I don’t normally like to call them “hobbies”, but rather, passions. Hobbies sort of seem like something you halfheartedly do just for the sake of doing something. Passions sound a lot more interesting. But, hobbies, passions, interests – whatever you like to call them; they’re extremely important in a woman’s life!
Sometimes, we need to get some more empowering and healthier ways to meet our needs. Hobbies are one of these ways. It’s important to keep your mind and body constantly growing – if you’re not growing, you’re dying!
Why hobbies or passions?
Because TV, chocolate and Netflix is not a quality way to meet your needs as a woman or as a human! TV is a distraction, unless you’re watching educational shows. TV is a life sucker, it is something that lazy people become addicted to – and I do not recommend it!
I have not watched TV since 2007. I’ve watched the odd Olympic event and maybe 30 minutes of random news and The Bold and The Beautiful at my mother in law’s (because she often keeps the TV on), and it has been my saving grace. Cutting out the TV is one reason why this blog has been in existence since 2009 – it is the reason I have delved in to my passion of helping women have deeply committed, passionate relationships.
Something else to consider is that we live very closed lives. Nowadays it’s all about which person is getting kicked off which reality TV show (so the general public has a cheap way to feel good about their lives), or which video was hot on YouTube – or who has better photos on Facebook. (Click here to take the quiz on “How High Value High Status Am I on Facebook?”)
Not to mention that for most young women, they no longer talk about what their greatest passion and interest is; what they’re doing to add to other people’s lives or what they’re doing to challenge themselves, it’s more about how drunk you got on Friday or Saturday night.
There are much healthier ways for a woman to spend her time – and there’s nothing wrong with having a good time, and having a drink but there IS something wrong when you feel you need to drink something, sniff something, inject something, swallow something, or smoke something in order to get yourself into a good mood.
So let’s take a look at some fabulous hobbies for women that will make us feel more like a woman, make us more interesting and charismatic, and more importantly – make us high value. When we add value to ourselves, we become higher value. And don’t cheap out on yourself – don’t just watch TV to feel connected or to meet your needs cheaply. I challenge you to get out of your comfort zone! You can never get the time that TV wasted back. Netflix isn’t going to say sorry when you regret the time you spent watching it.
When I say “hobbies for women” – I’m referring to anything that fulfills you at a deep level and recharges you and enriches your life (this doesn’t mean men can’t do the things I’ve listed!) – but mainly things I think will make you feel good for doing them. We all want to feel like we are enough – and it is when we habitually feel like we are not enough that we live mediocre lives of desperation.
To feel like we are enough – to feel confident, we must consistently be meeting our needs in superior ways. Quality passions is one way to achieve this.
Cooking is a wonderful thing to do. When it is done with love, you can fill people’s bellies with nutrition – which is more important than you think. It is nutrition that makes us heal, it is nutrition that makes us happy and capable. Eat the wrong things for long enough, and the consequences can be dire for our health and our potential. Cooking is also a hobby and an art that you can enjoy with your girlfriends, aunties, cousins, mum, grandma, etc. Experiment with making pretty Paleo cupcakes or healthy Paleo breads like this one. Much most importantly, it’s great if you can learn to cook very healthy and nutritious meals for your friends/family/boyfriend.
2. Ballroom Dancing
This is something more traditional, but what a great way to meet some gentlemen if you are single! Ballroom dancing is a fantastic way to improve your posture and increase poise and grace. Any of you traditional ladies out there who love to do classy things – this is a hobby for you!
If you’re in a relationship or married – you could even go with your husband or boyfriend – doing new things together will bring you a deeper sense of attraction and connection and you’ll have more fun, and grow together.
Most cities have a ballroom dancing studio, so jump on to Google and search for one nearest to you! Sometimes you can get your first lesson for free to get a feel for what the instructor is like and to work out whether it is really something for you.
If you would love to learn to be more expressive and alive, perhaps singing is a good way to add value to yourself. You can become a deeper woman, and become more connected to who you truly are – directing your energy away from obsessive thoughts and analytical thoughts, and towards expressing love and emotion through singing.
You can sing on your own. Sing along to your favourite song; and do it at the top of your lungs in private; to feel more open, expressive, alive and happier.
If you love music, perhaps you could even take some singing lessons?
However, if you don’t have the money for it – just start singing at home or in the car.
Most men ADORE hearing your feminine voice, especially when it’s singing in his ear! Singing might re-connect you with your feminine flow and get you out of your body’s masculine working habits. In fact, just as a secret between you and I – your feminine high pitched voice is one of the 17 Attraction Triggers that I write about.
There’s nothing quite like a woman who can sing – the feminine is all about life, and hobbies like dancing and singing can bring the feminine energy in to full force.
Singing can probably also help you to heal and connect with yourself. Never forget the value of connecting to yourself – knowing yourself, and owning your deep feelings is an unknown pathway to confidence – we lose confidence when we lose touch with our feelings.
If you are already a runner, or if you run regularly, you know how therapeutic running can be. Running is a great way to escape in to your own world, and to be left alone, if that’s what you like. I run a lot because I like to feel the wind on my face, the rain in my hair, and I just like to feel the freedom of running.
If you find running hard – and you’re not “motivated”, take BABY STEPS. Start by running to the end of the street and back. And then increase by 100m the next day, and so on.
People start and inevitably give up on things like running because they expect too much from themselves from the beginning, and it feels like too much. But if you start small, and slowly INCREASE the mileage – you feel a special thing called “progress”, and progress is what really makes us happy. (Click here to take the quiz on “How Naturally Feminine Am I Actually?”)
Remember progress is the most important thing. Don’t settle for “I’m not a good runner”. Unless you have low standards for yourself. Running is a wonderful hobby or passion to have – cherish it!
5. Horse riding
You need to do new things, to challenge yourself to stay mentally sharp; and to maintain your skills in being present with life. Horse riding is great for learning to be present because you need to get a feel for each horse you ride, and be connected to the horse.
If you’ve never tried horse-riding, you could always consider it, and give it a go. Learning to be connected to a horse is such a wonderful and challenging experience that can get you out of yourself. It can get an introvert in to the challenging place they need to be, and it can get a home-body in to a place of discomfort and learning.
Horse-back riding can bring you closer to nature, and it’s something you can do alone or with your friends, family or your man. It’s a great way to spend a weekend away, to spend time as a couple, and not to mention horses are beautiful creatures!
If you don’t have the time or money to own a horse (which is an enormous responsibility), there are plenty of places around for trail-riding or even beach rides or rides for couples.
Here is a beginner’s website where you can learn more about horses, how to ride them, what to do and what you will need.
Curling up with a good book is always nice! But reading (non-fiction) really helps to broaden the mind and make you more interesting in conversation. Fiction books are great, too. Reading can improve your writing skills, if you are into writing. Reading also allows you to connect with, and get inside the minds of great women and men throughout history.
The only thing you need to be careful of is to not get too over-involved with a fiction book if it hasn’t got a very positive message. If you get over-involved in a book that’s full of negativity, it could dampen your mood a little too much – and make you see the world in a terrible way.
If you have access to a library card, you can read nearly any book you want without burning a hole in your pocket. And certainly don’t forget eBay as a potential source for great, cheap books!
7. Learning a Foreign Language
Women are great at connecting with other human beings – but sometimes, when there’s a language barrier, this can be hard. So if you plan to visit any new country long-term, or just want to become bilingual or multilingual, why not learn a new language?
You know how people tell you that you learn languages best when you’re a child? Well, it turns out that that wasn’t totally true. Famous author of “The Four Hour Work Week”, Timothy Ferris, will show you how you can absolutely learn a foreign language in 3 months (I’ve heard of adults doing it in less time).
Having already done this himself, Tim is a very dynamic human being who finds new ways to accomplish things in crazily small time-frames!
Blogging is a wonderful way to express yourself and to share your stories, knowledge and passion with other people. You can “meet” people from all over the world through a blog, and form great online (and perhaps face-to-face in the future) friendships this way!
People love stories, and love high quality information for free. If you have any gifts that you want to share with the world, or even just knowledge that other people could benefit from, you can easily put it out on the internet and add value to the world. It’s hard to get started with a blog when you have no internet traffic yet – but you can learn to build traffic. Problogger is one of the best sites with great information on starting a blog, and growing a blog.
Alternatively, you could use your blog to update your family, friends and colleagues about your life. It’s a great tool to use whilst traveling or when you’re away from your loved ones. Parents love to read their kids’ blogs (perhaps there are exceptions).
Just be mindful of the things you DO say, as you might end up losing your job over your blog like Heather Armstrong did over at DOOCE. All-in-all, blogging is a great hobby/passion for women – and you can even co-write a blog with a friend.
Sparkly, glittery and shiny things are always a delight! What a great way to create and share your art. Doing something like this with passion and with your touch of uniqueness also makes men more attracted and drawn to you. (Of course that’s not the only reason why you should start jewelry making!)
Not only that, but you can give away the jewelry you make as gifts for others! It’s a very personal gift, since it would be made by you. It’s a great way to give memorable gifts.
Or…why not make jewelry for yourself? You can also take classes on jewelry making, and you may find that jewelry making can earn you money whilst expressing your feminine creativity.
Candle-making isn’t too complicated; you can purchase candle-making supplies from different arts and crafts stores to aid you in starting this hobby. This is a great way to create a sensual and loving mood using your own candles, made the way you want!
You can also make candles with different shapes and scents. What a great idea!
If you’ve ever seen a belly dancer, you’ll know just how womanly she looks! What an amazing hobby for women. It accentuates all your curves, and can help you show the world who you really are – the infinite, creative version of you. The goddess is an integral part of the feminine sexual energy. And, belly dancing is a fabulous way to increase feminine radiance and beauty.
Of course, this feminine art often enchants and captivates men. Most cities have places where you can learn belly dancing. Just give them a call and perhaps do a trial class if you can, to see if you like it. Or, go with a friend. If you really enjoy and get good at it, you can even become a performer! (Click here to learn to unleash your goddess from within, download the “Goddess Report”)
You know that feeling where you are free to just “create” and “be” whatever you want? Painting, perhaps like you see a small child would do – could simply be your way to get your feelings out. We all have to numb ourselves to our feelings somehow – feeling everything would be far too painful, especially if you are a sensitive soul. Painting purely for yourself can be a way to put those feelings out on paper – even if no-one else ever sees it, you get to connect with who you are; and that is priceless.
Painting can give you a lot of self-satisfaction, and paintings will last a lifetime. You can put them up around the house. A lot of women refuse to get artistic because they think they’ll never be good at it, or that they’ll never be able to be wonderful painters/drawers.
This is untrue. Classes with a great teacher can really help you improve your painting and drawing skills.
Drawing as a hobby will cost a lot less than painting will. You can get yourself some art pencils and a notebook and draw or even doodle in your free time. Art stores, hobby stores and even private tutors can provide art and painting classes.
If that costs too much for you, you could even get a hold of some cheap lessons from a “how to” video on YouTube.
13. Toastmasters/Public Speaking
Being the number one fear of all humans, if you can conquer this one you are sure on your way to being a very confident woman.
You may be wondering how on earth you would get started in this, and what you would talk about! Well, thankfully there is an international non-profit organization called “toastmasters’ which is usually available in 106 countries. Basically, whoever wants to go, can go and improve their public speaking skills. You can talk about anything you want to talk about, and it can be an impromptu speech, or a speech prepared already by you. If you’re particularly passionate about a subject, why not give public speaking a go? It’s likely that you may find a toastmasters meet-up group near you!
Public speaking is a great hobby for women who want to increase their influence and to get their message out! At toastmasters, you will get honest feedback from like-minded members.
For a little more background information on public speaking, and how to prepare, please see the famous Tim Ferris article on how he prepares for public speaking.
I have included video-making, and I think it might be the single most important thing for you to start doing; with the exception of photography. Why? Because memories. People are lazy with their memories, and they don’t value their memories…so they do not record enough videos or take enough photos.
However, photo taking only gives you a tiny glimpse of the moment. This is why video-making is better…And I am suggesting that you make videos of your family and friends, and of your travels – the key is to find ways to not be boring and create a memorable video for your older self to look back on – as well as other people’s older selves.
Record the important moments and the no-so-important moments. And then, get creative with your videos – you can then share them on facebook if you feel like it.
What makes a video great? New perspectives. Consider this video by the very popular Casey Neistat. It is called “Make it Count” and it will give you a tonne of ideas of new ways to record your life moments, or your travels.
Do it – make a simple video for your own personal memories. Why is it important? Because we often forget how wonderful some moments were – and when we forget, we don’t become ungrateful – we don’t cherish our life moments, the conection we had and the warmth we experienced. recording memories allows you an avenue to re-experience wonderful moments when you get lonely or feel like life sucks. yes it takes effort – but it is a non lazy, respectable way to add incredible value to you, and your life.
15. Lap Dancing/Striptease
The kind of thing strippers do? Yes, Lap dancing. Far from being slutty and tasteless, lap dancing (or erotic dancing/striptease) when done only for yourself or your man can do amazing things for you. It helps you access your dark feminine energy; and it helps you to release your dark feminine energy – the parts of you that other people have wanted you to push down all of your life (because it triggers them). It might add value to your sex life and it is a very feminine thing, too.
Lap dancing is fun because you can include a whole lot of different props and feathers, hats, sexy outfits, costumes and your favorite music! It will CERTAINLY get your man’s attention!
Erotic dance and lap dancing is PLAYFUL! You can get lap dancing classes at pole dance studios or any erotic dance studio.
Still unsure? Why not watch Salma Hayek get her sexy erotic dance moves on? 🙂
Knitting is really quite an old style hobby for women (although it is still enjoyed even by men around the world). Although some may think it’s old-fashioned, knitting is a great creative outlet for women, and it’s great to feel the self-satisfaction when you know the knitted garment is made by you!
You can knit for your friends, children, husband, boyfriend….anyone!
If you want free knitting patterns and more information on knitting, please visit dailyknitter.
If you feel you’re not particularly the arty type but would like to be, consider photography. It ranks high among the group of easy-to-start hobbies for women. You can start with just your phone camera or en entry level DSLR camera. With digital editing software becoming cheaper and more accessible, almost anyone can start photography!
The great thing about photography is that you can combine it with other interests. If you love nature, snap some photos on your next outdoors trip or hike. Love people? Snap some great photos of your family and friends!
18. Food Styling
Maybe even a little more creative than cooking, food styling is often a bit of a fascination for a lot of people! You can decorate salads, cakes, cookies, pastries, etc. The best thing about this is that you can give it your own touch and give others something to remember you by! You can create your own signature pastry, cookies or cake with your special twist.
If you would like to get serious about food styling, you can always join a decorating class. And you can always turn this hobby in to a business if you are truly passionate!
Another hobby that brings out a woman’s creative side – gardening can be very relaxing and rewarding – if you commit to taking care of your garden. Grow your own veggie patch for good health – or just make your home look pretty and inviting!
If you want to find a good way to add your own feminine touch to your home or the world, gardening is great – and is often a great source of admiration for other people. This hobby is even accessible for apartment-living. Only the technique is a little different and there may be less space.
Whilst it is fun, gardening can also be quite challenging and you will need to know a thing or two if you don’t. Visit garden.org for a wealth of information to get you started!
If you’re the kind of woman who is contribution-minded, this is for you. If you’re not contribution-minded, perhaps when you feel ready, you could consider volunteering?
Everyone has a gift they can give to others. Volunteering is also a great way to seek fulfillment and to appreciate your own life more.
Volunteering can open your eyes to the plight of others, and it’s also a great way to meet other men and women who want to give to others. There are many ways you can give. You can give your time, money effort – anything you want to give.
Audrey Hepburn did made an unforgettable impact through her work with UNICEF (WARNING: this video may potentially make you teary).
It can be difficult to find a volunteering organization that does not ask you to pay to volunteer (albeit a small amount) and to go with an organization that doesn’t require you to pay can mean a fair bit of effort involved through applications and selection, but if you are serious about contributing, consider the following organizations:
Writing is a great hobby for women who love words, have a way with words and enjoy being creative. You can write letters, little stories modelled from your favourite short stories, and eventually, you can even write a book (these days, you don’t have to jump many hurdles to get a book published), check out BLURB for easy publishing at NO up-front costs.
When it comes to writing, you can write poems, make photo books and write about the photos, and even write letters to your friends. Writing is a good way to channel your thoughts and can make you a better communicator.
If you were good at writing in school, this may be a good option for you. Perhaps you can even just keep a diary and write down random ideas that come to you throughout the day for stories, books, poems or letters.
If you enjoy letter writing, that may be an option, and you can even get in to the cool stuff like fine stationery and fountain pens. Even though computers have taken over our lives, writing hand-written letters can show it comes from your heart, and people appreciate hand-written letters more than ever!
22. Pole Dancing
Pole dancing is a performing art as well as a sport. It’s a combination of gymnastics and dancing.
More recently, artistic pole dancing has been included in a non-erotic environment using Chinese poles and in circus-cabaret as well as stage performance. Of course, pole dancing is great for fitness and core strength. Lots of women treat it very seriously and truly enjoy competing, but pole dancing can be done just for fun, and you can also buy your own pole and install it in your home so you can practice!
If normal pole dancing does not feel right for you, you can even try something like pole jam (dancing and using the pole to jam around), which focuses more on dancing, your dance fluidity and requires only simple, fun and playful pole work.
If you think pole dancing is only for a certain “type” of woman, and think it’s not graceful, check out this sensational video first. Like anything, you put your own touch in to it, and it becomes as graceful or classy as you want it to be.
Just secretly: Pole dancing is also It’s a great opportunity to use your feminine triggers to attract and get a man’s blood boiling uncontrollably.
23. Flower Arrangement
This is a real feminine art, and you can start by yourself and do it in your own home. If you don’t want to keep replenishing flowers, you can even use fake (yet still beautiful) flowers and arrange them and place them in vases throughout the house.
This is an accessible hobby for anyone, even if you’re not a florist and professionally trained. All you need is your love, care and your creativity!
This site has flower arranging tips and articles.
If you don’t have a gym membership, but have always really wanted to get one, when would now be a good time to get one?
A gym membership can be one of the most valuable things for women. You don’t have to be afraid to start lifting weights – just speak with a female personal trainer and get a few sessions before you start doing your own workouts.
At a gym, you can do light weights, join classes, do stretching (which is extremely important for fitness), and even make friends.
One of the best things about the gym is that even if it’s freezing cold where you are, you have NO excuse not to go!
And, if you want a place where you can exercise with minimal impact on the joints, go to the gym and use the cross trainer or the stepper! These non-impact exercises are wonderful for toning your muscles, and helping you shape your legs.
It’s NEVER too late to start. The gym gives you many different choices and options, and if your gym has a pool, even BETTER!
If you are looking for some new, reliable strength training exercises, Mercola Fitness has wonderful video tutorials featuring proper trainers who show you how to do some of the best, most functional (and sometimes challenging) strength training exercises.
The best thing about swimming regularly, is that it provides you an opportunity to get in to a bit of resistance exercise without the use of heavy weights. Swimming can do wonders for your body and when done consistently, can really tone the muscles all over.
Swimming is often overlooked as a form of exercise in our modern society, but even if it’s the only exercise you do, swimming will give you amazing health benefits.
The other great thing you can do in a pool is water running, which involves the use of a shallow pool, and you just run up and down the lanes. More fantastic resistance exercise without the use of heavy weights, and if you’ve got aches and pains, or have any injuries, swimming is a great way to help heal those.
If you do any other sports, swimming is a key way to cross-train as well.
Aromatherapy involves using volatile plant oils and essential oils for relaxation, spiritual health and psychological health.
If you have a very busy schedule, and a hectic lifestyle, aromatherapy may be for you. In fact, aromatherapy is great for any woman. Choose scents that you love and that have a profound effect on you. Different people will respond to different scents.
You can either inhale essential oils or apply them to the skin. Shops like Aveda have beautiful spray-on scents. You can even just purchase some essential oils and put small droplets in to a bath. But essential oils should never be applied to the skin undiluted! It can cause irritation.
Visit Aromaweb for fantastic information on aromatherapy.
And remember that anything you apply to the skin has a very real chance of being absorbed in to the blood stream, so apply small amounts and choose carefully.
If you apply essential oils to the skin, it can become your unique signature scent, even replacing perfume!
27. Collecting antiques
It goes without saying that some women are definitely collectors! Some love to keep pretty, interesting things! Collecting antiques can range from furniture to clocks to Chinese teapots. It all comes down to individual taste, but the hobby of collecting antiques requires that you at least be a little bit informed about what is good and what is not.
If you love Sunday markets, or just markets in general, this hobby could be a very real option for you.
Whether you’re a beginner or an advanced collector, the site how to collect antiques will be of great help to you.
2 BONUS HOBBIES
Playing Board Games
Remember how fun board games are? Yes, you do! Only, these days, a lot of people are unfortunately on their phones during family time…which is disappointing and it takes away from genuine in-person fun and connection. Humans have used games a lot throughout history in order to bond and value each other’s company. Why don’t you take the lead in your family and suggest a good board game?
Brazilian Jiu Jitsu
Generally, less women than men engage in jiu jitsu, however, that is no reason to not choose jiu jitsu! It is exceedingly good for getting in to shape, because it engages the entire body and mind – it is an intense sport. Jiu Jitsu is also a sport that teaches you humility. You might even make decent friends through jiu jitsu, because starting jiu jitsu enters you in to a sisterhood/brotherhood that is unique.
NOTE: This article has been updated as of June 2017. Do you have anything to add to this list of hobbies? What’s your favourite hobby? What hobby do you want to discover?
If you’re already experienced with a hobby on this list, please offer some tips for those women who are just starting out. What things would I need to know? Do share your knowledge with us 🙂