How to Become the Kind of Woman Men Want to Marry

Before I begin, let me just share a few extracts taken from an anti-marriage website:

“My wife was a frigid, shrivelled b***h. Before we were married, we had plenty of sex, but as soon as we passed the six month mark after our wedding, she stopped being interested. My wife only f***s when she “feels sexy.” Translation: when I give her jewellery. She is just a withered old bag at the age of 35.”

“What security is there for men in marriage? If I cheat on my wife, she gets half my s**t. If she cheats on me, she still gets half my s**t. Why the f*** should i get married”

“We had one kid. Wife stays home, but the kid wears her out. I bust my f****** ASS 60 hrs/week and get no credit. Wife gives me guilt when I don’t throw everything down right after work to watch this screaming, annoying f****** kid so she can go out to the gym, or to some restaurant with her friends, or to her sister’s house to watch movies.

She gets to take naps during the day when the baby sleeps, and every time I call her on the cell during the day, she is at Starbucks with her Mom or friends. She says that doesn’t count as “Her time” because she’s with the baby.

I’ve had enough. I feel so undervalued and OWNED. She is so ‘entitled’ now it’s like 60 (or 70, or 80) hours a week from me is EXPECTED. Being at work from 8-7 counts as my ‘social’ time, so I am not allowed to have any friends or ever do ANYTHING outside of change F****** DIAPERS”

>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> MY ANSWER

Hi there 🙂

I hope you’re having a lovely day and I haven’t thrown you off with those comments above! Now I am sure that, even just by reading these words you can see the frustration, resentment and anger inside these men.

(Please note: whilst I acknowledge that marriage takes 2, and that men need to step up and take charge of their own actions as well – this website is for women, so I focus mainly on what can be done from the woman’s end).

It’s true; if I was a man in this day and age, I would be quite put off marriage to many of the the modern women in the Western world. Truth be told, the state of our society has done some really bad things to the balance of masculine-feminine and to the values of women and men. (Click here to take the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”)

The reason why men do not marry is actually really simple. A lot of men feel that there is nothing in it for them!

And what IS in it for them when they don’t have a good woman? The fast-moving modern world that we live in has ensured that women are working longer hours, juggling more responsibilities, and progressively less able to place their men as their top priority.

In fact, most women place their children at the top of their priorities – which may seem like the best thing to do, but men can grow to resent this as their women are more fulfilled taking care of their kids than they are taking care of their men.

In the meantime, their man gets/feels neglected. Even more important – most women just have no idea how men work. They do not understand them, and most of them do not want to understand them; they’re too busy attending to their other tasks or priorities – in other words, themselves.

However, just as you want to be understood; so does your man! It’s important to not be a man-hater, or a man-basher and stop putting everything down to “Men just want sex”. This is not always true, and true love does exist.

How to become marriage material

So how do you become the kind of woman men want to marry? I will give some strategies below:

– Stop thinking of yourself.

Spend 60 days taking responsibility for your man’s needs and seeing things from his perspective, no matter how hard things are for you. If you do this, he may be more receptive to your needs and you will most likely get him in a different state; a state where you can bring up the topic of your needs with him.

– Understand him, and how he works.

Work out what his needs and values are, and start to understand. If you’re often defensive, start to seek understanding. Understanding gives you control and empowerment. We have a program called Understanding Men, click here to get more information about this phenomenal program.

You’ll have a lot more certainty and happiness in your relationship if you start to understand that you DO have control over it – and you CAN make it better. More importantly, if you know how to meet his needs in a variety of ways better than anyone else ever could – he would have no reason not to want to be with you for as long as possible!

– Do not deny him sex regularly and do not use it as a commodity; do not ever use sex to specifically get what you want from him, if you want sex to be, for the long-term, a mutually enjoyable thing that you both share together.

Also, when you do sleep with him, be real, be honest and be generous. What do I mean by this? I mean understand him and learn why he wants sex. Don’t do it hoping it will be over soon. He knows this. He feels it. (Click here to take the quiz “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”)

It is very hard on a man to be sleeping with a woman who wants it to be over, and treats his sexual needs as another “chore” to be done on the list. It’s important that you make time for him, and for the both of you to be together and to keep the passion alive and kicking.

– Have high standards for yourself.

Get fit, eat well. Also, just because you have had a child does not mean it’s ok to be overweight, depressed or “old” or no fun anymore. My lovely, as hard as it can be to look after so many things, and to have so many things on your mind, make it a habit to set your standards high.

If you want the great rewards and a fantastic loving husband who adores you, start by adoring him and understanding him. Understand that a man like his wife to look nice, not just for the sake of looking nice, BUT because he wants to know that his wife/girlfriend still CARES enough to bother making herself look nice for him.

This goes regardless of age. Just because a woman is 60, does not mean she can’t look good anymore. It’s more about never getting “old” on the inside, which then affects the outside.

These are a few good things that you can do to ensure you are on the right track to being the kind of woman a man wants to marry. And, it’s not all about getting a man to marry you or commit to you, it’s about starting by giving without expecting anything in return. (read my article about the difference between pleasing and giving)

Men aren’t as terrible as so many women say. They are not “all the same”, and men are happy to be loyal and give to us and cherish a good woman who takes care of his needs and gives beyond herself. They are not always unreasonable creatures, there are compassionate, caring men around.

And, your man should do the same, too. Relationships are about giving.

If you would like to know exactly step by step how to inspire your man to commit to you and marry you, I suggest you sign up to my program Commitment Control 2.0. It is the best program of its kind to help women in casual situations to a deeply devoted and committed relationship. Click here to register to watch the Commitment Masterclass. 

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I think this article misses the whole point, all it does is to teach women how to trick men into marriage. The bottom line is, as long as women have increased expectations while in the macro environment men are demonized and family courts have no time for men and women find it easy to demand commitment while they don’t have to be committed. You can be sure women will not respect their men and all this talk about what to do for a man will only be done until she got him to marry her. After that she knows she… Read more »

Marius
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Marius

For 20 years I have been listening to “women don’t need men” so I built my life on the virtue that I should go my own way. So I did not realizing that once women hit 35 then they suddenly “need men” again. Well sorry I moved on, will never marry or look back. If women can say they don’t need men, then they should be happy if men take a complimentary direction in their own lives. If women can be independent. Don’t now blame men if we do the same. Now that I say I don’t need women, women… Read more »

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Bemiw

May I add one more thing to your comment that so many men “feel that there is nothing in it for them”. It is worse than that. Much worse. At last count, 48% of marriages end in divorce. Of those, 70% are initiated by women (Yes true!) Times men lose their children – 90%. Times men are ordered to pay child maintenance – 90%. Times men lose half of everything they own – 100%. Then, depending on where you live – there is alimony and who knows what else. Fact is – for men today, marriage not only offers many… Read more »

Darren McLain
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Darren McLain

I’m 49 years old. I’ve been married 23 years. I’m not an abuser, an adulterer, or an addict. My wife chose years ago to limit our relationship by playing everything close to the vest and keeping me at arms length. I’ve single-handedly cared for my family for 18 years. I remained true to my commitment even though it was hard, ever hoping things could change. Three weeks ago she served me divorce papers and now I’m looking at paying her for the rest of my life, the rest of her life, or until she remarries. Really? This is the reward… Read more »

Marius
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Marius

The good part of your experience is that you have the story to tell and for other young men to learn from. I am glad that I paid attention to guys like you and many others, even close friends and relatives so that I don’t make the same mistake. I think young males crave guidance from men who went down the road already. It didn’t take much after school to convince me that to stay single and keep it in my pants would be the wisest thing ever. Both my parents and a psychologist agreed that I made good decisions.… Read more »

The Dude
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The Dude

As your website is “for women” the sexism just bleeds through…great job. Try reading some Brene Brown…women are the patriarchy.

Sean Michael Diggs
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Sean Michael Diggs

Never won a hand in poker, blackjack, hold em, and if i bet on red it will land on black. I have no luck when it comes to gambling. Id have to be an IDIOT to roll the dice in the greatest gamble of them all, marriage.

Charles Hurst
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Charles Hurst

Wow it seems this lady writing is what we in MGTOW call a unicorn. That’s a good thing my dear. But so rare that us MGTOWs gave up trying to find one. Nice article but let me state something. . . for all the non unicorn women out there aka “the modern woman.” If you have to follow these points to get a man to marry you then you aren’t a good woman, you are an actress until the ring is placed. Don’t think we MGTOWs don’t know that. Sorry Renee, the unicorn is the exception but the rule is… Read more »

Vana
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Vana

I would ask men the same question. I make my own money. I cook, I clean. I can run a household. So other than sex, what can a man offer me?

BlueLanternMonk
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BlueLanternMonk

Side a man’s social status and power (see: income) are most important to women and most wives put out less than once a week, there’s nothing that a man could offer an old, fat, infertile woman; better to find a youger less established lady. Lol!

Marius
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Marius

That;s exactly my point with modern women, if you take sex out of the equation, you don’t have anything to gain, you only have much too lose.

William Turley
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William Turley

Hello. Two things need to occur: first, legalize prostitution. After all, its a woman’s body and she has a right…… Secondly: in 5-8 years, anatomically correct robots will hit the market. They will be so real that one won’t b able to tell the difference. Picture a robot, programmable to discuss philosophy, science, history, etc., be whatever you want emotionally, that can also drive, period the house, cook, clean, etc. Truly all of us are not going to put up with human idiosyncracies any longer….that is unless you program your robot to so imbibe. A misanthropic nivana so to b… Read more »

William Turley
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William Turley

Hi. So what can a man offer you? You ask. Hopefully nothing. Nothing at all. Its important for you to remember that you don’t need a man….You are woman, I want to watch you roar. Remember, men are visual and are attracted to beauty. So let yourself go. Eat any and everything you want. The bible teaches that long hair in a woman is her crowning glory. Who is some type of pig God to tell you anything? Cut yours real short. Spike it. Dye it in individualized colors….blue, red, purple. Wear Birkenstocks. Let your hygiene go. Stop shaving. Period.… Read more »

Scott B
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Scott B

It’s simple, for me the risk of marriage is has never been worth the reward. Pretty simple. And now I have proof women think the same way. I’m dating a high earning doctor. I’m an engineer and she makes double what I do. She doesnt want to get married because she is scared to jeapordize everything she built and her future earnings. She admits there is a double standard in media and society that empowers women to be independant and shames men for doing the exact same thing.

Mister Alighieri
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Mister Alighieri

Great article. If more women did these things, more men would marry and divorce would be less of an issue. However with divorce being a real threat, many men -good men- are deciding that it isn’t worth the risk. As women have changed over the last 50 years to take on careers and jobs. Many men have also learned to handle the domestic realm well enough. So more men can cook and clean and care for a home without a woman. Sex is easily obtainable via charisma or cash. Companionship can be found amongst friends. So that leaves the desire… Read more »

Crystal
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Crystal

I also salute and respect the man above that you quoted and would not take bullshit from his wife and let himself be USED. Why? Because most men DO NOT STAND UP LIKE THAT. They let themselves be used and manipulated by frigid, lazy wives. Just like the man I love is doing now happily, working his ass off to support that frigid cunt who always says how tired she is and how she needs his help 24hrs/day. He works 11 hours a day sometimes and then stays with the kids at night so that she gets sleep. What the… Read more »

WannaBeMGTOW
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WannaBeMGTOW

They don’t have much of a choice but to let themselves be used like that…..if they throw too much of a tizzy, she leaves…….and as we’ve already stated, when she leaves she gets everything.

Crystal
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Crystal

Do not agree!! I have been in a relationship with a man with whom I had amazing sex, he was my world to me and I was putting him first before anyone else in my life. He said he loved me….He left me for a frigid woman (or asexual, whatever) who is putting their kids first now and only wanted him to have stability and some kids to raise with his support. And he is happy like that. I have learnt men value you more when you DO put yourself first. They also value freedom. He actually told me that… Read more »

BlueLanternMonk
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BlueLanternMonk

Taylor et al. (2000) first proposed the idea of a unique female stress response which they termed “tend-and-befriend.” The tend-and-befriend response is characterized as an oxytocin mediated stress response cascade. There are numerous biochemical and evolutionary explanations for this unique female stress response that would have increased the survival of females and their offspring under conditions of stress and hence increased the chances of subsequent reproduction. Estrogen has been found to increase the effects of oxytocin already in excess in females as compared with males. Testosterone and vasopressin, the counterparts of estrogen and oxytocin, present during the male stress response,… Read more »

Elizabeth Grant
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Elizabeth Grant

Hi Renee, I think you will also find that once men have had their children, they place even less value on women. You will see that in the posts that are in response to your blog, as well as in society. 50% of marriages end up in divorce, and of the 50% of men that are divorced, or getting divorced, those who have children, see no real value in women, even in the mothers of their children. And from there, once they have their kids, they view, and treat, women even worse, even these own very mothers of their children.… Read more »

BlueLanternMonk
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BlueLanternMonk

Lol, bb! You’re correct, about me. I cuckolded a good man, at no personal expense and I’m a motherless misogynist. 70% of American men ages 20-34 aren’t married and women lose 90% of their ovarian eggs by the age of thirty. You’re a cutie! Women should be property, like the virtually useless, Affirmative Action sponging, animals that you are and always will be.

Elizabeth Grant
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Elizabeth Grant

You are insane. Have you no better purpose with your life? You don’t even know who, and what, you are talking to. Rave on in lunacy. You are on the wrong forum here. You missed the boat.

BlueLanternMonk
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BlueLanternMonk

I’m a strong swimmer, like the sperm that I cuck’d a good man with and unlike Affirmative Action recipient’s, such as white woman and all other nigger’s. I like how you have such soft and squishy emotes for me, honey! Go make me a casserole; after you service my other needs, which are your only real use, outside of reproduction. You’re to be property, little girl! ‘Women like bad boys, but just how bad? According to a new study, the most self-absorbed men may be the best choice for women who desire reproductive success. A group of researchers from Jagiellonian… Read more »

BlueLanternMonk
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BlueLanternMonk

I love you too, as a sex object. You girl’s are saying literally the same thing, two comment’s in a row. I don’t have a feemale brain, unlike our feemale voting majority; with its larger emotion and communication center’s. I have larger sex and aggression center’s, as a man – the apex predator of Earth. I’m offering you two how’s the solution. 54% of American women voted for Hillary Clinton and she’s a self proclaimed feminist and only men may be conscripted. Women’s happiness is way down…..look it up, bitch! Smash them titties together, like I like?

Elizabeth Grant
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Elizabeth Grant

Hi Renee, I have been reading your posts and blogs and emails with interest, as yours is a topic that has interested me for over 20 years, whilst I have lived around the whole world, and been married twice, in addition to having been in several relationships, from the age of 18. What still baffles me, is the age-old, ‘how to be the most perfect woman for a man possible’. In reading this post above, it is all still about how women should please men, when I think the whole feminist move (which I totally hate) started with women feeling… Read more »

BlueLanternMonk
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BlueLanternMonk

*Nigger’s of every shade are the women of race and our voting majority of feemales arethe nigger’s of gender. Only men are required, by law, to register for Selective Service and only men may be conscripted; therefore, only men should be able to vote. White men are the only non-minority class and don’t and receive Affirmative Action; as such, only white men have any merit in the workplace!* ‘It’s the bitterest of ironies: thousands of men who’ve given up work to care for their children are being ditched by their high-flying wives – who wanted them to stay at home… Read more »

wolfgang548 .
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wolfgang548 .

Gentlemen, this may seem a little awkward at first to some of you, but Google this article title, ” Why Get A Transgender Girlfriend.” it’s about 3 minutes long but well worth the read. It may open your mind to something new, and better.

CJS
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CJS

Out of FOUR divorces I currently know of – including my brother – all are down to the fact the WIFE cheated. In three of those cases the husband has been evicted while the lover moved into the house which the husband still pays for. Then these predatory ex-wives proceed to extract EVERY PENNY leaving many of their ex husbands on the park bench destitute…..and women wonder why men are not interested in commitment anymore…LOL! Thankfully (and long may it last) I am happily married to a wife for 16 years (with an 8 year age gap) – and no… Read more »

Brian Kerr
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Brian Kerr

lol … MGTOW

David Fife
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David Fife

Western culture and marriage have demonized men. Men are treated as potential rapists, knuckle dragging cavemen by universities, popular media and society. Most commercials and television programs portray men as dumb F#cks who are damn lucky to have found their wife/girlfriend. We all know that women are better at relationships, better at raising children, spiritually more evolved, and just overall better human beings! If a man cheats on his wife, he loses his children, his house, and more than 50% of his income. If a wife cheats on her husband, he loses his children, his house, and more than 50%… Read more »

Jim Johnson
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Jim Johnson

Yup, I have a coworker whose ex decided to try the dark meat, left him with two kids. Never gets a dime of childcare, 5 years (and two marriages) after she said in court that she doesn’t want the kids, she is having second thoughts and may get them back. Turn that around, and tell me if the guy would have any chance to win custody.

Person
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Person

Why don’t we just practice marriage under “god” instead of law? you know, keep the tradition alive, but don’t do anything official.

JR
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JR

Lady, your writing is on point. I’m 42 years married, 4 kids, to a lady like you and thank God of it. Most young women today are not ladies, and Churches only speaks of the responsibilities of husbands, but not the obedience and respect owed them. God bless you,, and while my 3 daughters who are ladies have had no problems finding real men (1 not yet married), my son has given up trying to find a lady, All my son sees are self-entitled women with no idea of what a lady is. Thank you, God bless you.

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