If you stop bringing surprises to your relationship, then eventually and inevitably, the attraction and the passion will die. You will lose connection with your intimate partner, you will no longer have that fun, flirty atmosphere that you probably would hope for.
You’ll live life in the “same old” ways and nothing will bring much excitement to your day. Your partner will feel the same way towards you. Everything becomes too familiar, and nothing is new… And worst of all, it will become more interesting and more exciting for your partner to spend time with other people and NOT you.
Now, I don’t know about you, but I certainly don’t like the idea of my partner enjoying time with someone else MORE than time with me… and I’m sure we can all relate to that. So I don’t like the idea of my relationship being so weak and fragile.
However, if you do make it a habit to create surprises in your intimate relationship, on a regular basis, then you get the opportunity to create and maintain the attraction and passion any time you wish.
Our brain loves new things. Every time, we stumble across a novelty, dopamine is released in the brain. This is one of the “excitement” or “feel good” chemicals in your brain. So if you bring surprises into your relationship regularly, then you can maintain and build on the “feel good” factor.
You and your partner will be happier in the relationship, less likely to stray and look around, less likely to be keen to spend time with other “new” people, and more likely to come back to the relationship and be fulfilled.
You will be able to maintain that flirty freshness to your relationship, years and years into the relationship, without much effort. And you will create for yourself a relationship that other people will envy.
Key 1
Use the Power of Anticipation
Think back to those moments as a child, waiting for Christmas Morning to come so that you can rip open your presents. Why were you so excited? You hadn’t even discovered what your presents were yet!
It’s because when we anticipate something, we feel the emotions already in our body. If it is good anticipation, then we start to get excited, even if we don’t know what’s coming to us. We just have this positive expectancy about it…
So when you go and create a surprise for someone else, you want to get them to anticipate something good happening. That doesn’t mean you have to go and spill the whole surprise, it just means you get their juices flowing, tease them with an appetizer.
It’s like a quick trailer for a blockbuster movie. You just get a taste, and you draw out the excitement.
Key 2
Use the Power of Misdirection
Misdirection is in essence, guiding someone’s focus onto a certain topic, and then at the same time, creating that surprise moment.
It is one reason why magicians or illusionists are able to create such wonderful illusions. They misdirect the whole crowd and make the switch when nobody expects it. This is what surprises are, something that you didn’t expect. So learn to be a bit of a magician, and learn to guide other people’s focus where you want it to go.
Remember, misdirection is a very powerful strategy to create ANY effect you wish.
Key 3
Reveal the Surprise with Love and Care
Love and be cared for are the ultimate emotions that I think us humans ultimately seek. So in other words, in whichever situation, love and care is something that we would always want to feel and experience.
So this is why, if you were to create an outstanding surprise, then you need to make sure that the person feels loved and cared for during the whole process.
Focus on the little details and make it perfect. Remember, the ultimate judge of your surprise is the reaction from the friend or lover who you are trying to surprise. So my rule is, do whatever it takes to get the biggest, sweetest reaction you could possibly get.
Remember, at the end of our lives, we’re not going to remember all the events of our lives, but we will remember the moments that STOOD OUT. Those outstanding moments that we couldn’t ever forget. So when you’re creating a surprise, keep in mind that you want to aim to create such an impact that the memories will last a life time.
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Please, just take 2 seconds to wish Renee a happy birthday! It will light her up more than you can possibly imagine.
She has really given this blog her heart and soul and it would really mean a lot to me (and her of course), if you could send her some love! Remember, she doesn’t know that I’ve posted this yet, so let’s put together a HUGE surprise for her!
Thanks deeply once again!
David
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Leave A Reply (43 comments so far)
Summer
645 days ago
Happy belated birthday, dear! Thank you for your love to us here. Wish u bunch of love and happiness in life! {hugs}
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Louise
650 days ago
Hi, Renee~! HAPPY BELATED BIRTHDAY~! =)
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VolleyGirl
651 days ago
HAPPY BIRTHDAY Renee and congrats on your engagement!
You deserve to be happy!!!
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Renee Reply:
August 10th, 2011 at 4:22 pm
Thank You Volleygirl
thanks for your loyalty and kindness. Always a pleasure to hear from you.
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Mel
651 days ago
Congratulations on your engagement!!
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Renee Reply:
August 10th, 2011 at 4:21 pm
Thanks Mel
we’re very happy and excited!
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Asma
651 days ago
I know it’s belated but I hope you had the most wonderful birthday, your existence is a gift to the world.
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yasho
654 days ago
hhee many happy returns of the day honey!
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V
655 days ago
Happy birthday darling Renee!!!!
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Tara
656 days ago
Happy Birthday Renee. Thank you for all the positive awareness. Wishing you a long life of love and happiness.
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Becky
656 days ago
CONGRATULATIONS!!! Here come the happy tears…..:)
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Erika
656 days ago
Congratulations! I’m so excited for both of you!!
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Renee
656 days ago
Thank You very much! You ladies are absolutely ah-mazing….you’ve made my day! ❤
For anyone who was wondering what David’s surprise was…… we are ENGAGED!!
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Sachmet Reply:
August 9th, 2011 at 6:01 am
Ah, I adore being right! I guessed there was a ring in the box the moment I saw it (well, as probably everybody else who saw the video, but anyway …).
Congratulations, honey!
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Renee Reply:
August 10th, 2011 at 4:20 pm
Aww Sachmet! Thank You!
I haven’t heard from you in a while. It’s lovely to know you’re still around! I hope you’re well and happy! -XxX-
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Becky
656 days ago
HAPPY BIRTHDAY RENEE! I hope its an amazingly beautiful day for you! I send you best wishes for loads of happiness and love every day! You are a very rare soul, and every heart you touch is blessed…..
Love,
Becky
Oh and David…..You and Renee are so lucky to have one another…..;) I know I don’t need to tell you both this…..but treasure every moment…..:)
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zigma pluto
656 days ago
HAPPY BIRTHDAY RENEE.KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK AND KEEP US ENLIGHTENED.YOU HAVE TOUCHED SO MANY PEOPLE (INCLUDING ME) SO DEEPLY, PEOPLE YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW! LOOKING FORWARD TO MORE NUGGETS OF WISDOM FROM YOU IN FUTURE, AND EVEN POSSIBLY MEETING YOU AND DAVID IN PERSON.
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P
656 days ago
Happy birthday day Renee! still remember me?
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sam
656 days ago
My Dear Renee
HAPPY BIRTHDAY,
I’m so happy to hear that it’s your birthday. I wish you best and I hope you and David have great times together . I admire great women like you.
hope to see you one day.
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BdayCandle
656 days ago
Happy Birthday Renee ^_^
I’m really glad that there are women like you who are so encouraging and inspiring. Thank you for all that you do.
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Sachmet
656 days ago
Happy Birthday, Renee. May all your days be filled with joy.
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PSJ
656 days ago
Happy Birthday Renee. u ar such a blessing to me thru your relationship articles. Great job. Pls, keep it up
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Jas
656 days ago
Birthday wishes to you Renee from Singapore =) Thanks so much for all that u’ve done!
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patlaure
656 days ago
Happy Birthday Renee. God bless you.
Enjoy your day. big hugs
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Barb Dorsett
656 days ago
Happy B-day, Renee!! Keep up the good work–we just love it, and you! ((hugs))
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Erika
657 days ago
Happy Birthday Renee!
Have an amazing day!
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Sh..
657 days ago
Dear Renee! I wish you a happy birthday and thank you for everything you do.
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Ashleigh
657 days ago
Happy Birthday, Renee! Thanks for all you do!
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Jeannie
657 days ago
Happy Birthday Renee. Hope you have a lots of fun today. : )
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Nada
657 days ago
Happy Birthday Renee!
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Dana
657 days ago
Happy Birthday Renee….Your going to have lots of fun on it I’m sure….
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Kitt
657 days ago
Happy Birthday, Renee!!!
Thank you for uplifting my spirits with your writings.
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Aliyah
657 days ago
Happy birthday Renee Hope you enjoy yourself and i am really grateful that you have created this blog its helped me so much <3
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Jessie
657 days ago
Happy Birthday Renee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hope it’s a very fantastic one, you deserve it! David is a great guy to do all this for you <3 I'm so thankful I found this website, it's helped me out more than a ton! So, thank you so much, and I hope your birthday's great
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Yas
657 days ago
Happy Birthday my lovely girl!! David…you made me tear up with this beautiful message! What a beautiful couple xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox
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Anne
657 days ago
Hi lovely,
happy birthday! May it be one of the best days of your life!
Thank you for all your advice. Thanks to you i’ve met a loving, funny and caring man and am i having a beautiful relationship right now! Thank you!
Love from Holland
Anne
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sharon
657 days ago
Thanks for such a good video David. Happy Birthday Renee, you deserve special treatment for the love and attention you put into your blog, and helping women to be feminine. Have a great day. x
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sarah
657 days ago
happy birthday renee! keep up what you are doing. it’s great.
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Reem
657 days ago
Happy birthday beautiful! xx
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Rae
657 days ago
Happy Birthday, Renee! I hope you have a wonderful celebration
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Debs UK
657 days ago
happy birthday. hope you enjoy your day. thanks for the good info that you supply. made me strong enough to leave a bad relationship so i can understand what i have do next time. xx
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Masaleen
657 days ago
Happy birthday Renee!:) Your site is still so wonderful, and I’m as loyal a fan as I ever was. Thank you again for everything, and have a FANTASTIC day with your fantastic boyfriend! What a thoughtful and sweet man, you are so lucky!:D
David, great post, I’m inspired now!;D Thank you!
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Reesa
657 days ago
happy birthday, Renee!! i hope you have the most fabulous, fabulous day! xx
thank you so much for giving me and so many others such wonderful advice, it’s helped me improve my life so much. xxx
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