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Why smart Women seek to appreciate & understand Men FIRST

Why Smart Women Seek to Appreciate & Understand Men FIRST

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 40 Comments

One too many a woman has protested my advice in anger, stating that we shouldn’t have to understand men, because what are men doing for US? Why can’t men understand US first? But Renee, what about the fact that not all men are the same? And what about the fact that understanding men is being a man pleaser? I’m going to answer these valid questions, because I understand the hesitation to ‘go first’ and understand them, when your world seems to be full of men who aren’t good enough to be in a relationship with. (Click here to take the…

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10 Reasons why we should Feel and Share our Pain

10 Reasons Why We Should Feel and Share our Pain

By | All, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 34 Comments

Have you ever thought; ‘if I can avoid feeling pain, why shouldn’t I?’ Or even thought ‘why feel pain if you don’t have to?’ You don’t have to, really. It is our personal choice. In fact, we as humans naturally have a drive to prefer comfort over pain. Most of us in the world spend our lives striving for comfort – physical and emotional comfort, rather than anything more or less. (Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”) That’s a great thing, we need periods of comfort in our lives… however,…

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Most Valuable Thing a Woman can Give to a Man

The Most Valuable Thing a Woman can Give to a Man

By | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 66 Comments

If you’ve ever asked yourself…’what do men want in a relationship?’ What makes a woman High Value so that she can have almost any man commit to her? (Click here to register to watch the “Commitment Masterclass”) I have an answer below. I can remember the handful of times I came to the realisation that I had been a taker and not a giver in my relationship with my husband. It’s an experience like no other. Because it’s exhilarating. It’s freeing. But before I felt exhilarated, I felt lonely as hell in that realisation and especially in the process of…

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new perspective on why women are abused

A Different Perspective on Why Male Partners Abuse Women (& how to stop it)

By | All, Commitment, Confidence, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 167 Comments

Warning: Abuse can be a very serious and very sensitive issue for many women… If you are already in an abusive situation, the perspective of this article may not always serve you, so please take caution in how you interpret this article. If you are in an abusive situation, then for your sake do everything you can to get out of there if you can. You are too important to be continually subjected to abuse, whether that’s physical, emotional, or sexual. You can review safety tips and guidelines for addressing an abusive situation, including getting help and support, understanding the…

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Sneak Peek in to the First Chapter of my New Book

By | All, Attraction, Finding Love | 95 Comments

I’m not sure you would have expected this kind of writing from me. It’s not from my usual angle, and it’s written differently. But it is the way I was ultimately lead to start writing this book. In it’s finished state, this book will be written as an ‘general and thorough’ book, going through all the biggest  problems for us women in our relationships and dating. Click here to download and check out the first chapter… The book will address what to do in dating AND in long term relationships. I will attempt to deliver a guide for women to have…

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How to Understand Women

A Letter to Men: How to Understand Women & Why Your Relationships Fail

By | All, Attraction, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 74 Comments

We love men here. Our intent is not to put the blame on you, as you are not to blame. We want you to know that we respect the man you are today, and honor you for being a man. If you find feminine women hard to understand, know that it’s not hard at all. Here is your manual to ensure that your future relationships don’t fail: 1) We LOVE that you can solve our problems. Your solutions matter to us, and we know that you are a great problem solver. Yet, most of the time, when we are talking…

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The Root of Ecstasy is also Attachment

The Root of Ecstasy is Also Attachment

By | All, Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 43 Comments

Have you ever heard the popular quote by Buddha: “The Root of Suffering is Attachment”? It is highly possible that most of the self help books out there that have become popular, are written by masculine men, or women with a masculine essence. I feel like this quote by the Buddha is very true. BUT the opposite is also true. The root of ecstasy is ALSO Attachment. You could try telling my almost 9 month old son who still loves his breast milk that the root of all suffering is Attachment when he latches on for a feed. It wouldn’t…

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How to be Truly Feminine & Be Guided by Love

How to be Truly Feminine & Be Guided by Love, Not Fear

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 91 Comments

Happy New Year! I have found that we are most lonely and depressed as women when we make all our decisions from Fear. Essentially, for a woman, that looks like this: being dictated by our ‘heads’; making decisions from our heads, not our pelvis, our reproductive region. Heady decisions are decisions made from old patterns. Patterns are a survival mechanism, and therefore come from Fear. Most of us live a year after year, guided by a series of millions of fearful decisions. I would take a guess and suggest that most of us are guided by Fear hundreds of time…

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The Most Feminine Women Make the Least Sense

The Most Feminine Women Make the Least Sense

By | Attraction, Confidence, Finding Love | 209 Comments

Women aren’t supposed to make sense. To men. We can make a lot of sense to each other (women to women); and that’s important for connecting with girlfriends. But the problem is that we deny ourselves the deliciousness that is living in our own true nature – the sensuality, the sexuality, the attractiveness that is truly US, when we decide that we should actually make sense to men, and mean everything we say and know what we’re talking about. (Click here to take the quiz “How Naturally Feminine Am I on Facebook?”) (A small aside: if you told a man who…

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How to Attract a Man who Gives

How to Attract a Man who Gives you EVERYTHING

By | All, Attraction, Finding Love | 49 Comments

A diamond ring. A big set of arms to hold you tight and close with. A nice house. Marriage. Beautiful children. Why would a man ever give any woman any of these things? There are 3 reasons. 1) To keep her around and convenient until he finds ‘the one’. 2) Because she is everything. His whole world. And because he loves her so much. 3) Out of obligation. Which reason would you prefer? Reason 2? Well the only way you can ever have a man who provides you with these things is if you are truly being who you really are….

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Think You’ve “Given too Much’

Think You’ve “Given too Much” to a Man? You Probably Haven’t.

By | All, Confidence, Finding Love | 44 Comments

“I gave too much and didn’t get anything back.” This is a common line. It’s also a lazy line. As well as an arrogant line. When we say this, we’re just angry. It’s something we say in an attempt to feel better about losing a man’s attention, or losing him altogether. (Click here to register and watch the Commitment Masterclass) Here’s the problem with that: You’re not giving anyone ANYTHING unless they perceive value in what you are giving. I’ll give you an example. I have a good school friend of 15 years. We both had a mutual friend in…

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This Does NOT Make You ‘Wife Material’

This Does NOT Make You ‘Wife Material’

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love | 57 Comments

My assistant Jenny forwarded me this question the other day: “I met my guy in Feb 2013 from Okcupid. In March 2013 (3weeks later) he asked me to be his girl. In April 2013 he asked me to move in his house. Aug 3, 2013 he broke up with me.- I cooked, cleaned, washed clothes, etc. I am wife material I know that much. Around May he started to back off, but I did not see the signs because I was still on a love high. Questions- Why would he give up a good women? (he said i am everything he has…

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How to Radiate Deeper Femininity

How to Radiate Deeper Femininity and Attract Men You Can Trust

By | All, Attraction, Finding Love | 35 Comments

Listen to yourself when you are talking. To friends, to your lover, to your boyfriend. The words we speak are mostly blind to what is really going on inside. And worse; the words we speak cause the men you WANT to ignore you or think ‘nope, not for me’ when they spend time with you. For the purpose of this article, I am going to assume that the men you WANT to attract are the men who see your vulnerability and want to take care of you. Forever. And adore you. (Click here to take the quiz “Am I Dating…

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This is why men don't call often

THIS is Why Men Don’t Call More Often…

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 147 Comments

My man and I openly discuss relationship topics and the differences between men and women very often. We are both very passionate about it and this mutual passion is one reason I can write this blog. One day recently, my man David and I were having a conversation about why men don’t call and how women chronically over analyse when he doesn’t call – a conversation that just made me laugh in amusement. I laughed in amusement because no matter how many times I have a new realisation about how different a masculine man is to a feminine woman, it’s…

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He Pays for His Ex Girlfriend’s Bills but Won’t Pay for Mine?

By | All, Commitment, Finding Love, Relationship Issues | 112 Comments

What to DO when your Boyfriend is still emotionally Attached to his Ex A question from Kira: “Dear Renee, After reading your writing for awhile now, I’d like your input on something. My boyfriend still shares his cell phone family plan with his ex girl friend, who he split up with two years ago. They work together she can easily pay him. Additionally, I manage his bills and pay it online for him. After about a year I brought it up, but he said he felt bad that it would be more expensive for her, so he wanted to wait…

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