Comments on: Mediocre Women and Negativity

By: Kathy Joyce

Kathy Joyce — Sun, 31 Mar 2013 12:21:27 +0000

Negative energy attracts negative energy, so I totally agree that it can hold you back and stop you from finding a great relationship, or persuing your career goals. I also agree about negativity in news programes. Watching the news can leave you feeling depressed and anxious at times. I gave up buying a newspaper some time ago.

By: April

April — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 01:54:42 +0000

Hi! ^_^ I was just looking through the comments and reading yours. After reading it, I don’t think she was meaning positive and negative feelings like that. Hmm… I thought she was meaning in situations like when someone messes up or does something ridiculous and not necessarily him being undecided. That’s just me however. I remembered reading about something like this in “Fascinating Girl” actually. I really loved the post Renee! This something that can apply to all of us striving to be feminine. I’m truly thankful for you making this sight to help all of us ^_^

By: Xeni

Xeni — Sat, 23 Apr 2011 11:36:57 +0000

Wow! I’ve been reading a few articles here, but this one really grabbed me for some reason.

Not because I see my relationships this way, but rather because I do what your advice is almost all the time (occasionally I, too, fall into that trap given to me by the media). I suppose I’ve managed to harmonize the intellectual and the emotional in me: the one that sees every truth for what it is (when possible) and the one that wants everything to be better and more positive.

Thanks for this article!

By: Sandra81

Sandra81 — Mon, 18 Apr 2011 14:20:10 +0000

Dear Renée,
On one hand, I do agree with your way of thinking. But, on the other hand…here is my story. I’ve been dating this guy on & off since last summer. We are both members in a youth organization, and this is how we met. Things started off really great, we fancied each other from the first moment, but soon after we got together (we didn’t goo TOO far yet – not even today), he pulled away, started acting distant, and never gave me an explanation. Then, I left the “relationship” saying that although I liked him and cared for him, I didn’t like these games he was playing. He didn’t stop me. For a while, I stayed away from him, but soon he was the one who started getting closer again, flirting with me like mad, and also hinting that he was soooo lonely and unhappy. Then – another argument, as he did something not very nice both to me and to our mutual friends. Again – not speaking to him for one month. Then, after we met again in an organization reunion, we started to speak to each other again and then, again, he started to use various excuses to get in contact with me in our spare time. I still love him, but I don’t know what to believe about him and his intentions. I would have wanted him to have a firm attittude: are we IN or OUT? But when he feels we are getting too close, he withdraws, then – when I don’t reach out for him anymore, he finds his way back to me. He doesn’t apologize or offer explanations, but he becomes very sweet and caring towards me. I don’t think he’s a bad person deep down, but he still has a lot to learn about relationships. Or, better still, he has to want to commit, or at least make a final decision. I want to believe there is hope, and that he could change.
Therefore, this is the big question: how positively or how negatively am I supposed to think of him?
xx

By: JP

JP — Thu, 14 Apr 2011 19:11:26 +0000

Well, I certainly didn’t mean to speak for Renee which is why I said “In my understanding” before I went into discussion about the post.

I did not imply that Realism and truth are separate things. I do however know that they are separate words with different spellings and pronunciations. I said they equaled each other because they ARE separate words used in the same way with equal value. That is all.

Sometimes when we over-analyze things we miss the point… Im implying that this is what you’re doing

By: P

Sun, 10 Apr 2011 01:06:35 +0000

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By: Renee

Renee — Sun, 10 Apr 2011 00:01:23 +0000

Yes, similar, P. I don’t let rubbish come in. Input = message. Message = what goes in to my mind. Why would I want to feed my mind with things that put me in a bad state? I still read some news to ‘keep up to date’, and like you, I select the channel.

It’s not about being ignorant – I acknowledge that there are many things in life that are unfortunate – but focusing on the bad things is a whole ‘nother world. I don’t want to be feeding my mind with messages that encourage my focus to be on things that don’t serve me, or serve others.

By: Minnie

Minnie — Sat, 09 Apr 2011 04:34:11 +0000

Bridgette, I don’t think her point is related to “trusting in your heart” or being irrational. She said to see things as they are, (acknowledge the truth), and then find a way to make things better.

To me, this would build character.

By: P

Fri, 08 Apr 2011 17:03:11 +0000

Renee, yes, similar to u, i haven’t been that alert on news for a few years already. to begin with, i wasn’t doing it intentionally. but gradually i was becoming more aware that i wasn’t following it with such keeness. then at later stages i was able to be aware of news without being affected by it. and then it seems that one is able to build up an internal radio receiver to select the channel where outside things come through.

did you have similar stages like me?

By: Bridgette Marie Williams

Bridgette Marie Williams — Fri, 08 Apr 2011 02:27:12 +0000

JP–

I thank you for taking the time to make your thoughts known to me. I can see how on the surface of things how you think Renee’s use of “reality” and mine are PotAto, PotAHto…as you put it. However…upon deeper inspection of her premises vs mine you’ll see that her views and mine have greater distance than you suppose.

Moreover, I utterly disagree with you in the matter of reality being ever-changing. Circumstances change…reality does not. Certainly, people limit their vision, and thus limit their lives…but it is not their “current” reality that is being limited. It is a misunderstanding about perceptions, variables, the nature of reality and the nature of free will.

I’m sure you did not mean to imply that Realism and Truth are separate things. (If you did, kindly don’t make me aware of it. The idea makes me shudder, and I don’t need a migraine) If Renee merely used “truth” to avoid the mistaken connotations associated with “realism”–then fine…but let HER say so, as you cannot speak for what is in her mind. That being said, it is not the idea that she communicated. As she is speaking in a public forum, part of her job is the proper use of words–and to boldly correct mistaken thinking when the meaning of words has been abused by philistines.

Thank you again for responding. It’s always delightful to encounter another thinking human being.