If you want to have men attracted to you and committed to you in the long run, then you have to become more than just a one dimensional woman. In deed, you have to become “multi-dimensional”.

If you want to lose commitment from a man, and lose the passion and attraction he feels for you, then the quickest way to do is, is being one dimensional. In other words, be “boring”. (Click here to download your free copy of Goddess Report.)

One of the biggest mistakes many women (and men) make in their relationship is to be continually showing up as one kind of person, or the same person over and over. This is kind of like the nice guy who is always just nice, or the kind and caring woman who is always just kind and caring.

How would you feel if you were to eat the same food every single day for the rest of your life?

How would you feel if you were going to be confined to only one location for the rest of your life?

My point? It’s that we all need variety. The human body needs variety. We get sick of what is always familiar and available to us.

This is so important in an intimate relationship… let me explain why.

If you’re always showing up to be “one type” of person…whatever that type may be, then you’ll get boring eventually. It’s what I call…being “one dimensional”.

People who are one dimensional can’t see life from another angle. They’re stuck in their own limited idea of their own identity.

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Boredom and relationships don’t go too well together. In fact, boredom is one of those silent killers that don’t really appear in front of your face, but sits in the corner and does all the damage.

If you are not multi-dimensional, or don’t have many sides to you, then your relationship will eventually become boring. It may be fine at the start, (most relationships are…) but give it some time and boredom will set in.

When boredom kicks in, then the relationship is in trouble. Passion dissipates, as the relationship spirals downwards towards an end.

This is why embodying different parts of yourself is so important.

Being a feminine woman, the most important personalities you need are the light feminine and the dark feminine. Having both will give you depth and prevent any boredom from settling into your relationship.

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Super Janice

Ms. Renee, not all people need variety. I think I don’t!
If I were to eat MUSHROOMS every single day for the rest in my life, that’s FREEDOM for me because mushroom is my favourite!
If you were going to be confined to only one location for the rest of my life…if it is my favourite place, such as my home, it may be FREEDOM for me.
If I were going to sing one song only…it may be FREEDOM if that song is EXCITING.


Hmmm, am I imagining things or do the pictures on the feminine woman blog keep changing.

Well change is good either way.


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[…] There are, of course, situations in which a woman will feel and seem crazy, needs to raise her voice and get angry and that is fine. You don’t want to be one-dimensional. […]


The link to you program is not working.


Hi Tia,

That program was only available for a short time frame, that’s why it doesn’t work. 🙂

We now include segments in dark and light feminine and dark and light attraction in all of our programs.



The recent film black swan is a PERFECT example of what you are talking about….


Yes, exactly Jackie!


By that I mean paper back 😛


Renee, have you considered offering it in a form that isn’t online ?

I think alot of people would enjoy reading something like this with their morning coffee, etc.


Hi Reneé,

So true that boredom sets in when a person is one dimensional.. However, (not read the chapter yet, will now!) many times, it’s the man imo that tends to get boring and do same old, same old, while we ladies are proactive, up and about, creating new habits and tying social knots.. That’s at least what I experienced!


Thank You so much for your thoughts, comments and feedback lovely ladies. I love and appreciate that you have taken the time to tell me about your reading experiences! 😉

Lots of Love,



Hi Renee, Love your posts! With regard to chapter 1, it’s been a great read. I realised that I have been dark feminine for many years which was good and bad. The good being that i always went after what i wanted and got it, however the bad side is that there are consequences to all actions. And if you are not careful, you may abuse the power you have over people and it also becomes a game you play. I have found my light side which i had before going dark. It has been a challenge but i am… Read more »
The movie ‘The other Boleyn girl’ gives a fairly good explanation of light feminine and dark feminine through the medium of film. My favourite sister was the ‘dark feminine’ sister played by Natalie Portman. I really loved her character even though there were times I felt she was quite the bitch…(the bitch that as Renee put it aptly is in all of us). I felt sorry she had to be beheaded, but I guess we all have to pay a price for actions and choices… I think that presently we live in an age of predominantly light feminine. Dark feminine… Read more »

Hi Renee,

Thank you for this great read with my morning coffee!


Hi Renee

Just finished reading the first chapter of your new programme and I love it… It has the answers to many questions that I didn’t even know I had…lol

Keep up the good work! 🙂


Hi Renee

Thank you so much for the article i really enjoyed reading it and i have seen the mistakes i make in my relationship with my husband i used to think that being one dimensional was the key but i have realised my mistakes through your article and i will try my best to be multi dimensional. Your book will really help many people in relationships continue with the spirit of helping people in relationships.Thanks for sharing.

Golden Apple
Hi Renee! A very enlightening article and chapter! It really resonated with me because I have finally found an amazing guy, and we have been going out for almost a year, which is the longest I’ve been in a relationship. Things are great, but I definitely want to keep our bond strong. I am concerned that we may get bored with each other, and as I’ve gotten to know him better, I’ve discovered his fascination with different personality types. Discovering different parts of myself–my dark and light sides–is definitely the way to keep him interested while still being myself. Thank… Read more »
You explain the balance of being a woman and the whole difference/and or balance between men and women very clearly Renee. I have only come to realize and understand this later in life – but, better late than never. This probably sounds very naive, but I use to think there was not much of a difference between men and women, we are all human, only a different gender. But not so, life is so much more interesting than that! This is where the internet is so good. You can come across some real gems, and see what other people think,… Read more »

I can’t wait for this one – it really is about integrating those parts – but are some men more into one of those sides? I always felt that my ex hubby was into the dark, which was not a problem for me, – but when I showed a bit more of the light he didn’t want it. And I wanted to express that side a little more…. sometimes. I’ll be reading this!!

Wow! I am now reading this chapter and it’s great. I am very aware of my tendency to restricting myself to being just one type of person and I thought it was important to have a well defined image of who I am… you surely know what I mean because your writing captures this way of feeling and thinking too. And it never occured to me before that it may not be such a good thing… But maybe it actually would be beneficial to me to stop this restricting myself and now this text is encouraging to me to stop… Read more »

Very thought provoking! I am really starting to understand the concept of light/dark femininity the more I read. I kept feeling little light bulbs go on while I read Chapter 1!! 😀 A lot of what you were saying reminds me of some song or saying that says men want “A lady on the street but a freak in the bed” lol. They want the soft lady exterior AND the dark inner seductress. I really look forward to learning more. Thank you for sharing this!

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