To find a great man and have a lasting relationship with him, you Need:
….To be willing to sacrifice the immediate gratification you might get in any man who seems available to fill your loneliness.
….To learn to love the parts in a great man that scare you the most.
….To be willing to forget what your family and friends THINK is best for you. It’s your life, not theirs.
….To be willing to change (or positively influence) your friendship group. They are the ones who have the most powerful influence over your thinking and your choices in men. note: if all your friends are single, or single and angry, you want to give this point some extra thought.
….To be willing to give 3 times the value before you ask for anything in return from a man.
….To be willing to accept the possibility that perhaps, what most men want the most in a relationship is NOT sex. See this article for more.
….To be willing to seek out a great education on men, dating and relationships. This is an area of life nobody teaches us about (very cruel I believe). And what we THINK works to fix or maintain a relationship is usually not correct. Your relationship needs deep care and thought, and what works to maintain passion and love is usually counter-intuitive.
….To be willing to stop trying to control everything and analyse everything but instead…start living. Your femininity will shine, and you will start to attract better men.
….To be willing to seek out an understanding of men, instead of demanding they understand you first. Understanding Men benefits you the most. Not the man. It benefits you by allowing you to make better choices in men, waste less time, and to be able to be an enchanting goddess to Men and attract the best men out there.
….To be willing to not take advice from the type of women around you who have more judgements of men than appreciation of men.
….To be willing to sacrifice comfort and being fake for what is Real.
….To be willing to value something more than just your own selfish wants.
….To be willing to consider that fact that…you’re usually a little bit more Afraid of having a relationship than you are Motivated to enter one.
….To be willing to accept that yes, a great man wants to see your vulnerability, not just your body.
….To be willing to actually care. When it’s hard. Most women simply don’t have the courage to do this. And it takes practice. I believe true love is worth this and more.
….To be willing to accept that we don’t automatically ‘deserve’ a great man, we earn a great man by transforming ourselves first.
….To be willing to put as much energy in to the List of who You have to become to attract a great man as you did put in to the list of what You want in a man.
….To be willing to make friends with, and learn from the women who have already attracted a great man. They are not your enemy, and you don’t need to be jealous of them, even though seeing what they already have that you don’t yet have, may magnify your deepest fears and pain.
….To be willing to get to the End of this post and not cry: “but when is it time for MEN to do the work in a relationship!!” – maybe it’s time to stop feeling like you lost out and start appreciating that you tried along the way and it didn’t work out the way you wanted, and that is ok.
Thanks for reading! Please add your advice and dot points to this list below in the comments section. I look forward to hearing from you!