“Legacy is Greater than Currency”
One of the questions I often get is “what is a Woman’s purpose?” “What are we supposed to DO with our lives?” “What are we here for?” “What is a feminine woman’s life purpose?” “How do I find my life purpose?”
Although every woman’s personal life purpose will be different, a woman’s true life purpose in general, really is to create and not destroy. It’s to live your passion so that you can be an example to others. It’s to find fulfillment, and to seek growth and contribution. And it’s also to deliver yourself, in your feminine true core to all the world. (Click here to take the quiz on “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”)
And as you would already know, women in many cultures today have been brainwashed in to thinking that if they’re not making any money, if they don’t have the typical college degree or ‘career’, then they are really not worthy. Even if you’re in touch with your femininity, it is easy to fall in to this trap.
Well, firstly, even though I spent 6 years at University studying, my feeling is that it is not necessary to go to university or college. In fact, I think it’s time for everyone to re-consider university or college and think FIRSTLY about their passion. Not that you shouldn’t go to college per se. It’s just that, from personal experience, I prefer I got an education than went to university.
I would like to just say one thing that I’d like you to keep in mind whilst reading this article: our culture is changing (more on this below). You no longer have to get a 9-5 job to make money (you didn’t have to to start with). Since my second year of university, I’ve been educating myself financially (something they don’t teach you in school which I think is just plain cruel), and I have found that a woman can live out her life purpose; her number one passion and feed herself through it if she so desires.
The kind of platforms we have available to us today through the internet makes this entirely possible. Now, ANYONE can be heard if they want to be. ANY woman can pursue and express herr passion and transfer it to others; if she uses what is available to her.
So here’s my very first question to you: do you LOVE what you do? Are you passionate about it? If you were given 1 hour on a stopwatch to talk about something, what would it be? Do you love waking up on a Monday morning, or do you constantly wish it was Friday evening?
Now, I am aware that not all of my readers have a full time (or even part-time or casual job). Many are amazing housewives/stay-at-home moms. I think this is superb. But, even stay-at-home moms often get to a point where they want to do something for themselves, or to engage in a passion, or to contribute/develop a vision. We all want fulfillment, and my feeling is that most of us really are lacking deep fulfillment. (read my article about a desperate housewife – how can she save her marriage?)
Should a feminine woman let her man make the money?
Today, it’s very difficult for families to survive on just one income. Everything just keeps getting more expensive, doesn’t it? But, that still doesn’t mean that a woman has to go out and work. My feeling is that a woman should feel entirely ok with it if her man is the sole ‘breadwinner’. But ONLY if she is being the WOMAN in the relationship. And that in itself (being the woman), is hard enough for most women these days. (read my article about why men do not want to marry)
It’s entirely possible (very possible) for a woman to use her femininity to propel her man to greater heights. The corporate world is a very, very masculine environment. And it’s not that I think women are incapable. Hell, no! Women are extremely talented and capable. We can do anything we want to do and commit to doing.
But. The question is: will you working truly benefit you and your relationship? And, will it truly fulfill you as a woman? Do you feel that your radiance is drained out of you through your work; or does it light you up like a christmas tree? Does it excite you and get your juices flowing? It doesn’t matter what we achive, no matter how much recognition, significance, love, acceptance and success we achieve – nothing is ever going to give us more happiness and fulfillment than intimate relationship. Funny, relationships are arguably the hardest thing to master in life. 🙂
If you feel or know that your job decreases your radiance as a woman – and you know it’s not your passion, it’s time to find an alternative. You must be true to yourself. There’s plenty of space for EVERY woman to live her passion.
Does getting a job or working decrease a woman’s Femininity?
Working does not HAVE to decrease a woman’s femininity. It depends on the job and whether she’s passionate about it or not. In all honesty though, many jobs out there require well-developed masculine energy. And, it’s fine for a woman to pursue these jobs. When in this kind of environment, a woman will mostly be in her masculine. She’ll be in problem solving mode, conquering mode, and trying to get the next thing done and the next thing done. Most jobs and industries are also very competitive. Your femininity will not come to life in competition.
The most important thing is that a woman allows herself to be in her feminine in relationship. Regardless of your occupation (whether 9-5 or not), as long as you’re the woman in the relationship; it doesn’t matter. But this is hard enough in itself. If your job is stressful, you may find it difficult to even have the energy to be the woman, to go back to your true core, and to even bother showing up in your feminine core in relationship at the end of the day. (read my article about how to be feminine)
For many women, work decreases their radiance to a point of no return. They don’t know how else to be. But it doesn’t mean you have to be this kind of woman. Every woman needs the ability to tap in to the masculine if she so wishes or when it is required.
“If you don’t contribute beyond yourself, you get eliminated.”
All this job talk aisde; true fulfillment will come from what you give to others, as well as how much you are willing to grow. For most, it’s hard to choose the path that gives you the most growth. Many people settle instead. This is a big no-no. Don’t settle! Settling gets you pain.
As per the written statement above; if you don’t contribute beyond yourself, you get eliminated. THIS is the law of the universe. You cannot be all about you. This is what babies are. Needless to say, many people are still very egocentric. This is what society has taught us to do. The very psychology of focusing on something other than ourselves is hard to understand and master.
Elimination doesn’t have to be in the form of death. Elimination can be in the form of alienation, becoming degenerate, remaining mediocre, and being a hermit/lonely. I have to say though, that I’ve never met a person who hasn’t felt lonely, even periodically. But it’s the kind of loneliness that entails not being remembered at all. Almost invisible. Having no influence whatsoever. (read my article about the secret to eliminating female competition)
And, in my view, if you are in a job/position/place in your life where you are doing something that you’re not TRULY passionate about (which is true for almost everybody); you need to change this. You will not be presenting your true self, as a gift to all the world and as a woman, if you are doing something that makes you feel crappy!!!
Where does true fulfillment come from?
I apologize if simplicity bothers you, but true fulfillement comes from growth and contribution. What this means is that you have to be asking yourself questions like this:
“How can I reach inside myself to find better ways to contribute to others to help them take their lives to the next level?”
“How can I live my true passion; and thus deliver my full and real authentic self as a gift to all the world?”
“How can I deliver my REAL passion to the masses?”
“How can I be an example of love, courage, acceptance, passion, [insert your own adjectives here] in my life?”
“How can I give to others in a way that will be received?”
“How can I love and contribute even more in this very moment?”
“How can I be even more resourceful in my life?”
“what would it take to contribute even more to the lives of others?”
If (like the majority of people), your current job or position limits your ability to express your true voice and passion, gives you less time to make memories with your kids and family than your heart desires, puts a ceiling on your income, controls your time, money, whereabouts, who you spend your time with as well as when and how – then my feeling is that there is more for you.
You can contribute in many, many ways. I’m not just talking about doing voluntary work. So, right now, please answer these questions (preferably write down the answers somewhere, now):
What do I LOVE?
What do I HATE?
What am I passionate about?
What do I really want?
WHY do I really want these things?
List down as many things as possible. The more you list down, the clearer the picture you see. Most people do not think consciously about these things, and that’s why you need to do it. 🙂
More importantly, please answer this question honestly:
“If I had ALL the money in the world (money is no object), what would I do?”
And you may say, well, “I’d pay off all my bills, debts and my mortgage”. Then what? I’d travel. Then what? Then I’d like, shop ‘n stuff. Then what? “Buy my parents a new house”. Then what? “Buy a new house for myself and my family.Then what? “I’d buy a new house overseas”. “I’d get that designer gear I always wanted. I’d start a new website, I’d pursue dancing.” Then what? “I’d have kids.”
OK…….Then what?! You know what I’m getting at here. Pretty much anything you ‘get’, ‘have’, ‘posess’, ‘own’ or achieve in life is ephemeral. This is why, the people who first landed on the moon were over the moon. Going to the moon is pretty amazing, right?? But, the problem was, when they returned, they fell deep in to depression! They didn’t have a clue what to do NEXT!!!?
So it’s like, I’ve been to the moon, and what now? What tops going to the MOON?!
This is why every woman needs to have a passion, and live it. Fulfillment will come from what you know you have left behind when you pass. From the memories you create. From who you became.
What I want for you is to find true fulfillment. Many women think their children are their mission, and whilst children are a major part of a woman’s real legacy, and I don’t doubt that any woman has an unconditional love for her child; children will grow up and have their own lives.
So here is what I suggest:
Find a mission that is bigger than you. It has to be outside of yourself.
Answer the above questions that I have asked you. And then begin living your passion (if you aren’t already). You may start a blog on it (the internet is an incredibly powerful platform through which to transfer your passion to others; and blogging is one of the best mediums), you may start a video tutorial series on youtube or an online tv show, you could start your own group, or do anything that entails you living your passion.
And remember it’s not what you GET in life (whether that be recognition, acknowledgement, money, status, wealth, opportunity) it’s who you become.
Over to you now. Do you think working decreases a woman’s femininity? What is your passion? Do you have any advice for other women who may feel lost in their life or don’t know what to do? if you had all the money in the world, what would you be doing?