What is Femininity and How to Be Your Feminine Self

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“What is Femininity?”

The fact that we have to ask that question says a lot about how difficult it can be to begin letting your femininity show. Most us who are over the age of 5, for example, don’t need to ask “what is a foot?” or “what is an apple?” because it’s obvious to us. Femininity isn’t obvious to us. And it’s frustrating.

Many women find it easy to start the surface version of femininity: buy lots of dresses, wear make up, buy lots of shoes.

But what does this do? It merely makes us LOOK feminine.

All some women need to do after that is just open their mouths and speak, and the label of “femininity” can disappear. That’s right, being a woman doesn’t mean you show up to other people as a feminine woman.

Does every man seem masculine to you? I doubt it.

Femininity and masculinity is an energy that you give to others. (read my article about masculine skills you should have in dating)

So what is Femininity?

I have been meaning to write this post about what femininity is for so long. I wrote about 5 drafts of it and it’s been sitting in my drafts for months and month on end. In fact I think I started the first draft over a year ago.

Then I scrapped it, put my head in my hands and said what I usually say to myself when I’m trying to answer a question I don’t yet have the answer to – which is:

“You can’t truly know and understand what something is until you’ve earned it.” And by earned it, I mean, truly LEARNING something, through my own life experience. So that it’s authentic.

I’m happy to say I learned. But in case you don’t want to know all about that….

Here is the short answer to what femininity is and how to be your feminine self:

Femininity is what you show to the world through your actions when you no longer feel like you are not enough(read my articles about how to be feminine)

The Long answer…

It’s you being more of yourself. The real you. The authentic you, beneath the layers of walls you’ve built up to protect yourself from pain.

Femininity is what you show to the world through your actions when you no longer feel like you are not enough.Not beautiful enough, not strong enough, not smart enough. Not sexy enough. It’s the energy you give out when you are not trying to be something other than yourself.

Because for as long as we feel like we are not enough, we always wear MASKS. And it’s these masks that make us act fake and try to prove ourselves to men, or make a naturally more feminine woman act masculine when that isn’t really her true nature.

As for how to show up as your feminine self: stop trying to GET love from men. Know that you are already worthy of it. And stop trying to get love from women. And stop trying to GET love from your parents. You ARE already enough. And give love first. When you give it first, you are the real you. You are vulnerable, and authentic, and you are living true to your feminine essence.

The only way you can give love first, is to feel like you are enough.

By the way, the same is true for a masculine man.

If a man stops focusing on what he has to do to be ‘enough’, to be the strongest, fastest, funniest, richest, biggest, most successful, and maybe have the biggest penis, and instead knew he was enough already, then his true masculine essence would show up. Because he is being more of HIMSELF.

There’s nothing worse than being with a man who thinks he has to keep trying to prove himself to women, no? How can he be your man if he keeps thinking he needs to do this and that to get your acceptance?       

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Here’s how I learned what femininity really is

I always knew that true feminine energy shows up when you remove your ‘masks’ and get to your true feminine core. But I didn’t know what those masks were. The idea sounded great. Years ago, maybe 4 years ago, I started becoming more feminine by wearing ribbons in my hair. Then I started speaking softer.

That was great, but it didn’t really do it for me.

It was only when I had a really, really bad few days that I “got” it.

I was feeling lonely. Of course, I wasn’t actually lonely. I was feeling lonely.

And the worse thing was, I had everything I wanted. My career was where I wanted it to be. I have my lovely dog, Lady. I have close and amazing, treasured friends. I have an amazing relationship. I have a fiancee I am in love with; and we have a passionate, wonderful life together. But something was missing and it was driving me crazy.

The Problem of Emptiness…

I was feeling so EMPTY of love. Empty of praise. EMPTY of acceptance. And appreciation. But I didn’t have the answer as to WHY. I just knew I felt really, really bad. And the longer I ignored it, the worse it got. You probably know what this is like. And really, I just feared the emptiness. I didn’t want to feel it and be reminded that I might not be enough for those around me. (read my article about our deepest fears)

So what did I do? Well, as disappointing as it is for me to say, I started taking it out on the ones I love most. My parents. My man.

I made up a story in my head of how this was wrong and that I wasn’t getting such and such from them that THEY should be giving me. What a joke. I thought they owed me something. They owed me acknowledgement. They owed me praise.

But the truth was: I was in pain because I wasn’t giving my gift. And my true gift comes from my feminine core which is love. I wasn’t being true to who I really am. And I realised that, I was looking for outside reasons to stop FEELING. Feeling pain, and fear.

But the problem is…..actually FEELING things fully, and through….and breathing through the worst emotions we have…and allowing them to well up in our bodies…is KEY to being more of your feminine self. 

We might think we feel jealous, angry, and critical and taken for granted….but all it is, at the core of it, is FEAR. Fear that we are not enough. That’s it. And when we feel like we are not enough….man or woman, we cannot be truly feminine or truly masculine.

So this is what I was doing: I was running around, trying to make others pay for the loneliness I had created within myself. Which, by the way, is a complete illusion. No one is ever truly lonely, are they?

Are there a hundred people out there you could find right now to start a conversation with? Absolutely.

Are there thousands of people waiting for you to remind them that they are enough? For sure.

Are there hundreds of people you can touch with a life story of your own? Yup.

Are there thousands upon thousands of men out there, waiting to connect with a woman who has the courage to truly be herself? Who has the confidence he craves to just let him be a man? Why, YES.

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So I started making up in my head that I wasn’t getting enough from the people around me. And my relationships got lonelier. I felt LESS love from everybody around me, and I felt less and less love for myself.

Which is the most painful thing to experience, isn’t it? Because others can always love you, but you still don’t feel loved because you don’t love yourself. And then it’s only YOU who can take responsibility for this.

It wasn’t until one day, it got so bad, I actually woke up for two days in a row, and first thing in the morning, I called my man up and started complaining and crying down the phone about a problem in my life outside of our relationship, that he knew nothing about and that wasn’t his responsibility that I realised: I was making up a problem out of nowhere.

There’s nothing wrong with calling a man up and crying, or even making a problem out to be bigger than it is (women do this, it’s in the nature of the feminine to make things seem bigger and more dramatic. Masculine men make everything smaller).

It wasn’t that I was making a problem bigger; it was the fact that I was making up stuff to avoid facing the fear that I am not enough, and actually feeling that.

I was trying to take from my man, hoping I’d get the praise and appreciation I wanted; but really should have been giving to myself first.

So when I felt myself getting way out of hand, I excused myself, got off the phone….and finally LET myself feel the emptiness and fear I was feeling.

Women and Avoiding Emptiness

And it is this EMPTINESS that every single feminine woman on earth is trying to avoid. We hate emptiness when we are in our feminine state, we hate the emptiness that makes us feel lonely, because the feminine energy is all about filling up with love. And the loneliest women, the ones who feel the most empty, are the ones who read romance novel after romance novel to try and fill that emptiness up.

Or we eat ourselves to numbness, trying not to FEEL the emptiness. Or we blame others, making THEM not enough and making THEM wrong, just so we can MAKE ourselves feel something other than emptiness.

Or we spend too much money on clothes only to forget that we even own that beautiful blouse just a week later.

Or we hate on other women for experiencing the love that we want for ourselves.

Or we try to bring down another beautiful woman, finding any flaw we can in their make up or clothes, so we don’t have to face the pain that we feel when we don’t feel like we are enough.

And it wasn’t until for the first time in a long time, I let myself feel the pain of emptiness, that I actually started to fill up with love and joy. Why? Because the emptiness allowed all the past fears that I had ignored to come up and be heard and felt.  I started to fill up with love….I went back to my true state. I went from being a numb robot to being more free and when I was free, I was able to be feminine.

I started to feel free. And when I felt free, a funny thing happened. And this is true for every woman.

Suddenly, I could give my gift. I could GIVE love, instead of trying to GET it from others. I felt attractive. I felt loving, I felt resourceful. I didn’t feel numb or desperate. I didn’t need to tell my parents about every single achievement I had; I could instead, simply just make them laugh, or share happy memories with them.

Suddenly, I didn’t have to buy new clothes, subconsciously hoping that I would be more loved by my man that way. I could simply buy new clothes just because I wanted to express more of myself, and give more of myself. Not take more approval.

It didn’t matter, because what makes me enough, and what makes me be myself, and what makes me my true feminine self, is me feeling like I am enough. Then, all the masks are stripped away.

See, when we feel like we are enough, as human beings….

We no longer try to not call a man back for a least a day….ONLY because then he will not think we are a lunatic and then he might love us more.

We no longer try to prove that we are not like other women and not crazy by being in total “control” of our emotions.

We no longer feel that we have to ACHIEVE something before we are worthy of being loved.

And then we can just be who we naturally are, whatever that is. Masculine or feminine.

And as a woman, when you can just be – you can connect with ANYONE you want to connect to. You can form relationships and friendships easily. And that is when your femininity will really show, because for femininity to survive, it is all about CONNECTION, being connected to life, and to existing as love, rather than trying GET it and take it from people in the form of approval from others.

So here are 3 Action Steps to becoming more of your Feminine self

1) Any time during the day or night, if you feel lonely, sad, or angry, instead of instantly going to eat something, bury yourself in work, or call someone up to get them to make you feel better and end the conversation abruptly when they DON’T, or start looking through people’s facebook photos to see how you compare to other women….let yourself FEEL. Feel the fear, feel whatever anger it is that you feel.

Let yourself feel by crying. Go somewhere private where you can be with yourself. By the way, I don’t mean, just go write in a journal or just sit in a dark room staring in to darkness, I mean, scream, cry, breathe through the PHYSICAL pain that you feel. Yes, it will be physical. AND the longer you’ve rejected your emotions over the years, the MORE physical it will be. So let yourself feel that. You don’t have to cover it up, and it’s not wrong. And, no, you won’t die. You’ll still be here tomorrow and no one will curse you for feeling….or screaming…or crying. or just being angry.

If you, as a woman, do NOT let yourself feel anything or cleanse yourself through crying, you become a robot. You get sick. Your feminine organs go tight, you can’t be yourself, you lose your sex drive, and you hold resentment in places in your body, and all signs of life start to disappear. Your face no longer lights up. Your smile becomes fake.

And then your energy shows up as more masculine. More controlled, More directed, instead of free and flowing. And believe me, when you’re free, you will attract more men than you can handle.

2) Every morning, make it a ritual before you go to work or go to college, to put on some music and dance. Don’t do a routine! No Routines. This is what I HATE about dance schools and teachers sometimes. Everything has to be about a result. You have to dance and make some routine, even if you don’t perform at a concert! What a terrible way to learn dancing and express yourself!

Just dance in whatever way your body feels it should dance. It’s simply about letting your body move. You don’t have to perform! You just need to be, and flow.

Do it every morning. Use the kind of music that you know will make you want to move your body. Some days you’ll feel more crazy and want to dance like you would at a club. Some mornings, you might want to dance slowly and sensually. Whatever your body wants to do.

3) This is the hardest step.

Remind yourself that it’s your task to consistently keep opening more and more to your own fears, and let yourself be present with life. Be present with fear, Be present with joy. Be present with ecstasy. Be present with shame. Allow those things to flow through your body and be real to you. Don’t stuff everything down just so you can keep pretending.

It’s a journey. And it’s a journey you will be on for the rest of your life. Luckily, it also allows you to grow more and more beautiful every day.

That’s all. Leave me a comment below, telling me your thoughts, and your experiences. I look forward to hearing from you. xoxRenee the feminine woman

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  • Ama Bruwa Mbir

    Reply Reply May 2, 2014

    You have no idea how much knowledge your articles and emails give me. The truth is I practically scare men off with my masculinity and I’ve known all along thinking it was an achievement until recently. It started slowly… The emotionally numb feeling. Now, I practically feel nothing. That’s how I realised how bad things have become. There’s this guy… We are trying to work things out to see if we’ll fall in love evntually because we really like each other. Yesterday we had one of our lengthy conversations in which he admitted that I was too masculine and it didn’t even hurt… AT ALL!!! Thanks so much for this great article on being feminine. I really need it because my emotional ship is sinking too fast and I don’t want to lose yet another great guy due to my masculinity

    • Renee Wade

      Reply Reply May 2, 2014

      Hi Ama, you are beautiful :)

    • Deb

      Reply Reply June 15, 2014

      This blog really hit home with me. I have been struggling to answer the question how to be more of my feminine self. A couple of years ago, I divorced. The last couple of years of the marriage, I totally lost who I was. I think it was a slow erosion of me because I was so unhappy. I became comfortably numb with my emotions. I surpressed my sadness but in doing so surpressed my joy.I kept looking for “me” in everyone else. Hoping I could define who I was, through my reflection of who I was to them. It wasn’t till I hit bottom so to speak, and had to face my fears and decide if I was going to quit and accept failure or if I was going to find my inner self and strength and change. I discovered I am an amazing person. I am slowly starting to feel my emotions again. I still have moments when the fears creep back…pretending to be an old friend and my thinking gets nutty and I start to look to others for approval, praise and love. ..and I truly hate those moments..but then I summon up my courage and realize I a m enough! I hope to meet a truly masculine man some day. .and I know when I do, I will be the truly feminine woman he will need too. It has taken me a long time to “earn” this understanding. Thank you for being a part of my journey. I found you right when I needed to. Your insights and candor have been a shining light for me on those days when the fears cause me to lose my way. I will never be that lost scared numb woman again. You have helped me recognize my fears and head them off and remind me to look for the light.

  • Jade

    Reply Reply April 4, 2014

    Thanks for this. Today I was just a bit down and feeling sorry for myself but this was just what the Doctor ordered. Reading it has renewed the spirit which seemed to have ebbed from me.

  • Charity

    Reply Reply March 29, 2014

    I normally dont comment on things but this seriously just changed my life im so glad i came across it and thank you for writing it..I relate to every word…when my boyfriend admitted that he wasnt feeling attracted to me because i wasnt “feminine”, I took it completely out of his intent, going back to the little girl inside me who constantly compared herself to all the other girls and felt different..it made me even more insecure, and i spent months trying to be more “girly”, trying to be appear more ‘attractive”, in the past month i literally threw out my wardrobe and bought all new clothes hoping to appear more feminine to him..watching youtube videos on the subject, all to which were not helping me in the least..because i thought this was a physical issue..This actually gave me more insight on the cause, and while i was aware that i hold onto supressed emotions and a couple resentments, i never would have thought the two went hand in hand..and it may seem silly but i also did not realize that by not loving myself and not being able to be “myself” around people contributed to this..i feel like i just gained control of my life and know what i need to do thank you again <3

  • lMdm

    Reply Reply March 20, 2014

    Thank you, Renee! I could feel connections in my heart while reading, well, listening to you, thank you! For your story shared – thank you! Your steps reminded me of “The Rap” by Secret Garden – I might have been 15 then, I was cleaning dust from shelves in my family home and this song came from speakers. The dance was inevitable! I incorporated the song to a list of songs for mothers expecting babies I’ve been trying to compose with readers on my blog. x

  • Anya

    Reply Reply March 4, 2014

    Thanks Renee for this article! I have been feeling stuck for days from stress and overload of things I have to do, and the pressure for the success. And my roommate talks A LOT. She doesn’t let me be sit quiet and focus. If she needs to talk, she NEEDS to talk. I love her, but she is very easy to get angry, and I am scared to death for angry people (include my own anger), so if I tell her to please be quiet and leave me alone when she wants to talk, she does but I can feel her rage radiate toward me. And it makes me nauseated because I either 1). suck in her anger or 2) I blame myself for not being a good roommate.

    So last week I went to my room and put candles on (so I won’t fall asleep), lie on the floor and let myself feel all the feeling, whatever comes up. I cried, silently screamed, it went on well over half an hour. But I needed to feel this feeling in order to let it go. It will help me to overcome my fear and take care of myself:)

  • butch3

    Reply Reply February 12, 2014

    I have told the VA.Hospls. I am a woman in a man body and I can not find a DR. turn me to in woman.

  • Jacqueline oung

    Reply Reply February 7, 2014

    l agree that you have to show yourself as you really are, and let a man see that , whatever it may be ,My husband died, 2 yrs ago and l got involved with another man , and after knowing him for one year he turned out to be a married man, he said he loves me very much, and l fell in love with him too, l am unable to break away from him and he said he will tell his wife about us when it is appropriate , it is a difficult situation for me .

  • Sarah

    Reply Reply November 14, 2013

    So beautiful. I just love you Renee. You are beautiful xxx

  • Linda

    Reply Reply November 5, 2013

    That’s all Renee? You just blow me away each time with your insight! How old are you anyhow…a very wise Soul indeed! Thank you for such thoughtfulness and finally writing this piece.

  • Kendra

    Reply Reply October 29, 2013

    I’ve actually went through these steps. Recently, I finally expressed how I felt to an ex. He contacted me wanting to be friends but was being a jerk about it. Normally I’d hold it in and not say anything, but this time I UNLOADED on him. I told him that he was a jerk for not apologizing and just not owning up to cheating on me or being cold and expecting me to just forget about everything. I cried (I’m not a crier in the least except when I’m very hurt), I yelled, and I expressed. I felt freer after that and I noticed I was glowing and smiling afterward. Holding a pleasant convo with him after he apologized. I feel clean and free and radiant :)

  • Nic

    Reply Reply September 18, 2013

    Brilliant as always Renee! Isn’t it amazing when you can let go of the feeling of emptiness? that happened for me very recently, and I feel so feminine and it is amazing how many men have been approaching me, it’s all true! Not that that’s what its all about of course, but still very liberating. Love xx

  • Holly

    Reply Reply September 11, 2013

    :”-(, aww thanks Renee, this article is perfect and just the thing I need to read, more than you could possibly imagine .since the only thing I’ve ever felt is unworthy and not deserving of love or to be treated propaly.

    The only messages I seemed to have collected is of been put down and I got bullied alot in school and early work life as I only projected out to others, treat me badly, I’m unworthy.

    It feels unatural to tell myself I’m a worthy person so hence the reason for been over happy and no I don’t deserve the nice treatment of other’s as growing older with a changing mind set means better treatment and been complimented by others.

    I will try though Renee to do what you’ve said but it’s not something I’m overly comfortably with.

    I get the crying and sadness thing ylur refering to the as thats something my psychologist has taught me.

    As for my sister, I’d say that I’ve felt inferior and some people have said that I’ve lived in her shadow my entire life, and certainly my parents see her in a more favourble light unconsioucly. They unaware of it has they don’t anything about bodylanguage or psychology.

    It has hurt and it makes matters worse when my sister says that she can flirt her way through drinks and I can just say it’s my birthday, and that men/some men would look past me, along side other statments like this.

    In fact I had another woman say that their could be one woman who looks good and might not be as nice of a person or something or another and then there could be another (aiming her hands at me) saying men would look past her but she’s a lovely person.

    So basically I’m not that pretty in the face and that’s the reason why I feel less of a person for part the reason.

    As for the woman that came round my house, the next time I saw her I was dressed nicely and styled my hair and makeup, I’d already been out that day and people did acknowledge me without looking past because I felt that within my apperance that I’d done the most to dress feminine and not because I’ve read from this site that I’m suppose to be feminine but because I wanted to put a nice dress on ect.

    Obviously feeling less of a person, I feel a stronger need to dress better and improve myself with my apperance.

    The woman looked suprised as the way I styled myself looked good that day and the reaction I got from others backed it upped.

    As for the woman she looked really under weather as though she hadn’t slept prolapy or something but I was just saying in my mind, HA! I’m so glad she came round my house in that moment.

    As for my sister, I’m fed up with being put down by her and shouted at.

    Truthfully I don’t think she’s all attractive or a completely high value women either as she emasculates men and puts her boyfriend down in a joke way so no, she’s not the be all or end all.

    I believe if anything that I need to work on myself and concern myself less with what others think or not concern myself with their actions and then possibly I’ll feel less empty inside, because I know that feeling through and through.

  • Khang

    Reply Reply August 19, 2013

    This is the most powerful post so far… Grateful to your much dedication, Reneee

  • pary

    Reply Reply July 29, 2013

    Hi Rene.Your post was wonderfull.I learned a lot. thank you so much.
    May God help you through your life:)

  • Lorna Visitacion

    Reply Reply July 14, 2013

    Renee, thank you so much for sending me this article… I love it.

    • Renee Wade

      Reply Reply July 17, 2013

      Lorna, you’re welcome :)

      • steph

        Reply Reply October 11, 2013

        Hi there,
        So if femininity is is what you show to the world through your actions when you no longer feel like you are not enough…Does that mean that masculine men don’t feel they are ever enough??

        • Donna

          Reply Reply November 2, 2013

          Good point, Steph, but what I think Renee might have been going for was the idea that once we stop being scared to express ourselves, and scared of our feelings, our natural feminine energy comes through – and for men, when they stop chasing after things that they think will make them masculine, their natural masculinity comes through. It seems like it’s all about not oretending or relying on external factors to make you more feminine (or masculine, if you’re a man). Anyway, that’s just what I got from the article, I’m sure Renee can give you a fuller answer if I got it wrong :)

  • Lorraine

    Reply Reply May 30, 2013

    Renee:

    Thank you so much for this article. Your website has helped me a great deal in learning how not to be so afraid all the time. It is still a work in progress but I am striving slowly to not be afraid. The worst of what can happen pretty much already did. I am trying very hard to build my life again – being 54 years old I can tell you it has been terrifying . Not being afraid of feeling happiness because it will be taken away from me is something I really need to work on.

    I am doing my best to stay in the present. The past creeps up on me and sends me into alot of sadness so I am striving to keep the past where it belongs.

    Thank you for helping me in trying to move forward and love myself.

    Best
    Lorraine

  • Maya

    Reply Reply May 17, 2013

    Hi Renee
    Thanks for the article. In my experience, I have noticed consistently, that whenever I have been vulnerable with a man, including my father, brother, friend, etc. they simply dismiss my fears as “nothing” act like I am complaining about nothing (which then end up being serious problems such as major health issue requiring hospitalization because it went untreated) , laugh at me, poke fun of me and rarely step up to take care of me. Perhaps I am surrounded by assholes after all, but how am I supposed to believe that men do take care of you when you are vulnerable with them when I have seen nothing to the contrary.
    Maya

  • Larae

    Reply Reply April 18, 2013

    As I read through your articles, I keep asking myself why it has taken so many years to fully understand what now seems like such an obvious and fundamental difference between how men and women process nearly everything! How much easier, and less complicated would my relationships have been if only the world had not been so busy convincing me that not only should men be required to interact in the same way we do, but that embracing our femininity is a sign of weakness. Most of the men with whom I have had long term relationships were not truly men. They should never have turned into long-term anything. More recently, however, I did meet a wonderful man. As many stories go, the first few months were like a dream. He was affectionate, uninhibited, spoke freely about his determination to avoid the same mistakes from past relationships, and spoke in terms of “us” and “us together growing old.” He freely initiated conversation every day, all day..sometimes just to say hi. We both felt blessed to have finally found each other. I felt genuinely loved and appreciated and liked and respected for the first time in my life. That was the biggest shock of all! To suddenly realize that THIS is what it feels like to be loved!

    After 2 months of this dream, he ever so slowly, almost imperceptibly, began to…..change (although I’m not sure that’s the right word). I had already identified the cavernous divide between what I said and what he heard …and vice versa. This made things go badly very very quickly because acknowledgement and understanding are very different. While I struggled to understand how my interpretations of his words and actions were going wrong, they just kept getting worse. One Sunday, after a lovely day spent together, he quite suddenly announced that he didn’t want to spend so much time with me. He had things he needed to do which he had been neglecting. I get that. I am good with that. It makes sense and I almost felt the same way. It was the way in which he went about telling me that really hurt. Since then I have struggled to understand what is happening. Unfortunately, I found your site 3 weeks into this disaster and I’m not at all sure anything can be salvaged. I accept that. Finally. You see, I have spent this time trying to hold on to how it was, rather than let him just be!! I was afraid he was leaving and by golly, I was going to fight to the death!! Seems silly now.

    After reading several articles and blogs, I can see exactly what went wrong and it kills me to know that if I had only had the privilege of this insight a few weeks earlier, things might be very different right now. Thank you for sharing your own experiences and understanding. It has really made a difference in how I am able to handle what is happening. I haven’t given up hope on the repair of my relationship. I have, however, been able to just let it be. I know he loves me. I know that if he wants to call he will. I know that I cannot DO anything to make him want to be with me…..except let him be. If he should find himself missing me enough to call one day, he will find the same girl he fell in love with…minus the need to analyze the details from my woman’s eyes. Seems so simple. Thank you.

  • Neferyuya

    Reply Reply April 8, 2013

    I love your articles and how I can look at my
    days with them in mind.

    Something really special happened and I gave
    the man distance because I was dumbfounded over some thing.

    I decided to allow my femininity to show in an area
    where I usually am very on target and in charge…
    So, instead of avoiding him or the obvious conversation
    about something that was actually really special
    that left me speechless ….and then having an awkward
    moment that could spell disaster…
    I decided to tell him how stupid I felt LOL
    and everything’s fine…nothing big.
    I was telling the truth about how I felt.
    I had no answer.

    that’s really good – you don’t know how good that is.

    …relief on so many levels.

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