Comments on: How to Respect A Man

By: myriam

myriam — Sun, 14 Apr 2013 23:17:30 +0000

Renee this is yet another awesome article by you. Iam learning so much from youinto my relationship and I am seeing great results…Thank you so muchfor your work.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Tue, 09 Apr 2013 02:47:05 +0000

Most woman don’t know how to respect men these days and the other way around too; it is a vicious circle. I’m a nice guy that is tired of being verbally abused by women thus I have made the personal choice not to share myself in any relationship now. I am happy being single to the day I die. Sorry ladies too late!

By: Certainly The Truth

Certainly The Truth — Fri, 05 Apr 2013 02:10:41 +0000

most of the women today don’t know how to respect us men, and they are so very nasty to talk too nowadays and do curse at us much of the time. ATTITUDE PROBLEM.

By: Ali

Ali — Fri, 22 Mar 2013 15:28:09 +0000

So you attract more alphas because they are picking up on your “feminine/SUBMISSIVE” cues? I’ve always been attracted to and equally attracted alpha types. I am married to a fantabulous alpha male. I didn’t see where submissiveness was part of her suggestions. I am not submissive. Times I tried to play that part, it backfired. It’s not in my nature to be submissive or be seen as such. A man who needs a submissive woman is damaged goods in my opinion. A man you can respect (and be attracted to) respects you and doesn’t need you to be submissive.
If I were to act submissively, my husband would know I was faking. I show him respect by being his biggest cheerleader, trusting his abilities and most importantly appreciating his sacrifices, capabilities and efforts. As a feminine woman I do the things that come naturally for me, to compliment all of the things he does. In areas where he is not strong (not many), that is where I focus energy to improve myself to take it on as one of my roles.
All that said, I appreciate this article. Relationships require effort. I need to be reminded to keep working on respect for him because it makes us BOTH feel good. I myself make the mistake of mothering him sometimes and that is a big no-no. My guy does not enjoy that. I make my mistakes, I can always improve. Thanks for the refresher!

By: Lissah

Lissah — Mon, 18 Mar 2013 13:31:09 +0000

I love u n ur work is gud thnx alot am nt in a relationsp bt am learnin so much may God abound ur knwledge

By: Bill

Bill — Sun, 10 Mar 2013 19:38:03 +0000

most women nowadays don’t respect men anymore, i guess they don’t know how.

By: Bambi

Bambi — Fri, 08 Mar 2013 12:25:07 +0000

Your thoughts resonate with me. Only wish I had this knowledge earlier in my life. Recently realized my deep attraction to Alphas. I’ve been out of touch with my feminine core, and overly vested in feminism. Your blog is refreshing Thank you!

By: Star42

Star42 — Thu, 21 Feb 2013 15:01:35 +0000

Hi Felix. I’m sorry for your pain but applaud your honesty. Something that might help clarify your understanding is this: women often see love and respect as two different things, while men often see them as either the same or inseparable. If you and your ex-girlfriend agree that some of your behavior was not respectable, then if that behavior changes for the better (permanently) you can repair your love relationship by rebuilding that lost respect.

To answer your questions:
1) Yes, though painful you need to hear her out. You can express your hurt but also admit that you have made mistakes that you recognize and want to change. Sometimes when people are hurt they say things out of pain.
2) While you are working on you, take time to evaluate the relationship. If you shared love and are compatible (can meet each others needs) and you can forgive her frustration with your behaviors, and have stopped those behaviors because you also agree they were not appropriate, then yes, forgive and take steps to get to know each other again and see what develops (she too will need to forgive).. You both deserve love, respect and friendship in your relationship. Wishing you the best on your journey of self.

By: Felix

Felix — Thu, 14 Feb 2013 00:09:43 +0000

Hi All,

I was recently in a long term relationship that ended with my girlfriend at the time telling me that she does not respect me. It’s been very hard to deal with this, mainly because I can not deny that there were some behaviors and traits I displayed that were indeed not very respectable. I ended up loathing myself for a few months.

Im relatively young. It was my first real love and relationship, and I made mistakes. Also, I was (and still am) trying to figure out who I am. I know I was not always the most confident guy, I’ve always had a problem with self esteem. I have my shortcomings, no doubt. All that being said, I still feel very slighted and hurt that she would say this to me.. I guess I have two questions:

1. Do you think it’s ok for a woman who claims to love a man to tell him this? Must I accept that I deserved to hear this from her?

2. When I finally figure my shit out and become the man I want to be, should I seek her out again? Should I welcome her if she recognizes my progress and comes back? My instinct and admittedly my pride tell me no, but after reading this post I’m starting to think that I shouldn’t hold it against her for not being able to respect me.

By: Heestarr

Heestarr — Wed, 23 Jan 2013 10:13:14 +0000

This is awesome,,,wish every woman could get her way here to learn!! Thanks Renee GOD BLESS!