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Commitment

Should I Put More of the Blame on Men

Should I Put More of the Blame on Men for Failed Relationships?

By | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 71 Comments

Article updated 2018 “If the woman is being stupid and he’s being a jerk admit to both. It’s as if you’re were siding with the guy.” “Blame the men from time to time.” “Men are wrong, too!” I hear these statements from hurt and frustrated women from time to time. This letter is to you if you have ever felt like you are being asked to do ALL the work in a relationship with a man. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”) This letter is also to you if you have ever…

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what to do when he doesn't call

4 Steps to Maintain High Value When He Doesn’t Call or Text

By | All, Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 76 Comments

Article updated 2018 If you have been dating a man for less than 6 months, then it is likely that you are still in the process of proving your value as a potential mate to each other, so you’ll need to be aware of how to maintain that high value if you truly love the man you are with. High value. It’s the reason people try to play games, get plastic surgery, it’s the reason people try to be mysterious. Being mysterious and playing hard to get is really just an attempt to preserve our value as a mate. Because…

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Why Men Pull Away when you Need them

Why Men Pull Away When You Need Them the Most

By | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 71 Comments

Article updated 2018 What’s more scary than being with a man who suddenly disappears when you are hurting badly over something in your life? This lady named Sarah left this question on the blog in the comments section: “Renee, I love your articles they always make so much sense! I have a problem with my boyfriend. Ive known him for three years, and he is a very rough around the edges, ‘tough love’ kind of guy. He seems to be caring and loving and calling a lot mostly when things are good. But as soon as I am going through a…

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He’s not ‘Making EXCUSES’

He’s not ‘Making EXCUSES’, You Just Haven’t Inspired His Commitment

By | All, Commitment | 97 Comments

Article updated 2018 The word you use to describe another person’s actions is everything. I believe that the words you use, make you do amazing things in your life or terrible things. Because the words you use reflect the intent you infer upon others. In other words, you could be assuming hostile intent in a man when most humans truly have positive intent (at the very least, positive intent to make themselves feel a certain way). And of course, the words you use reflect the meaning you place on things. And that meaning could be ruining your relationships or inspiring them…

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How to Keep a Relationship After Repeated Breakups

How to Keep a Relationship After Repeated Breakups?

By | Commitment, Confidence, Relationship Issues | 40 Comments

Article updated 2018 Good day Renee, I have no idea where to start with this mail. I met Matthew when I was 18, that was 7 Years ago. We have had a very up and down relationship. We have two wonderful little boys together. For the first two years of our relationship was a fairy tale, and from there o, we have been arguing and fighting ever since. Everything will be fine for like three days and then for three days its arguing and fighting again.. It’s very exhausting. This is my problem, We were together for about 4 years…

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This Does NOT Make You ‘Wife Material’

This Does NOT Make You ‘Wife Material’

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 55 Comments

Article updated 2018 My assistant Jenny forwarded me this question the other day: “I met my guy in Feb 2013 from Okcupid. In March 2013 (3weeks later) he asked me to be his girl. In April 2013 he asked me to move into his house. Aug 3, 2013, he broke up with me.- I cooked, cleaned, washed clothes, etc. I am wife material I know that much. Around May he started to back off, but I did not see the signs because I was still on a love high. Questions- Why would he give up a good woman? (he said I am…

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This is why men don't call often

THIS is Why Men Don’t Call More Often…

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 127 Comments

Article updated 2018 My man and I openly discuss relationship topics and the differences between men and women very often. We are both very passionate about it and this mutual passion is one reason I can write this blog. One day recently, my man David and I were having a conversation about why men don’t call and how women chronically over analyse when he doesn’t call – a conversation that just made me laugh in amusement. I laughed in amusement because no matter how many times I have a new realisation about how different a masculine man is to a…

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He Pays for His Ex Girlfriend’s Bills but Won’t Pay for Mine?

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 116 Comments

Article updated 2018 What to DO when your Boyfriend is still emotionally Attached to his Ex A question from Kira: “Dear Renee, After reading your writing for awhile now, I’d like your input on something. My boyfriend still shares his cell phone family plan with his ex girl friend, who he split up with two years ago. They work together she can easily pay him. Additionally, I manage his bills and pay it online for him. After about a year I brought it up, but he said he felt bad that it would be more expensive for her, so he…

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How to Get Him To Propose and Marry You Without Looking Low Value

By | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 36 Comments

Article updated 2018 How do you “Tell a Man” that you want marriage? I got Mia’s problem in my mail box recently: “We have been dating for 3 years, the majority of which were spent long distance. I recently relocated to be with him, and I want him to propose. He seems to be more focused on buying a home for us than a ring. I’m confused because I have told him that one of my goals is to be settled into a home with a family of my own. Part of me thinks this is his way of setting…

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How Men Think

Don’t Expect a Man to Put more “Effort” in to Your Relationship than You

By | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 240 Comments

Article updated 2018 Whenever I suggest something like this, I risk a whole hoard of women hating me. Enough women hate my message as it is….and yet, it’s when I suggest this that I really feel women digging their nails in to me as if I have betrayed them and I am working against woman. Quite the contrary. When I say this, I say it from a place of understanding of masculine men. (Click here to take the quiz “How feminine am I actually”) I say it because I intend for more women in the world to have more happiness in their relationships…

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“Isn’t SHE Pretty?” He Asked Her…

By | All, Commitment, Confidence | 51 Comments

Article updated 2018 “Isn’t SHE Pretty?” He Said…find out this woman’s story by reading her email below This is a question from a wonderful reader who is just lovely. If you have some input for her, and if you have anything you want to tell her, it is much appreciated! Please leave your comments on the situation in the comments section below the post. “Hey Renee, I’ve been a longtime reader and subscriber of your blog and newsletters! I also got the 17 Attraction Triggers and they’ve been a huge help with my confidence. You’re doing a great thing and…

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ignore a guy who takes you for granted

What to Do If He Takes You for Granted

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 103 Comments

Article updated 2018 My question to you is this: is it true that your boyfriend or husband takes you for granted and only makes time for you when it suits him? Or is it that it’s too easy for you to feel like you are not special? (Click here to get your “Goddess Report”) In other words; are you making up the story that he only fits you in when it’s convenient for him, in your head? Here’s why I ask: feminine women seek attention; we thrive on it and we need it to feel feminine (many women will sell…

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10 Signs of a Commitment Phobic Man

10 Signs of a Commitment Phobic Man

By | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 128 Comments

Article updated 2018 As a woman, it’s not hard to get stuck in a relationship with a commitment phobic man! Even if you’re high value, sometimes you unfortunately make the mistake of getting involved with a man like this (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man? “) I truly believe in patience and understanding when it comes to men – yet sometimes, no amount of patience and understanding will get a man to be the man you crave him to be. And that’s ok. But before I say anything else, I just want to…

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What to Do If A Man Just Wants a “Casual” Relationship

What to Do If A Man Just Wants a “Casual” Relationship

By | All, Commitment | 40 Comments

Article updated 2018 If a Man is sending you Mixed Signals, read this The following is a question I received from a Commitment Control member named, “Angel”. Both David and I share our responses. Enjoy it. If there’s anything you feel Angel should do or know, feel free to post your thoughts in the comments section below the post. >>>>>>>>>>>> QUESTION Hi David and Renee, I have been receiving Renee’s emails and has subscribed to Commitment Control. Although I didn’t finish all the videos yet, it is really very helpful for me in understanding men and relationships in general. However,…

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growing apart in a long term relationship

Growing Apart in a Long Term Relationship

By | All, Commitment, Relationship Issues | 22 Comments

Article updated 2018 I have always been a big fan of Heidi Klum, she’s a busy woman, always doing something, a woman with great energy and a genuine love of life. So I am sad to see Seal and Heidi divorce; I have been inspired by their relationship in the past. It is one that has been frowned upon by jealous white men and some groups because of the racial difference – but what I always loved about them was that they looked so passionate and loving. (Click here to take the quiz on “Am I Dating a Commitment Friendly Man?”)…

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