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The Root of Ecstasy is also Attachment

The Root of Ecstasy is Also Attachment

By | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 40 Comments

Article updated 2018 Have you ever heard the popular quote by Buddha: “The Root of Suffering is Attachment”? It is highly possible that most of the self help books out there that have become popular, are written by masculine men, or women with a masculine essence. I feel like this quote by the Buddha is very true. BUT the opposite is also true. The root of ecstasy is ALSO Attachment. You could try telling my almost 9 month old son who still loves his breast milk that the root of all suffering is Attachment when he latches on for a…

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How to be Truly Feminine & Be Guided by Love

How to be Truly Feminine & Be Guided by Love, Not Fear

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 89 Comments

Article updated 2018 Happy New Year! I have found that we are most lonely and depressed as women when we make all our decisions from Fear. Essentially, for a woman, that looks like this: being dictated by our ‘heads’; making decisions from our heads, not our gut or our heart. Heady decisions are decisions made from old patterns. Patterns are a survival mechanism, and therefore come from Fear. Most of us live a year after year, guided by a series of millions of fearful decisions. I would take a guess and suggest that most of us are guided by Fear…

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The Most Feminine Women Make the Least Sense

The Most Feminine Women Make the Least Sense

By | Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 208 Comments

Article updated 2018 Women aren’t supposed to make sense. To men. We can make a lot of sense to each other (women to women); and that’s important for connecting with girlfriends. But the problem is that we deny ourselves the deliciousness that is living in our own true nature – the sensuality, the sexuality, the attractiveness that is truly US, when we decide that we should actually make sense to men, and mean everything we say and know what we’re talking about. (Click here to take the quiz “How Naturally Feminine Am I on Facebook?”) (A small aside: if you told…

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How to Attract a Man who Gives

How to Attract a Man who Gives you EVERYTHING

By | All, Attraction, Finding Love | 46 Comments

Article updated 2018 A diamond ring. A big set of arms to hold you tight and close with. A nice house. Marriage. Beautiful children. Why would a man ever give any woman any of these things? There are 3 reasons. 1) To keep her around and convenient until he finds ‘the one’. 2) Because she is everything. His whole world. And because he loves her so much. 3) Out of obligation. Which reason would you prefer? Reason 2? Well the only way you can ever have a man who provides you with these things is if you are truly being who…

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Think You’ve “Given too Much’

Think You’ve “Given too Much” to a Man? You Probably Haven’t.

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 42 Comments

Article updated 2018 “I gave too much and didn’t get anything back.” This is a common line. It’s also a lazy line. As well as an arrogant line. When we say this, we’re just angry. It’s something we say in an attempt to feel better about losing a man’s attention, or losing him altogether. (Click here to register and watch the Commitment Masterclass) Here’s the problem with that: You’re not giving anyone ANYTHING unless they perceive value in what you are giving. I’ll give you an example. I have a good school friend of 15 years. We both had a…

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This Does NOT Make You ‘Wife Material’

This Does NOT Make You ‘Wife Material’

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 55 Comments

Article updated 2018 My assistant Jenny forwarded me this question the other day: “I met my guy in Feb 2013 from Okcupid. In March 2013 (3weeks later) he asked me to be his girl. In April 2013 he asked me to move into his house. Aug 3, 2013, he broke up with me.- I cooked, cleaned, washed clothes, etc. I am wife material I know that much. Around May he started to back off, but I did not see the signs because I was still on a love high. Questions- Why would he give up a good woman? (he said I am…

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How to Radiate Deeper Femininity

How to Radiate Deeper Femininity and Attract Men You Can Trust

By | All, Attraction, Finding Love | 33 Comments

Article updated 2018 Listen to yourself when you are talking. Listen to others in a social situation, trying to fit in and ‘have a good ol’ time with the mates’. Listen to friends, to your lover, to your boyfriend. The words we speak are mostly blind to what is really going on inside. Words often try to minimize our own vulnerability and ability to feel. We say ‘Oh it’s okay…” When our real feeling is that we hate that person. We say ‘Oh maybe he was just….a little…forgetful. Or busy.” Well, what if we actually are angry at him? And…

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This is why men don't call often

THIS is Why Men Don’t Call More Often…

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 124 Comments

Article updated 2018 My man and I openly discuss relationship topics and the differences between men and women very often. We are both very passionate about it and this mutual passion is one reason I can write this blog. One day recently, my man David and I were having a conversation about why men don’t call and how women chronically over analyse when he doesn’t call – a conversation that just made me laugh in amusement. I laughed in amusement because no matter how many times I have a new realisation about how different a masculine man is to a…

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He Pays for His Ex Girlfriend’s Bills but Won’t Pay for Mine?

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 115 Comments

Article updated 2018 What to DO when your Boyfriend is still emotionally Attached to his Ex A question from Kira: “Dear Renee, After reading your writing for awhile now, I’d like your input on something. My boyfriend still shares his cell phone family plan with his ex girl friend, who he split up with two years ago. They work together she can easily pay him. Additionally, I manage his bills and pay it online for him. After about a year I brought it up, but he said he felt bad that it would be more expensive for her, so he…

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OK to need a man

It’s OK to Need A Man, It Really Is!

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 76 Comments

Article updated 2018 It’s ok to need a man. It’s ok because you choose to need a man. It’s ok to be a mature woman and make that conscious choice to need the right man. A good man. It’s ok to admit that you do (or have) needed your father. Or at least imply that your father is protective. Which is to openly imply that you allow your father to be in a role where you need him. (Click here to take the quiz “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) Why isn’t it ok to admit that you need…

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6 KEY Differences between a little girl and a woman

6 KEY Differences Between a Little Girl and a Real Woman

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 59 Comments

Article updated 2018 You may already be a woman in some areas of your life.  One thing is for sure…the area of intimate relationships is the place where most of us show up as little girls and little boys. Ironically…at the same time, we demand a man out of our partner. Or we claim that the dating market is full of little boys. The truth is…we wouldn’t be so enthusiastic to say there are tonnes of little boys in the dating market if we were showing up as a woman. Because a woman notices the little boys, but her attention…

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Why Cant I Be Loved for Who I am

Why Can’t I be Loved for Who I Am?

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 24 Comments

Article updated 2018 Why Can’t you be Loved for who You are? People often exclaim ‘Why do I have to DO something to find a man/woman? Why can’t I be loved for being ME?’ – You can. The catch is, you must relax and actually BE you. (Click here to complete the quiz on “How High Value High Status am I on FB?) Not the you that you think you should be. That’s not really YOU. You must choose to stop spending your life saying and doing things just so others will think you are cool and accept you. It’s…

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How to Deal with Fear of Being Alone

How to Deal with Fear of Being Alone and Him Leaving You?

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 68 Comments

Article updated 2018 If there was one thing I could have every woman understand about herself; it would be that our biggest fear is that we will be abandoned. With friends, this fear exists, with parents, it also exists, but nowhere is this fear more intense than dealing with men. (Click here to take the quiz “How Feminine Am I Actually”) Now, there are women in our population all over the world who are just more masculine; and it’s in their biology, not necessarily choice. A lot of women put out masculine energy by choice, but inside, they are really a…

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Are Men Intimidated by You

Are Men Intimidated by You or Just NOT Attracted to You?

By | All, Attraction, Finding Love | 252 Comments

Article updated 2018 Find out…Are Men Intimidated By You? Or Are They Simply Not Attracted to You? I remember several years ago, being about 20 years old, and I was out with a group of girlfriends. None of the men seemed interested in me. At least not compared to the number of men who were interested in my friends.  I felt devastated. The men seemed interested in my girlfriends, but not me. I couldn’t figure it out. Not that I was trying to actually figure it out; I was too busy feeling sorry for myself. One can’t get clarity when…

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ignore a guy who takes you for granted

What to Do If He Takes You for Granted

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 103 Comments

Article updated 2018 My question to you is this: is it true that your boyfriend or husband takes you for granted and only makes time for you when it suits him? Or is it that it’s too easy for you to feel like you are not special? (Click here to get your “Goddess Report”) In other words; are you making up the story that he only fits you in when it’s convenient for him, in your head? Here’s why I ask: feminine women seek attention; we thrive on it and we need it to feel feminine (many women will sell…

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