Women who use to give advice to girls, if they were still alive would be about 110 and the’re not many of those left anymore

  • Renee

    Reply Reply January 30, 2010

    Thank You very much lovelies :) I’m glad you enjoy my blogs. If there’s any topic you want to know more about, just let me know!

    Littlemissgogo: I’m so sorry to hear of your situation. Some questions to ask yourself: do you think your man is truly masculine, and are you truly feminine? If you’ve answered yes, then how can you trigger that side of his masculinity that will respond to your vulnerability in this situation? What could you do to have a different side of him show up?

    If you can get him in to a different state (one that is different to the one he is normally in), he may respond differently, and another side of him can be triggered.

    If anyone else has any suggestions for Littlemissgogo, do let us know! :)

  • Naomi

    Reply Reply January 29, 2010

    Thank you so much for this blog. I am a regular reader of both yours and Melina’s blog and really hope this is the beginning of a new wave in feminism. I can’t get enough of it.

  • Charlene

    Reply Reply January 29, 2010

    Thank you so much for your wisdom in helping us ladies to be the way that God meant for us to be, true feminine women who look up to and admire our men. I believe we will be happier women when we are doing all we can to insure the happiness of our men! Thank you!

  • littlemissgogo

    Reply Reply January 29, 2010

    i’m struggling with this by nature i am very feminine but my husband does not provide for us he sleeps all day and wants to spend our rent money on sweets and guitars so i live in fear of how to support us i fear living on the street i’m hungry allot but i do love your blog and will try to incorporate your suggestions

  • Jasmine

    Reply Reply January 27, 2010

    Renee, lovely post! I know when I’m in a serious relationship I will really struggle with these sometimes, as my mother always argued with my father in a masculine way, but this is so helpful. I will start practicing even right now! When I think about it, it’s not like we women don’t make mistakes that are as bad as the ones you mentioned above. Anyway, thank you so much.

    • Renee

      Reply Reply January 27, 2010

      That’s ok Jasmine, Thank You for your kind words. None of us are perfect, but a good set of guidelines and some awareness can go a long way! :)

  • Caroline

    Reply Reply January 26, 2010

    The wealth of wisdom in this post is astonishing.
    I am in a situation where even though I love my boyfriend, I am up to here with some of his ways.
    I think he is narcisisstic though but I am willing to trying the tips you have suggested.
    Thanks for sharing!

    • Renee

      Reply Reply January 26, 2010

      Thanks Caroline for your lovely comment and your gratitude. :)

      Renee.

  • lisa

    Reply Reply January 26, 2010

    Hi Renee,
    I always enjoy your blogs. I wanted to ask you about an email you sent a little while ago it pertained to the ideal woman (how men perceive it) I was unable to open the email could you send it again? Thanks in advance.

  • delores

    Reply Reply January 26, 2010

    Wow, that was very powerful. I learned a lot about myself and my partner in reading your words. We will become closer as a result. Thanks so much for the advice. I look forward to reading and learning more from you.

  • Melina

    Reply Reply January 26, 2010

    What a wonderful post full of wisdom and understanding of men! You really put your heart into your writing, and have so much value to add. I love you! :-)

    • Renee

      Reply Reply January 26, 2010

      Thank You Melina! I love you too! :D

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