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Funny thing, when shopping, he requests holding all the bags. And push the pram, while I hold the hands of the others. Women look at me like I am horrible, forcing him to be a pack horse, and smile at him. One lady even went to say “If you were my husband, Id treat you better than that.” It makes me feel so bad. Yet he gets a huge confidence boost for it.

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Amanda T

I went bowling (not a common thing) with my husband, mother in law and kids. Mother in law didnt placy, and the kids scores were pretty low. But without much trying, I actually had a decent score. Hubby was still above me, and I let it go. He is competitive, and I wanted him to have a feel good win, so naturally I tried to get a good score, but not too good… anyway, we got to the end and he actually had a great score, only was my turn left for the 10th turn. He had walked away, thinking… Read more »

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Anna

A little while ago, i introduced my Boyfriend to this new game I had discovered. I told him my highscore was 36 and challenged him to play it. He played and played and he could only get up to 25. i stopped playing for a while until he messaged me and said play me!!! so i challenged him to beat my current score of 31. instead of stepping up to the challenge (do you think you can beat me) he responded with: no i quit. I thought men liked to be challenged and prove that they can be better. No… Read more »

Tanya Rachel Wieczorek
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Tanya Rachel Wieczorek

Oh dear. I’ve made that mistake.. not long ago a man told me he thought I was pretty, and terrible me, I kind of half-smiled and shook my head and didn’t say anything… I was embarrassed, I guess? I don’t think I’m pretty at all, my teeth are uneven, my skin isn’t the best, etc. I should have accepted it though. I don’t know how to take compliments – I must work on this! I’m more mortified now when I see I handled it wrong, then I was at the time of the compliment! I feel so awkward, being complimented!… Read more »

Luke
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Luke

I think it’s great that you can see that the man was complimenting you. A lot of women I’ve run into whom I just want to flatter think of me as creepy. I just want to raise her spirits a little. There’s nothing sinister about that is there?

Luke
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Luke

You did it again, Renee. Thank you so much. When feminists try to tell people what men are all about, there’s never any truth in it. BUT unfortunately, their voices are the loudest. The voices of supportive, caring and understanding women like you should be the loudest. This is great. You’re so right. Yes, there are self-centered men who won’t reciprocate and support their women equally, sure. But, the majority of us – especially today in this far more egalitarian system need women to raise us up, give us motivation and inspiration to be great. We hear feminists say, “Men… Read more »

Tony
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Tony

Renee what u r doing in your blog is the deepest of the truths. I just that the truth never gets to everyone the same way. others can stomach it n othas cant but it will always remain the truth. u will never believe how these negative people confuse themselves when sumthn good happens to them, they respond lovingly to you yet they always disagree with facts.

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DoomsdayDevice

Dear Renee, dear Readers, Did you know that the main reason for a man being unhappy is a wife that tries to control him? This is confirmed by many studies, as well as many men who were asked directly. And well, you are trying to control him if you do what is written above. Stuff like this is the reason why men start hitting women, desperatly trying to gain back control. Men cant be generalized like you do it, as they are individuals that can decide what to do and control their lifes themselves. Also, not every man wants to… Read more »

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Super Janice

I do not totally agree with you and Renee. You are partially right. I agree that the main reason for a man being unhappy is a wife that tries to control him (This suggests that Renee is partially correct because she suggests that men are driven by direction). Like me and Princess Merida from the movie “Brave”- they are strong-willed individuals that can decide what to do and control their lifes themselves. (but I am a woman) And if we really made his life too easy – like Renee told us – we must not be surprised if he still… Read more »

sam
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sam

My Dear Renee
How can I explaine my feelings after reading your another beautiful article ! you’re so nice and kind, the way you talked about a man’s feelings of beeng a winner was like a caring mother.
I really liked it.In fact I think both woman and man in a relationship need to feel sucsseed and that come out of a good understanding of each ones needs.
sometimes the way a woman behaves is because of her man’s behavior.
I believe If one loves somebody does’nt let him/her hurt his/her feelings actually.
Thank you very much Renee. you’re an angle……..
love
Sam

laura
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laura

dear Renee,, what a beautiful name and a beautiful blog.. i am writing and reading your blog from Syria, where we are having a revolution at the moment.. :)yet I discovered your blog yesterday and till now i read lots of articles,, the energy and the honesty you have , the passion and credibilty in dealing wth women is a great bliss. really thank you and never stop it,, I want to keep reading you even when i grow older.. what you wrote about being passionate and attentive to men is true ,i believe.Yet , there are some cases when… Read more »

Jeffrey
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Jeffrey

I wonder how some women that blatantly disagree with Renee and have negativity, how and what made you find this page? Why are you here? It does not add up. Have you come because you wanted a cure for the negativity in life and wish to make sense of it? But then you respond with negativity.What is your goal? It’s rather not attractive because there will always be a woman out there that has a positive energy. And we as men are ultimately attracted to her. Renee, you are a gem.

Kevin
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Kevin

I’ve been tooling around this site for the past week and, frankly, I still can’t believe my eyes!

I thought this kind of woman went extinct when the fembots took over.

Amazing!!! I’ve read about eleven of these articles and I can’t fault them one iota. If a woman wants to make herself look like Lynda Carter in the Wonder Woman outfit and drive her man dizzy, this is precisely how to do it!!!

Renee
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Renee

Thanks Kevin!
And Thank You even more for making your presence known 🙂

Catherine
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Catherine

I think like all things in life, there are situations in which this can be a bit TOO soft on them. Sometimes they do need a kick in the bottom – they forget things all the time 😀 What may not be good is nagging before they’ve had a chance to ‘get it done’. If you know he is a geniuine man ( and I would like to think we’re all with people we believe to be genuine) – that he is genuinly doing his best. That is all any of us can do :). Aslong as your partner is… Read more »

Izzen
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Izzen

Ugh, this depresses me so much. So, because they’re insecure about being lazy, we are supposed to cater to this, walking on eggshells so as not to hurt their feelings with the truth? This advice is BS in a time when most men are not living up to the standards their grandfathers did. No one is free from legitimate criticism, and if I want something done and realize that my SO is not reliable or skilled enough to do it, I will definitely do it myself or find someone who can. If he feels legitimately guilty or ashamed about you… Read more »

Jack Arthur
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Jack Arthur

But it is your softness, not your harshness, that inspires men. That is because it is love that leads him.

Harshness or rigidity in a woman is like competing with a man for who can be more manly. It will actually sap his manhood and enflame neuroticism and rationality.

Your ideas about using shame and guilt and criticism to get him to ‘change his ways’ are like trying to beat a bad habit out of a horse (have you ever tried doing that? This is how people today treat themselves, too.)

MaryBjellen
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MaryBjellen

I disliked the “What Men think” PDF’s. I adore Renee for gathering the data, but men’s dated opinion about women is alive and well today. To say that being feminine is by submission is a continuation of female subjugation. I have never met a man I would submit to. I have not met many men who are my equal. I want them to be man enough to walk beside ME and not ask me to trot behind them. I am not ready to settle. Being alone is just a different paradigm for being free to be…whomever I wish. I like… Read more »

MaryBjellen
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MaryBjellen

PS…My post is not meaning to be rude or nasty. I honor the outstanding work of this blog. MBJ

T
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T

Wow. It’s obvious that you aren’t even aware of how asleep you are to the prejudices inherent in your own opinions. You casually refer to men as the “weaker sex that men truly are” with no seeming recognition of the incredibly angry and demeaning tone you’re offering. You follow this by saying “My post is not meaning to be rude or nasty”. What is it meant to be then? Perhaps you should stop projecting your own emotional baggage on to an entire gender. Men and women are truly equal, but also different. And maybe its time that you took responsibility… Read more »

T
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T

BTW, big thanks to Renee for presenting this alternate viewpoint for women who are confused by how to navigate the world of modern gender issues. 🙂

Luke
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Luke

Wow. It’s amazing how little compassion and understanding you have for your male partners. You sound so bitter, hostile and antisocial that I can’t imagine why a man would want you around in the first place.

Gareth Barton
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Wow, i feel like i stumbled into the wrong part of the woods after reading this. I’m not sure i’m meant to be here haha. I think you’re possibly giving us boys a bit of a short card here. We’re not quite as weak and needy as all that, at least not in my opinion; but what do i know, i’m male. I definitely agree with the point about making it hard for us to make you happy. My last girlfriend was constantly making me feel like i wasn’t good enough or that i wasn’t doing a good enough job… Read more »

Renee
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Renee

Hello Gareth, no – your presence is much appreciated, even though it may feel a little awkward for you. 🙂 See, I’m writing for women, so the language I use is not really suited to you males and let me tell you, there is NO part of this post that is meant to say that men are weak and needy. No part at all. You would agree with me though, that many men do have a needy side and that’s ok. We all do. 🙂 I am making the point that men have fears too. The problem is that they… Read more »

Luke
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Luke

Gareth, you do want to succeed in life right? You want a career? You want to better yourself don’t you? If you have someone behind you, someone in your corner, ready to pick you up when you fall to pieces (which is possible; I mean, life isn’t always wine and roses) and encourage you to be the best that you can be, if you have someone who is that willing to support you… that’s a dream come true. And in return, you’ll probably be a lot more willing to support her.

Meike
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Behind every great man is a great woman!! I love that. I am feminine now, and I never felt stronger:) So much love to all you feminine ladies, we’re doing the right thing!

Oh Renee, I just noticed i somehow don’t receive your emails anymore, could you please send them to my new email (the one i put down here) because i think it might still be registered with the old one. I miss your lovely messages:)

the ghost of bashir gemayel
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the ghost of bashir gemayel

FEAR IS MAGNIFIED IN A MAN WHEN HIS WOMAN DOES NOT VERBALLY DIRECTLY COMMUNICATE OPENLY IN AN ADULT MANNER,which normally a female wont do instead they may use subtle hints,,for a year or 2 like mine did….all in the name of NOT HURTING ME..HER HUSBANDS FEELINGS,,,i thought,,felt as a man,,,how childlike imaturity,,,,she actually hid her feelings,,via making a little white lie,next thing you know she had to make more lies to cover the 1st white little lie…..my goodness ,,now were divorced,,so yes i was scared,,i married a woman who did not trust herself,,know herself,,or loved herself,i i gotta sit back… Read more »

Jackie
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Jackie

Tell it!! LOUD AND CLEAR

Sara
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Sara

Women really have no idea how just by rolling their eyes, hands on hips, nagging, and giving a apathetic or disgusted look has such a powerful effect, and not just on men. I wish every fingersnapper would read this and have an epiphany.

Connie
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Connie

Great post. This could not have come at a better time. My hubby just lost his job after 25 years. He is such a hard worker. Now his goal is to make our small farm pay for itself and provide a small income. This has awlays been his dream. We still have 5 children at home. It is scary. BUT! He does not need me whining about my worries. He needs a partner and encouragment. I have no doubt he will succeed.I also know THAT is partially up to me.

Renee
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Renee

Hey lovely Connie. Thank You for sharing this anecdote and your way of dealing with it. Much appreciated.
Your husband will be thankful for your decision, I know it. 🙂

Renee.

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