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Article updated 2018
Got sent a link to a Daily Mail article today…on the tragedy of somebody’s dental veneers of all things. Then, I see to the right of the page an article of photos about 61 year old Bruce Willis filming an ad with tonnes of young, gorgeous, sexy women barely clothed…
The writer used words like “….But Bruce Willis is also a man. While shooting an Italian commercial, the 61 year old looked like a kid in a candy store as he got close to a gorgeous woman….at one point she kissed him on the cheek and at another he went in for a smooch too…”
Yeah, so the writer is trying to – like lots of media outlets – capitalise on the fears that keep women stressed out, small and low value.
Well. Actually no, Thanks.
They can’t do that. Shut up is what I was mumbling to the computer screen.
Bruce Willis – without anyone knowing, could also be a very happily married man. Not every boy is raised to be a serial cheating liar. Many men are really in love with their woman and happy to be faithful because they are genuinely fulfilled.
And just because there’s attractive women everywhere doesn’t mean a man is destined to betray his woman. After all, it could just be very much like observing pretty cakes. One has pink icing and the other has blue. Wee ha.
Don’t let the world make you think that you should never trust anyone. There’s a time for not trusting anyone and there’s a time for relaxing and giving people a chance. Many men, really just want to do the right thing.
I was angry that the writer (being a woman) was willingly triggering other women’s insecurity over and over, just for the sake of it. And the goal, like many, is wanting other women to stay feeling insecure. To manufacture insecurities in other women and make their lives more fear driven and miserable – seems evil, but it exists – often.
The writer writes that just so that the daily mail could continue on as the daily mail – a trashy, sleazy British magazine that women love and hate.
Admittedly, life can be boring without these gossip columns – what would a bored mom or lonely college student read to fill the void? The Financial Times?
This is one reason why we have an epidemic of beautiful, naturally high value women who line up to buy excessive amounts of toxic, expensive makeup, or even go under the knife in order to keep themselves from feeling the pain of getting older.
Women go under the knife for new breasts – which is one of the biggest violations of womanhood I’ve ever known. The idea of replacing ones breasts purely for aesthetic reasons is a violent act – and a violent act of rejection of our feminine body as it is. Can you believe we are now living in a world where this is a norm and something to be congratulated upon?
I am generalising here – I understand that many women undergo this procedure for many reasons – not just aesthetics.
And yet – I always wonder what our breasts and bodies are thinking when we do that boob job? What does it think? How does it react?
Is it saying “Why? Why wasn’t I enough? Wasn’t I functioning properly for you? But I’m here and I am your breasts and I feel womanly, so why don’t you also feel womanly? Plus, I can really nourish and comfort many babies if you chose to have them in this lifetime.”
It doesn’t have to be like this. We live in a world full of people who profit from our insecurity. How do they do that? They make us more insecure.
It’s not only for profit.
When we are insecure, we are easy to control
One thing I believe we could try to remember is that people who are insecure/fearful are much more easily kept down. People who don’t feel high value; worthy and confident are much easier to control.
In my country, I see this everywhere – people pressured into keeping small and average, people are not keen to question certain medical procedures (as compared to say Europe), people being pressured into medical procedures when there was actually nothing wrong with them to begin with.
Our bodies are always trying to do the best they can for us.
Our friends can also try to keep us down; if we have terrible friends to begin with. Friends can try to stop us from being brilliant – so that they don’t have to feel their own terror, lose us, or meet a higher standard.
Sure, we all have fears, and I do believe in connecting with people’s fears to meet them where they are at – sometimes we just need to be understood in order to feel free to branch out from a fearful state.
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Most people make most of their choices in fear
The thing is that people do operate from fear – most people are making most of their decisions from fear.
However, as a customer myself, and as a note to you…I wonder if you would consider that there is nothing more wrong than feeling like you weren’t born enough.
Actually, you are everything…
We are all necessary in this story of life; we all have beautiful gifts that are unique to give to the world. We each have beautiful and personal art inside of us, ready to be expressed every day.
We each care. Sometimes more than we are willing to show.
We are each intelligent and intuitive – from the day we are born. Only, that intuition cleverly gets pushed out of us, so that we end up dumber. When we were never meant to be.
But our society oppresses us by triggering our fears and keeping us down – so that we end up happy to sit back, be small, feel like we’re not enough, and as a consequence – we are unable to take responsibility for ourselves and our decisions, let alone take responsibility for our relationships and our children.
We forget that we are brilliant – and instead, we hand over responsibility to other people, or we are content with blaming others for our situation.
In dating this is obvious, too. Sure, the dating world is tough; that is how it is. But to blame everything on men? That is to say that we are willingly lying to ourselves.
We are all born enough. That’s the condition of birth; we are enough. It’s everything else and everybody else who encourages us to live life as if we are small.
Isn’t it paralysing to live with insecurity?
Isn’t it violent to be given a chance at life; only to live it as if our unique soul were absolutely nothing?
Actually, you are everything. Especially considering most everyone around you is living and decision making from fear. You matter; you are everything.
If not for you, then for everybody else. You are everything. That’s the rule. Otherwise you wouldn’t have been born.
I believe we have a responsibility to other women around us to feel like we are enough.
Being High Value means taking responsibility
One necessary path to becoming high value is to trust in yourself to take responsibility. Start taking responsibility for yourself, for your current situation, for your relationships.
Be OK with wherever you are at. Like I had to be when I was homeless, a face full of acne, boyfriend cheating on me and ignoring me, having no good friends and an eating disorder to boot.
What I have learned in recent years (the painful way), is that I really have no choice, (if I want my family to not live a mediocre life), but to take a disproportionately larger responsibility than everybody else in any situation that means something. I can’t expect to put everything in the hands of others.
It’s me taking responsibility; or else.
And, this is no different to me deciding many years ago, to take responsibility for my relationship situation, for my sense of self worth, and for my choices.
It’s problematic to do this though – as most of us learn that when we take responsibility, others are sometimes ready to blame us. Others are ready to take value from us; because we are high value.
But is there really any other way to live?
Why would we waste our life living small, and not taking responsibility?
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Thoughts for feeling High Value in this world
Here are my suggestions for feeling high value. Even just for your reading entertainment.
- Being high value is a choice. Just choose. Every day, change your self talk from “I don’t have the energy” to “I am the one who has the energy to…” or change the self talk from “he’s taking me for granted” to “Is he taking me for granted? Or is this actually not about me? What is it really like from his perspective? (Maybe I should think carefully about that)”
- It’s OK to be wrong. Enjoy being wrong. You can’t get more right if you don’t relax into being wrong – it’s OK to be wrong. It’s also funny to be wrong. Not to be taken so seriously.
- Know that it’s OK to be strong. It’s OK to stand up for yourself; to question things and to accurately describe and observe what is really going on. It’s basically OK to exist and have feelings, surprisingly.
- Be happy for other women to be sexy and beautiful. Remember that their beauty and sexiness can be recognised by you because you also have it. It doesn’t solely belong to them; it is yours to embody. Be as woman as you like, and don’t apologise for it. Ask your hips – I bet they agree with me.
- Stay connected to all of life. Minimise the amount of time you spend distracting yourself on your phone. Stay connected to moments – you need pain and you need pleasure, in order to life a beautiful life and to make good decisions for yourself. It’s people who shut off from everything who get manipulated, controlled and end up feeling taken advantage of. (Not referring to me in the past or anything). Consider staying connected – because your body will provide you with messages and answers that you’ll need to have better relationships – to choose great men. Your body will feel pain and hurt when someone intends to hurt you or take from you – that’s a message you can’t afford to shut off from, just for the sake of comfort.
One disclaimer to staying connected to all of life – if you are in an abusive situation; you will perhaps benefit from shutting off. Please do not connect for the sake of connecting and pleasing because you are afraid to lose a man who is abusing you. As always, seek professional advice, and especially advice from someone who truly cares, if there is that someone. Leave a comment here if you are unsure – there are so many women reading here who are smarter than I and who can give you good input.
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