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polyamory and why it would never work on a long term scale

Polyamory: Why It Would Never Work Long-Term

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 28 Comments

Article updated 2018 If you haven’t read PART 1 of this post, I suggest you read that first. It will give you the details you need to understand this article. This post was originally inspired by a woman in a pickle with a man who claimed he was polyamorous and then turned monogamous to be with her, and then he slept with someone else. Read it here… If you want more in depth and recent discussion of the burning reasons why polyamory would never work long term, read this article: ‘Polyamory: 10 Reasons Why It Would Never Work Long Term.’  All…

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polyamorous relationships, he wants one and what to do

Polyamorous Relationships: He Wants One. What Do I do?

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 40 Comments

Polyamorous relationships. Do you want one? Article updated 2018 What if you love a man who wants this type of arrangement? See PART 2 of this article here. It seems like more and more people are having to deal with their partner being polyamorous. This is why it is more important than ever for you to understand and learn more about how to deal with a man like this. Or even just understand how to deal with a man who is generally not fully emotionally committed to you (and wants more than one woman in his life). What if we…

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behaviours you should never tolerate in a man

6 Behaviours You Should Never Tolerate In A Man

By | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 37 Comments

Article updated 2018 Cheating and abuse are the first things people think of when they consider what they should never tolerate in a relationship. This article is not going to be about cheating or abuse. Why? Because firstly, whilst of course abuse should not be tolerated; abuse is actually a wide topic – it goes far beyond just physical abuse. Sometimes, the behaviours that seem the most innocent on the surface can actually be deeply abusive. For example, acting like your partner is not causing you any hurt or anger (not being responsive) when you consciously know you’re withholding yourself…

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12 secret reasons some people will always be distant from you

12 Secret Reasons Some People Will Always Be Distant From You

By | Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 53 Comments

Article updated 2018 She sat there, all alone, on the curb, crying. She just had it. She had just lost someone dear to her, and now she had nobody – nobody to even call her and ask how she is – and didn’t know what to do about it. A woman of many family members. A few friends. And yet nobody was there for her. She wanted to commit suicide, sometimes. It was all just too hard. She had friends, but they didn’t feel like real friends. Her family wasn’t nice to her, and her last relationship broke up, even…

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this is why women really push men away

This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away

By | Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 79 Comments

Article updated 2018 This Is Why Women REALLY Push Men Away …Because pushing him away is a lot better than feeling him ‘here’ with us and consequently being more vulnerable to his betrayal. Especially if we’ve been truly open and vulnerable to him. …Because we want you to work harder for us. …Because we are scared to trust you. …Because outside of our natural desire for sex during/before ovulation, or the beginning or the end of a menstrual cycle, our desire for sex is lower, and sex takes a lot of energy when we don’t want it. …Because relationships take…

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If He Loves You More Than You Love Him, Is It Worth a Chance?

By | Attraction, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 31 Comments

Article updated 2018 Hi Renee, I have been following your blog and it has changed my life significantly. Thank you. I recently met a guy who I believe truly loves me, the problem is, He has a lot of habits I used to have but worked really hard on myself to quit.(ex. talking too much) If I am being honest, am not sure I love this man but I realized I have been too picky with men. This guy calls me, checks up and tells me he loves me often (too often even). Should I give him a chance? Hi…

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The One Perfect Thing to Say When a Man Says He Needs “Space”

By | All, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 45 Comments

What if your man or boyfriend is needing space in the relationship? Article updated 2018 “I freaked out. He told me calmly that he needs some space and I didn’t know what to do. I tried to talk him through this, I begged him not to leave me because I’m afraid he will leave me for another woman”. The anxiety of a man needing space. It’s enough to make many women feel their stomach suddenly drop 1,000 miles through the floor. It can make you feel blinded by fear of the worst. Unfortunately and fortunately, this dizzy time of worry…

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4 Top Secret Ways to Access Your High Value Vulnerability

4 Top Secret Ways to Access Your High Value Vulnerability

By | All, Attraction, Commitment | 23 Comments

Article updated 2018 ‘’You don’t bleed. That’s why you can’t keep a guy.’’ Erol said to his long time friend, Jacinta, whilst twisting his foot into the ground to kill his cigarette butt. They’ve been friends forever and always love to chat about their relationships… “I…what? I don’t bleed?” “Yeah, you don’t bleed. You need to bleed in order for him to have feelings for you. I’m exaggerating, but I’m kind of not, too.” “What the hell are you talking about?” Erol chuckled. “Look, I don’t actually mean bleed, that is a metaphor to say, hey, you should make it…

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5 Advanced Ways To Have Close Relationships That Others Envy

5 Advanced Ways To Have Close Relationships That Others Envy

By | Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 13 Comments

Article updated 2018 “He left me. I suddenly broke down in tears. I told him I was so hurt that he didn’t call me after we had sex for the first time. We weren’t even on a date when I burst out crying; I just bumped into him at college.” Kristy said to Gianna. Gianna raised her eyebrows and stopped breathing for one minute. “Wow. Ouch.” “What? That’s all you gonna say?” No no, I’m just processing all of what you said right now, Gianna said while letting out a big puff of cigarette smoke slowly. Oh, OK. “I can’t…

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Your Man Tells you to “Fk Off”. Now What

Your Man Tells You To “F**k Off”… Now What?

By | All, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 30 Comments

Article updated 2018 He got angry and told her to F**k Off…. Me & my boyfriend had an argument a few days ago he blamed me for a few things which was silly things & not true. He was angry & recently been under a lot of stress. Also he lost a close friend of his. He was ratty with me from the night before. He said I had started to act like I was at the beginning of relationship paranoid & not being able to talk properly. At one point he said maybe your getting bored in our argument….

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The Secret Cost For Women When They Have Casual Sex

The Secret Cost For Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 3)

By | Attraction, Commitment, Finding Love | 24 Comments

Article updated 2018 Having casual sex encourages women to be afraid to ask for commitment We want a man’s commitment for a reason. Don’t short-change yourself. Because there is so much pressure on women to give up sex easily these days, this is even more reason to resist that push for quick sex from men. Why? Because it’s also a test. Good men also test how easily they can get a woman to have sex with them. Not having sex for validation and approval, and not having sex indiscriminately, or too early, will set you apart from the crowd. Just…

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The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex - part 2

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 2)

By | Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 57 Comments

Article updated 2018 Some women can be detached from casual sex Some women consider themselves progressive, and claim that sexual liberty is a must for women. Yes, it is. But on an overall percentage, more women than not will experience some suffering after casual sex (if the man isn’t committed). The trouble is that women usually have sex with men that have actual value. Research has shown that when women are looking for short term sex, or casual sex; they get very choosy and usually mate with the better men because there’s no shortage of willing men for just sex….

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The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 1)

The Secret Cost for Women When They Have Casual Sex (PART 1)

By | Attraction, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 38 Comments

Article updated 2018 One cold winter morning, Felesha Fox came running alongside her friend, Frances Fox. “Hahaha, look at all these male foxes chasing after me, Frances! There’s about 10 of them!” Frances, looking a little embarrassed and scared, turned around to see 10 male foxes or more, chasing her friend Felesha Fox. “Why don’t you have even one dashing lad chasing you down, like me?” “My dear friend Felesha, you are mistaken, I do have one dashing lad chasing me. He’s at home right now.” “Pffff. Just one fox? Don’t you want lots of them around you? Look at…

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Is Having Low Value Friends Even Worth It

Is Having Low Value Friends Even Worth It?

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 74 Comments

Article updated 2018 “Hi, could you write an article on how to recognize/meet/make friends with similar minded/good-hearted/positive women? Most of my friends tended to be kinda selfish, lazy, admitted being jealous of me for whatever reason even though I always praised them on the good I saw in them to make them love themselves, but they mostly focused on the negative. In the end, I realized I was drained being in their presence. I always gave and gave my time, understanding and loyalty, and very few times did I get the same care from them. I couldn’t tolerate being friends…

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Can Fear of Abandonment Make You More Beautiful

How the Fear of Abandonment Can Make You More Beautiful…

By | All, Attraction, Commitment, Confidence | 54 Comments

Article updated 2019 Can fear of abandonment make you more beautiful? Is there anything worse than dealing with someone who has become completely indifferent to relationship and life? I mean the people who have numbed themselves so much that they just don’t care. They don’t care about you, but more importantly, they’ve stopped caring about themselves. They choose to be thick and impenetrable. They choose comfort over love. Or they choose mediocrity over infinity. They’ve been denying what’s true of their deepest heart for so long that they seem to have become indifferent. And having indifference to your own need for…

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