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The Feminine Woman Valentine Special The Feminine Woman Valentine Special

Hey there, it’s Renee here, founder of TheFeminineWoman.com.

Happy Valentines day!

In this video, i have two important insights I want to share with you to help you find love, attraction and experience that passion that comes from a fulfilling relationship.

Now, I know that, if you’re single, Valentine’s Day is the one day of the year that you can really start to feel like you’ve failed somehow,  or that there are no good men around.

I also know, from when I was single that on Valentine’s day, it’s very easy to look at that woman getting sent flowers at work, or that woman that’s getting a lavish dinner out with her romantic boyfriend or husband and feel deeply lonely or jealous.

Now, here’s what I believe.

That romance is only as far away as you want it to be.

So today I want to give you two important insights to follow to attract more high value men to you, so that you can be the woman who is worshipped and adored, because that is what you truly deserve.

If you are watching this, and you’ve been lonely on valentine’s day for years, or you’ve been feeling like there are no good men out there, for goodness sake you deserve better.

And I just wanted to tell you this: if you feel like you’re losing hope, if you don’t have the love and the passion you want in your life right now, that can change in a moment. Yes, that’s right, in one single moment. I promise.

All it is… is a little key insight, a little new piece of awareness that will change everything for you.

Here’s what i truly believe. You have everything you need within you right now to bring good men in to your life.

Successful men with high status and high esteem, not those irresponsible immature men who can’t handle a real woman.

And, in all honesty, men are actually hardwired to fall in love with you, they just need you to start acting like
the woman that they CAN fall in love with.

Because yes, although every man is different and every woman is different, there is a common trait to all the women men fall head over heels in love with.

And that’s what I want to talk to you about today. I see it as my gift to you this Valentine’s Day, and I hope you enjoy it.

So stop everything you are doing right now, put away any distractions, and just listen.

It’s not rocket science and I promise you’ll get a lot out of this video.

The first insight I want to give you in order to have high value, high status men fall in love with you is this:

use your feminine vulnerability.

You may want to write this down on a big piece of paper and stick it up somewhere. Your Feminine VUlnerability is something that i want you to remind yourself about on a daily basis.

The truth is, Men cannot fall in love with a woman who is NOT vulnerable.

It is literally impossible. The male Brains are not designed that way.

And if you’ve been aware at all, you would know that women are getting less and less vulnerable these days.

In this modern world where women are encouraged to go out and climb the career ladder and become as ambitious as men, it is more and more difficult to establish that sexual polarity; that sexual attraction.

Women tend to become better and better companions and FRIENDS to men, rather than the feminine women that men will fall in love with.

Remember it’s your feminine vulnerability that triggers the hardwired response in men to fall in love.

So here’s how you show your feminine vulnerability, because I know it can be very hard to come across as vulnerable when you are single and really taking care of yourself and being completely independent.

The secret here to showing your feminine vulnerability is simply not being afraid to be hurt; and being open to what life has to offer.

I’ll say that again. Because I know that many of you are deathly afraid of being hurt by a man, and it is this fear that is actually hurting you, and hurting you the most.

Showing your feminine vulnerability is not being afraid to be hurt, and being open to what life has to offer.

There’s a saying and you’ve probably heard it before. You have to love like you’ve never been hurt before.

Well, they never told you why you should love like you’ve never been hurt before. The reason is, it makes men fall head over heels in love with you.

Men are hardwired to respond to your feminine vulnerability. In other words, they simply can’t NOT find you attractive on some level.

Of course, when it comes to men, you don’t want every single man to be attracted to you and you want to disqualify some men.

But, to have a man fall in love with you, you have to have the attitude that ‘getting hurt is a possibility and I am ok with that’. It may be hard, but it works.

After all, it’s part of being a high value, high status feminine woman.

Femininity is all about life energy, so in your heart, you know already that life has painful moments and it has exciting moments and it has beautiful moments and it has scary moments, but you cannot have one of these and not the other.

You cannot have one of these emotions and expect to not feel the others. Even when you’re in a stable relationship.

I believe that you owe it to yourself to be ok with that, and to be open to all the experiences and emotions you may feel.

To deny yourself of the possibility of feeling pain is to deny yourself of being a high status feminine woman.

Now, if you’re wondering what this feminine vulnerability looks like or how you might express it; it’s you being fully present in every moment in life, and surrendering to emotion and interactions with men and in your life without trying to be tough-skinned.

And this is something you can do right now; today.

I’ll give you a quick example. Reese Withersppon in the movie Cruel Intentions, shows us all how to do this perfectly.

And it’s no wonder she was the one that Ryan Phillippe fell madly in love with, not any of the other women that came and went in to his life in that movie. None of the other women around him were vulnerable.

Watch the scene from Cruel Intentions (in the video above) to get a quick glimpse of what I’m talking about. Watch how she has this incredible openness to life, and the way she is receiving life and Ryan Phillippe’s character with a complete vulnerability.

I am sure you get what I mean by feminine vulnerability.

I think it is a fantastic movie to learn from and I suggest you dig it up and watch it. the title of the movie is Cruel Intentions.

And this how you know you are getting in touch with your feminine vulnerability:

You know you’re getting it right when men look at you with that look of curiosity, like they can’t help but not look at you or watch you. Watching you with a sense of intensity is the key.

And by the way, it doesn’t matter HOW you look, you can feel like you’re not looking your best and still, men will respond the exact same way, because what he is responding to is your vulernability, not your looks.

Remember men are hardwired to respond to this.

So, go ahead, take that and use it in your life today, this valentine’s day.

And finally, here is my second insight this Valentine’s day to help you attract a high value man who worships you and adores you.

Because, if you know my work at all, you know that I don’t believe this whole thing about attracting or manifesting
your Mr. RIGHT. I believe you deserve Mr He’s going to take care of you and Worship you forever.

So here’s my second very important insight.

Get yourself a really good education on Men & relationships.

Look, this is the kind of stuff that is never taught to us in school, which I think is just plain cruel.

Feminine women all over the world are now taught to fight and break through walls and get things done, and kicking butt and we are denied information that helps us attract a man that worships us.

It’s ridiculous, but you know, it’s how it is.

So, unless you have an education on what goes through a man’s mind, what makes him feel he can’t live without you and what repels him, what makes him want to commit deeply to you and what makes him run the other way, then it’s going to be hard for you to attract that man who’s going to worship you.

See, as women, awareness and knowledge in men and why they do the things they do is the one of the best gifts we can give to ourselves.

So if you want to avoid making mistakes with men, and take your relationship to the next level, get your man to commit even more, and become a feminine high status woman that men fall in love with, then listen up.

Valentines day is a very special time of the year for me. So i have a gift for you.

Below this video, you’ll find my gift to you. This is just a way for me to say thanks for spending your time watching this video.

So i hope you take these 2 important key insights on board, because I truly believe you can attract a man who adores
you and worships you.

And if i ever get a chance to work with you, i look forward to it and it would be my priveledge.

But for now, take care and I’ll Talk to you soon.

Renee The Founder of The Feminine Woman

38 Comments

  • candy

    Reply Reply January 21, 2014

    really am confused about vulnerability, but I get it. When I was 17, only 9 short years ago, I was insecure but found out thAt there was a certain “way” that I knew to make men want me. After a decade, I’ve gained more confidence, managing and even healing my insecurities (is insecurity different from vulnerability?). I guess I could learn to be more confident in my vulnerability.
    On the train last week I met a guy who said I was pretty. We started a convo. He came to the city to find his mom, who abandoned him to years of foster homes and L.A. street life. I told him, I didn’t have kids but maybe one day, kids who shared a childhood like his could become mine, (through mentorship or, an alternative program or something). He wanted to hug me. I let him. He wanted to buy me coffee. I let him. It was $1. He pulled a fat sack of cash from his pocket, but paper like that doesn’t excite me. He said he wanted to keep me allto himself…I didn’t know what that meant, but he went along. He called me all weekend, but I never answered the phone (scared, shy and vulnerable)

  • candy

    Reply Reply January 21, 2014

    I really am confused about vulnerability, but I get it. When I was 17, only 9 short years ago, I was insecure but found out thAt there was a certain “way” that I knew to make men want me. After a decade, I’ve gained more confidence, managing and even healing my insecurities (is insecurity different from vulnerability?). I guess I could learn to be more confident in my vulnerability.
    On the train last week I met a guy who said I was pretty. We started a convo. He came to the city to find his mom, who abandoned him to years of foster homes and L.A. street life. I told him, I didn’t have kids but maybe one day, kids who shared a childhood like his could become mine, (through mentorship or, an alternative program or something). He wanted to hug me. I let him. He wanted to buy me coffee. I let him. It was $1. He pulled a fat sack of cash from his pocket, but paper like that doesn’t excite me. He said he wanted to keep me allto himself…I didn’t know what that meant, but he went along. He called me all weekend, but I never answered the phone (scared, shy and vulnerable)

  • suzia

    Reply Reply December 5, 2013

    hey renee! im in love with my bestfriend who was never in love with any girl. he just sees me as his very good friend. we know each other since 4years. but he is not open type. he is shy to look into my eyes, to talk to me and all. he says that he focus only on his studies when i talk about my love but he always wants me to be happy and always tries to keep me happy. i dont know how to make him fall for me.. please help me renee.. :(

  • Geraldine

    Reply Reply August 22, 2013

    O dear Renee, thanks for coming into my life, thank you for beng such a wonderful writer and a great helper to women, for taking out time to teach us all these standard principles. I’ve read before on how women should let their vulnerability show without being needy but I didn’t really understand how to go about it because most times there were little or no details attached; but now with all your illustrations I clearly understand. You are special, unique, awesome, genuine, kind, loving, very generous and one in a million. Thank God I found you. Love you plenty plenty, I pray that you excel greatly and that you have a life full of abundance of all that you need.

  • Jazzy

    Reply Reply June 16, 2013

    I appreciate and agree with what you are talking about and I like the advice you give. As an English teacher, I do have a hard time reading through the blog with all the typos and sentence structure errors however. Maybe someone would have the time to go through and edit in order to streamline the blog. Thanks for your refreshing views on relationships. :)

  • Neferyuya

    Reply Reply March 27, 2013

    Something hurt me in life worse than a man could.

    At first it seemed people shunned me
    - too much baggage I heard –
    however,
    though scarce – those people who had
    been there are filtering into my life.

    If I were afraid now like before
    – I’d be driving them away.
    Instead, I am extremely vulnerable….
    yet, I’ll avoid interaction when I feel
    most vulnerable.

    A key just fell in the floor – huh, wonder which door it fits?

    I’ll start finding out.

  • Tristan

    Reply Reply March 16, 2013

    Hi Renee,

    Thank you for understanding men and as I am one I would say you are bang on with the material on your website. Wish you were my girlfriend!

    All the best ladies – read this material!

  • wynn

    Reply Reply March 15, 2013

    Renee,i have learnt so much from you.a week ago,i was dump and ignorant about men as any fool would be.bumping on your site has been my greatest insight on men..thank you so much for having the strength and will to share all you know.i grew in a society where women are supposed to show their independence and prove what a man can do a woman can do better.today av learnt about vulnerability and it makes me feel like a woman…now i understand i don’t have to try so hard..its ok to be vulnerable.
    thank you so much love.
    God bless.

  • vero

    Reply Reply March 4, 2013

    One main thing I disagree with, You can’t “make someone fall in love with you” and you can’t control other people’s feelings, I don’t care if you’re a beauty queen. To think you can will spell out misfortune.

    • Tristan

      Reply Reply March 17, 2013

      There’s someone who hasn’t read the website properly or just doesn’t, ‘get it’ ! You will probably never understand what Renee is saying or how to hold down a man for long. Shame…

  • Danica

    Reply Reply February 13, 2013

    You must know the proper and effective ways on how to make a man fall for you. With these techniques, it will be easier for you to take the attention of the guy that you really admire.

  • Ari

    Reply Reply February 5, 2013

    Renee,

    You are suh a diamond! I love (love!!) this video because it goes along with what I have been discovering myself. (So funny, your videos amd articles usually do!!) :)
    I’m young but was taught from an even younger age to be tough. My father is tough, my mother is tougher and so, naturally and understandably, when they gave birth to a sensitive, cuddly little girl they didnt know what to do!! So they tried to make me… tough. And it worked for a bit, if only on the surface. Until I could not take it anymore. Now I’m myself again, not always sweet…but definitely sincere and ***vulnerable***. Sometimes it feel easy to slip into the taught patters – but it never lasts long because it feels sooo hollow.
    And as SOON as I step back into the true core of myself, that vulnerable open place, mens eyes do follow me with that extreme intensity…usually followed by requests for dates ;)

    Anyway, I just wanted to thank you for posting this video. <3 Ari
    Happy Valentines!!

  • Simi

    Reply Reply July 10, 2012

    Renee, just curious…I’m a little skeptical of astrology but are you a Pisces/Virgo or smth close to that? :)

    • Renee

      Reply Reply July 11, 2012

      Simi, no I am neither :) maybe your skepticism is for good reason? I don’t know much about astrology though.

  • Maria

    Reply Reply April 19, 2012

    I enjoy your articles you are so right.

    Thanks for educating us.

  • Lianne

    Reply Reply February 29, 2012

    He fell deeply in love with me when I cried. When I stopped trying to prove I knew it all, was capable, in control, sexy, fun-loving, independent, together…

    I cried because he’d hurt me. Not purposefully of course, but when it happened I didn’t get angry, or pretend I was cool with it, or punish him or behave badly in retaliation. When he held me in his arms and I let myself sob and told him how much it hurt and how much I needed him, his heart melted.
    I knew he loved me (at least in some way because he treated me so well), he just never wanted to admit it. And that’s what hurt and confused me!
    But once I let myself be that vulnerable, his walls came down and everything changed. I think he felt safe to allow himself to be vulnerable and was able to show how much he loved me.

    Once I decided to let down MY guard and be honest with my feelings, our relationship went to a whole new, deeper level. I kept waiting for HIM to open up, thinking that being the sexy, independent, fun-loving, happy woman would “make” him fall for me. Of course he really enjoyed that “me” but it wasn’t until I showed him my vulnerability that he truly and fully opened his own heart to me.

    • Renee

      Reply Reply February 29, 2012

      Lianne, Hi! Thanks for sharing this, I appreciate it. And thanks for showing other women how things really are. You’re leading with your vulnerabilities first with this man and that is a gift to him and I am sure you’ve discovered, a gift to yourself.

  • Ira

    Reply Reply February 20, 2012

    It´s totally true. I was remembering my most succesfull relationships with men and I can see my vulnerability was a key factor. And because I’ve been hurt, lately I’m not showing my vulnerability completely. Now with your support I’m learning again to be me!
    Thanks Renee for this gift. As usual, your recommendations are well received. Blessings!

  • kira

    Reply Reply February 17, 2012

    I’m totally agree!I want to share another one video about vulnerability;))

    http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html

    • Renee

      Reply Reply February 17, 2012

      Thanks for posting that Kira. It was amazing. What an authentic and heartfelt message she shared!

  • Sophia Pressley

    Reply Reply February 16, 2012

    Yes, this is video does not lie! Men, need to feel needed and this is one way they get this feeling, a vulnerable woman! Ladies must not get this confused with being weak, there is a difference. As woman we must play a certain position, vulnerability is included. If your not having intimate relations with him yet, vulnerability may help you win over a husband quicker as well. No, you don’t have to give up the goods first but know that allowing him to see this vulnerability will in fact make it even harder for you to resist giving into him sexually. If you are having relations be careful that your vulnerability isn’t keeping a not so perfect man around! Just a thought! Some prefer to stay just because of it….Blessings!

  • jasmine

    Reply Reply February 16, 2012

    This video didn’t speak to me, however, I loved the post you sent last week with the email from Sue. Finally something clicked for me! I could have been Sue, I’ve felt the same frustration, and now I see how it was about me only wanting “one thing” from a man. Which of course was like their only wanting one thing from me. I now see what you mean by high value. So from now on I’ll be taking time to get to know men, become friends and see who they really are before entering into anything. Thank you. Renee.

  • cristina

    Reply Reply February 15, 2012

    Great post Renee! It’s been a total discovery for me, loving someone as if you’d never been hurt, but it works! In only 2 days I’m feeling MUCH better, and also having great results: I’m in an online site and, after months without a date or any men interested, I am having 2 dates this weekend with different men, receiving e-mails and chatting with a very interested man (who lives far away by the fact but he’s planning to visit me and know each other in person). And without any effort! That’s great also because I still in love with my last lover, which is being very difficult for me to forget him, I still thinking of him 24 hour a day even if we haven’t seen each other or talked for 4 months now (I haven’t heard of him either), so for me is a big step to feel that I can fall in love with another man again! I’m also subscribed to your ACM series and I’m delightful! thanks Renee for your great help

    • Renee

      Reply Reply February 15, 2012

      Cristina, that is amazing. Thanks for taking this stuff and using it and getting results in your life! I hope you have a GREAT weekend :)

      Take care,
      XxX

  • Amara

    Reply Reply February 14, 2012

    Great article renee!! Sorry I have been busy with school so reading your emails on the go with not much time to comment. Reading Fascinating Womanhood for the second time. :D

    • Renee

      Reply Reply February 14, 2012

      No problems Amara, I always appreciate the fun comments you leave, no matter how few and far between they are. Thanks for taking the time. Take care!

      xox

  • AGP

    Reply Reply February 13, 2012

    I am a man and yes I tend to read a lot of female related things to better understand women need without sacrificing my own goal, ambitions and independent nature. Which seems to be impossible, it seems like women want slaves and not a partner with their own mind. Like you say yourself…treated like a godess. It all sounds very wrong to a man and manipulative…

    Anyway, I was going to share a true story…

    I was dating a women who I truely loved and still love to this day, she was very difficult to get open, honest and vulnerable. Each time I said I would try my best to take care of her, she felt like a child and insulted. If I carried her bags when I myself was in mood to do it, she felt insulted. But she is probably the most emotional women I ever dated but also dangerous because she could sit with her own dad who she hates, and just laugh and have fun. Now, this is scary regardless of how nice, pure and loving a women is…I dont think you should please or respect a person so much when you dont even respect or like that person, it would make most men question what is in a women mind and what she is hiding when she is enjoying herself around someone she wish would go away. In other words, before I started dated her I was somewhat afraid of her ability to control people through being nice, keeping secret and thinking long term. Unfortuantly for her, I am not a simple minded man who only thinks with my balls.

    Anyway, eventually I had to go to her best friend for advice to get help because each time I was open, vulnerable and honest she was the opposite and I ended up feeling worse. Each time I tried communicating through email, she misunderstood and thought I was controlling or something. Anyway, her best friend told her that I talked to her about us and she felt betrayed and that I lied to her. As I was going to tell her after she was done with her vacation and got back home, since she was ignoring everything I said. So she broke things off and started changing things that I pointed out, in other words she is doing 25% of the things I suggested she do but she didnt do it while I was with her. She also got more religious and other stuff and the things she says I made her feel? You have no idea the pain it gives anyone, women or man to hear what she said and felt. It sounded like another relationship and man, so the question I ended up with was how much she truely lied to me because she is a pleaser. Meaning, she likes to do things if people give positive reaction and she will do it more. She is a giver and she is all over the place and uncapable of saying no which also makes a man uncomfortable, most men wants to know that their women will priortize them if there comes a time for it.

    I am still trying to be a friend as she is a good person, I still believe this and I dont think she knows what she destroyed due to fear and her own past. Now, when she talks about her future husband she mention things I believe I stand for, she even mention things I tried doing but she wouldnt let me, she even says she would like valentine and this and that but when I was with her she was always like “Do whatever you want to do, not because I tell you”. Which I know by research means “Yes”. hehe

    She was a few year younger then me at the time and I was older…

    Anyway, it kind of sucks because I cant stop thinking about her even when I am dating other girls and currently dating a girl who is similare to her but not in skin color, culture, religion and these things but in terms of submissive behaviour, obedience and understanding that a man needs to be a little selfish in terms of his own needs be it career, friends, hobbies or mastering a craft in the cave. But in the end, even though I communicate much better with this new girl and she laughs at most of the things I say naturally…and I tried scaring her away by purposely finding anything I did wrong in previous relationship or anything I know for a fact a women doesnt want, but for some reason this new girl wont budge she still wants me.

    I should not love this girl who left me because I know she is the one who lied to be although I am sure there was fear and maybe I rushed things too quickly because of my own fears…her mindset that friendship is suppose to stay somewhat superficial and just how well she keeps secret and not share anything when I knew about it and she pretended not knowing about it.

    In the end I realized she like many women are probably the most manipulative kind, she also happens to be a psychology student and I happen to study such things for fun before she started it professionally. So now I dont trust people who are nice to everyone because I think it is impossible and destructive to your own ego to please everyone and not take a side.

    Another thing that is common with women but she did it too much, she changed her mind about things too often. And as a good man I try my best to memorize and learn everything it eventually becomes impossible to keep up if women suddenly hates this person, now she wants to be her friend, she hates women but still spend time with female friends and has fun and so on.

    So, there are enough reasons to move on…yet…it is probably romantic to women but a pain in the ass for a man…it is like I gave my heart to her permanently and no matter how hard I try to move on…I still love her…I lover her for the flaws and everything. I still love her even though she clearly hates me as a man but not a friend. One of the reasons might be because I dont agree with her conclusion and reasons behind ending the relationship, I also know she is lying and hiding half the truth like she does most things.

    Anyway, sorry…

    Interesting blog…

    • cristina

      Reply Reply February 14, 2012

      Hi, you confused man! as I was reading your post I was feeling compassion for you, and also for me, because I am in a similar situation as yours. And I also felt compassion for our ex, because perhaps all of us would like to be together but we sabotaged our relationships because of our own fears (and also because of our ignorance of the opposite sex (sigh!) Some of the things you complain about women are so obvious for the majority of us!! We don’t want slaves, we only want to be loved, it’s just that if we show up vulnerability and weakness we fear you men would lose interest (but, surprisingly, it is just our vulnerability which attracts you more! Believe it or not, most women think that we have to be “cool” in order to attract men and keep their interest) It would be so nice to relax and be feminine! and that is so difficult sometimes in this society! My advice to you is that, even if a woman rejects your help, you insist (and IT HAS TO BE GENUINE HELP, not a manipulation to sleep with her or to make her adore you, because we can feel it if it is not genuine!!), because actually we are hardwired to good provider men, just as Renee writes in her articles. Trust me, most women will adore you only for that! (By the way, I am also trying to get information about what you men need and want from a woman).

      • AGP

        Reply Reply February 15, 2012

        Maybe so, unfortuantly she refuses to have anything to do with me besides being friend. :) And is quite clear on me moving on and finding someone better.

  • twinkle

    Reply Reply February 13, 2012

    Sorry to be a little ‘off topic’;I may be ‘old-fashoined’ BUT I believe a person is only single unless they’re MARRIED. Having a boyfriend or girlfriend , or being engaged means your going out, taken but still single.; I don’t like the way the language is CHANGING

    • Lisa Harris

      Reply Reply February 13, 2012

      Although I tend to agree, in this day and age having a boyfriend/girlfriend certainly isn’t classed as single.

      Great video by the way, I enjoyed it. Women wouldn’t believe the amount of techniques out there, that make you irresistible to men!

      Lisa Harris :)

      • Anna C

        Reply Reply December 17, 2012

        I don’t agree that you are single until married, because marriage is a recent, man-made institution and some people do not choose to be married. So, I do believe you are single unless both of you declare you are not, and this may be in a committed relationship or marriage. Also, some people never get married (and I fear I may be one of them) so I refuse to let that title determine whether I’m single or not.

  • Kendra

    Reply Reply February 12, 2012

    Enjoyed the video! This is something I’ll have to practice in small steps because I am a woman who tends to keep her emotions guarded. Any suggestions? Thanks :)

    • Renee

      Reply Reply February 12, 2012

      Kendra,

      Think back to a time when you were completely unguarded. What were you focusing on? What did you believe at that time? When you find that, it will be easy to be in that state again!

      • Night1Candi

        Reply Reply February 13, 2012

        I have had the same problem: guarding my heart because of bad past relationships (and so does the man do so, too, sometimes). But, this video has been really informative, and I hope to (if the snow clears and I can drive to Denver) to be able to try being vulnerable with my man and not so guarded. Maybe, it will help us both loosen up by taking the first steps! *excited*

  • Michelle

    Reply Reply February 12, 2012

    It was good information. What advice would you give if your man broke up with you because he is depressed and believes that he is still in love with his ex? Their relationship was wrought with things that did not work. Ours was really great – he just said that he was not over he when we started…..

    • Renee

      Reply Reply February 12, 2012

      Hi Michelle,

      I am probably missing a lot of information from this problem, but sometimes, what we think is great is not necessarily what a man thinks is great. We have to put ourselves in the other person’s shoes, and often.

      I am guessing that his ex had a vulnerability and the problems were (as in most male female relationships) related to a misunderstanding of the differences between the sexes.

      I’d say if you are in contact with him, continue using your vulnerability. If not for anything but for your own happiness. Enjoy that. That way, he will actually see something to take care of (provided he is still in touch with you and you are still in touch with him).

      • idealistic

        Reply Reply May 9, 2013

        HI Renee! Is it possible that somebody is not over their ex despite they not being as comitted as before when the relationship was over? I think we did love each other a lot but he wasnt as committed nor focused and mainly because of those misunderstandings between the sexes, he said i will always be especial in his heart (for both it was the most serious relationship but the distance and living in different countries made it hard) and that in the future when we both are done with our studies and more stable he’d like for me to move over there (sounds as if he needs to feel like he can provide first) I feel like I suffered the most with the whole relationship thing and he is better at managing his emotions, he doesnt have the need to talk to me, i guess he is enjoying his freedom etc but I wish to know if, in despite of that, he could still deep at his heart miss me or not over me completely and how to know so, right? Youre awesome Renee, thank you for your advices!

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